Lucylucyloveland

I've had enough

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I'm fed up with all of the bullsh*t messages I get on a DAILY. It is getting to the point where I'm about to screenshot and post them here (info blocked out) just to show you gentlemen what we providers go through and endure; and what not to do. It is maddening the amount of bs we have to deal with! #done 

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Don't know how that will fly here, but on the Twitter page where I follow a lot of different folk, it's posted there all the time, same format you're suggesting. The thing is a lot of the Ladies here, and a lot of the gents too are on Twitter. We sometimes chat, we post likes, and on Twitter you can block a POS from following you. If you have a page start posting there. Can't hurt. 

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Yea i tried to click on the posting rules but the link is broken. I am in the process of screenshotting some of the messages but there is literally SO MANY rude messages.... 

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First, sorry!

Second, I'm pretty sure I remember a policy against making anything in a PM public.  I think there should be an "asshole exemption" to that rule, but it's a slippery slope.  I say make them public.  Two people should be able to have a civil disagreement without having to worry about the other putting them on public blast, but there's also a line that, when crossed, should trigger consequences.

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Agreed keyser. Of course anonymity is ultimate priority if I do post it. I just feel like there should be a manual for gentleman on how and how not to talk to a stranger, especially one they would like to spend private time with. I've been called names, insulted, talked to like a dog etc. It gets to a point where I become cold and callous with gentlemen that don't deserve as such. I feel this subject needs to be openly addressed and accessed by client and provider alike.

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38 minutes ago, Lucylucyloveland said:

Agreed keyser. Of course anonymity is ultimate priority if I do post it. I just feel like there should be a manual for gentleman on how and how not to talk to a stranger, especially one they would like to spend private time with. I've been called names, insulted, talked to like a dog etc. It gets to a point where I become cold and callous with gentlemen that don't deserve as such. I feel this subject needs to be openly addressed and accessed by client and provider alike.

The manual should have been taught when these men were growing up how to treat people with as I've said before dignity and respect. No one should be insulted or talked down to. Maybe giving examples without mentioning names would be a step in the right direction. I would hope that that little bit of Education would be enough to set the tone for others to learn that you get more out of life treating people the way you would like to be treated. Sorry for what you've had to go through

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1 hour ago, Lucylucyloveland said:

Yea i tried to click on the posting rules but the link is broken. I am in the process of screenshotting some of the messages but there is literally SO MANY rude messages.... 

https://theotherboard.com/rules

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I have gone through and dealt with so much of that. I still do.  At this point, I just ignore them, and don't feed into their b.s. If they choose to waste their life being an asshole, they can have at it. I would rather spend my time responding and reacting to all the good ppl in my life. I KNOW it's hard to not react, but you can do it. It's worth it for your sanity. Hang in there girl, and best wishes.

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1 minute ago, Hunter VanDyke said:

I have gone through and dealt with so much of that. I still do.  At this point, I just ignore them, and don't feed into their b.s. If they choose to waste their life being an asshole, they can have at it. I would rather spend my time responding and reacting to all the good ppl in my life. I KNOW it's hard to not react, but you can do it. It's worth it for your sanity. Hang in there girl, and best wishes.

My norm is to never respond but it gets hold real quick to have a constant stream of douchebaggery. (Most) of us girls are professionals, we get a joy out of a positive encounter and we treat gentlemen with respect. It's only fair that our profession should be respected. 

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https://imgur.com/a/R8bKL

Here is just one example, mild mind you, and I was quite blunt because I cannot stand potential clients who reach out to me and don't do their homework. My location is literally in my title and if you cannot answer a simple question like what your name is, then I feel you're wasting my time. This happens far too often. I'm super close to just getting a scheduling interface, changing my number and dropping all the bull ish. 

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https://imgur.com/a/bTf8q

 

this one made me laugh because I know he thought I would respond... Like yes, I'm definetly going message you back because you insulted me with the wit of an 8th grade bully. There's so much worse than this .. it's just annoying to say the least.

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11 minutes ago, Lucylucyloveland said:

My norm is to never respond but it gets hold real quick to have a constant stream of douchebaggery. (Most) of us girls are professionals, we get a joy out of a positive encounter and we treat gentlemen with respect. It's only fair that our profession should be respected. 

Given that the problem is so widespread both in terms of the number of messages and the number of ladies being harassed in this manner it seems clear that:

It has nothing to do with you, or any other lady it is directed toward.  Who would do this shit: underage assholes in training, zealots that wish to depress as many escorts as they can into quitting, cheated upon wives looking for revenge, just plain flawed and fucked up individuals that only feel good when putting someone else down, competition, etc  I can certainly understand how a constant barrage of bullshit could beat any lady down.  But that is what they want.  And I suspect that many are ENCOURAGED to do more of this shit by every post that complains about how hard they are making it.  Yes - twisted, but so are the people doing this.

I suggest trying to ignore them as Hunter stated, hard as that may be.  And for those who have not had the pleasure - spend five minutes with you and it is clear you are a kind, warm hearted lady of class that in no way, shape or form deserves anything but respect.  Know that and own it and let the haters choke on it.

 

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This really chaps my hide. How difficult can it be for "men" to be courteous, kind, and discrete? For example, I asked a woman on this board to see me based on nothing but my word and my long history of posting. I was extremely polite. She turned me down because she was not ok with that level of "screening" such as it is. She was also very polite and we went our separate ways. I have heard your complaint from another frequent poster (a woman I've wanted to see for a long time who is so far away in Co Springs) and it's just sad. "Hey baby, let's fuck" is not a proper e-mail.  

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3 minutes ago, gr8owl said:

Given that the problem is so widespread both in terms of the number of messages and the number of ladies being harassed in this manner it seems clear that:

It has nothing to do with you, or any other lady it is directed toward.  Who would do this shit: underage assholes in training, zealots that wish to depress as many escorts as they can into quitting, cheated upon wives looking for revenge, just plain flawed and fucked up individuals that only feel good when putting someone else down, competition, etc  I can certainly understand how a constant barrage of bullshit could beat any lady down.  But that is what they want.  And I suspect that many are ENCOURAGED to do more of this shit by every post that complains about how hard they are making it.  Yes - twisted, but so are the people doing this.

I suggest trying to ignore them as Hunter stated, hard as that may be.  And for those who have not had the pleasure - spend five minutes with you and it is clear you are a kind, warm hearted lady of class that in no way, shape or form deserves anything but respect.  Know that and own it and let the haters choke on it.

 

I LOVE your opinion on this, and in some light you are right, but as I see it, I have nothing to lose by posting this. I am already getting foolish messages, I don't expect it to stop anytime soon unless I take other measures to set up appointments. I really just want to shed some much needed light on this situation. Yes, it's all fine and well to ignore ignorant, borish behavior, to keep some sanity but just like a child, if you ignore their behavior for too long, they will think it is ok and acceptable to act in such a way. I will continue to not engage with timewasters or rude people but I do know that this needs to be addressed and not ignored on a public forum. Maybe a fine medium of your idea and mine?

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I can't believe people would act in such a way...  There is no possible excuse for person to treat you like that Lucy.   It bothers me that anyone would speak / text a provider in such an insulting way, regardless the situation, but ESPECIALLY to a provider...  It amazes me on a daily basis (I work in retail) how many people lack even general respect (common courtesy) in dealing with people they meet in service industries, whether its the gas station, a server in a restaurant, or the young person bagging groceries.     I can't imagine dealing with b.s. that providers have to go thru on a daily basis, that's insane...   Someone should design a bullsh!t filter app for smart phones...   

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I'm older, so maybe it's easier for me to say this, but don't believe in social media at all. Sad that's coming to this. Think if I were a provider, I'd conduct everything through a network like 411 with no personal information on my ad. When one has recourse, as one would have through such a venue, one could expect more professional discourse. Might limit exposure for business, but would definitely limit exposure to abuse.

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I go thru this situation everyday

I hear what you saying   Some really  is rude but Just block them 

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What you are going through is nothing new for the ladies unfortunately. There are the guys who get their jollies by setting up fake appts & harassment. There are the underage  boys who do the same. There are other ladies who set fake appts to take biz away from you. And then there are the guys who have absolutely no respect for the ladies and feel that you owe them everything and they can talk to you however they want because of your job.

With BP’s changes last year, the fuckery that the ladies have timeout up with increased tremendously.

Best thing to do, ignore them, block them if you can and move on. You’ll only get brain damage and burnt out if you continue to worry about them.

easier said than done I know. But if you don’t figure out out how to ignore them, you will get burnt out.

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13 hours ago, Lucylucyloveland said:

https://imgur.com/a/R8bKL

Here is just one example, mild mind you, and I was quite blunt because I cannot stand potential clients who reach out to me and don't do their homework. My location is literally in my title and if you cannot answer a simple question like what your name is, then I feel you're wasting my time. This happens far too often. I'm super close to just getting a scheduling interface, changing my number and dropping all the bull ish. 

I don't even know what to say to this.  I'm just very sorry you ladies have to put up with this. 

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These guys are idiots. Sorry you have to deal with them. I really like your responses, though.

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On 2/28/2018 at 6:04 PM, Lucylucyloveland said:

I'm fed up with all of the bullsh*t messages I get on a DAILY. It is getting to the point where I'm about to screenshot and post them here (info blocked out) just to show you gentlemen what we providers go through and endure; and what not to do. It is maddening the amount of bs we have to deal with! #done 

Sorry Lucy, you could be like me no nothing until 1 call at 2:30 am

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Being jolted out of bed because you spaced out turning it off. Now that is some injustice! 

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1 hour ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said:

Sorry Lucy, you could be like me no nothing until 1 call at 2:30 am

Gee...I wonder what the odds were the caller was drunk.....

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No matter what your job is, people deserve basic human decency and respect while doing it. I don't care if you escort or work cleaning bathrooms at Taco Bell, nobody has the right to treat you like you're not human.

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On 2/28/2018 at 9:29 PM, Lucylucyloveland said:

https://imgur.com/a/R8bKL

Here is just one example, mild mind you, and I was quite blunt because I cannot stand potential clients who reach out to me and don't do their homework. My location is literally in my title and if you cannot answer a simple question like what your name is, then I feel you're wasting my time. This happens far too often. I'm super close to just getting a scheduling interface, changing my number and dropping all the bull ish. 

Your location is "literally in my title"////  Really?  Your title suggests Loveland.  Your latest add suggests Colorado Springs, and Canon City, and Pueblo too. 

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11 hours ago, Admiral C said:

Gee...I wonder what the odds were the caller was drunk.....

I bet he was Admirial C! 

Now what’s my prize?

strang but true 3 callers at 2:30 AM this week. Like some sort of strange torcher ritual. Phone quiet all week except for a few friends and the odd above event.🤔

1 apologize and I thanked him.

🍻 cheers to better weeks to come my friend!😉

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3 hours ago, Fritzie said:

Your location is "literally in my title"////  Really?  Your title suggests Loveland.  Your latest add suggests Colorado Springs, and Canon City, and Pueblo too. 

So by that mentality would you assume kali sensual was in California? Jesus dude, whatever happen to people reading the bios. My name doesn't confuse people, they confuse themselves. 

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