Posted January 20, 2018 So here's the short version. My wife and I haven't had sex in 12 years. That's a long time. I saw a few providers for a couple of years but that was a while ago, too. In that time I've done the thing you do -- indulged in fantasy and masturbation. But as I'm sure you know, when you get used to that -- and when you spend a lot of time in fantasy -- it gets hard to enjoy sex in a more traditional sense. Maybe not enjoy -- it's difficult to get out your head and just enjoy the experience. But I'm getting to the point where I worry that I've broken myself, and I'd like to do what I can do to fix it. So I'm looking for a provider who can be patient, and willing to help me work through some of these issues. It would be a regular thing, and I imagine it would be frustrating from time to time, but I'm a decent enough guy who tries to be funny. If this has any interest to anyone, please PM me. Thanks 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20, 2018 Aw, jeeze, this place is turning into a psychology forum. Dude, grab yourself 50 mg of Viagra, book a $400 hooker and find out that you are not the slightest bit broken. People always are surprised that I have no interest in pornography, but it's because the real-live-fucking-gorgeous-horny women you can meet in real-life are so much better (tried the porno for a while, but got frustrated because they wouldn't jump out of the screen and hop on my dick). Once you realize this, you can ditch the Viagra, it's really just a placebo for the first visit anyway. Sex with real live, sweet-smelling, sweet tasting, warm, moist, breathing humans is so much better than a date with Rosy and the video screen, and you definitely will realize this once you get back in the swing of things. Just do it! 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20, 2018 1 hour ago, BadBoy said: Aw, jeeze, this place is turning into a psychology forum. Dude, grab yourself 50 mg of Viagra, book a $400 hooker and find out that you are not the slightest bit broken. People always are surprised that I have no interest in pornography, but it's because the real-live-fucking-gorgeous-horny women you can meet in real-life are so much better (tried the porno for a while, but got frustrated because they wouldn't jump out of the screen and hop on my dick). Once you realize this, you can ditch the Viagra, it's really just a placebo for the first visit anyway. Sex with real live, sweet-smelling, sweet tasting, warm, moist, breathing humans is so much better than a date with Rosy and the video screen, and you definitely will realize this once you get back in the swing of things. Just do it! I found that porn was actually really making me upset. Because of loneliness and then seeing my fantasies of things that I dream of in my head... happening to someone else and it was someone else’s experience and not mine... it started actually causing anger so I ditched it a while ago! I promised myself I would live now through my own experiences only. It’s helped me so much.... I noticed it’s helped with depression and even anxiety. Now I just need to have an experience......!!!!!! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 20, 2018 This sounds like an issue you have created and only you can change. Providers always hear “want this to be a regular thing” when the gentleman expects SO much. Put your woogie back in your pants and step away from the porn. Problem solved. Sorry to sound harsh, but I think you need some tough love. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 21, 2018 "This sounds like an issue you have created and only you can change. Providers always hear “want this to be a regular thing” when the gentleman expects SO much. " I certainly agree it's my stuff. Didn't mean to imply it was up to someone else to fix me, but I did want to ask you what you mean by SO much. Do you mean going beyond the agreed time, or multiple contacts, to more emotional support. Do you find that some clients are needier or more demanding than others? I hadn't realized the "regular thing" was a red flag, and I'll be more careful in th future. Thank you and everyone else for your insight. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 21, 2018 (edited) 16 hours ago, mjeffs456 said: "This sounds like an issue you have created and only you can change. Providers always hear “want this to be a regular thing” when the gentleman expects SO much. " I certainly agree it's my stuff. Didn't mean to imply it was up to someone else to fix me, but I did want to ask you what you mean by SO much. Do you mean going beyond the agreed time, or multiple contacts, to more emotional support. Do you find that some clients are needier or more demanding than others? I hadn't realized the "regular thing" was a red flag, and I'll be more careful in th future. Thank you and everyone else for your insight. I'm sure it varies by each provider. One thing I learned on here... If I could change how I approached things I would. I was always very used to being open and talking about who we are and what we love in life and hobbies... from other forums over the years. Being open and just being you and meting like minded people etc. I am learning really fast that this is not the place for that. It hasn't worked well for me. I thought it would make providers feel better getting to know me before we met, but instead usually you will come off as a time waster. Which is very tough because I did want to find someone maybe one day I could connect with... and it's definitely not going to happen on here behind a keyboard. I been dropped like a bad habit so many times already just because I been so open. I'm thinking to wait until you actually meet to be open like that. But it sounds like you are looking for a lady who will be a good listener maybe. I hope you can find someone you can be comfy with man. I wish you the best of luck... I wish I had some tips for you but my tips would be to not go into your personal life because until you meet up I don't think it does anything beneficial. I am already deleting a load of my topics just for that reason. Edited January 21, 2018 by codeman 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 21, 2018 (edited) I've explained to several ladies I have aspergers and I can't do phone calls or I get incredibly nervous and I can't even hear what they are saying because it's incredibly hard for me to communicate that way. (And I have no idea how he calls even work and if we start talking about the session etc it would e a trainwreck) They end up thinking I am the police or just drop me completely... Again, time waster. I know it sucks. Don't take anything too personal. Until you actually hand over the money and spend time with someone in person I wouldn't go into who you are etc etc. You'll be dropped everytime. That being said there are definitely some wonderful people on here that can help you out and you're more than welcome to message me anytime man. Edited January 21, 2018 by codeman 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 21, 2018 Code...you're taking far too seriously, these Ladies are simply people too with already established lives. Simply respect that and you'll be fine. Yes you will fall for many of them, can't be helped, but just keep in mind, they are people too, again with established lives. If you approach it in the right frame of mind, you'll find that almost all, with exception of few, will connect with you. Doesn't mean they're going to date you, but at the very least you'll make a new Friend. Yeah you might have got outta the box sideways, simply adjust how you're approaching this, it's not a social dating site. My $.03 as one of the Ladies pointed out $.02 long gone lol. 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 21, 2018 5 minutes ago, fishndude57 said: Code...you're taking far too seriously, these Ladies are simply people too with already established lives. Simply respect that and you'll be fine. Yes you will fall for many of them, can't be helped, but just keep in mind, they are people too, again with established lives. If you approach it in the right frame of mind, you'll find that almost all, with exception of few, will connect with you. Doesn't mean they're going to date you, but at the very least you'll make a new Friend. Yeah you might have got outta the box sideways, simply adjust how you're approaching this, it's not a social dating site. My $.03 as one of the Ladies pointed out $.02 long gone lol. I appreciate it fish...That's all it is is needing to change the approach. I have been taking things really personal too. haha 3 cents taken man... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 22, 2018 7 hours ago, fishndude57 said: Code...you're taking far too seriously, these Ladies are simply people too with already established lives. Simply respect that and you'll be fine. IMO, our now departed friend was in for a rough go. Boundary management with a seriously needy individual is exhausting, while the more unscrupulous might view him as a mark. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 22, 2018 Bookin might be the best for him, agreed. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted January 29, 2018 On 1/21/2018 at 7:33 PM, Happymon said: IMO, our now departed friend was in for a rough go. Boundary management with a seriously needy individual is exhausting, while the more unscrupulous might view him as a mark. What happened to Code??? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
