Jez UaBriain

Gentlemen , is this necessary to wait......

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Until the day of your set appointment to cancel?  This has happened to me twice this week .  The first gent has texted me at least 3-4 times in the past year or so, to cancel at the day of the appointment. While at least  the text is better then just  NC/NS, it is a bit nerve-wracking for those of us ladies who are mainly under the radar.    I don't care if I am not your first choice, or your  second. just don't wait until the same day to cancel.

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28 minutes ago, Jez UaBriain said:

Until the day of your set appointment to cancel?  This has happened to me twice this week .  The first gent has texted me at least 3-4 times in the past year or so, to cancel at the day of the appointment. While at least  the text is better then just  NC/NS, it is a bit nerve-wracking for those of us ladies who are mainly under the radar.    I don't care if I am not your first choice, or your  second. just don't wait until the same day to cancel.

While this is OBVIOUSLY bad behavior, I will play Devil's  Advocate and say that for the guys who cancelled....YES...it probably IS necessary to wait until the same day. The reason I say this is because I would be very surprised if they did not have a believable excuse. I doubt they contacted you and said...."Meh...I changed my mind and don't want to see you.".....or ..." Sorry...I found someone I like better and who costs less so, cancel".  More likely they made up something that would not be believable in advance.  Example....." I need to cancel tomorrows session because I expect my car to break down, to unexpectedly have to work, to be sick, to have my kid home sick from school, or my grandma will be in the hospital". Most likely, if they did not have a believable, unexpected, last minute reason, you would never book them again AND maybe put them on a bad client list. Just so you know...I am not agreeing with their actions at all...just suggesting an explanation.

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I have only cancelled with ladies 3- 4times.  All but one was on the same day the appointment.  Once, I was on my way to meet a lady in the Security area because I had been broadsided in Pueblo.  Once, my S.O decided to go with me at the last minuet and once my flight turned back for maintenance.  Each time was something that was beyond my control and I had no option but to pull the plug.  The last time I cancelled, I  had about 4 days notice, and notified the lady as soon as I knew.  I know this is bad juju for you or any other lady, at least from where I  stand, I  would not have made the appointment if I didn't want to see her.  Heck, I have even gone ahead with a "prior appointment" when another, more intriguing lady responded after an appointment was made.

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A reason I generally do same day booking. Pretty sure I have the free time. But, have had the occasion where had to cancel REALLY last minute due to getting pulled into a meeting (there used to be a well reviewed provider basically right across the street from the office, so made for nice lunch break).

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Cancellations are a drag.  But they are part of the business.  I look at it as kind of running a travel agency.  Things come up, for wahtever reason, SO concnerns, travel, work demands.  That is what makes the job hard for the ladies, they are coordinating take offs and landings all the time.  However, that comes with the territory and I think most genlemen and I emphasize the word gentlemen, do their best to schedule appointments when they think things are faovrable, but stuff happens.  I have had to cancel with notice becuase of illness, change in work schedule or SO all of a suddent being on the scene.  I think most providers understand the variances that can make for a cancellation.  My experience has been that most ladies are gracious and understand the tenousness of appointments,  There are some who take it personally, and when I meet their disapproval, I try to avoid them in the future.  I think that the uncertainly is one of the features that makes me grateful for any appointment that happens in a predictable manner.

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Cancellations always seem to be only HALF the problem. Rescheduling is the other half. It seems the rule of "people want what they can't have" applies. Client cancels.....asks what I have available to reschedule. 12 unworkable suggestions later...exasperated...I say......'OK...when do you want?....anytime except 5:15 to 6:30" tomorrow...ok?"  Their reply...."Hmmm....ok...how about tomorrow at 5:30...."

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I do not reschedule cancelled appointments for new clients.  Not worth the Risk.

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Another reason I happily stick to offering outcalls only ...hard to cancel on then:)

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Sorry to hear that, Jez.

I've really slowed down seeing ladies for that reason -- the likelihood of a last-minute cancellation. It has become increasingly difficult to get away from work. One can only have so many dentists or doctors visits a year, eh? Those seem to be the only sacrosanct appoints. Everything else has to be secondary to whatever dumpster fire rolls my way.

On the flip side, when I was more active, I can't remember how often I would get a text an hour or less from a provider before an appointment cancelling it.

 

All I can do is be patient, empathize and move along. No one ever fully knows what is going on in someone else's life.

 

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this seems to be a recurring thing for you jez? isnt the first time you brought this up.

yep it sucks im sure but thats why you dont rely on this for your only income 

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Super hard on the ladies guys! This is what we do for a living! So stay healthy and out of trouble for us please! Do what you can to keep the appointment! We❤❤you much!!!

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14 hours ago, Chrissy said:

Another reason I happily stick to offering outcalls only ...hard to cancel on then:)

Huh?  How is it any harder or easier to cancel an outcall versus incall?  Care to elaborate?

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29 minutes ago, Keyser said:

Huh?  How is it any harder or easier to cancel an outcall versus incall?  Care to elaborate?

I am also wondering too? Because showing up knocking on the door, ringing the door bell, text and calling?? No show No call works the same in call or out call...at least I too would think that would be the case?!

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34 minutes ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said:

I am also wondering too? Because showing up knocking on the door, ringing the door bell, text and calling?? No show No call works the same in call or out call...at least I too would think that would be the case?!

Easy, I simply meant when You have short notice availability,  Gents Do not tend to cancel when arrival time is 45 minutes from the Booking time..

I am not newbie friendly so Most guys pre screen with me so that when they do have a couple hours to kill, they just call. I arrive there shortly after.  Its never happened to me that a guy calls and gives his info , then Cancels while I am in route

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45 minutes ago, Chrissy said:

Easy, I simply meant when You have short notice availability,  Gents Do not tend to cancel when arrival time is 45 minutes from the Booking time..

I am not newbie friendly so Most guys pre screen with me so that when they do have a couple hours to kill, they just call. I arrive there shortly after.  Its never happened to me that a guy calls and gives his info , then Cancels while I am in route

Seldom do I see new men much anymore either. Most of my guys I have seen now for quite a while. I screen very carefully as you know Chrissy! 😀😀

9 times out of 10 no problems.

Oh and last night for the first time I saw a new guy and it all went great. I will only do in call, unless I know the guy well and he can come get me or I know the location and it is close (preferably daylight).

Totally separate issue... I do have a guy who lives in the mountains so sometimes travel arrangements can be a problem for him to get to Denver. Road conditions, car problems, health, you name it. 

Communication problems do happen. It is a pain and yes it is good knowing who you are dealing with. I agree with that totally! I am not afraid of my screening techniques they do work for me well for the most part awesome😀😀Yes I have been doing this stuff for a very long time too. Lol we all do our own protocol. That much is certain!

Nobody is perfect. We just do our best! ❤❤

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On 10/26/2017 at 2:12 PM, Jez UaBriain said:

Until the day of your set appointment to cancel?  This has happened to me twice this week .  The first gent has texted me at least 3-4 times in the past year or so, to cancel at the day of the appointment. While at least  the text is better then just  NC/NS, it is a bit nerve-wracking for those of us ladies who are mainly under the radar.    I don't care if I am not your first choice, or your  second. just don't wait until the same day to cancel.

Shit happens.  Sometimes at the worst possible time ..... like say when a guy was looking forward to getting his toes curled all week and won't have another possible time real soon.  Not that all cancellations don't suck, and not that some of them aren't just rude bullshit.  But many jobs that pay high salaries (makes affording possible) come with high expectations relative to time and instant availability.  Hard to say to boss "sorry, booked a smokin' escort for this afternoon, gotta pass"

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13 hours ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said:

Super hard on the ladies guys! This is what we do for a living! So stay healthy and out of trouble for us please! Do what you can to keep the appointment! We❤❤you much!!!

You know, sometimes life comes up and a cancellation has to happen. But not too often.

Like Kali stated, do your best to keep an appointment.

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On 10/26/2017 at 2:12 PM, Jez UaBriain said:

Until the day of your set appointment to cancel?  This has happened to me twice this week .  The first gent has texted me at least 3-4 times in the past year or so, to cancel at the day of the appointment. While at least  the text is better then just  NC/NS, it is a bit nerve-wracking for those of us ladies who are mainly under the radar.    I don't care if I am not your first choice, or your  second. just don't wait until the same day to cancel.

No Sweetie, It's not good to cancel the day of you appointment no matter how many texts you have exchanges.

I have always said be polite. I guess that's not the norm anymore, and that's a shame.

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Jez, I'm sorry this happened. All dolled up and nowhere to go. 😕

But realistically, if I'm going to cancel it's mostly likely to be last minute because something came up and I'm trying like crazy to keep that appointment. You seldom know that you'll not be available. Sometime the boss announces an "all hands" meeting the day before, but more often than not all hell breaks loose on its own schedule. 

I do remember cancelling a lunch date the midnight prior, from the ER as they wheeled me up to my room. Somehow I knew I wasn't going to keep that appointment. 😕

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10 hours ago, gr8owl said:

Shit happens.  Sometimes at the worst possible time ..... like say when a guy was looking forward to getting his toes curled all week and won't have another possible time real soon.  Not that all cancellations don't suck, and not that some of them aren't just rude bullshit.  But many jobs that pay high salaries (makes affording possible) come with high expectations relative to time and instant availability.  Hard to say to boss "sorry, booked a smokin' escort for this afternoon, gotta pass"

Depends on the boss now doesn't it?

Yeah there's all kinds.  There's the loser who never intended to do anything but harass.  Another one is the narcissist where no one else matters at all.  Then there's the rest where it is the case of a true emergency.  

I'm on call a lot, which limits my free time, so I try to be careful when I schedule.  But shit happens even then that can't be controlled.  I would hope to be forgiven should I have to cancel, but if I'm denied, I would understand but not like it.

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Unfortunately things do come up that are unavoidable.

 

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It stinks in both directions:  Over the past eight years, I have had to cancel on short notice three times - twice I woke up really sick, and once I was actually on the way to the appointment when I got the news that my mom was in a coma.  In every situation, the gal really was sweet and understood, but I know it was really inconvenient for them.  For each of them, I tipped a lot on the next visit.  Over the same period of time I have experienced two NCNS and probably a dozen short-notice cancellations, nearly all of which were on account of "illness" or the sudden appearance of Aunt Flow with the attendant cramping, etc.  (My favorite "excuse" was when I was going to see lonely-girl on her birthday - got a cake and everything - and while I was literally on the way to her place she texted me that her brother surprised her by driving 8 hours to be with her on her birthday - now, that's a great excuse - I'm just glad he didn't show up 60 minutes later :rolleyes:) You gotta honor them for at least giving as much notice as possible, but it still sucks when you have arranged your entire week around that one glorious 90-minute interlude, and it just doesn't happen.

Even when there are good reasons, it sucks.  It always sucks.  That is why we should really keep it to a minimum.  I find it happens a lot less with old friends as compared to new adventures, yet another reason to stick to old friends.

But, no matter what you do, sometimes life just sucks.  Sorry it happened to you Jez, you really don't deserve it.

On the other hand, life is usually glorious.

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