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Have a question. I received a call from a provider yesterday that was arrested  And I do not know what kind of advice to give. I want to help but I am not sure how too. Can anyone guide me....

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So many questions I want to ask on this...

Going to give this the benefit of the doubt and not say a word.

 

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16 hours ago, grumpy888 said:

Have a question. I received a call from a provider yesterday that was arrested  And I do not know what kind of advice to give. I want to help but I am not sure how too. Can anyone guide me....

How much help pray tell.? If a little - tell her to get an attorney.  Are you an attorney - represent her - but if you were you wouldn't be asking, would you?  Want to help more - pay her attorney fees for a good one - but make damn sure that is what it goes for and not just bullshit.  And with all the above - only if you mean arrested for alleged prostitution - anything else, why is it your concern - I assume she is a grown ass woman responsible for her choices?  Unless there is more relationship between you than explained, in which case let your heart be your guide but for whatever power you may believe in's sake verify and/or only help financially directly - to bail bondsman, attorney, whatever NOT to her. JMHO's  Again .... how much help are you feeling?

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30 minutes ago, Laci French said:

So many questions I want to ask on this...

Going to give this the benefit of the doubt and not say a word.

 

Probably smart choice .... but 23 words to not say one ??  LOL :)

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Tell her to call a lawyer. Its not your problem. 

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dont do it!!! you must be a regular or otherwise she wouldnt be asking you, only disappointment gonna head your way

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On 10/16/2017 at 5:31 AM, grumpy888 said:

Have a question. I received a call from a provider yesterday that was arrested  And I do not know what kind of advice to give. I want to help but I am not sure how too. Can anyone guide me....

   you have the right to remain silent.

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 The best advice you can give her is to get a lawyer. Tell her she needs to improve on her Screening. 

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On 10/16/2017 at 5:31 AM, grumpy888 said:

Have a question. I received a call from a provider yesterday that was arrested  And I do not know what kind of advice to give. I want to help but I am not sure how too. Can anyone guide me....

If you two are close, find an attorney pay the retainer, give them each other’s numbers, let them figure the rest out. 

She’ll make it up to you 💝

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I don't really like the idea that we tell clients to pay for attorney fees. If he wants to, then fine, sure and how thoughtful, but it isn't his responsibilty to help her out of the mess she is in. She didn't screen, and got herself in a tough situation. It sucks, I have been there and have the T-shirt, but I am really getting tired of people thinking that clients should be catering to our every whim even getting us out of stuff we got ourselves into.

If you know of a good attorney, or think you know some other ladies that might know a good one for her...send her that direction and let her be an adult about this. One of the unfortunate circumstances about this biz, but we are aware that it should or does happen.

xoxo,

Samantha Sheppard

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22 minutes ago, SultryKitten said:

I don't really like the idea that we tell clients to pay for attorney fees. If he wants to, then fine, sure and how thoughtful, but it isn't his responsibilty to help her out of the mess she is in. ...

Nailed it!

Providing a reference for a friend is one thing. That's what being a friend is all about. But how many friends are going to pay your legal bills? Even saying she'll make it good, how many friends are likely to loan you several $K?

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Well he didn't say why she was arrested or if she asked him for funding. We can only assume. 

If that's the case, it goes back to being fiscally responsible and prepared. I detest seeing those ads crying for rent help. It shows lack of pride, poor planning, and irresponsibility. We all have issues at times, but I think they are best handled internally to retain our credibility. So I guess, pretty much what Samantha said.👍

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11 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Nailed it!

 But how many friends are going to pay your legal bills? Even saying she'll make it good, how many friends are likely to loan you several $K?

Good friends who are real friends and can afford.  Many guys here can afford overnights and more - so they should hesitate to spend one adventure's worth on helping a friend???  Getting awful cold around here.  That is why I asked the nature of their relationship.  If it is strictly escort/john all business relationship, I would agree - tell her to get an attorney, boom done..  But sometimes it is more. I would always help a real friend as best I can.   brrrrrr ...............  feels like winter is coming.

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1 hour ago, gr8owl said:

Good friends who are real friends and can afford.  Many guys here can afford overnights and more - so they should hesitate to spend one adventure's worth on helping a friend???  Getting awful cold around here.  That is why I asked the nature of their relationship.  If it is strictly escort/john all business relationship, I would agree - tell her to get an attorney, boom done..  But sometimes it is more. I would always help a real friend as best I can.   brrrrrr ...............  feels like winter is coming.

I actually agree with this. We sometimes we build close friends here. Providers have been known to help other girls. So have clients. Sometimes the shit turns bad. Sometimes it brings friends closer. But also part of me says to avoid. 

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9 hours ago, gr8owl said:

Good friends who are real friends and can afford.  Many guys here can afford overnights and more - so they should hesitate to spend one adventure's worth on helping a friend??? ....

Yes, for some several $K is pocket change. For others it's a few month's' pay. Some save, forgoing other adventures and splurge on an overnight. An old gambling adage - "Never bring more to the table than you can afford to lose."

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9 hours ago, gr8owl said:

Good friends who are real friends and can afford.  Many guys here can afford overnights and more - so they should hesitate to spend one adventure's worth on helping a friend???  Getting awful cold around here.  That is why I asked the nature of their relationship.  If it is strictly escort/john all business relationship, friend as best I can.   brrrrrr ...............  feels like winter is coming.

I did not mean to come off as cold gr8owl. I agree we help friends. Sometimes we help collegeagues we don't know when they've been injured, unable to work etc. Anyone who knows me, knows how extremely generous I am.

The problem I see in this business is easy money, so some (not all), spend every dime they make. And it seems to be the same ones always needing help. Often a money management course would be of more benefit than a loan or financial gift.

Alas, Grimpy did not state the case. Maybe his friend had an old traffic ticket, and just needed him to go get her money from her home. We don't know. Now I feel guilty for judging. :-(

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Sometimes business is slow for some girls. They run outta money. Especially when they do stings  and won't make as much money or if they over spend her money. They became desperate to make money. This is why we need to save our money and have more than one egg in the basket. So that when business is slow or there are doing stings they won't find themselves in rut. 

This why girls need  Who are friends with each other need to stick together to help each other. 

No one should be ashamed of getting busted. Shit happens to all of us. Sometimes we get ourselves into trouble. 

Be smart play smart use common sense. 

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On 10/16/2017 at 9:18 PM, Laci French said:

So many questions I want to ask on this...

Going to give this the benefit of the doubt and not say a word.

 

This is why you continue to thrive :)

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I didn't mean to sound harsh either. None of us know the relationship or circumstance behind this, and yes, if you do need help and someone that knows you well or wants to help then by all means enjoy the generosity, but pay it forward. I just didn't want anyone to assume that the status of provider/client states that they should pay for transgressions that one or the other gets themselves into. I have heard countless stories from both and how often they get burned from them using that person and it is one of my big pet peeves. I would never want my clients to ever think I am taking advantage of them, but I would be quick to give them a heads up to protect them. Some providers and clients are not that nice so that is why I wanted to bring awareness to it. Sorry if it was interpreted incorrectly.

xoxo,

Samantha Sheppard

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To everyone's advice. Point taken.just think... what if it was you and no idea what to do. We can point fingers and judge. How would you want to be judge. We have to help each other. That's my opinion. We are all human beings. And deserve some kindness from strangers from time to time. Other wise we are just animals. I don't know just me.. thanks to all.. 

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