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While I can understand the reluctance of people to be screened, it does keep everyone safe.  I sympathize with the challenges as I am more of an FBSM guy and only infrequently see FS so getting ok's or references is problematic.  My P411 has many ok's but I think the last one is more than a year ago.  However, I also understand that this limits my choices and creates an increased need for screening for me.  

The real question is the issue focused on by Chrissy.  If the provider says P411 or two verifiable references why would you ask to bypass that?  The is like going to the DMV and asking to get a license without any form of ID.  Why would you spend all that time when you know the requirements up front? 

 

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MP's are NOT ESCORT references

Almost spit my coffee out on this, please tell me this does not happen.  How would this even play out?  Yea, call Betty over at "AMP" she does not speak great English but she gives a great HJ and knows me, tell her she calls papa.  She also thinks I have a great body, tells me that every time I go. 

People never cease to amaze me.  

 

 

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On 8/31/2017 at 11:08 PM, MyraGold said:

Thank you ladies for sticking to your guns and screening. Our safety is not negotiable.

Thank you! 

I've been getting a lot of people being so stingy with the references or screening information. One guy filled out the form on my site and under the reference section (which is required) he put "don't have any". 

What about "required" made it sound optional? 

I will never compromise on my safety or the safety of my clients. I wish they understood that and just move on if they don't have the information I need for screening. smh. 

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3 hours ago, HollyMarie said:

... One guy filled out the form on my site and under the reference section (which is required) he put "don't have any". 

What about "required" made it sound optional? 
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A required field means that he must fill the field. He did, perhaps honestly. What did you want him to do? Make up false references, wasting your time as you chase them down?

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3 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

A required field means that he must fill the field. He did, perhaps honestly. What did you want him to do? Make up false references, wasting your time as you chase them down?

If you look at Holly's "contact me" form, it clearly states a guy must have references, or P411 with OKs. He ignored that completely. Why are you defending him?

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49 minutes ago, pfunk said:

If you look at Holly's "contact me" form, it clearly states a guy must have references, or P411 with OKs. He ignored that completely. Why are you defending him?

Because I didn't look at her website. 

Because if you read her post, she says the reference section is required, not references. 

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5 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

A required field means that he must fill the field. He did, perhaps honestly. What did you want him to do? Make up false references, wasting your time as you chase them down?

References are required, so if he didn't have any he could have moved on to a different provider who doesn't require references instead. 

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2 hours ago, pfunk said:

If you look at Holly's "contact me" form, it clearly states a guy must have references, or P411 with OKs. He ignored that completely. Why are you defending him?

Thank you for sticking up for me. 
I don't know why "references required" means that someone can choose not to fill it out. It's simple enough to move on to a different provider instead of giving me an incomplete contact form. 

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8 hours ago, HollyMarie said:

References are required, so if he didn't have any he could have moved on to a different provider who doesn't require references instead. 

Yes, that's what your website says. References (and you allow three different types) are non-negotiable. I have no problem with your screening requirements.

But that's not what your post said, which is what I responded to. Based on your post, he filled the field just not with the information you wanted. 

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2 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

Yes, that's what your website says. References (and you allow three different types) are non-negotiable. I have no problem with your screening requirements.

But that's not what your post said, which is what I responded to. Based on your post, he filled the field just not with the information you wanted. 

Yeah, but why would anyone fill out a field with incorrect information and expect to get anything productive done? 

If a reference section is required that means, it must be filled out correctly. Why would it be okay for someone to ignore a section's instructions and put whatever they wanted? Wouldn't it be easier to just a) follow the instructions or b ) go somewhere where the requirements are different? 

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26 minutes ago, HollyMarie said:

Yeah, but why would anyone fill out a field with incorrect information and expect to get anything productive done? 

If a reference section is required that means, it must be filled out correctly. Why would it be okay for someone to ignore a section's instructions and put whatever they wanted? Wouldn't it be easier to just a) follow the instructions or b ) go somewhere where the requirements are different? 

All true, BUT that's not what you said in your post.

 

20 hours ago, HollyMarie said:

... One guy filled out the form on my site and under the reference section (which is required) he put "don't have any". 

What about "required" made it sound optional? 
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As I've said before, I have no problem with your requirements. Just with how you described them in your post.  I had not reviewed your website prior to my initial response. After doing so, I agree he should have moved on to the next provider on his list. 

BTW, there's nothing "incorrect" about "I don't have any."  It's just not the information you desired. 

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40 minutes ago, HollyMarie said:

Yeah, but why would anyone fill out a field with incorrect information and expect to get anything productive done? 

If a reference section is required that means, it must be filled out correctly. Why would it be okay for someone to ignore a section's instructions and put whatever they wanted? Wouldn't it be easier to just a) follow the instructions or b ) go somewhere where the requirements are different? 

Serious question: Would it be okay to refer you to P411 or TOB if I had shared my okays or references with you on one of those platforms? Or do you want references typed into your screening form?

Totally agree that the idiots that say "don't have any" are self-screening out by not reading requirements!

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On 9/5/2017 at 10:15 AM, SensualAddict said:

While I can understand the reluctance of people to be screened, it does keep everyone safe.  I sympathize with the challenges as I am more of an FBSM guy and only infrequently see FS so getting ok's or references is problematic.  My P411 has many ok's but I think the last one is more than a year ago.  However, I also understand that this limits my choices and creates an increased need for screening for me.  

The real question is the issue focused on by Chrissy.  If the provider says P411 or two verifiable references why would you ask to bypass that?  The is like going to the DMV and asking to get a license without any form of ID.  Why would you spend all that time when you know the requirements up front? 

 

Almost spit my coffee out on this, please tell me this does not happen.  How would this even play out?  Yea, call Betty over at "AMP" she does not speak great English but she gives a great HJ and knows me, tell her she calls papa.  She also thinks I have a great body, tells me that every time I go. 

People never cease to amaze me.  

 

 

News flash, P411 should never be the only screening a lady does. If she is strictly using this as a means then she is not being 100% safe. Just because we can see your requirements and all of your OK's does not make it okay for a lady to still see you. Not every John that calls is a fit for every Jane that works. There is much more to screening than you clients know or realize to determine if we will see you. Everyone needs to quit relying on one thing only to do this business.

xoxo,

Samantha Sheppard

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2 hours ago, AnthointheAM said:

Serious question: Would it be okay to refer you to P411 or TOB if I had shared my okays or references with you on one of those platforms? Or do you want references typed into your screening form?

Totally agree that the idiots that say "don't have any" are self-screening out by not reading requirements!

Yeah, P411 takes all the noise out of it and TOB lets you share references and I can choose from any of those. They have the option of giving me their p411 username or TOB, they just have to send a message from that account to cross confirm. 

It's when they don't have any or think I will compromise on my screening process altogether. If I desire information for screening it's for safety, not complying is silly and a waste of time. 

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3 minutes ago, SultryKitten said:

News flash, P411 should never be the only screening a lady does. If she is strictly using this as a means then she is not being 100% safe. Just because we can see your requirements and all of your OK's does not make it okay for a lady to still see you. Not every John that calls is a fit for every Jane that works. There is much more to screening than you clients know or realize to determine if we will see you. Everyone needs to quit relying on one thing only to do this business.

xoxo,

Samantha Sheppard

 

I agree with that completely, I always follow up on references. I had a client who gave me only 1 reference (I require two), he called me 20 minutes after he sent a form because he didn't think I needed to follow up on the references. I told him, I always follow up, every person, every time. 

People who want us to compromise on our safety blow my mind. If someone is willing to be lax on their screening standards chances are they will compromise on other safety measures. Clients are putting themselves at risk doing that. smh. 

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On 9/3/2017 at 11:20 PM, sparkey600 said:

I'm no ladies man or smooth operator, but I do have one endearing feature that a lot of guys in this activity don't seem to have:  respect for the providers.

And that is key in MHO.

That will get you far and make you friends no mater what your social skills might be.

Respect is the key. One of the best ways that you can show respect to a provider is to read her ad and do what she asks. I wouldn't say the methods are erratic- different girls have different screening methods that they are comfortable with. Almost every girl on TOB lists in her ad what will be required to make an appointment with her. If a guy can't comply with what she needs to feel comfortable then he should move on and keep reading. If you're legitimate you will be able to find a girl whose screening process you can pass, it may be as simple as sending her a pm on here or calling from an unblocked number. It's obvious every girl on this site can see through a line of B.S., so that won't help in setting up a meeting. I usually wait till after we have met before I start telling her how great and important I am, most of the girls on here are too nice to tell me I'm full of shit to my face.

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13 minutes ago, Gregorysymph said:

Respect is the key. One of the best ways that you can show respect to a provider is to read her ad and do what she asks. I wouldn't say the methods are erratic- different girls have different screening methods that they are comfortable with. Almost every girl on TOB lists in her ad what will be required to make an appointment with her. If a guy can't comply with what she needs to feel comfortable then he should move on and keep reading. If you're legitimate you will be able to find a girl whose screening process you can pass, it may be as simple as sending her a pm on here or calling from an unblocked number. It's obvious every girl on this site can see through a line of B.S., so that won't help in setting up a meeting. I usually wait till after we have met before I start telling her how great and important I am, most of the girls on here are too nice to tell me I'm full of shit to my face.

You are 100% spot on. Thank you, Gregory 

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