Chrissy

Advice Please.

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My word of advice is,

Find something better to do with your FREE time than go out to eat with some guy off this board for free.

This is a escort site....

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11 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

I think it inappropriate to ask for friendship status on an escort board w/o passing through a professional relationship first. 

Highly unusual and inexplicable in this context.  There's definitely a lot going on, on both his and her sides. I can guarantee he's working some angle and I would have no interest in paying the potential price to find out what. It may be perfectly benign, but I have found it better not to pursue relationships with individuals who present as extreme outliers in a pool of deviants.    

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Let me tell you a story. I met a fella on here once, he set an appt, I went. Turned out to be from my home city like me, was very nice and the chemistry was off the charts despite him not being my type physically AT ALL. After the festivities I drifted off to sleep and work several hours later when he was getting up to go to work. Get to leaving, and my keys are locked in my car, he took the time to help me get into the car and get them so I didn't have to pay a lockout service.  from there he starts hitting me up about once every week or two for an appointment, always being respectful of my personal space as well as my time. After a couple of months this organically turned into more and I started hanging out as house when he wasn't there and stopped the business part of it with him meaning that there was no longer payment involved. I chose to do this because I felt very cared for around him and the sex was intense and full of feeling. He was apparently into me as well and didn't give me a hard time about this job or guilt me. Our time together and schedules left us apart 3-4 nights a week and it seemed to be satisfactory to both. After several months of casual hanging out, I was really catching some feelings for him and was ready to see if he had a label he wanted to slap on it. Not relevant yet, but at this time I was struggling like hell financially, not working enough, and spending lots of downtime with him. Downtime I really couldn't afford to have in any capacity but I had it and enjoyed spending plenty of it with him. Whatever...

One morning maybe 5 months in, I packed up my bag and left while he was asleep. Went to an appt. and got home several hrs later which was not close to his home.  Opened my backpack to grab my charger and saw that his phone was attached to it. Well fuck, I feel bad and he's already headed to work. I hit button to unlock screen and it was 100% unlocked. Use message screen to text his relative who lives with him and inform her I have his phone so she can tell him. Wish I could say that was all, but by the time I reurned his phone to him I had learned through the frequent notifications that he was seeing various providers almost every damn time my back was turned and paying way more than almost any guy can afford to. Too many, too often and too many times lied to me about his plans and whatnot. We weren't exclusive, but he told me he saw only me and I saw no one else privately myself. He was lying to me about that and constantly. Meanwhile,  he sat there and watched me worry about the lack of work and watched me lose lots of sleep over the money shortage and my problems were really piling up. I never asked him for help and he never offered it. I assumed he was strapped too, but to learn that he was taking his extra resources to anyone who was NOT me and letting me believe he was my man and hiding the numerous women from me was too much of an insult for me and I was extremely hurt to be of that little importance to him.

 

Knowing that I was not more than a piece of action he felt no need to pay like he did a half dozen others was unacceptable and I felt horribly dissed. Did not speak to him anymore after returning the phone. I'm sure he knows why, and I wish I was not so easy for him to fool and do in such a way. I miss him quite severely but the lack of loyalty was just too hurtful and the fact that I'm a provider probably makes it easy to rationalize other partners. I get that, but the complete lack of vital information and letting my feelings build up based on what I thought we were was totally unacceptable. It kills me even now to know he did not love me at all and that I'm even surprised it turned out to be such a letdown to me and it was nearly something I never would have learned or suspected and I needed to find out. Still, it was hard to process and it left me quite depressed and down on myself. I now can't become interested in guys who show interest in me because it seems like I'm just too easy to pass up, not easy to see as a serious part of someone's life, and not respectable enough to treat like my feelings matter. I hope the blow to my self image was worth his gain and I dont see how his gratification was worth my hurt but he was fine with it I gather. He took only what I gave him and he left only doubts that I can't stop having about anyone and there's no end to what someone who will date us will think we deserve to NOT be told.

 

Just be careful, if you've never met a guy and he is after you for dinner, I would assume that he doesn't respect you enough to even make your job easier because he's not even able to see that the only way to do this is to meet you and not that way either. He's making your job less lucrative for his own entertainment and I don't see how any of us could be anything but a victim to someone who wont even make one appt yet wants to take us out. I'm gonna say he is being kinda creepy and should be told to take his entitled ass approach and fuck off. You owe no one your consideration just cause they want it and you would not be a bitch to be pissed at people who come at you that way out of thin air. Also I doubt he's amazing enough to say you might miss out. What's amazing is his nerve and self important behavior ...

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1 hour ago, TrystinTrimble said:

Let me tell you a story. I met a fella on here once, he set an appt, I went. Turned out to be from my home city like me, was very nice and the chemistry was off the charts despite him not being my type physically AT ALL. After the festivities I drifted off to sleep and work several hours later when he was getting up to go to work. Get to leaving, and my keys are locked in my car, he took the time to help me get into the car and get them so I didn't have to pay a lockout service.  from there he starts hitting me up about once every week or two for an appointment, always being respectful of my personal space as well as my time. After a couple of months this organically turned into more and I started hanging out as house when he wasn't there and stopped the business part of it with him meaning that there was no longer payment involved. I chose to do this because I felt very cared for around him and the sex was intense and full of feeling. He was apparently into me as well and didn't give me a hard time about this job or guilt me. Our time together and schedules left us apart 3-4 nights a week and it seemed to be satisfactory to both. After several months of casual hanging out, I was really catching some feelings for him and was ready to see if he had a label he wanted to slap on it. Not relevant yet, but at this time I was struggling like hell financially, not working enough, and spending lots of downtime with him. Downtime I really couldn't afford to have in any capacity but I had it and enjoyed spending plenty of it with him. Whatever...

One morning maybe 5 months in, I packed up my bag and left while he was asleep. Went to an appt. and got home several hrs later which was not close to his home.  Opened my backpack to grab my charger and saw that his phone was attached to it. Well fuck, I feel bad and he's already headed to work. I hit button to unlock screen and it was 100% unlocked. Use message screen to text his relative who lives with him and inform her I have his phone so she can tell him. Wish I could say that was all, but by the time I reurned his phone to him I had learned through the frequent notifications that he was seeing various providers almost every damn time my back was turned and paying way more than almost any guy can afford to. Too many, too often and too many times lied to me about his plans and whatnot. We weren't exclusive, but he told me he saw only me and I saw no one else privately myself. He was lying to me about that and constantly. Meanwhile,  he sat there and watched me worry about the lack of work and watched me lose lots of sleep over the money shortage and my problems were really piling up. I never asked him for help and he never offered it. I assumed he was strapped too, but to learn that he was taking his extra resources to anyone who was NOT me and letting me believe he was my man and hiding the numerous women from me was too much of an insult for me and I was extremely hurt to be of that little importance to him.

 

Knowing that I was not more than a piece of action he felt no need to pay like he did a half dozen others was unacceptable and I felt horribly dissed. Did not speak to him anymore after returning the phone. I'm sure he knows why, and I wish I was not so easy for him to fool and do in such a way. I miss him quite severely but the lack of loyalty was just too hurtful and the fact that I'm a provider probably makes it easy to rationalize other partners. I get that, but the complete lack of vital information and letting my feelings build up based on what I thought we were was totally unacceptable. It kills me even now to know he did not love me at all and that I'm even surprised it turned out to be such a letdown to me and it was nearly something I never would have learned or suspected and I needed to find out. Still, it was hard to process and it left me quite depressed and down on myself. I now can't become interested in guys who show interest in me because it seems like I'm just too easy to pass up, not easy to see as a serious part of someone's life, and not respectable enough to treat like my feelings matter. I hope the blow to my self image was worth his gain and I dont see how his gratification was worth my hurt but he was fine with it I gather. He took only what I gave him and he left only doubts that I can't stop having about anyone and there's no end to what someone who will date us will think we deserve to NOT be told.

 

Just be careful, if you've never met a guy and he is after you for dinner, I would assume that he doesn't respect you enough to even make your job easier because he's not even able to see that the only way to do this is to meet you and not that way either. He's making your job less lucrative for his own entertainment and I don't see how any of us could be anything but a victim to someone who wont even make one appt yet wants to take us out. I'm gonna say he is being kinda creepy and should be told to take his entitled ass approach and fuck off. You owe no one your consideration just cause they want it and you would not be a bitch to be pissed at people who come at you that way out of thin air. Also I doubt he's amazing enough to say you might miss out. What's amazing is his nerve and self important behavior ...

That sucks. What a fuhqwad. Respect is most important, he lacked the integrity to be honest.

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On 8/11/2017 at 11:59 PM, Chrissy said:

Okay y'all I have this gentleman, actually two of them.  that refuses to see me because I am not their  BCD type, but yet he consistently asks to take me out to eat for free. I do that A LOT  with guys I have actually met BCD... This is known about me. BUT he has let me know he will never see me because I do not offer what he likes ..what do you guys,gals think I should do? 

He never would have met me if it weren't for this escort bored and know of my existence otherwise ,so it's not like it's a plane Joe everyday hey how are you, can I take you out in public situation, 

This guy's reputation is awesome and I can tell he totally rocks! but I am confused of why he would rather take me to eat instead of seeing me as who I am????

I am not a guy and refuse to ask my brothers LOL. So really what do I do?? I don't want to unfriend ANYONE in this business because I am missing something in between the lines. but feel as if I am still being used for Other than my own benefit to why I joined the escort world in the first place. 

I'm a little late on this thread but I think I have the perfect solution to your dilemma. You need to sit on my tongue for about 45 minutes and see if it doesn't help you make up your mind. :D

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On 8/11/2017 at 10:59 PM, Chrissy said:

Okay y'all I have this gentleman, actually two of them.  that refuses to see me because I am not their  BCD type, but yet he consistently asks to take me out to eat for free. I do that A LOT  with guys I have actually met BCD... This is known about me. BUT he has let me know he will never see me because I do not offer what he likes ..what do you guys,gals think I should do? 

He never would have met me if it weren't for this escort bored and know of my existence otherwise ,so it's not like it's a plane Joe everyday hey how are you, can I take you out in public situation, 

This guy's reputation is awesome and I can tell he totally rocks! but I am confused of why he would rather take me to eat instead of seeing me as who I am????

I am not a guy and refuse to ask my brothers LOL. So really what do I do?? I don't want to unfriend ANYONE in this business because I am missing something in between the lines. but feel as if I am still being used for Other than my own benefit to why I joined the escort world in the first place. 

Try not to take it so personal... I think it's total eclipse of the heart right now.. The moon is at its weird point and people are just acting weird, I've had the same exact issue recently..... IT sucks :(

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45 minutes ago, Sexielexy said:

Try not to take it so personal... I think it's total eclipse of the heart right now.. The moon is at its weird point and people are just acting weird, I've had the same exact issue recently..... IT sucks :(

Bonnie Tyler? 

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16 minutes ago, Vassago said:

Bonnie Tyler? 

💕

You got it!!!!!!

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4 hours ago, Vassago said:

Bonnie Tyler? 

💕

 

4 hours ago, Sexielexy said:

You got it!!!!!!

Look, I don't care if I look like your grampa or not, but if your eyes start to glow........I'm outta there...

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On 8/12/2017 at 4:36 PM, pfunk said:

Here is my opinion (worth what you pay for it).

The guy is willing to pay for dinner, but not pay you. He claims it's because you wont do some act(s) in a session. 

He's lying to you (and maybe himself) about something. Why date you, if your activities are less than he usually pays for? 

Why not befriend one of the ladies he does see?

It just doesn't add up.

I have to agree with pfunk here. This sounds like a power game to me. He doesn't want you on your terms, where you call the shots; he wants you on his terms, even if that means delaying gratification. I'd be very careful. He's not being fully honest with you. Always remember in this life that seduction is a power game. it's "I want you to want me more than I want you." Some people play that directly into misery.

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On ‎8‎/‎12‎/‎2017 at 9:26 AM, Chrissy said:

Thank you all but I think I'm going to go for it you can never have too many real world friends and I don't want to be labeled is that one.. so I'm going to take his kindness for what it is kindness, and go ahead and jump on it .I just wasn't sure what the ulterior motives were but thank you guys so much

Any updates for us on this, Chrissy? :P

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On 8/12/2017 at 9:26 AM, Chrissy said:

Thank you all but I think I'm going to go for it you can never have too many real world friends and I don't want to be labeled is that one.. so I'm going to take his kindness for what it is kindness, and go ahead and jump on it .I just wasn't sure what the ulterior motives were but thank you guys so much

Hope, it works great. He is a lucky man. 

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I'm a little late but you said that they won't book a session because you aren't their BCD type. Knowing that I would say they are hoping to take you out and sweet talk you into services you don't usually offer. I would cut off all communications with these guys but I am curious to know how it turns out if you decided to have dinner with them.

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13 hours ago, briscorp1 said:

Any updates for us on this, Chrissy? :P

UPDATE : So I decided to see the Local gent, we met at a great DTC eatery. Turns out he wants an overnight but wanted to see my People, Etiquette, Conversation skills and knowledge.  I must have passed the audition since we ended up having breakfast :) Yes he paid me for the dinner and OVN. Just turns out he is really bad at getting his point and needs across . Also I kind of screwed myself out of a great review, he mentioned this threAD and knew all would know who he is :(  so I really doubt That will be popping up :(

Second gent is a distance away and just too much of a hassle to work into my ever changing schedule. 

But as far as meeting clients BEFORE  Meeting in a previous or planned session. I doubt  I will go that route again. Too many unknowns, doubts and it makes my head hurt . 

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Congratulations, Chrissy. I'm glad things worked out well for you. Yeah, this thread probably put PAID to that review. It does sound like your client's communication skills need some work, as in expressing his reasons for the per-date.  I can understand the unknowns & doubts making your head spin.

Thanks for for the update. 

Finding companions for extended engagements can be a slow process. I usually start with a standard hour session. If all goes well I move on to a dinner date. After that I may consider having the discussion about being a travel companion. So far this has worked for me. 

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1 hour ago, Chrissy said:

UPDATE : So I decided to see the Local gent, we met at a great DTC eatery. Turns out he wants an overnight but wanted to see my People, Etiquette, Conversation skills and knowledge.  I must have passed the audition since we ended up having breakfast :) Yes he paid me for the dinner and OVN. Just turns out he is really bad at getting his point and needs across . Also I kind of screwed myself out of a great review, he mentioned this threAD and knew all would know who he is :(  so I really doubt That will be popping up :(

Second gent is a distance away and just too much of a hassle to work into my ever changing schedule. 

But as far as meeting clients BEFORE  Meeting in a previous or planned session. I doubt  I will go that route again. Too many unknowns, doubts and it makes my head hurt . 

Nice! Glad there was/is a 'happy ending' :P .

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On 8/11/2017 at 11:59 PM, Chrissy said:

Okay y'all I have this gentleman, actually two of them.  that refuses to see me because I am not their  BCD type, but yet he consistently asks to take me out to eat for free. I do that A LOT  with guys I have actually met BCD... This is known about me. BUT he has let me know he will never see me because I do not offer what he likes ..what do you guys,gals think I should do? 

He never would have met me if it weren't for this escort bored and know of my existence otherwise ,so it's not like it's a plane Joe everyday hey how are you, can I take you out in public situation, 

This guy's reputation is awesome and I can tell he totally rocks! but I am confused of why he would rather take me to eat instead of seeing me as who I am????

I am not a guy and refuse to ask my brothers LOL. So really what do I do?? I don't want to unfriend ANYONE in this business because I am missing something in between the lines. but feel as if I am still being used for Other than my own benefit to why I joined the escort world in the first place. 

 

2 hours ago, Chrissy said:

UPDATE : So I decided to see the Local gent, we met at a great DTC eatery. Turns out he wants an overnight but wanted to see my People, Etiquette, Conversation skills and knowledge.  I must have passed the audition since we ended up having breakfast :) Yes he paid me for the dinner and OVN. Just turns out he is really bad at getting his point and needs across . Also I kind of screwed myself out of a great review, he mentioned this threAD and knew all would know who he is :(  so I really doubt That will be popping up :(

Second gent is a distance away and just too much of a hassle to work into my ever changing schedule. 

But as far as meeting clients BEFORE  Meeting in a previous or planned session. I doubt  I will go that route again. Too many unknowns, doubts and it makes my head hurt . 

 

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