TrystinTrimble

I'm not sure what to do these days...

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Trolls, boundaries being stomped by practically all who call. Games. Scam attempts.  Threatening and pic stealing. I'm not sure when the worst of it all got here but here it is. Not seeking sympathy or anyone who wants to tell me what makes it my fault that there is just not a day that can go by without being come at with some hit to my dignity.  Every other hour brings some other extremely difficult person who is there just to make a hobby out of being the thing that ruins someone's day. I just don't get it and needed to say all that somewhere. It's like there's no way to do this here that can be done without having the fun completely sucked out of it and having to ignore that I'm not having my ad read and that I'm being bombarded by manipulation and it's just nonstop this week.  I'm probably going to be told that it's only happening to me and that I'm too sensitive or maybe even told to get a "real" job. But still had to vent. This is more of a job now than I ever could have imagined. I don't know why all the most disrespectful types there are just seem to be coming at me nonstop or why this city has somehow become this wood chipper that my feet are about to start entering but at this point I just about can't see how it's gonna get better. This place is really eating my ass alive and I just don't know what to do. 

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5 hours ago, TrystinTrimble said:

Trolls, boundaries being stomped by practically all who call. Games. Scam attempts.  Threatening and pic stealing. I'm not sure when the worst of it all got here but here it is. Not seeking sympathy or anyone who wants to tell me what makes it my fault that there is just not a day that can go by without being come at with some hit to my dignity.  Every other hour brings some other extremely difficult person who is there just to make a hobby out of being the thing that ruins someone's day. I just don't get it and needed to say all that somewhere. It's like there's no way to do this here that can be done without having the fun completely sucked out of it and having to ignore that I'm not having my ad read and that I'm being bombarded by manipulation and it's just nonstop this week.  I'm probably going to be told that it's only happening to me and that I'm too sensitive or maybe even told to get a "real" job. But still had to vent. This is more of a job now than I ever could have imagined. I don't know why all the most disrespectful types there are just seem to be coming at me nonstop or why this city has somehow become this wood chipper that my feet are about to start entering but at this point I just about can't see how it's gonna get better. This place is really eating my ass alive and I just don't know what to do. 

I'm sorry you're having such a bad time. I know what's it's like to have the world biting at your ass. This job is not an easy one, it's emotionally exhausting most days and rewarding far fewer days. In order to be in this business you have to be strong, you are already strong. You are equipped to do this job, you've already done it. There are days when I want to quit too, it's just an over stimulation, but I want to leave it behind. I have to remind myself of all the good I'm doing. I have a beautiful community of amazing people from coast to coast to coast offering help and guidance. I have the patience of a kindergarten teacher, after all, we basically wrangle toddlers for a living. I get to listen to stories from my clients ranging from absurd to heartbreaking. We hustle, we cry, we sleep, we eat, wash, rinse, repeat. Today is just a bad, but don't feel bad for having bad days. People at regular 9 to 5s have bad days too. It's okay to take a break. This job can burn you out. It happens to all of us, there is no PTO for this gig, but trust me we all need it. Take that time for yourself. Whether it's getting away for the weekend or shutting off all your communication devices and have an intimate date with Netflix. Take that time. I hope this helps and even if it doesn't feel free to message me. xo 

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"...clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right, here I am stuck.in the middle with you....."

Hi Trystin.  Sorry you are having troubles. You have selected a potentially highly lucrative but extremely demanding profession.

My Dad's not-so-helpful-but-true advice:  "There's a reason they call it 'work'."

My advice: Shrug off those who bring you down. You will meet them in all walks of life.  Instead, focus on the good.  I know you have mentioned at least one good client here.  I'm sure you have more. Treasure them. Take delight in giving them the best service possible. You CAN enjoy your job.

Also, Mr. Pink is right.  Not necessarily in taking time off, but in making sure that your needs are met. Make sure you set aside "you time." And yes, the money is important, but enjoying your life is always the best revenge against assholes. Focus on little things: The taste and feel of ice cold beer on a hot day.  A simple hug from a friend or family member. Curling up with a good book on a rainy day.

Wishing you the best of luck.

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Watermark your photos. that slows down picture stealing. As for the rest....

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I had several weeks of this exact experience.  It is beyond frustrating.

T PM me and we can work on getting some photos watermarked, so no one can steal them.

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24 minutes ago, Raine-7379 said:

I had several weeks of this exact experience.  It is beyond frustrating.

T PM me and we can work on getting some photos watermarked, so no one can steal them.

 I'm not worried about the ones I've posted, they can have those if they want and I forgot to protect em. 

It's more the ones who go as far as to make a confirmed appt with me and cause others to be turned down, only to then turn around and tell me that they're going to need face and or even more explicit photos or they are not going to go through with the appointment. I do not ever under any circumstances cater to those requests as I feel very disrespected by such Behavior and they have no reason to go through the appointment anyway if I do send them those photos they ask for. As a matter of fact sending a face pic to someone pretty much ensures that I will never meet them so I don't take my chances on anybody. I guess I should have said attempted pic stealing...

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6 hours ago, Mr.Pink said:

take some time off....

Why don't you take some time off and see how your dependents fare from it? 

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7 hours ago, TrystinTrimble said:

Trolls, boundaries being stomped by practically all who call. Games. Scam attempts.  Threatening and pic stealing. I'm not sure when the worst of it all got here but here it is. Not seeking sympathy or anyone who wants to tell me what makes it my fault that there is just not a day that can go by without being come at with some hit to my dignity.  Every other hour brings some other extremely difficult person who is there just to make a hobby out of being the thing that ruins someone's day. I just don't get it and needed to say all that somewhere. It's like there's no way to do this here that can be done without having the fun completely sucked out of it and having to ignore that I'm not having my ad read and that I'm being bombarded by manipulation and it's just nonstop this week.  I'm probably going to be told that it's only happening to me and that I'm too sensitive or maybe even told to get a "real" job. But still had to vent. This is more of a job now than I ever could have imagined. I don't know why all the most disrespectful types there are just seem to be coming at me nonstop or why this city has somehow become this wood chipper that my feet are about to start entering but at this point I just about can't see how it's gonna get better. This place is really eating my ass alive and I just don't know what to do. 

It is definitely not just you. Pick a cliche, there's something in the air, the well has been poisoned or it must be a full moon. Something has happened to the business here and it's ugly. Disrespect for providers is at an all time high. Just when it seems like things might be getting better they come crashing down again. Weird behavior just keeps getting weirder. I hope it changes soon but I see no end in sight.

 

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Colorado's population has increased, by a couple hundred thousand souls, in the last few years. If 1/2 of 1% are time wasting, soul sucking, juvenile minded fools, that would add 1000 new idiots ready to mess with escorts (and everybody else, too). 

Probably, it's a lot less than that, but enough to frustrate the ladies... 

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I keep hearing this, and from my ATATF too, so it is not just you.  I have no solutions - apparently a bunch of assholes have figured out how to reach you ladies to troll you.  It is also happening on other forms of social media, people are just getting nasty - maybe it is the Trump factor.  Perhaps you ladies could come up with something - I know most of us guys would support whatever you decide to do, we hate these guys almost as much as you do.

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I'm sorry this is happening. You, Lucy and Pfunk are all correct. Things have changed. It sounds like you are in a rut, which can happen to all of us. Hold your head high. There are some different marketing techniques, and contact methods that you can maybe implement to weed out some of the garbage to where you are attracting the type of clientele that you prefer. I don't know of a way to negate it 100%, but it can usually be reduced. If you are able to tour, that may give you a break from the nonsense while still allowing you to financially care for your family. Best wishes to you. 

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11 hours ago, TrystinTrimble said:

Trolls, boundaries being stomped by practically all who call. Games. Scam attempts.  Threatening and pic stealing. I'm not sure when the worst of it all got here but here it is. Not seeking sympathy or anyone who wants to tell me what makes it my fault that there is just not a day that can go by without being come at with some hit to my dignity.  Every other hour brings some other extremely difficult person who is there just to make a hobby out of being the thing that ruins someone's day. I just don't get it and needed to say all that somewhere. It's like there's no way to do this here that can be done without having the fun completely sucked out of it and having to ignore that I'm not having my ad read and that I'm being bombarded by manipulation and it's just nonstop this week.  I'm probably going to be told that it's only happening to me and that I'm too sensitive or maybe even told to get a "real" job. But still had to vent. This is more of a job now than I ever could have imagined. I don't know why all the most disrespectful types there are just seem to be coming at me nonstop or why this city has somehow become this wood chipper that my feet are about to start entering but at this point I just about can't see how it's gonna get better. This place is really eating my ass alive and I just don't know what to do. 

I'm new at this as well doll...when the BS flies I turn off my phone and get out in nature...Realize you're a beautiful person that deserves to be loved and treated with respect doll💋💕💋

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5 hours ago, TrystinTrimble said:

Why don't you take some time off and see how your dependents fare from it? 

i'am not the one who's business sucks, perhaps a new line of work would be a better option for you.

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There does seem to be some fuckery in the air.  I'm sorry beautiful and hope things turn around in terrific ways for you!

Mr Pink...the corner is calling your name.;)

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2 hours ago, Laci French said:

 

Mr Pink...the corner is calling your name.;)

just trying to make a friendly suggestion and i get snarky response..... :mellow:

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I'm sorry my inner snarker bitch needed to be set free.  I'm now ashamed.

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57 minutes ago, Laci French said:

I'm sorry my inner snarker bitch needed to be set free.  I'm now ashamed.

not you silly, the op. :rolleyes:

 

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6 hours ago, Audrey Astor said:

I'm sorry this is happening. You, Lucy and Pfunk are all correct. Things have changed. It sounds like you are in a rut, which can happen to all of us. Hold your head high. There are some different marketing techniques, and contact methods that you can maybe implement to weed out some of the garbage to where you are attracting the type of clientele that you prefer. I don't know of a way to negate it 100%, but it can usually be reduced. If you are able to tour, that may give you a break from the nonsense while still allowing you to financially care for your family. Best wishes to you. 

Touring, if you can, is always good advice. It's very refreshing to be away from the fuckery. The fresh perspective is always helpful.

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Trysten, please PM me if you want to do something different. I can tell you my story. I haven't completely left, but now purely for fun. I make way more than to need to do this ever again lol.

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8 hours ago, Mr.Pink said:

i'am not the one who's business sucks, perhaps a new line of work would be a better option for you.

You call this a friendly suggestion, huh? Here is one for you...never tell the ladies you are Mr Pink from TOB. (You probably do this already, right?)

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23 minutes ago, pfunk said:

You call this a friendly suggestion, huh? Here is one for you...never tell the ladies you are Mr Pink from TOB. (You probably do this already, right?)

i tell em i'am pfunck, the sensitive new age man.

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On July 21, 2017 at 1:50 AM, TrystinTrimble said:

Trolls, boundaries being stomped by practically all who call. Games. Scam attempts.  Threatening and pic stealing. I'm not sure when the worst of it all got here but here it is. Not seeking sympathy or anyone who wants to tell me what makes it my fault that there is just not a day that can go by without being come at with some hit to my dignity.  Every other hour brings some other extremely difficult person who is there just to make a hobby out of being the thing that ruins someone's day. I just don't get it and needed to say all that somewhere. It's like there's no way to do this here that can be done without having the fun completely sucked out of it and having to ignore that I'm not having my ad read and that I'm being bombarded by manipulation and it's just nonstop this week.  I'm probably going to be told that it's only happening to me and that I'm too sensitive or maybe even told to get a "real" job. But still had to vent. This is more of a job now than I ever could have imagined. I don't know why all the most disrespectful types there are just seem to be coming at me nonstop or why this city has somehow become this wood chipper that my feet are about to start entering but at this point I just about can't see how it's gonna get better. This place is really eating my ass alive and I just don't know what to do. 

Trystin, I'm sorry all this is happening to you. I truly am. Perhaps the Universe is not-so-gently nudging you to pursue a different path? Sometimes, listening to and reading clues and hints that are presented to us by Life can make all the difference in our overall happiness and simply ignoring them will only lead to more frustration and grief.

For your sake, I hope you reflect on these events and determine whether or not to put your head down and drive on or make a change that will bring you more satisfaction. Life is too short to keep shoveling out of a huge pile of sh*t everyday.

Namaste Peace and Love

Johnny T

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I don't understand why people are so angry in this hobby. To me, you're a beautiful woman who I think based on reviews (I haven't sampled myself but I usually trust reviews), would be a shame if the community lost.

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Sorry this is happening to you and I hope it helped to vent.  I also hope you hang in there - this should be a fun job.  Remain professional and the trolls and ass wipes will get bored with you.

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On 7/20/2017 at 11:50 PM, TrystinTrimble said:

This place is really eating my ass alive and I just don't know what to do. 

I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope things get better :) I know what you mean about everything getting weird and it's taking a toll on me a little as well. I don't like to put my face on the internet either so I get harassed about my pics all the time and even had a guy ask me today to send a pic of my nip with a thumbs up 😒 Not quite sure wtf that's gonna prove. That I'm not a man perhaps 🤷🏼‍♀️ Anywho, just keep your head up doll and things will get better ❤️ You can always reach out to me and vent anytime you're having a bad day, I'm a very good listener 😌

Cali 🌹

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On 7/20/2017 at 11:50 PM, TrystinTrimble said:

Trolls, boundaries being stomped by practically all who call. Games. Scam attempts.  Threatening and pic stealing. I'm not sure when the worst of it all got here but here it is. Not seeking sympathy or anyone who wants to tell me what makes it my fault that there is just not a day that can go by without being come at with some hit to my dignity.  Every other hour brings some other extremely difficult person who is there just to make a hobby out of being the thing that ruins someone's day. I just don't get it and needed to say all that somewhere. It's like there's no way to do this here that can be done without having the fun completely sucked out of it and having to ignore that I'm not having my ad read and that I'm being bombarded by manipulation and it's just nonstop this week.  I'm probably going to be told that it's only happening to me and that I'm too sensitive or maybe even told to get a "real" job. But still had to vent. This is more of a job now than I ever could have imagined. I don't know why all the most disrespectful types there are just seem to be coming at me nonstop or why this city has somehow become this wood chipper that my feet are about to start entering but at this point I just about can't see how it's gonna get better. This place is really eating my ass alive and I just don't know what to do. 

Well I tell ya. I have a legitimate business that works on hourly appointments...albeit less per hour than yours. I have 15 or so regular appointments per week, and you know what? Fuckery, thats what.  Reschedules, cancels, no-shows, requests to reschedule on weekend days off. The last time I had a week go entirely as scheduled was in February of 2014. What we have is an ever growing percentage of the population that is spoiled, entitled, incompetent, deceptive, unreliable, non-committal,  etc.  These are the results of the social experiment of undisciplined children who's whims are indulged, now becoming a daily growing % of the ADULT population. The generation of Fuckery. I'm sorry but it is only going to get worse.

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Question with a purpose for not just the OP but all the ladies that are saying the bullshit is at all time high.  Does it help/have you tried only advertising on sites that have some form of private messaging - such as here and p411 - AND  then not showing your phone number in any of the remaining ads??  Only way to get number would be through the private message system - members only, not random jerks.  If calls are still over the frickin' line you at least know who they are and can complain to site mods, etc.  If your number is on BP and in all your ads any total troll jerk can look it up and mess with you.  Any fool can see your ads here too - member or not.  And if you link to your p411 and your p411 page has your phone displayed even non members get your contact info. 

Seems like would slow the bullshit.  Your phone may ring a lot less, but the percentage of jerks should go down.

But what do I know?  I could never do the job, but I sure am thankful you ladies do and I try to act like it when I see you.  And not trying to tell anyone how to run business - just throwing out a thought.  Hopefully more helpful than "do something else for living".  :cool:

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13 minutes ago, Admiral C said:

Fuckery, thats what.  Reschedules, cancels, no-shows, requests to reschedule on weekend days off... What we have is an ever growing percentage of the population that is spoiled, entitled, incompetent, deceptive, unreliable, non-committal,  etc. 

I agree with this. I see it from youngsters, oldsters, and middle-agers. Not just one generation. 

The simple answer, IMHO. Don't re-schedule. You wanna cancel so you can see your friends? Find another tradesman. People will decide that the work they scheduled, is more important than lunch with the guys. Or not. Either way, you don't have to deal with that crap again. :)

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5 hours ago, Admiral C said:

Well I tell ya. I have a legitimate business that works on hourly appointments...albeit less per hour than yours. I have 15 or so regular appointments per week, and you know what? Fuckery, thats what.  Reschedules, cancels, no-shows, requests to reschedule on weekend days off. The last time I had a week go entirely as scheduled was in February of 2014. What we have is an ever growing percentage of the population that is spoiled, entitled, incompetent, deceptive, unreliable, non-committal,  etc.  These are the results of the social experiment of undisciplined children who's whims are indulged, now becoming a daily growing % of the ADULT population. The generation of Fuckery. I'm sorry but it is only going to get worse.

Oh my gosh, I think you've hit the nail on the head. Even personal life seems to be like this. Scary!

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