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On 6/27/2017 at 8:21 AM, Melissa Sterling said:

This is why I haven't worked in Denver for years.  The hotel prices are outrageous to risk the amount of no shows and last minute cancellations.  I highly encourage the ladies of Denver to compare notes on e mails and numbers.  

To the gentleman who do show up, thank you! 

I think it would be a blast to have weekly board meetings with all the ladies with numbers to share.  We could meet at a cafe, and black list these idiots.  I add my to VH, but not sure that matters that much.  The double Bookers, seem to not be on any list.

Here is a taught, we could invite them all to a fiesta, and use them as the pinatas.  I think we have a few really good cooks that can help with the food....

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I volunteer - have spatula, will travel.

 

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5 minutes ago, BadBoy said:

I volunteer - have spatula, will travel.

 

I think it is time to plan a party!!! 

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I've also had an epidemic of folks cancelling, but I understand people have to live their lives. If it becomes a common thing I usually stop trying to meet, but otherwise I understand that stuff happens. It's still an inconvenience but it's nice having people communicate with you about scheduling changes rather than NCNS. 

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Twice this week I scheduled an AM session with a positively reviewed, frequent advertising TOB provider. Twice this week I awoke to a cancellation text for that morning's session. 

It goes both ways.

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9 hours ago, Kinkster said:

Twice this week I scheduled an AM session with a positively reviewed, frequent advertising TOB provider. Twice this week I awoke to a cancellation text for that morning's session. 

It goes both ways.

9 hours ago, Kinkster said:

Twice this week I scheduled an AM session with a positively reviewed, frequent advertising TOB provider. Twice this week I awoke to a cancellation text for that morning's session. 

It goes both ways.

I understand that is very frustrating, so stop trying to see someone who cannot respect your time.  I know you were out an hour of your day.  An hour cancelled appointment cost me two hours of mine and $600.00.  some of us are having four or more a day.  I truly believe you should try another provider.

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This epidemic of cancellations, are these people you have checked references or are they newbies? I am shaking my head if these were guys previously verified that are cancelling on you.

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15 hours ago, Kinkster said:

Twice this week I scheduled an AM session with a positively reviewed, frequent advertising TOB provider. Twice this week I awoke to a cancellation text for that morning's session. 

It goes both ways.

Sometimes, the SPs' excuses can be hilarious

a) damaged phone chasing her dog

b.) left phone at home

c) overslept

d) grandma in the hospital (thought she told me her grandma passed already)

e) hangover

f) sick

g) period

e) one with no excuse or explanation

I have had a cancellation within 15-min after confirmation. Said she felt wierd after taking some drugs.

99.99% of the time, last minute excuses are B.S. Most likely, it's overbooking on the part of SPs or found a bigger fish to fry.

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1 hour ago, inkspot said:

This epidemic of cancellations, are these people you have checked references or are they newbies? I am shaking my head if these were guys previously verified that are cancelling on you.

Sometimes it's regular clients who you've had an awesome relationship with, and extended great incentives.:o Shit happens, we're  human and busy. When it happens over and over, it's just telling us, "my time is more important than yours". It's not so offensive until we have declined other invitations or adjusted our schedule and lives to accommodate. Oh well, it's on both ends I'm sure.

 

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I had to cancel on someone today. Had some unforeseen car issues. It's crappie for sure. But for the gents, when someone cancels on us, that's lost income. When a girl cancels on you, you still have money in your pocket. 

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1 hour ago, Melissa Sterling said:

I had to cancel on someone today. Had some unforeseen car issues. It's crappie for sure. But for the gents, when someone cancels on us, that's lost income. When a girl cancels on you, you still have money in your pocket. 

It is lost income for some of us when we turn down a job for a provider appointment then she cancels.

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10 hours ago, inkspot said:

It is lost income for some of us when we turn down a job for a provider appointment then she cancels.

I don't think that's the same, you still save money if she cancels. And it's not the providers fault that you made a choice to have fun instead of work. Whether or not you get canceled on it's still your choice to turn down work and lose the income. If you turn down work and don't get canceled on you're losing even more income.

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12 hours ago, Melissa Sterling said:

... When a girl cancels on you, you still have money in your pocket. 

True, but our Window-of-Oportunity has been lost. For some of us that is more precious, more difficult to arrange, than the $s. It might be a month before we get another. How cranky do you get w/o sex for a few months?

I agree it's not the same as paying the bills, but neither is it "Oh, no big deal. He still has his $s." 

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2 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

True, but our Window-of-Oportunity has been lost. For some of us that is more precious, more difficult to arrange, than the $s. It might be a month before we get another. How cranky do you get w/o sex for a few months?

I agree it's not the same as paying the bills, but neither is it "Oh, no big deal. He still has his $s." 

How about............................"it's no big deal the provider still has the chance to find other work"

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2 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

True, but our Window-of-Oportunity has been lost. For some of us that is more precious, more difficult to arrange, than the $s. It might be a month before we get another. How cranky do you get w/o sex for a few months?

I agree it's not the same as paying the bills, but neither is it "Oh, no big deal. He still has his $s." 

Totally agree with Bit Banger on this one. In my case I have limited opportunity for playtime because of work and life in general. When I make an appointment with a certain provider, I make it because I chose her over all of her competition. I only call her and NEVER call others to see who calls me back first. I only try someone different if I don't hear from her within 2-3 hrs. When the appointment is made, Ilook forward to our encounter and when it is canceled then I'm left disappointed and without the chance to re-schedule with a different provider if I'm not given enough time to do so.

So no, I'm not out money but my time is worth something to me. Like Bit Banger said, it might be weeks before I'm am able to set up another appointment with someone else.

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I agree with both because while the ladies do lose money they were expecting, the guys lose time they were anticipating on enjoying. For some clients, that is huge to spend even an hour in our presence. For ladies, we have to hope we get another appt or we lose money that pays for our livelihood. Two wrongs don't make a right, but things do happen in life.

Let's all agree to just do our best to respect people's time, and try to not have these things happen as long as they are not out of our control. Also, let's agree to not disagree. No one is going to win here!

xoxo,

Samantha Sheppard  

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I think Samantha offers a very balanced appraisal of the appointment conundrum.  I think sometimes both providers and clients forget that we're in a somewhat precarious situation.  Providers have lives and outside demands that disrupt the most well intentioned arrangements.  I have gotten to know some providers' personal sitautions and the people closest to them have no idea they engage in" illicit" behaviour.   The same is true for the gentlemen.  They have a variety of constraints including SOs, work colleagues and family members who could create drama if they found out about an individual's secret liasons.  I almost think that cancelled appointments on anybody's part have to be governed by the principal that letting the other person know in the most timely manner possible is the remedy.  I have been caught in the situation of doing my prep of cleaning and showering for an appointmnet to have my SO unexpectedly arrive on the scene and there was no way I could waltz out the door without in depth questions.  Even in that circumstance, I will take risks to let the provider know that it won't work for whatever reason.  If society were a little more flexible regarding sexual behaviour, it would help all of us be a little less secretive.  But I don't see that happening in the current context of social norms.  I think that if two people schedule a randevouz, eithics dictates that both people do whatever they can to let the other know so that one person is not pacing in a hotel room or driving around in circles because basic human courtesy has not been followed in closing the loop on appointments.

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Life happens and I think as most have alluded to, communication is the key.  I have been canceled on and have had to cancel, only once with less than 24 hours notice due to waking up with a migraine.  I try to reach out to the provider the day before to confirm, that way if I'm 'ghosted' at least I don't start to drive somewhere or try to stick to a schedule if I know things aren't going to happen as planned.  As time4fun said, basic human courtesy.  Now...let's all hug!

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On 6/25/2017 at 9:28 AM, Skg said:

I have had a couple of appointments where I did not feel so good that day but did not cancel with my provider. I told them that when I got there. (I get migraines) They understood and new exactly how to make me feel better and we had a good time anyway. Shame on guys that cancel. Providers should not give them the opportunity to see them again. (Unless there in a freaking crash on I-25, God forbid.)

Bruh I'm pretty sure it's okay to cancel if you're not feeling well, if anything that provider would be grateful you didn't pass on to her whatever the heck you got. Now not calling or alerting them of the situation ahead of time would be unacceptable. Just like a job. 

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DSBU!? LOL!! is that the medical acronym for blue balls?? Anywayyyyyy.. Raine.. having voyeured your profile before posting a response, My Gawd men!! Why would anyone cancel or otherwise not show up if fortunare to gain an audience with this incredibly beautiful creature?! .. on behalf of my gender, please accept sincere apologies for the narcissistic, inconsiderate behaviors.. you are most justified in your frustration and gracious in your acknowledgment of true gentlemen.. my hope for you m'lady is that fortune sends you more of the latter and less of the former.. 

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On 6/30/2017 at 9:48 PM, Kinkster said:

Twice this week I scheduled an AM session with a positively reviewed, frequent advertising TOB provider. Twice this week I awoke to a cancellation text for that morning's session. 

It goes both ways.

I acknowledge that self quoting is gauche but it is pertinent here. For the first time since I posted in this thread last month I was able to make time for a provider this week. Sure enough she cancelled on me as I got ready.

I thought to myself, How can she cancel on me like this? Does she not know how precious free time is?

Time can never be recouped. It is not simply a matter of self important frustration or blue balls. Sacrifices have been made, meetings moved, and little white lies told to chisel out the three hours needed for a 1 hour incall appointment. And that three hours simply cannot be banked nor exchanged for another window. Not next week. Probably not until next month.

Yes, the money is still in the bank. But not everything that can be counted counts. Not everything that counts can be counted.

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4 hours ago, Kinkster said:

I acknowledge that self quoting is gauche but it is pertinent here. For the first time since I posted in this thread last month I was able to make time for a provider this week. Sure enough she cancelled on me as I got ready.

I thought to myself, How can she cancel on me like this? Does she not know how precious free time is?

Time can never be recouped. It is not simply a matter of self important frustration or blue balls. Sacrifices have been made, meetings moved, and little white lies told to chisel out the three hours needed for a 1 hour incall appointment. And that three hours simply cannot be banked nor exchanged for another window. Not next week. Probably not until next month.

Yes, the money is still in the bank. But not everything that can be counted counts. Not everything that counts can be counted.

Well, at least you can keep telling yourself what a great client they are missing! Seriously though, is there anything in your approach that might be scaring them off? Might there be negative back-channel feedback from other escorts about you? It doesn't seem normal to get frequent cancellations, as a client. However, it could just be bad luck. I know I've had that experience!

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I must admit, I have cancelled appointments myself more than I should have. It can be extremely frustrating for either party when cancelled on. However I do understand that life does happen and generally if a client cancels with me I will save them as a cancelled contact and give them ONE more chance before I write them off.

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