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all I want to do is be a hobbiest but I'm afraid.  I cant get in trouble or .....

 

so what do I do

 

7 years no sex this is my last resort

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approved by moderator, psh, you know I'm not....whatever...jerks

 

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If you feel that scared I suggest finding something else to do with your time. 

None of us can "get in trouble or...". What makes you feel that you have anymore to risk than the rest of us?:rolleyes:

When you feel so nervous you will make the provider feel that way and the encounter will not be as it should. 

Not sure why any of us are "jerks" for not reassuring you?? Don't come to complete strangers on a board asking a stupid question and hoping for coddling. 

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Re: jerks comment: believe OP is ticked off that he/profile is still on a moderated status and can't get his posts up in real-time.

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10 hours ago, PeteSetter said:

all I want to do is be a hobbiest but I'm afraid.  I cant get in trouble or .....

 

so what do I do

 

7 years no sex this is my last resort

What a rather odd introductory post. Usually, it takes us quite some time to determine whether someone is mentally unstable but you laid it all out there for us in less than 50 words.

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24 minutes ago, MrBigShot said:

What a rather odd introductory post. Usually, it takes us quite some time to determine whether someone is mentally unstable but you laid it all out there for us in less than 50 words.

Not cool. Look back, actually his first introductory post was a year ago.  That thread devolved into a whole bunch of stuff about providers outing people at their workplace and ruining the lives of clients.  It's even joked about toward the end of the thread "have we managed to calm your nerves?!?"  No wonder he is nervous.

Look Pete, you got some great advice at the beginning of your thread the first time.  I'd say go try it and hopefully the great feeling you get from being with one of the fine YLs here will outweigh the fears.  Just be careful, and if it feels like someone is asking too much information for your comfort level, then move on.  You've been thinking about this too long and it's probably making your nerves even worse.  Poop or get off the pot!  And has been covered in multiple threads, if you poop, WASH YOUR ASS before you go see a YL!

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14 minutes ago, MrBigShot said:

What a rather odd introductory post. Usually, it takes us quite some time to determine whether someone is mentally unstable but you laid it all out there for us in less than 50 words.

Well first off it is not an introductory post

https://theotherboard.com/forum/index.php?/topic/35956-hello-tob-new-and-need-advice/#comment-368792

Can we as a new community effort stop just waiting for the newbies to walk by nervous as hell so we can collectively yell "get off my lawn ya little bastards! Learn some manners!"  I dunno - maybe actually be helpful.  Directed at collective not just you  Bigs - you were just the first to hop his case.  I am not saying name names, places, etc.  Don't have to in orderto be just a little understanding and helpful.

PeteSetter:

In the same thread I just linked, you received some pretty good advice.  Only you can ascertain whether the risk to being outed or arrested is so grave as to override participating in spending time with escorts.  Only you know your circumstance. But seven years - for fuck sake man, do or do not and quit making yourself crazy with worry and not getting laid.  Do a little research, (lots of search tools here) find a lady with multiple reviews and a track record, one that claims to be newbie friendly and contact her by her preferred method of communication.  BE POLITE.  Give her as much verification information as you are comfortable giving.  Can't see first one, move on.  All you can do is minimize your risk - well reviewed, established to start.  As to physical issues, being new, etc., etc. if you are clean, polite, don't stalk, don't blow her phone up. don't bitch about fees, let her steer the bus the first encounter, and leave on time while leaving a modest tip you will have just become one of her favorite clients.  Even if you are ugly as me, over weight etc. No, really.  Pick one and get moving!!

ps: not a good idea to pick fights with mods - especially not public ones lol.  It is their board, their rules.  Got a problem send a polite pm to 'em with your grievance.

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This too^^^

Apparently we were typing at the same time...

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I'll try to tone it down going forward. I've been cranky with others, not just noobs recently.

His post just seemed odd to me and I shouldn't have attacked his mental stability. I was out of bounds.

 

 

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21 minutes ago, AnthointheAM said:

This too^^^

Apparently we were typing at the same time...

Great minds.  Or feeble but like minds lol.

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34 minutes ago, MrBigShot said:

I'll try to tone it down going forward. I've been cranky with others, not just noobs recently.

His post just seemed odd to me and I shouldn't have attacked his mental stability. I was out of bounds.

 

 

If only there were some activity that could help with crankiness, nervousness, etc.  What could that be?!?  Ladies, PM me if you have any ideas, ha!

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Sorry if I was cunty in my post. Can we all join hands and sing kumbaya 🎶 

OP, grow up and access risk/reward and move forward. 

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Oops *assess 

brunch got the better of me:P

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18 hours ago, PeteSetter said:

all I want to do is be a hobbiest but I'm afraid.  I cant get in trouble or .....

 

so what do I do

 

7 years no sex this is my last resort

First, let me respond to your need to be sure you won't get into trouble.....You can't.  Life is risk. You drive down the street you risk the cars in the oncoming left lane won't cross the center line and kill you.  Every breath you take risks being your last and thus every second you wait to book a gal...or do anything else risks never getting another chance to. What do you do? Same as you do with everything else. Do your homework, choose wisely, and above all DO NOT FEED ENERGY INTO YOUR FEAR.  Find a well established provider and just be a regular with her for awhile until you feel less jittery....or be a regular forever. Yes, you must be smart and choose wisely, but then be bold and confidently act. Fear is the greatest enemy and fear acknowledged causes what you fear to manifest. Finally, if you read this and have a response that starts with "Yeah, BUT..."....then it's useless. Then just accept you are too fearful for this solution to your 7 year itch and sign up for a dating site, or wherever you go to try to lasso a girlfriend.

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1 hour ago, Admiral C said:

First, let me respond to your need to be sure you won't get into trouble.....You can't.  Life is risk. You drive down the street you risk the cars in the oncoming left lane won't cross the center line and kill you.  Every breath you take risks being your last and thus every second you wait to book a gal...or do anything else risks never getting another chance to. What do you do? Same as you do with everything else. Do your homework, choose wisely, and above all DO NOT FEED ENERGY INTO YOUR FEAR.  Find a well established provider and just be a regular with her for awhile until you feel less jittery....or be a regular forever. Yes, you must be smart and choose wisely, but then be bold and confidently act. Fear is the greatest enemy and fear acknowledged causes what you fear to manifest. Finally, if you read this and have a response that starts with "Yeah, BUT..."....then it's useless. Then just accept you are too fearful for this solution to your 7 year itch and sign up for a dating site, or wherever you go to try to lasso a girlfriend.

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

OP, say that to yourself, then pick up the phone.

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This is obviously something you've been thinking about for a LONG time.  Everybody on here has been in the same boat and for the most part have made the leap.  My advice would be to stop torturing yourself.  Either make the decision and jump in, or decide not to and stop coming these type of sites completely. If you decide to jump in (you won't be sorry) you've gotten plenty of good advice over the years on how to proceed. Make a decision and stick with it.  Good luck.

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On ‎4‎/‎2‎/‎2017 at 11:55 AM, AnthointheAM said:

If only there were some activity that could help with crankiness, nervousness, etc.  What could that be?!?  Ladies, PM me if you have any ideas, ha!

I'm not saying I'm cranky from lack of Sex. In fact, I saw my ATF and two regulars last week. I'm just old and cantankerous these days. I'll be sure and watch my P's and Q's with the noobs who are simply asking for advice going forward. I remember how well I was treated by TOB vets when I was a noob and should keep that in mind when I respond to the noobs.

 

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I got called a persnickety ol grouch by a YL yesterday myself. I thanked her helping me spell persnickety. I have taken a "No more snark", comments attitude towards noob's myself. Sometimes spoke out before thinking about what I'm saying. Was tough holdin back on this one tho. 

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Well.... as a noob i was prepared to be schooled after my first post.  Personally i appreciate all the feedback from the seasoned crowd.  I say keep it up.  Just as long as your "snarky" comments have some beneficial info in it, its all good.  It helps us newbies learn from everyones experience.  

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OP could start with some UTR FBSM providers. Chances of getting "caught" by going there are just really really low. Might be a good first step to see if you can do this. PM me and I'll send you some names.  

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6 minutes ago, pejo said:

OP could start with some UTR FBSM providers. Chances of getting "caught" by going there are just really really low. Might be a good first step to see if you can do this. PM me and I'll send you some names.  

I just went and checked the intro thread by OP from last year. Turns out I said basically the same thing then. At least I'm consistent!

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1 hour ago, fishndude57 said:

I got called a persnickety ol grouch by a YL yesterday myself. I thanked her helping me spell persnickety. I have taken a "No more snark", comments attitude towards noob's myself. Sometimes spoke out before thinking about what I'm saying. Was tough holdin back on this one tho. 

Maybe if you and I are tempted to respond in a harsh way going forward we should just type out "GET OFF MY LAWN" in all caps since we're the neighborhood Geezers.

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2 hours ago, MrBigShot said:

I'm not saying I'm cranky from lack of Sex. In fact, I saw my ATF and two regulars last week. I'm just old and cantankerous these days. I'll be sure and watch my P's and Q's with the noobs who are simply asking for advice going forward. I remember how well I was treated by TOB vets when I was a noob and should keep that in mind when I respond to the noobs.

 

Braggart!  B)

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4 minutes ago, BadBoy said:

Braggart!  B)

Nah, just a very good week of Hobbying for me:D

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On 4/2/2017 at 9:02 PM, FuriousWeasel said:

“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”

OP, say that to yourself, then pick up the phone.

Ferious Weasel you gave a beautiful mantra!!😀😀

https://www.ramdass.org/embracing-fear/ 

Finding ways to break through fears is called empowerment!

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Take a trip to the Dominican Republic or visit the Del Rey in Costa Rica.  Less risk and a nice vacation to boot.

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If I don't get any for a few weeks I start worrying my engine  won't start again. I know how tough it is to penetrate the hobby  it's scary and all that  but you just need to do enough research and play in the clear waters. I learnt that some tough screener ladies are worth it when it comes to safety, however, I won't say that  all the other ladies are not safe they just practice safety  in a different way or probably take as much risk as we all do. We all have a second life that we would love to keep untouched  ...Legalize the shit already...  just like marijuana, THE LEGALIZED HOBBY WILL ADD MORE PPL  to the happy crowd.

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