TheOcho8

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This is a rant. And yes it's about a specific provider in here but I won't call her out by name.

Stating a specific time for an appt and yet still getting asked what time I wanted is annoying. 

Secondly, when I have to pm through here to be checked, and list the references I have, yet to be turned down is annoying. 

But the kicker is when you see her ads on BP still, and those ads mention nothing about references & screening, that just tells me you are either a druggie that can't keep tack of your ads, or lack the intelligence level to be on BP & here as well. 

At least she helped in one aspect......definitely won't see her, so thanks for that I guess. End of rant.

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I understand the frustration, we've all been there, but you have to remember that you don't have a right to see anyone.  She has a right to be just as flighty as she wants to be, and you have a right to just move on.  Unless you had a scheduled appointment that she NC/NS'd I don't think you have a gripe. 

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Goid point Laci, she could have missed the times, so I'm not mad about it just annoyed really. 

But thank you for the compliment :-D 

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6 minutes ago, Mustang87 said:

I understand the frustration, we've all been there, but you have to remember that you don't have a right to see anyone.  She has a right to be just as flighty as she wants to be, and you have a right to just move on.  Unless you had a scheduled appointment that she NC/NS'd I don't think you have a gripe. 

You are absolutely correct, I don't have any right to see her. Just would've been nice had she told the truth about my references in the 1st place instead of just saying she would be unavailable at that time and "to have a nice day". 

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4 minutes ago, TheOcho8 said:

You are absolutely correct, I don't have any right to see her. Just would've been nice had she told the truth about my references in the 1st place instead of just saying she would be unavailable at that time and "to have a nice day". 

Just because she was posting after she told she was unavailable at a specific doesn't mean that she really wasn't available at the time you wanted.

She is running a business and in order to keep in business, she needs to advertise constantly.  It would be a real pain in the ass to start in her ads "I'm available at this time, this time, this time and this time. 

It is a hell of a lot easier to say availability from X time to X time.

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Another issue is some of those ads just filter through without input.( In other words It is a computer generated issue). So often when you see an ad posting at 4am often enough the provider is sound asleep in bed. 

We all understand and empathize with your frustration. Give your lady a break and try and call again a few weeks from now and highlight the important aspects of conversation as need be. 

Best of Luck!😘😘

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52 minutes ago, ilovewomen said:

Just because she was posting after she told she was unavailable at a specific doesn't mean that she really wasn't available at the time you wanted.

She is running a business and in order to keep in business, she needs to advertise constantly.  It would be a real pain in the ass to start in her ads "I'm available at this time, this time, this time and this time. 

It is a hell of a lot easier to say availability from X time to X time.

It had nothing to do with an ad posted after her and I were discussing meeting up. Or any specific time available in said ad. It had to do with the fact that I requested a time, and if she were truly unavailable at that time, why not say so to begin with?  Or why not offer a different time? 

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Best bet, move on and quit complaining.

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Newbie maybe,  And doesn't quite understand the hobby yet?

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I wouldn't let it get to you. 

Most likely most of her clients are repeat business or clients that have references. 

It could be that she was spooked from past events or just got an uneasy feeling for some reason. The gals are risking a lot when seeing someone, so if she did feel uncomfortable, it would be understandable. 

Wish her the best, and move on to someone who you are a better match with. 

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Read between the lines. When she said "she won't be available, have a good day", it is the same as saying " it's not you, it's me".

It is you and I don't mean it in an unkind way. Something flipped her switch and she turned you down. Don't take it personal. Look at as an opportunity to avoid a bad experience. Shoot, I had one escort verify me and told me to call the next morning to confirm. I called as instructed only to have her chew me out for calling saying she has a personal life too and why am I calling?????  Needless to say I cancelled immediately telling her I did not think either one of us were going to enjoy to appointment.  

As others have suggested, move on to the next on your tickler file. It is best to avoid a bad appointment.

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3 hours ago, TheOcho8 said:

This is a rant. And yes it's about a specific provider in here but I won't call her out by name.

Stating a specific time for an appt and yet still getting asked what time I wanted is annoying. 

Secondly, when I have to pm through here to be checked, and list the references I have, yet to be turned down is annoying. 

But the kicker is when you see her ads on BP still, and those ads mention nothing about references & screening, that just tells me you are either a druggie that can't keep tack of your ads, or lack the intelligence level to be on BP & here as well. 

At least she helped in one aspect......definitely won't see her, so thanks for that I guess. End of rant.

Wow cranky much? So because someone doesn't mention screening in their BP ad they must be a druggie? You post many ads on BP and you know the ins and outs? Or did you pick someone that didn't mention screening in hopes to avoid it, does it have to be mention it for you to be prepared? And why if you PMd her so she could see your references does her BP ad even matter?  So many conclusions and accusations you jumped to in this "rant".

Sorry it didn't work out for you but you didn't rant more than you just tried to insult someone. What was the actual rant? That you got turned down? So far you have called the person who turned you down a possible druggie and you questioned their intelligence. And no doubt if they read the forums they'll figure out that you're talking about them. They didn't entirely dodge the bullet, you grazed them with this post.

Would you rather get told that you got turned down because they're not interested or would you rather be told they're not available? In my experience it's much easier to just tell guys I'm not available then it is to tell them the truth because so often they react like you just did.

Also having references doesn't guarantee you anything. The effort of screening is just something you have to do, if you feel it's wasted effort because someone turned you down you're looking at this wrong. It should be a learning experience and a chance to reflect on your own behavior and would could have caused this. Maybe ask questions instead of flaming away.

Maybe this provider was flaky but it doesn't really sound like it. But if in fact she did something wrong coming here and bashing her lessens your argument. If you're gonna rant every time someone seemingly politely turns you down you're gonna have a bad time.

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10 minutes ago, Lucy Kitten said:

Wow cranky much? So because someone doesn't mention screening in their BP ad they must be a druggie? You post many ads on BP and you know the ins and outs? Or did you pick someone that didn't mention screening in hopes to avoid it, does it have to be mention it for you to be prepared? And why if you PMd her so she could see your references does her BP ad even matter?  So many conclusions and accusations you jumped to in this "rant".

Sorry it didn't work out for you but you didn't rant more than you just tried to insult someone. What was the actual rant? That you got turned down? So far you have called the person who turned you down a possible druggie and you questioned their intelligence. And no doubt if they read the forums they'll figure out that you're talking about them. They didn't entirely dodge the bullet, you grazed them with this post.

Would you rather get told that you got turned down because they're not interested or would you rather be told they're not available? In my experience it's much easier to just tell guys I'm not available then it is to tell them the truth because so often they react like you just did.

Also having references doesn't guarantee you anything. The effort of screening is just something you have to do, if you feel it's wasted effort because someone turned you down you're looking at this wrong. It should be a learning experience and a chance to reflect on your own behavior and would could have caused this. Maybe ask questions instead of flaming away.

Maybe this provider was flaky but it doesn't really sound like it. But if in fact she did something wrong coming here and bashing her lessens your argument. If you're gonna rant every time someone seemingly politely turns you down you're gonna have a bad time.

Haha I guess we're both cranky. I would rather be told they are not interested, then to take a sentence the wrong way and immediately cancel. when someone claims to be intelligent but yet has to ask multiple times for when I want to schedule....after I've already stated my times comes off completely opposite. The druggie comment was definitely taking it too far, but let's not ignore the elephant in the room that this industry is flooded with tweakers. 

I came back to update that her and I have patched things up but it seems that you have an issue with my issue. I understand that just because I have refs in here doesn't guarantee me anything. Actually, nothing in this industry is ever guaranteed if you truly think about it. 

So for what it's worth, to the lady, I am sorry for insulting you and creating something from nothing because I got irritated. 

Also good to know that I shouldn't be using forum as a place to vent. Also good to know that it's not ok to vent to you Lucy. 

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47 minutes ago, TheOcho8 said:

 

Haha I guess we're both cranky. I would rather be told they are not interested, then to take a sentence the wrong way and immediately cancel. when someone claims to be intelligent but yet has to ask multiple times for when I want to schedule....after I've already stated my times comes off completely opposite. The druggie comment was definitely taking it too far, but let's not ignore the elephant in the room that this industry is flooded with tweakers. 

I came back to update that her and I have patched things up but it seems that you have an issue with my issue. I understand that just because I have refs in here doesn't guarantee me anything. Actually, nothing in this industry is ever guaranteed if you truly think about it. 

So for what it's worth, to the lady, I am sorry for insulting you and creating something from nothing because I got irritated. 

Also good to know that I shouldn't be using forum as a place to vent. Also good to know that it's not ok to vent to you Lucy. 

Providers use the forum to vent and rant all the time. if any of them don't like clients venting or ranting it's just hard cheese.

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2 hours ago, TheOcho8 said:

 

Haha I guess we're both cranky. I would rather be told they are not interested, then to take a sentence the wrong way and immediately cancel. when someone claims to be intelligent but yet has to ask multiple times for when I want to schedule....after I've already stated my times comes off completely opposite. The druggie comment was definitely taking it too far, but let's not ignore the elephant in the room that this industry is flooded with tweakers. 

I came back to update that her and I have patched things up but it seems that you have an issue with my issue. I understand that just because I have refs in here doesn't guarantee me anything. Actually, nothing in this industry is ever guaranteed if you truly think about it. 

So for what it's worth, to the lady, I am sorry for insulting you and creating something from nothing because I got irritated. 

Also good to know that I shouldn't be using forum as a place to vent. Also good to know that it's not ok to vent to you Lucy. 

This industry is not flooded with tweakers, more hurtful generalizations.

Here comes that male hypersensitivity again. Rant away but don't call people stupid and druggies if you don't want that coming back to bite you in the ass. Here you are "ranting" about a provider not having decorum when you have shown none at all. Now she asked multiple times what time you wanted to schedule? Your story is changing. Why don't you give the actual breakdown, not the version that makes you look good. If you understood that refs aren't a guarantee then why the remarks about being upset for being turned down after providing them? It seems like you are lacking intelligence in the hobby world and I say again use this as a learning experience.

Maybe I should start a thread and "rant" about you. Truly put the shoe on the other foot, if you made a simple mistake would you want a provider up here saying I won't name names but this guy is a dick. I'm not cranky, I don't like rants that are actually thinly veiled excuses to insult someone. Calling providers druggies adds to stigma and stereotypes. Calling people stupid because you got turned down only makes you look bad not me for pointing it out.

It's entirely possible to have polite discourse and rant at the same time. Nice that you apologized but she was already called a stupid druggie in open forum and you can't really take that back.

Rant away but don't set out to intentionally hurt people.

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You should'nt take things in this realm personally. Indeed, although the occasional "something extra" connection is sometimes made, one of the main ATTRACTIONS of the hobby is the LACK of personal attached to the physical. It is in your best interest to undeerstand and accept that ALL cancels, reschedules, refusals to see you are ALL caused by the same thing......."whatever".  There is nothing personal to take in....."whatever". Your hoped for experience gets upset by whatever...so what. O.K. it can be maybe blue-ballish depending on circumstance, but it's mainly just a shrug off. One less ad to look at, one less decision to make. If you can't book a "pinch hitter" you like in a timely way....just punt the idea and go spend the Dough-ray-mi on yourself at Best Buy, Sportsmen's Warehouse, etc. .....wherever you like to get fun things. Above all....know it's not personal, and remember, as others have said.....If a girl is not going to see you for whatever, you would not have had fun anyway.

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20 hours ago, TheOcho8 said:

This is a rant. And yes it's about a specific provider in here but I won't call her out by name.

Stating a specific time for an appt and yet still getting asked what time I wanted is annoying. 

Secondly, when I have to pm through here to be checked, and list the references I have, yet to be turned down is annoying. 

But the kicker is when you see her ads on BP still, and those ads mention nothing about references & screening, that just tells me you are either a druggie that can't keep tack of your ads, or lack the intelligence level to be on BP & here as well. 

At least she helped in one aspect......definitely won't see her, so thanks for that I guess. End of rant.

Sometimes, I've found it helpful to look in the mirror if I'm tempted to post here. Perhaps you should do the same?

Also, there's a tool here called "Reviews" if you've had an experience, either positive or negative for specifics regarding client/provider sessions rather than airing out generic grievances in the open, clients can describe an accurate account of their experience with the Provider.

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You are all correct. I apparently just had a really bad day yesterday and didn't choose the correct outlet to vent my frustrations. Thank you for helping me realize that I did indeed go to the wrong place to do this. And this is truly a realization that I had last night, so no I'm not being sarcastic or passive aggressive in any way. 

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Wow, huge props for an act of contrition!  Usually folks around here dig in their heels with all of their might and refuse to give an inch.  

Dude, we all certainly have bad days and frustrations in this game, but think of the alternative!

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22 hours ago, TheOcho8 said:

Secondly, when I have to pm through here to be checked, and list the references I have, yet to be turned down is annoying. 

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Simple: you didn't pass her screening. Having references is not enough. Not all providers trust in all providers. Maybe you have references from women she doesn't trust or they don't have enough reputation. Probably she didn't like you because of the way you communicate on your PMs, which from the way you rant seems pretty obvious ;) 

Being a board member with about 10 posts and having a few references is not enough.

As some other people already said, move on, because she already moved on about you :)

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So do people only read the first post and then put in their 2 cents? If you had read the rest of this you would've known I've already moved on and apologized. 

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7 minutes ago, TheOcho8 said:

So do people only read the first post and then put in their 2 cents? If you had read the rest of this you would've known I've already moved on and apologized. 

Once a poster starts a thread, the first post being the topic of the thread usually will get responses. As others read subsequent posts also authored by the OP (Original Poster) they will comment accordingly.

Props to you Ocho8 for having the fortitude to publicly do a 180 from your original post. You had the potential to just be another Troll but now it appears there may be hope for you after all.

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53 minutes ago, TheOcho8 said:

So do people only read the first post and then put in their 2 cents? If you had read the rest of this you would've known I've already moved on and apologized. 

You DEFINITELY should not even consider for a micro-second taking anything said in these forums personally! Posters here are  a big ole cauldron of vegetable soup like assorted screwballs.....me and you INCLUDED!

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Soup sounds good today. I'm gonna eat y'all up!😂

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28 minutes ago, Laci French said:

Soup sounds good today. I'm gonna eat y'all up!😂

Chili sounds good. A nice big pot of chili, then get some Fritos and make Frito pie 

:P

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I'm making chicken n dumplins😂

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1 minute ago, Juanmotai said:

Chili sounds good. A nice big pot of chili, then get some Fritos and make Frito pie 

:P

 That what you're thinking of?

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3 minutes ago, Juanmotai said:

Chili sounds good. A nice big pot of chili, then get some Fritos and make Frito pie 

:P

It does!!!  But not if a lady has a client later that likes DATY/69 without safety equipment!

Image result for man wearing gas mask

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😂😂😂😂 think the moment would get lost in a hazmat suit?

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