Just read me

[jhooker]

I was the proto-typical family man. Happily married, hard working, maybe too hard, left the wife to herself too many nights and after I found out she was f*****g an old boyfriend from FB I gave her an ultimatum: This could only be resolved by me beating her up, or me beating him up, or me divorcing her, or me f*****g a gorgeous woman. We both decided that making love not war made the most sense.

We both began searching for a girl together, it was really fun actually, and I suddenly felt like calling her boyfriend and thanking him, I mean, just in time for my mid-life crisis man, my wife is helping me find some hot babe to bang. First run was through an agency, we got a hotel room together, then she left a few minutes before the girl arrived. It was ok, nothing to get all exited about. We did this a few more times then I hit the jackpot, a hot little El Salvadoran spinner I found on back page, that was also my first exposure to TOB as she had reviews. DING DING! She was a babe, and super sweet, and nasty as f**k. Well after 10 or 20 dates with her, and a few other nights out with different girls, my wife started getting a case of jealousy lol, and "we" mutually decided (wink wink) that that was enough "making love" and that she was punished enough and had attoned for her sins, so it was time to get beck to some good old fashioned manogamy.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ever hear of anything so funny? Yeah right! Are you kidding me? We opened Pandoras box, there is a plethora of pussy out there, and perky boobs!! And spankable round Latina butts!!!! Big Teradactyl wing pussy lips and tiny tight little Asian pussy lips, Greek Goddesses, long Russian legs and petite spinners, juicy black booty too!!!! D cups, C cupps, DD cups, titty f***s, prostate massagers, toys, sights to see, sensations to feel, MANOGAMY?!?! No, I'm sorry honey, that ship has sailed, I was the proto-typical family man, yes I was, my wife screwed up, yes she did, she paid for what she did......yes, she did. But now Ive been set free, now I'm ALIVE!! Cant just shut it off, dont want to shut it off. A hobbyist is born.

[BlairHart]

I got into sex work at 19. I have a somewhat husky voice so I started doing phone sex. I toyed with the idea of escorting but was too afraid to risk it in the podunk town I was doing my undergrad in. I graduated (from school and to cam) and as a camgirl started domming online and then training IRL to be a prodomme. I had a sugar daddy when I started grad school but he was more like a Splenda daddy lol.

I moved to Colorado to get away from a lot of personal crap and finally dived right in. My main regret is not starting escorting sooner. While I still phone and cam when the mood hits, im perpetually horny and this job satisfies my needs way more than feigning sexuality on camera does. Plus being new here, its nice to make new friends, even if im spending most of our friendship time sitting on their face

[Jez UaBriain]

On 3/10/2017 at 4:40 PM, average1 said:

I started in this hobby some years after getting divorced.  Wanted sex.  Wanted female touch and connection.  Wasn't interested in a relationship, but I love women. I LOVE WOMEN.  Did I mention that I love women.  I found another board (which is no longer around), then found TOB and the magic happened. 

Not sure if I would change anything.  I've met some wonderful ladies who have added to the enjoyment of my life and helped me re-discovery the sexual side of my life.  When I first contact a lovely TOB lady, I try to let them know that I understand the business side of this, but, for me, it is also about 2 (or more) consenting adults having fun.  If it's not fun, it's not worth it. 

I enjoy giving and receiving pleasure, so this hobby has been a blast for me.  Luckily for me, most of the ladies I've met have been wonderful....including the OP.  I just wish my budget and free time allowed for more play time.

This +    -says it all!

[StanTheMan]

Not a frequent contributor to TOB, but I'm here  today and came across this thread, and since my intro to the hobby involves a Colorado lady I thought I'd add my story. Me and my wife went through a very tough time about  seven years ago. Our daughter was raped and murdered and our lives fell apart. We struggled to keep our marriage going, and it was a dark and painful time. No sex as my wife lost all interest and barely made it out of bed in the morning for months. I've always been a horny guy, but never strayed from monogamy. I started thinking about escorts, looked around and found and joined P411. Lurking on ECCIE as well until one day I decided to take the plunge. I contacted [Snip}got a yes and jumped on my bike and rode many miles north to CS and I'll never forget my introduction to this hobby. Wonderful experience and thanks [Snip} I doubt you remember me. It was all vanilla and new and [Snip} and subsequent many other ladies played a large part in the healing process. I could have spent all the hobby money on conventional therapy, but I've met so many wonderful providers over the years and their presence in my life has helped me more than any shrink or therapist ever could have done. ( I tried some of that as well). Thank you ladies !! You are very special, and Laci you have been on my wish list for some time.....yummy you look . Next time I ride north!

[JRWolfe]

Went to a swing party in the 70s,met the publisher of the Oyster,took some pictures for her...the rest is history,but on the porn side of the fence,not so much the hobby side.

[SultryKitten]

On 3/21/2017 at 7:23 PM, jhooker said:

I was the proto-typical family man. Happily married, hard working, maybe too hard, left the wife to herself too many nights and after I found out she was f*****g an old boyfriend from FB I gave her an ultimatum: This could only be resolved by me beating her up, or me beating him up, or me divorcing her, or me f*****g a gorgeous woman. We both decided that making love not war made the most sense.

We both began searching for a girl together, it was really fun actually, and I suddenly felt like calling her boyfriend and thanking him, I mean, just in time for my mid-life crisis man, my wife is helping me find some hot babe to bang. First run was through an agency, we got a hotel room together, then she left a few minutes before the girl arrived. It was ok, nothing to get all exited about. We did this a few more times then I hit the jackpot, a hot little El Salvadoran spinner I found on back page, that was also my first exposure to TOB as she had reviews. DING DING! She was a babe, and super sweet, and nasty as f**k. Well after 10 or 20 dates with her, and a few other nights out with different girls, my wife started getting a case of jealousy lol, and "we" mutually decided (wink wink) that that was enough "making love" and that she was punished enough and had attoned for her sins, so it was time to get beck to some good old fashioned manogamy.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ever hear of anything so funny? Yeah right! Are you kidding me? We opened Pandoras box, there is a plethora of pussy out there, and perky boobs!! And spankable round Latina butts!!!! Big Teradactyl wing pussy lips and tiny tight little Asian pussy lips, Greek Goddesses, long Russian legs and petite spinners, juicy black booty too!!!! D cups, C cupps, DD cups, titty f***s, prostate massagers, toys, sights to see, sensations to feel, MANOGAMY?!?! No, I'm sorry honey, that ship has sailed, I was the proto-typical family man, yes I was, my wife screwed up, yes she did, she paid for what she did......yes, she did. But now Ive been set free, now I'm ALIVE!! Cant just shut it off, dont want to shut it off. A hobbyist is born.

xoxo,

Samantha Sheppard

[Mackonit]

On 3/10/2017 at 3:05 PM, Laci French said:

I have questions.  How did you start in the "hobby"?  

If you could go back in time with everything you now know...would your hobby experiences be different?

What besides the O face do you really seek in your encounters?

 

An exotic dancer at a club called Lookers in Elizabeth, NJ in '05 open my eyes and I never look back. I realized I'm a slut. 

[scarecrow]

On March 23, 2017 at 8:01 AM, StanTheMan said:

Me and my wife went through a very tough time about  seven years ago...... 

Stan;

I wish I had the words to express my heart felt sympathies.

[Guest]

On 3/23/2017 at 0:35 PM, Mackonit said:

An exotic dancer at a club called Lookers in Elizabeth, NJ on '05 open my eyes and I never look back. I realized I'm a slut. 

Which Exit?

[Laci French]

Thank you all for sharing a part of yourselves with me.😘

[Guest]

Live Links. One night I was recently out of a relationship and called the number I was scrolling through the women and I came across one that said seeking generous man for a fun time.. I knew exactly what it was however it had never been presented to me like that.. I was incredibly nervous but incredibly curious so I pushed one to connect. And like others here have said this was prior to the existence of the internet, she sounded pleasant enough on the phone so I agreed to meet her.. let's just say I got pretty lucky for a first time and not actually seeing the girl prior to arriving at her place... not all of my live links connections would be as good.. but thankfully I discovered certain websites soon thereafter. 

[Phil-anderer]

On 3/10/2017 at 3:05 PM, Laci French said:

I have questions.  How did you start in the "hobby"?  

If you could go back in time with everything you now know...would your hobby experiences be different?

What besides the O face do you really seek in your encounters?

 

Two O faces?

 

[lowboy]

Well after my ex failed to come home from a seminar , on our anniversary I might add, I started looking around. She had made me feel totally inadequate as far as sex with her was concerned. She wasn't frigid but she took so long to orgasm that there was no way I could last long enough if I was in her and my tongue and fingers were numb when she finally did O. I spent a lot of time on the internet looking for masturbation material and had about decided that I was submissive, since that kind of porn turned me on, and that was the problem with us since there was no way she was a dominate.

I had dabbled a little in for pay phone sex while we were still together and after she left I gathered up my courage and called a Dominate. She took my BDSM cherry in a session that lasted all one afternoon and had me throughly drained when it was over. She got out of the business soon there after so I started looking around again and found a Lady in Denver who I've seen on and off for going on 20 years now and who has become a friend as well as my favorite Domme.

But I really wanted something besides self service, especially since my first Dominate had finished me off by hand and I soon discovered that she was the exception rather than the rule. I had found the two Colorado boards which don't exist anymore and then found TOB. I lurked here for a long time before I called a provider and set up a meeting. She was a lot of fun, VERY receptive to DATY, and gave me a great hand job to finish up. I don't get out to Colorado much so my lobbying is sporadic at best and there have been far too many times that I've had an emergency come up at the ranch and have had to cancel a meeting ( [Snip} ). And I've had mixed experiences when I have managed to connect with a provider. But I'm going to keep on trying.

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

On 3/21/2017 at 1:13 PM, TrystinTrimble said:

I started in the capital of Texas, at barely 18. After growing up with a family that held me back from any progress that would result in me moving out on my own, i was SICK of constantly doing without.  

I began stripping in the city and OMFG was it a rough start. I was definitely born sexy, but I was pretty much a small bbw and had bad hair, no actual stripper heels, no skills at dealing with rejection, and my personal style was fckn unusual. I kept at it,  and many days i walked out of there with like 20 bucks because I sucked at schmoozing and the management at strip clubs just gave zero fucks about women.  I struggled for too damn long. 

6-8 months in, I met a gentleman who wanted a couple dances and we were immediately friends.  He was a nice and non predatory type who was a local executive for a well known automaker.  Long story short, he introduced me to some of his friends and he stayed respectably out of my affairs. He is to this day still my friend, but not a client.  I grew up with a girl who wound up going the opposite way and meeting some brutal POS pimp with more gold teeth than humanity, and i know too well how lucky i was to not get snagged in that shit. She is in and out of jail constantly and horribly strung out now, and I left the nose candy in the strip club bathroom 10 years ago. Sometimes it really is about who you know and little else...

But, i digress. 15 years after my first appt and i would change plenty of things im sure. Like...id have grown a spine sooner and prevented the numerous times in my early 20's where i got tricked or manipulated into being disrespected and saying nothing about it.  But its all part of the broken road that led me here now.

I have put myself through college, met (and fell for at times) some truly amazing people who i never want to NOT have in my life. Learned how to handle some of the most difficult, predatory,  and defective human beings imaginable; which has in turn made my 30s much more rewarding than my 20's. Believe it or not...without this life I would have been unequipped to build self esteem or draw boundaries with toxic people.  2 years ago I finally saw a year with 6 figures of income, and what i get a good sense of satisfaction from is knowing that im a serious bright spot for some peoples day just by not being a nitpicking thundercunt to them. Even more so...im able to have all the sexy older men i can manage, which was made to seem super weird previously by people who told me that i was clearly fucked up with daddy issues and that i was wrong by loving older dudes. No more of that!

Its not all sunshine and blowjobs, but i resent the fuck out of the notion that I am just a broken and lost shell that needs to be whipped into compliance so i can be "whole."  Its not true,  and its such a minimizing world for us because of the misconceptions.  Although some assume that i am a vapid and uncaring scam artist...i am definitely aware of who i want to give my best and love to, straightforward and transparent WAY more than the revered "wife" is considered by most husbands...and not putting up with being treated like a fraction by ANYONE. AND YES, I CAN TELL WHEN SOMEONE THINKS IM A HOPELESS DRIFTER. Why? Cause the intuitively strong part of me no longer can ignore any feeling of malevolence and MUST heed it instead. Thats MY takeaway from it...

Trystan, 

You got me so emotional reading your story! I want to give you a giant hug! You are so brave to live through all that you have been through. You are a Beautiful,Strong, and resultant for all you have been through!!!

Sending Reiki to you!

Hope you will accept!

 

[Hobbyist65]

@Stan My condolences sir.  No one should have to go through that.

@ jhooker  SALUTE! 

 

My story is very similar to several others.  My wife had a baby and suddenly refused sex for over 3 years.  She refused to go to doctor for postpartum too.  I finally found that I couldn't continue holding everything together for everyone else without my needs being covered too. Took the plunge.  This was back in the Decadent City days.  Before TOB.  Heck, before "The Other" was just a poster on Sowet.  Before RT even started Sowet.  Wow, I'm old.  LOL

 

Would I change anything?  OH HELL YES!  Would have started a LONG time before I did.  As jhooker said in far more vivid terms, the variety is unmatched.  I think that my biggest regret are the times that I DIDN'T pull the trigger.  Courtney, Tanya, Kelly38DD, Britni, Misti, etc, etc...

Otherwise, I would have been more of a "regular" to some of the ladies.  I have become an UTR kind of guy, but there was a time way back when where I was something of a "well-known hobbyist" with a different handle.  There was a girl named Candy (Sweetnice28) that I had as close as a relationship as possible.  I saw her every year on my birthday.  Exchanged gifts, etc.  Last I heard, she had moved to Vegas.  There was a girl named Carla, sister of Trina.  I still miss both of them.  My kids still have presents that Carla gave them when they were born even though she had never met them.

[Kali Sensual Reiki]

On 3/26/2017 at 11:10 PM, scarecrow said:

Stan;

I wish I had the words to express my heart felt sympathies.

Sending reiki. I as so very sorry for your heartache!

[bike2hard]

I started about 15 years ago meeting the legendary Jenna Johnson who was with an agency at that time. She formed Jenna's Jewels and i was like a kid in a candy store with plenty of money - I was self employed doing well and had lots of flexibility with time. I began seeing Emerald and we had a strong connection even though i was quite a bit older than her. We spend time over breakfasts, lunches, and dinners and as I traveled quite a bit on business I suggested she go to San Francisco with me. We had a blast. From there she joined me in Las Vegas, Orlando, and Ft Lauderdale. She left the business, married, and has children. For sometime we did lunch sometimes but nothing more - just never felt right for me. I retired and generally see two  ladies (one is an AMP) and once in awhile I pop into a nearby Asian massage for some relief. I have a sense that this pretty much follows the path of many who have been around this board for awhile. Take care everyone and be safe. Lots of great ladies here.

[BadBoy]

What ever happened to Jenna?  She was such a sweetheart and so much fun.  One of my first OKs.  Was around up until about a year ago.  Not looking to stalk her, just wondering, feel free to PM.

[bytor2112]

I wish I saw this topic earlier I don't get on discussion board much just to the main course of ads and reviews 😛! I started young probably one of the youngest hobbiest it was1991 I was 21 I was sick of my friends always scoreing in the clubs and bars with hot girls and I was odd man out or it seemed. so one night at the liquor store buying beer I notice a paper rack next to the counter and the paper was the Rocky Mountain oyster so drinking beers and thumbing threw the ad I made the plunge and called my first girl After that I was hooked! I was active till 95 then I meet a girl got married then in 2001 got divorced was rusty so getting back into the game was hard times had changed till one night a local news channel had a special on Craig's list and just got my first computer open me up to a whole new realm like a kid in a candy store then I meet a wonderful lady who was at the time well known in Denver for running an agency she told me about so wet, bears board and of course tob and the rest is history so thank you Luvn Lisa for giving me new avenues to search! so over 20 years I have meet so many wonderful ladies I also wish I had meet some other wonderful ladies due to them retiring, moving or passed away then their are those I wish I had never meet but that's the nature of the beast 😊