Question for the fellas.....

[PieluvinTexan]

How many times have you shown up for an appt. to find that the lady hasn't accurately stated her stats ( specifically her weight). How did you handle the situation? Has it ever been so far off that you backed out and left.

I know personally there has been a few times where the lady was heavier than her ad stated. I've always gone through with the appt. out of courtesy to her ( not exactly sure why since she lied) for her time, but each time have felt a little ripped off. I can only imagine these ladies aren't concerned about repeat clientele, only the one visit and done kind of ladies.

[tide32]

16 minutes ago, H2Opieluver said:

How many times have you shown up for an appt. to find that the lady hasn't accurately stated her stats ( specifically her weight). How did you handle the situation? Has it ever been so far off that you backed out and left.

I know personally there has been a few times where the lady was heavier than her ad stated. I've always gone through with the appt. out of courtesy to her ( not exactly sure why since she lied) for her time, but each time have felt a little ripped off. I can only imagine these ladies aren't concerned about repeat clientele, only the one visit and done kind of ladies.

That why reviews come so handy. 

[PieluvinTexan]

Yes you're right but I'm relatively new to TOB . This happened to me before I joined or I definitely would have given an honest review. Fortunately these last few months have been good for me.

[tide32]

Practice makes perfect.  

[Bootsce]

I have been there for one reason or another before. I politely said I was not interested without stating a reason. You don't have to have a reason but you better be polite and acknowledge the value of time. E.g. Some % of the agreed donation. 

How you feel about situation does not matter and do not get on some high horse about expectations or truth in advertising. 

Be kind🗿

[Guest]

8 hours ago, H2Opieluver said:

How many times have you shown up for an appt. to find that the lady hasn't accurately stated her stats ( specifically her weight). How did you handle the situation? Has it ever been so far off that you backed out and left.

I know personally there has been a few times where the lady was heavier than her ad stated. I've always gone through with the appt. out of courtesy to her ( not exactly sure why since she lied) for her time, but each time have felt a little ripped off. I can only imagine these ladies aren't concerned about repeat clientele, only the one visit and done kind of ladies.

Providers are going to advertise with pics that accentuate their positives. Those that use outdated or inaccurate pics risk having the question answered accordingly in the review. I'm not sure your assumption of losing out on repeat business is entirely accurate as many potential clients, like myself, place more emphasis on the service rather than whether pics are 100% accurate or the provider has gained a few pounds since pics were taken. At the end of the day, it should be about making a connection with someone to break up the extreme boredom and loneliness that consumes our day to day lives rather than nitpicking over a few photos.

 

[Bit Banger]

37 minutes ago, MrBigShot said:

... many potential clients, like myself, place more emphasis on the service rather than whether pics are 100% accurate or the provider has gained a few pounds since pics were taken. At the end of the day, it should be about making a connection with someone ...

 

^^ THIS! ^^

They say men are visual creatures. Looks are good for 3G physical release, and then on to the next pretty face. But for repeat business I need to be mentally stimulated. 

Yes, there are limits. But some of my favorite YL are well outside my preferred body type. They are just plain fun to be around, their company entertaining. 

As for 'lying advertisement': Does that steak in the restaurant commercial look like the one on your plate? Does that slice of watermelon in the Safeway ad look too appetizing? Do you tell all your foibles to your current ASP choice?  Didn't think so. 

Edited February 8, 2017 by Bit Banger
Added last paragraph

[Citori]

I've go to tell you. I've picked up some really great pointers on how to make myself look better from the ad pictures.

 

- At the DMV and when I switched jobs I had them stand on a 17 foot ladder and take a photo from above. - Really makes me looks skinny in a way that mirrors and reality doesn't

- Also for face book I've taken all my photos with my foot where caught in my boxer shorts, not sure if it is attractive, but seems so popular. 

 

 /smartass off/

 

I've had my share of mis-represented photos when visiting YL.  Some were great sessions, and others were ho hum, but the same can be said for accurate photos. 

 

[Dial Soap Boy]

I, on the other hand, require fairly accurate stats and pictures.  There are many awesome girls out there as far as looks and service.  I don't have to have a model every time, but I want to know who is going to open the door. Fake pics makes it a one visit situation for me.

TOB is a great resource.  You don't see a ton of bad reviews on here.  There probably should be more.  I think we stay sometimes we should not, and we don't warn other guys when we should.

The term "Took One For The Team" is there for a reason.  But TOFTT is no good if we don't tell each other.

There was one time that I should have Run.  Run Fast. And Run Far.  I would tell you guys that one, but I believe she is long gone now.  So much about this is about communication.

[stevie-2249]

46 minutes ago, MrBigShot said:

Providers are going to advertise with pics that accentuate their positives. Those that use outdated or inaccurate pics risk having the question answered accordingly in the review. I'm not sure your assumption of losing out on repeat business is entirely accurate as many potential clients, like myself, place more emphasis on the service rather than whether pics are 100% accurate or the provider has gained a few pounds since pics were taken. At the end of the day, it should be about making a connection with someone to break up the extreme boredom and loneliness that consumes our day to day lives rather than nitpicking over a few photos.

 

I bet you don't mention the excess weight she gained either in the review, too many guys don't want to be hard on the ladies.

[Guest]

17 minutes ago, stevie-2249 said:

I bet you don't mention the excess weight she gained either in the review, too many guys don't want to be hard on the ladies.

I can't recall whether I have or not. I guess weight just isn't a deal breaker for me as it might be for you.

I love women of all shapes, sizes and ethnicities, so I'm open to experiences with Spinners through BBWs and everything in between. It's been my experience that by limiting yourself to one body type or excluding another only diminishes your enjoyment in this thing we like to call "Hobby". I've seen Petite Providers who were less than 90lbs and I've seen former female college athletes who now advertise as BBW. I would need to flip a coin to determine which type I enjoyed more than the other since I've never had a bad experience...just some experiences are way better than others IMHO.

[stevie-2249]

OK that's you, now some guys only like skinny girls so it would be nice to know if she has gained weight, but pictures should always be accurate in the first place

[Guest]

13 minutes ago, stevie-2249 said:

OK that's you, now some guys only like skinny girls so it would be nice to know if she has gained weight, but pictures should always be accurate in the first place

If you only like one body type then you're free to only schedule with that body type. I happen to enjoy variety in all its forms.

[PieluvinTexan]

12 minutes ago, MrBigShot said:

If you only like one body type then you're free to only schedule with that body type. I happen to enjoy variety in all its forms.

This is exactly my point. I've scheduled my appt based on the body type that she states she is only to be surprised occasionally that the stats aren't accurate. This is another reason I don't schedule an appt with a lady who leaves out her weight altogether because I know what I like

and don't purposely schedule with a body type that I don't prefer

 

 

 

[Lucy Kitten]

I think there are some women that misrepresent themselves and that's not cool but I think men have horrible perception when it comes to shape and size of a woman's body.

You post a picture of a woman and ask 12 different men to describe it you get 12 different answers. It's especially difficult when it comes to thinner women, weight and body shape don't always match. A lady can be 5'2 110lbs and still have a little muffin top. You can also have a very slender athletic body that weighs 140lbs. If a guy prefers a thin, flat tummied body then he needs to search for "athletic". If you just like petite and low weight then you have so many options. 

[Chrissy]

40 minutes ago, Lucy Kitten said:

I think there are some women that misrepresent themselves and that's not cool but I think men have horrible perception when it comes to shape and size of a woman's body.

You post a picture of a woman and ask 12 different men to describe it you get 12 different answers. It's especially difficult when it comes to thinner women, weight and body shape don't always match. A lady can be 5'2 110lbs and still have a little muffin top. You can also have a very slender athletic body that weighs 140lbs. If a guy prefers a thin, flat tummied body then he needs to search for "athletic". If you just like petite and low weight then you have so many options. 

I agree With Kitten.. Even tho I state in my bios that I am not a petite(5'5 and under) nor am I skinny spinner gal , a small waist line and high breasts for any body type can be fooling to some guys that are not aware of body size charts..

 

Example ME:

I am considered curvy fit (not athletic toned, but carry even muscle mass with less body fat mass) with matching perportions  and I do not have a muffin top or extra large breasts, again this combo can be fooling with woman of my build and stature...

 

At the end of the day if it is a visual attraction you want go for what you like, but please do your research. Even ask for a dated selfie if she allows..let her know your a potential reviewer, if she KNOWS she is misrepresenting herself, hopefully she will not take the booking and spoil your desire ??? 

BecAuse of reviews you can UN-intentionally hurt a ladies business for months when it only takes a couple weeks or a month of hard work to fix a weight problem when it is acknowledged...which most woman DO fix if its not the look they want or have slipped up a bit . 

Hell,  I have had times in my years of the hobby (Holiday season Oct-Dec) where I've eaten pork and all that unhealthy so yummy stuff, swell up with so much water weight , gain 5 lbs that I look 10lbs bigger. Im thankful the guys I've seen understand its the holidays , know its not my usual thing and its gone by January's end LOL and Im thankful its not every year  afterall Bikini season is my favorite! And coming up soon

 

 

 

 

[gr8owl]

3 hours ago, MrBigShot said:

Providers are going to advertise with pics that accentuate their positives. Those that use outdated or inaccurate pics risk having the question answered accordingly in the review. I'm not sure your assumption of losing out on repeat business is entirely accurate as many potential clients, like myself, place more emphasis on the service rather than whether pics are 100% accurate or the provider has gained a few pounds since pics were taken. At the end of the day, it should be about making a connection with someone to break up the extreme boredom and loneliness that consumes our day to day lives rather than nitpicking over a few photos.

 

I could not disagree more. If appearance and body type do not matter leave pics out of ads and leave question "are pictures accurate" out of reviews (thus eliminating a lot of lying in reviews). Why oh why would i ever pay to have sex with a lady i find physically unattractive? Conversation, date, dinner, friendship yes absolutely. But that is not what i am looking for when surfing escort ads lol.

[gr8owl]

3 hours ago, Bit Banger said:

^^ THIS! ^^

They say men are visual creatures. Looks are good for 3G physical release, and then on to the next pretty face. But for repeat business I need to be mentally stimulated. 

Yes, there are limits. But some of my favorite YL are well outside my preferred body type. They are just plain fun to be around, their company entertaining. 

As for 'lying advertisement': Does that steak in the restaurant commercial look like the one on your plate? Does that slice of watermelon in the Safeway ad look too appetizing? Do you tell all your foibles to your current ASP choice?  Didn't think so. 

For repeat business i need to actually find her to be honest (no blatantly deceptive advertising) and be someone i find attractive. And since you make the irrelevant comparison, if safeway blatantly misrepresents their product btw i will return it and not darken their door again.

[PieluvinTexan]

42 minutes ago, gr8owl said:

I could not disagree more. If appearance and body type do not matter leave pics out of ads and leave question "are pictures accurate" out of reviews (thus eliminating a lot of lying in reviews). Why oh why would i ever pay to have sex with a lady i find physically unattractive? Conversation, date, dinner, friendship yes absolutely. But that is not what i am looking for when surfing escort ads lol.

You hit the nail firmly on the head with this post

[Guest]

40 minutes ago, gr8owl said:

I could not disagree more. If appearance and body type do not matter leave pics out of ads and leave question "are pictures accurate" out of reviews (thus eliminating a lot of lying in reviews). Why oh why would i ever pay to have sex with a lady i find physically unattractive? Conversation, date, dinner, friendship yes absolutely. But that is not what i am looking for when surfing escort ads lol.

Did I say this in my post? I can't find where I said any of the stuff you're accusing me of saying. Please enlighten me as to why you decided to disagree with something that I didn't say.

 

4 hours ago, MrBigShot said:

Providers are going to advertise with pics that accentuate their positives. Those that use outdated or inaccurate pics risk having the question answered accordingly in the review. I'm not sure your assumption of losing out on repeat business is entirely accurate as many potential clients, like myself, place more emphasis on the service rather than whether pics are 100% accurate or the provider has gained a few pounds since pics were taken. At the end of the day, it should be about making a connection with someone to break up the extreme boredom and loneliness that consumes our day to day lives rather than nitpicking over a few photos.

 

 

[Admiral C]

I consider weight to be part of looks which I rate far below skills and brains. I mean, I can see an issue if you see a picture of Hillary Swank, and the girl actually looks like Jabba the Hutt...but most girls don't look drastically different from their photos....and as I say...Skills and brains first.

[gr8owl]

56 minutes ago, MrBigShot said:

Did I say this in my post? I can't find where I said any of the stuff you're accusing me of saying. Please enlighten me as to why you decided to disagree with something that I didn't say.

 

 

Yes. You did. Last sentence. Or perhaps you can explain what you meant when you said it should be based on making a connection and not nit picking photos. I applied standard english definitions. Are we speaking another language now?

[gr8owl]

47 minutes ago, Admiral C said:

I consider weight to be part of looks which I rate far below skills and brains. I mean, I can see an issue if you see a picture of Hillary Swank, and the girl actually looks like Jabba the Hutt...but most girls don't look drastically different from their photos....and as I say...Skills and brains first.

If she clains 120 pounds and is really 130 no one will quibble (or know the difference). The numerous examples of claims 130 and looks 180 plus are the real point. And no matter how you all try to spin it THAT is willful deception and basically a bait and switch rip off.

[Guest]

I see. By taking my comment about "nitpicking photos" out of context you put words in my mouth that appearance and body type do not matter. Did you even read my post? I didn't say that appearance and body type do not matter.

11 minutes ago, gr8owl said:

Yes. You did. Last sentence. Or perhaps you can explain what you meant when you said it should be based on making a connection and not nit picking photos. I applied standard english definitions. Are we speaking another language now?

 

[Admiral C]

2 minutes ago, gr8owl said:

If she clains 120 pounds and is really 130 no one will quibble (or know the difference). The numerous examples of claims 130 and looks 180 plus are the real point. And no matter how you all try to spin it THAT is willful deception and basically a bait and switch rip off.

Agreed. A drastic difference in appearance is unacceptable and dishonest. 50 lbs might be at that level, depending on her height, although it is subjective.  Same goes to greatly out dated photos. It's one thing to have photo's a couple years old...quite another to have them 10-15 years old

[Lucy Kitten]

4 minutes ago, gr8owl said:

If she clains 120 pounds and is really 130 no one will quibble (or know the difference). The numerous examples of claims 130 and looks 180 plus are the real point. And no matter how you all try to spin it THAT is willful deception and basically a bait and switch rip off.

This is why I say dudes are horrible judges of weight and bodies. No woman in her right mind would lie about 50lbs. Sure some have used totally fake pictures but if you get the girl in the picture and assume she's 30-40lbs heavier then I question your perception. I'm not saying all guys are blind or that no women lie about their weight but as a woman and knowing how women tend to obsess over weight I am just saying that a 30-50lb variance is huge. That's the before and after picture of Weight Watchers.

[JRWolfe]

11 minutes ago, Admiral C said:

 A drastic difference in appearance is unacceptable and dishonest. 50 lbs might be at that level, depending on her height, although it is subjective.  Same goes to greatly out dated photos. It's one thing to have photo's a couple years old...quite another to have them 10-15 years old

 Interesting. In the not so distant past,posts in this type of thread were filled with "run " when a lady did not resemble her ad photos. Accusations of "bait and switch" were the norm. That said,yes clients are attracted to certain body types and looks.  Some have a long range of tastes in what they like,some do not. Its the nature of the hobby. Best suggestion to the lady is to have new photos taken whenever they change a hair color or length, have a breast enlargement ( or reduction) add pound or lose weight. Get ink or have ink removed. Keep the photos current instead of ancient  and you will have more repeat clientele  Lets face it, you ladies are the fantasy . ( example ) To post skinny pictures when you are not,deprives the guys that like bigger women their fantasy. ( and vice versa obviously ) . Embrace who you are. I had a conversation with a lady that lamented not having big boobs when she actually has the best hiney in the business.Sadly,she hides her ass-sets in her pictures and the guys that are into that,don't call.

[tide32]

2 hours ago, gr8owl said:

I could not disagree more. If appearance and body type do not matter leave pics out of ads and leave question "are pictures accurate" out of reviews (thus eliminating a lot of lying in reviews). Why oh why would i ever pay to have sex with a lady i find physically unattractive? Conversation, date, dinner, friendship yes absolutely. But that is not what i am looking for when surfing escort ads lol.

You pay for sex. I'm only getting time and companionship. Where am i going wrong. Got to read the adds better.

[Toddzilla]

A while back I saw a provider that stated she was 25. But in reality was more close to 40. At first I was a bit disappointed but she made up for it with her service.  My oh my could she move her behind. So, in the end I was very happy with the service.

[PieluvinTexan]

53 minutes ago, Lucy Kitten said:

This is why I say dudes are horrible judges of weight and bodies. No woman in her right mind would lie about 50lbs. Sure some have used totally fake pictures but if you get the girl in the picture and assume she's 30-40lbs heavier then I question your perception. I'm not saying all guys are blind or that no women lie about their weight but as a woman and knowing how women tend to obsess over weight I am just saying that a 30-50lb variance is huge. That's the before and after picture of Weight Watchers.

Lucy, you would be surprised at what some providers try and claim on their stats. I have a couple of ladies in my life that are about 5'4 and 145 lbs. so I know what that is supposed to look like. If I schedule with someone who claims to be 5'4" and 145 lbs then they better be pretty darn closed to what I know to be that size or i consider it to be bait and switch. 

I do agree with one poster who said 10 lbs or so probably won't matter a whole lot to me. If it's much more than that then I'm not a happy camper!