Do your nerves get to you?

[Guest]

Do any other hobbyist let their nerves effect the way you perform in your sessions?  For me when meeting a new provider seems to spark it and I can't perform to the best of my ability.  Even if I am super attracted by the provider.  What do you guys do to try and get past that? Maybe my brain is just broken.  

[Kandi Apple]

9 minutes ago, ReyRocker88 said:

Do any other hobbyist let their nerves effect the way you perform in your sessions?  For me when meeting a new provider seems to spark it and I can't perform to the best of my ability.  Even if I am super attracted by the provider.  What do you guys do to try and get past that? Maybe my brain is just broken.  

You can start off by not wasting providers time and actually show up for your meetings! 

Unfortunately it's not just your little head that has a problem it your big one to.

 

[Guest]

5 minutes ago, Kandi Apple said:

You can start off by not wasting providers time and actually show up for your meetings! 

Unfortunately it's not just your little head that has a problem it your big one to.

 

I agree.  I apologize for missing our last appointment. I feel Pretty terrible about it! No excuses I just suck. I'm sorry love.  Hope it hasn't ruin my chances of seeing you in the future.

[MAG]

37 minutes ago, ReyRocker88 said:

I agree.  I apologize for missing our last appointment. I feel Pretty terrible about it! No excuses I just suck. I'm sorry love.  Hope it hasn't ruin my chances of seeing you in the future.

Busted.

Let me guess -- nerves kept you from showing up for the appointment?

Here's some advice:  if you want a chance to schedule again, pay Kandi the entire fee for your missed session.  That's the right thing to do anyway.  Next time, if nerves get the best of you, keep the appointment anyway -- if you can't "perform", ask her to dance for you, or rub your back, or something.  But no-showing is total bullshit, and I don't see you getting much sympathy from anyone here.

[Guest]

18 minutes ago, MAG said:

Busted.

Let me guess -- nerves kept you from showing up for the appointment?

Here's some advice:  if you want a chance to schedule again, pay Kandi the entire fee for your missed session.  That's the right thing to do anyway.  Next time, if nerves get the best of you, keep the appointment anyway -- if you can't "perform", ask her to dance for you, or rub your back, or something.  But no-showing is total bullshit, and I don't see you getting much sympathy from anyone here.

Thanks for the advice.  Sometimes things come up that are out of your control.  I'm human and new to the hobby. Should have communicated with Kandi. Take it as a learning experience. 

[CandiO]

You can start off by not wasting providers time and actually show up for your meetings! 

Unfortunately it's not just your little head that has a problem it your big one to.

^^ What KandiApple said^^

But no-showing is total bullshit, and I don't see you getting much sympathy from anyone here.

^^ Thanks MAG^^

I've seen an increase in NC/NS last couple months and makes CandiO not so sweet. I know everyone has more on their plate before the holidays, but PLEASE at least call and lie to me and tell me your car broke down or something. Just dont blow me off.

[amcbl1]

3 hours ago, ReyRocker88 said:

Do any other hobbyist let their nerves effect the way you perform in your sessions?  For me when meeting a new provider seems to spark it and I can't perform to the best of my ability.  Even if I am super attracted by the provider.  What do you guys do to try and get past that? Maybe my brain is just broken.  

I was going to give some tips that helped me as far as nerves were concerned but since you were apparently a NCNS for one of our established providers, no tips from me.

[richinco]

I'm a newbie and couldn't imagine being a NCNS, I think when you booked you should have been up front with your anxieties. and if they would have still booked you it shows they where understanding, and more than likely would have been gracious and understanding, and helped you through the session.

 

And I agree with MAG about the donation needing to be paid, or a least a call and a proper apology is warranted. I know I wouldn't want that rep hanging over my head

[gr8owl]

4 hours ago, MAG said:

Busted.

Let me guess -- nerves kept you from showing up for the appointment?

Here's some advice:  if you want a chance to schedule again, pay Kandi the entire fee for your missed session.  That's the right thing to do anyway.  Next time, if nerves get the best of you, keep the appointment anyway -- if you can't "perform", ask her to dance for you, or rub your back, or something.  But no-showing is total bullshit, and I don't see you getting much sympathy from anyone here.

Given the review last April I am guessing nerves had nothing to do with NCNS other than as you note trying to make excuse for said NCNS, but ......

I agree - pay the lady if it was literally no call.

Too bad since it is a very legitimate question on its own

[Happymon]

5 hours ago, Kandi Apple said:

You can start off by not wasting providers time and actually show up for your meetings! 

Unfortunately it's not just your little head that has a problem it your big one to.

 

This goes beyond "Dumb Hobby Moves" into the "Epic Fail" category. 

[Guest]

I get it, ncns=up against the wall with the firing squad all pointing at my head and everyone is pulling the trigger.  cool

[Guest]

I have to echo everything you heard so far. To answer your question......

I'd be lying if I said it doesn't happen. I can tell you what has worked with me. Spend time getting to know each other. None of the ladies bite, and Kandi Apple is one of the sweetest. Best make that right. Make sure to leave any expectations at home. You can hope, but I have found the second time seeing someone you're more relaxed, and things work out better. 

So work on communication, showing up and having a relaxing time.

[sparkey600]

3 hours ago, Melissa Sterling said:

I have to echo everything you heard so far. To answer your question......

I'd be lying if I said it doesn't happen. I can tell you what has worked with me. Spend time getting to know each other. None of the ladies bite, and Kandi Apple is one of the sweetest. Best make that right. Make sure to leave any expectations at home. You can hope, but I have found the second time seeing someone you're more relaxed, and things work out better. 

So work on communication, showing up and having a relaxing time.

Melissa is SPOT ON.

Take her advice. If you have reservations, take a little time to get to know the provider you're interested in before seeing her. Most, if not all would be happy to do this.

Just my two cents......

[rjb1354]

I can fully understand that things happen that you may not have control over but to NC/NS totally uncalled for. Even though I have not seen Kandi myself I do know she is one of the more respected providers here and goes all out to provide a professional and enjoyable session. You do owe the lady her fee for the time she set aside for you, that's where you start in order to repair your reputation with the members and providers here. If your nerves are getting the best of you perhaps a different type of hobby would be the way to go for you.

[Lucy Kitten]

20 hours ago, ReyRocker88 said:

Thanks for the advice.  Sometimes things come up that are out of your control.  I'm human and new to the hobby. Should have communicated with Kandi. Take it as a learning experience. 

The problem with these learning experiences is that nothing is ever really learned. And while you learned something (hopefully) the provider you booked with is out the cash. Think of it this way, would you like your employer to withhold and fuck with your money?

You would likely cancel an appointment with a doctor, dentist or a lawyer because it's the adult thing to do and you know that their time is money. So apply that lesson to providers. We are a business and our time is valuable.

[geecue2]

NCNS suck either way they go, providers getting NCNS, clients getting NCNS. Never could understand why someone could not pick the phone up and let the person know. If it is nerves that are the reason why, you would NCNS, next time make sure you are ready to keep an appt. before scheduling.

Edited December 5, 2016 by geecue2

[MAG]

16 hours ago, ReyRocker88 said:

I get it, ncns=up against the wall with the firing squad all pointing at my head and everyone is pulling the trigger.  cool

I'm beginning to understand.

1) You can't get it up

2) You stiffed Kandi for her fee and (I assume) have no intention of making good.

3) You're passive-aggressive.

You are not helping yourself here.  This is an adult hobby, it would behoove you to act like an actual adult.

[Guest]

Take your own advice MAG.  Your jumping to conclusions because you didn't even bother to ask what the situation is.  You just are quick to bash anyone.  Why are you being a dick to someone you don't know? Listen adults make mistakes, I've taken it on the chin, now it's time to move forward. That's the adult thing right? Not acting like a chode, belittling someone and making assumptions about them.  I'm sorry if I offended YOU by wasting someone else's time. I have contacted Kandi directly to resolve the situation.  So we can all go on with our regular scheduled programming.  

[Mustang87]

I've think this guy has been beaten up enough.  He is making no attempt to defend his actions, and he has apologized.  It's between him and Kandi Apple now.  Don't get me wrong, has actions were inexcusable, and I think making up for Kandi's lost time would be a great first step.  However, if the shoe were on the other foot and ladies who had NCNS a guy were expected to provide a free session each time they committed this offense, I'd never have to pay for a session again. .

Let the guy up off the mat, forgive but don't forget, and let he and Kandi handle it now. 

[MAG]

2 minutes ago, Mustang87 said:

I've think this guy has been beaten up enough.  He is making no attempt to defend his actions, and he has apologized.  It's between him and Kandi Apple now.  Don't get me wrong, has actions were inexcusable, and I think making up for Kandi's lost time would be a great first step.  However, if the shoe were on the other foot and ladies who had NCNS a guy were expected to provide a free session each time they committed this offense, I'd never have to pay for a session again. .

Let the guy up off the mat, forgive but don't forget, and let he and Kandi handle it now. 

You're probably right.  Wise words.  

I hope he follows through -- otherwise it'll be open season.

[BadBoy]

5 hours ago, ReyRocker88 said:

Take your own advice MAG.  Your jumping to conclusions because you didn't even bother to ask what the situation is.  You just are quick to bash anyone.  Why are you being a dick to someone you don't know? Listen adults make mistakes, I've taken it on the chin, now it's time to move forward. That's the adult thing right? Not acting like a chode, belittling someone and making assumptions about them.  I'm sorry if I offended YOU by wasting someone else's time. I have contacted Kandi directly to resolve the situation.  So we can all go on with our regular scheduled programming.  

I don't think you get it, chum.  We are not offended just because you wasted Kandi's time, we are angry because guys like you piss in the swimming pool and make it hard for everyone - this community survives largely on trust and guys like you erode the trust and ruin it for everyone.  And don't think that you are getting any points by claiming to have contacted Kandi to "resolve the situation," since you didn't do so like a man, you did so after coming to the public forum and whining about limp-dick syndrome and Kandi called you out.

You didn't make a mistake, you acted in a totally immature, offensive, inconsiderate manner.

You didn't "take it on the chin," in fact, you haven't suffered anything - while Kandi lost an hour of revenue waiting for you (have you ever sat there for over an hour waiting for someone) and the rest of us suffered because you peed in the pool.

We are not making assumptions about you, we are noting that you have been a total jerk.

You want your cred back?  1.  Quit whining, it is unbecoming in a child and offensive in an adult.   2.  Take care of Kandi so well that she goes public with the terms of your penance.  3.  Don't do it again.  4.  Stick around and listen.

As to your actual initial question - I would suggest that you go for a few FBSM sessions, the massage will relax you and help relieve the anxiety.  The happy ending will make you smile.  After you get a few laps under your feet, go for more advanced sessions.  If the problem persists, bring a nice bottle of Patron to the session and do a couple of shooters to start off.  If that doesn't  work, visit a 420 friendly escort. If all else fails, try Viagra.

[MAG]

22 minutes ago, Badboy said:

I don't think you get it, chum.  We are not offended just because you wasted Kandi's time, we are angry because guys like you piss in the swimming pool and make it hard for everyone - this community survives largely on trust and guys like you erode the trust and ruin it for everyone.  And don't think that you are getting any points by claiming to have contacted Kandi to "resolve the situation," since you didn't do so like a man, you did so after coming to the public forum and whining about limp-dick syndrome and Kandi called you out.

You didn't make a mistake, you acted in a totally immature, offensive, inconsiderate manner.

You didn't "take it on the chin," in fact, you haven't suffered anything - while Kandi lost an hour of revenue waiting for you (have you ever sat there for over an hour waiting for someone) and the rest of us suffered because you peed in the pool.

We are not making assumptions about you, we are noting that you have been a total jerk.

You want your cred back?  1.  Quit whining, it is unbecoming in a child and offensive in an adult.   2.  Take care of Kandi so well that she goes public with the terms of your penance.  3.  Don't do it again.  4.  Stick around and listen.

As to your actual initial question - I would suggest that you go for a few FBSM sessions, the massage will relax you and help relieve the anxiety.  The happy ending will make you smile.  After you get a few laps under your feet, go for more advanced sessions.  If the problem persists, bring a nice bottle of Patron to the session and do a couple of shooters to start off.  If that doesn't  work, visit a 420 friendly escort. If all else fails, try Viagra.

[stevie-2249]

Gosh I wonder how many well known providers don't show up and flake out? you don't bash them like you are this guy, give the man a break

[Kandi Apple]

Just to sum things up on a positive note ReyRocker88 has made good with me and is not a bad guy. I will be honest and say that I would see him again at this point.

[geecue2]

1 hour ago, Kandi Apple said:

Just to sum things up on a positive note ReyRocker88 has made good with me and is not a bad guy. I will be honest and say that I would see him again at this point.

Very nice Kandi, classy act.

[Mr.Pink]

give the guy a fucking break, it's not like he shit in your cereal. move on. 

[Mustang87]

11 hours ago, Kandi Apple said:

Just to sum things up on a positive note ReyRocker88 has made good with me and is not a bad guy. I will be honest and say that I would see him again at this point.

This shows the power for good that this board can be.  Well done Kandi & Rey.

[ilovewomen]

14 hours ago, Kandi Apple said:

Just to sum things up on a positive note ReyRocker88 has made good with me and is not a bad guy. I will be honest and say that I would see him again at this point.

Hopefully he has learned a very valuable lesson.  It sounds like he manned up and made things right with Kandi....good for him and good for Kandi be willing to overlook what appears to be a rookie mistake since he manned up.

[Guest]

Oh Kandi, that's fantastic news! I'm glad he handled things right and it worked out. 

[BadBoy]

18 hours ago, Kandi Apple said:

Just to sum things up on a positive note ReyRocker88 has made good with me and is not a bad guy. I will be honest and say that I would see him again at this point.

WOW, major cred rehab Mr. ReyRocker88.  This recommendation is golden.  Bitchin avatar too.