Posted November 15, 2016 Alrighty friends. I have a massive conundrum. I was engaging in my regular BP trolling when the unthinkable happened. A girl that I know in real life has an ad up. There is no question this is the girl I know. She's had my eye since the moment I met her and to call her a 10 would be an understatement. This is an opportunity I can't pass up but how do I even approach this? Like, seriously, where do I even begin? Help! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 Depends....what do you ultimately want to happen? If you just want to do the dirty with her, I'd get in contact with her and set up an appointment. However, I would tell her your real identity BEFORE you arrive, just in case she wants to call it off. You can't blindside her with that. If you want it to turn into a relationship, forget it, you're just going to end up miserable. There's no way that ends well. Good luck! 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 You have to ask yourself whether the girl in question is going to be cool with you knowing her new / side occupation. Some people would be totally cool with it, or would even find it hot to have their worlds collide. Others would freak the fuck right out. If you don't know, then you need to find out. Then, as Keyser said, if things would be cool with her, make an appointment and let her know you'd like to see her, same as every other girl. Then go see her. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 7 hours ago, LiveEver said: Alrighty friends. I have a massive conundrum. I was engaging in my regular BP trolling when the unthinkable happened. A girl that I know in real life has an ad up. There is no question this is the girl I know. She's had my eye since the moment I met her and to call her a 10 would be an understatement. This is an opportunity I can't pass up but how do I even approach this? Like, seriously, where do I even begin? Help! You have a link to her ad ? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 Anonymity is the key to this lifestyle. Not knowing how well you know each other makes it difficult to offer advice. Will she be OK with you knowing her new occupation? If she's cool, then by all means...GO FOR IT! However, if she's not, it could ruin any chances of a relationship. Too many unknowns here to offer solid advice IMHO. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 STAY AWAY! A couple of real life friends have recognized me and the best way to stay friends or acquaintances is to just leave it alone. It also makes me really crazy uncomfortable to be approached by people that know me both ways. They have a "comfort" with Lucy that doesn't really exist. Much like you guys like to keep you personal life personal so do we. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 Good responses by all. This is a tough one and it needs to be handled delicately. How well do you know her in real life? Do you run into her socially often? If so, I would leave it alone lest it become to awkward a scenario. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 2 hours ago, Lucy Kitten said: STAY AWAY! A couple of real life friends have recognized me and the best way to stay friends or acquaintances is to just leave it alone. It also makes me really crazy uncomfortable to be approached by people that know me both ways. They have a "comfort" with Lucy that doesn't really exist. Much like you guys like to keep you personal life personal so do we. If you were thinking of anything long term in the real life I would not put that in jeopardy. If You guys ever make a connection she my at some point feel comfortable enough to open up to you but I would not push it right now see how it goes. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 I'm not going to link the ad because I don't want anyone texting her about this thread. To clarify though, I have no desire to persue a relationship with this girl. She's just a hottie that I work with. I'm on friendly terms with her (typical goofy work banter) but we don't hang out outside of that. If I was close to her, I would never consider even bringing it up, but then I also don't know her well enough to gauge how she would handle me aproaching her about it. The other thing important to mention is that it looks like she works through an agency of sorts. That being the case, should I contact her directly via her cell phone? Approach her in person? I feel like if I were to schedule with her without her knowing it was me beforehand she'd freak out. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 I appreciate all the responses by the way, it's nice to be able to depend on this board for non-troll advice. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 13 minutes ago, LiveEver said: I'm not going to link the ad because I don't want anyone texting her about this thread. To clarify though, I have no desire to persue a relationship with this girl. She's just a hottie that I work with. I'm on friendly terms with her (typical goofy work banter) but we don't hang out outside of that. If I was close to her, I would never consider even bringing it up, but then I also don't know her well enough to gauge how she would handle me aproaching her about it. The other thing important to mention is that it looks like she works through an agency of sorts. That being the case, should I contact her directly via her cell phone? Approach her in person? I feel like if I were to schedule with her without her knowing it was me beforehand she'd freak out. There's an old saying about not shitting where you eat. If you work with her, it could create a lot of awkwardness (or worse) if you try to schedule with her. Whether you contact her directly, or go through an agency, she may end up feeling very embarrassed when she realizes you know her. That embarrassment may lead her to cause problems for you at work. If she isn't showing her face in her ad, that's another indication that she wants to remain discreet, and I would advise against saying or doing anything. It's a tough call -- it may work out fine, it may work out terribly. This could impact your job, so you gotta ask yourself: Do I feel lucky? Well, do ya punk? 6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 42 minutes ago, LiveEver said: I'm not going to link the ad because I don't want anyone texting her about this thread. To clarify though, I have no desire to persue a relationship with this girl. She's just a hottie that I work with. I'm on friendly terms with her (typical goofy work banter) but we don't hang out outside of that. If I was close to her, I would never consider even bringing it up, but then I also don't know her well enough to gauge how she would handle me aproaching her about it. The other thing important to mention is that it looks like she works through an agency of sorts. That being the case, should I contact her directly via her cell phone? Approach her in person? I feel like if I were to schedule with her without her knowing it was me beforehand she'd freak out. Work with and not interested in relationship? Sorry but i gotta say just DO NOT GO THERE. Too many other options to risk bringing major drama to work. 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 3 hours ago, gr8owl said: Work with and not interested in relationship? Sorry but i gotta say just DO NOT GO THERE. Too many other options to risk bringing major drama to work. ^^ THIS!! ^^ Do not engage in these activities with a workmates. The options for a bad outcome are vast. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 3 hours ago, LiveEver said: I'm not going to link the ad because I don't want anyone texting her about this thread. To clarify though, I have no desire to persue a relationship with this girl. She's just a hottie that I work with. I'm on friendly terms with her (typical goofy work banter) but we don't hang out outside of that. If I was close to her, I would never consider even bringing it up, but then I also don't know her well enough to gauge how she would handle me aproaching her about it. The other thing important to mention is that it looks like she works through an agency of sorts. That being the case, should I contact her directly via her cell phone? Approach her in person? I feel like if I were to schedule with her without her knowing it was me beforehand she'd freak out. If she works with an agency and you want to contact her for business why do you think you're exempt from protocol? This is that comfort thing I was talking about, because you know her personally doesn't mean that you know her professionally. And doesn't mean that you have the right or the privilege to contact her for business purposes via personal life means. Obviously since she seems to work with an agency she doesn't use real world info to book. Probably and like most providers she wants to keep her real life separate. Personally if I were you, I would stay away. It sounds like you're struggling to understand some boundaries. If you want to see her professionally then do so the proper way and give her the heads up so she can choose for herself. Do not approach her in person and do not use real life means of contact. But really I would just stay away. You just think she's hot and you want some but your actions could have bigger implications. I would never ever want my coworkers to know I was moonlighting as a working girl and not because of judgement but because no one deserves to have that kind of power over my real life job. Once someone on the outside knows what you do they have leverage. Not worth it to me. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 Does she have any reviews posted? Live your fantasy through the work of others and read the reviews. After typing that, it sounds kinda like I'm advising you to be a stalker. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 15, 2016 Maybe I am a bit behind the discussion, but if: 1) you work with her and engage in lighthearted banter, 2) you apparently are single, and 3) you think she is a total hottie, 10+, etc., why don't you just ask her out? Take her out for a nice dinner and a show, talk a bunch, you know what I mean - a date. Fuckin -A, what have you got to lose? How she reacts will give you lots of information on whether you want to proceed as a John or not. All of the above from other contributors is true, but it appears to me that there is more than one way to approach this situation. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 16, 2016 Yeah, guess I just let the little head get ahead of the big one. You guys are right, this one isn't worth all the possible repercussions. Thank you for saving my ass lol. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 16, 2016 37 minutes ago, LiveEver said: Yeah, guess I just let the little head get ahead of the big one. You guys are right, this one isn't worth all the possible repercussions. Thank you for saving my ass lol. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 16, 2016 (edited) 1 hour ago, LiveEver said: Yeah, guess I just let the little head get ahead of the big one. You guys are right, this one isn't worth all the possible repercussions. Thank you for saving my ass lol. Work and sex make for VERY bad ju ju. Edited November 16, 2016 by Happymon 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 16, 2016 (edited) Im the provider who loves it when worlds collide. Iv seen real world friends as an escort. Id rather see someone I know. We are still friends today. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. If you really like her and she's sexy as hell to you, GO SEE HER. Tell her upfront who you are why you wanna see her. Don't shock her. She will get it. If she say NO well you gave her the option of saying no. Now if you both work at the same job BIG MISTAKE don't call her. Call her up Edited November 16, 2016 by Nikki Holiday 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 16, 2016 On 11/15/2016 at 11:36 AM, MAG said: There's an old saying about not shitting where you eat. If you work with her, it could create a lot of awkwardness (or worse) if you try to schedule with her. Whether you contact her directly, or go through an agency, she may end up feeling very embarrassed when she realizes you know her. That embarrassment may lead her to cause problems for you at work. If she isn't showing her face in her ad, that's another indication that she wants to remain discreet, and I would advise against saying or doing anything. It's a tough call -- it may work out fine, it may work out terribly. This could impact your job, so you gotta ask yourself: Do I feel lucky? Well, do ya punk? I agree with MAG. Don't shit where you work!! There are enough providers available that you can see without affecting your job, both of her jobs, and crossing the "worlds". Some providers may be okay with the worlds colliding, but my guess is the majority appreciate discretion and their anonymity in the real world. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 16, 2016 I actually thought about this over night. My thought are very rare for an escort. Probably best you leave it alone. Myself personality this wouldn't be a problem. But other girls wouldn't like it. You should kiss the idea good by. Lol 😝 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 16, 2016 I can tell you that if any of the guys I sat at a conference room called me and recognized me...it would have been awkward, and I am the type that masturbates to the idea that I might get "found out". The reason? Fantasy is not reality. While it sounds good, you are opening up a whole can of worms there. My advice? Masturbate the crap out of the idea. It will save you money and heartache in the long run. xoxo, Samantha Sheppard 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 18, 2016 Wear a mask so she doesn't recognize you. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
