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I really just dont get it why it is some guys think that they should get a girls address without scheduling an appointment....They act like we operate a drive up message parole type of business and they can just stop by whenever they have the time....If thats what they want then why bother the ladies here as we have other things to do than sit there and wait for someone who may or may not show up at any time they happen to feel like it....That doesnt work out too well trying to do that with TOB and P411 ladies so why even bother???? 

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I used to HATE the two-call system until a few ladies expressed just what you are saying.  I guess some gents get their jollies by making these types of calls.

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7 hours ago, Barbi said:

I really just dont get it why it is some guys think that they should get a girls address without scheduling an appointment....They act like we operate a drive up message parole type of business and they can just stop by whenever they have the time....If thats what they want then why bother the ladies here as we have other things to do than sit there and wait for someone who may or may not show up at any time they happen to feel like it....That doesnt work out too well trying to do that with TOB and P411 ladies so why even bother???? 

Tell them "The massage parlors are often open early, and close late. Good luck!"

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I actually like the two-call system.  I understand the safety purpose behind it but I actually think it builds mystery and anticipation. :)  I'm weird that way.

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16 hours ago, Barbi said:

I really just dont get it why it is some guys think that they should get a girls address without scheduling an appointment....They act like we operate a drive up message parole type of business and they can just stop by whenever they have the time....If thats what they want then why bother the ladies here as we have other things to do than sit there and wait for someone who may or may not show up at any time they happen to feel like it....That doesnt work out too well trying to do that with TOB and P411 ladies so why even bother???? 

I thought it was part of the unwritten code of hobbling that you don't ask for the address until you are close. All I ask for initially is a general idea of which part of town so I can gauge how long it takes to drive there so I'm not late. Isn't that what everyone does? :) 

Since you ladies arent running a brothel with a yellow page address listing it makes perfect sense that you don't give that info out until the appointment is confirmed and the guy is near by. We ought to sic the escort police on guys who think otherwise. They're giving hobbiest a bad name! 

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I agree, the exact address is not needed until you get there.  A nearby address or location is good enough to navigate to.  

I really appreciate providers who mention the general location of their incall in their ads.  Sometimes time is short and a convenient location is needed.

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I have no idea. Even though it is transactional in nature, I still view it as a "relationship."  Making the initial contact and appointment is the beginning of our "session." Why make it difficult?  Beats me. Setting an edgy tone means I'm swimming upstream. Same for you.  I can recall only one time I've received an address and precise parking instructions prior to meeting a gal and that was because I was a very close "friend" of a friend. In fact, if a gal gave me her precise location prior to a meeting, it would be sufficiently unusual to cause me to wonder.  Generally, the two call system and it's various permutations,  works wonderfully.  I use it on outcalls as well for initial meetings. I frequently stay in places that require a card key to reach my floor.  The last thing I want is a gal stumbling around feeling any more uncomfortable than she might be. "So give me a shout when you're on your way so I can meet you in the lobby (along with some identifying information about me and the lobby scene)."  Additionally, all girls I've seen are very willing to work with special situations where a two call would definitely be inconvenient (a cab for example).  Turning this into an adversarial thing seems to defeat the entire purpose. 

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3 hours ago, Gentlejeff1 said:

I thought it was part of the unwritten code of hobbling that you don't ask for the address until you are close. All I ask for initially is a general idea of which part of town so I can gauge how long it takes to drive there so I'm not late. Isn't that what everyone does? :) 

Since you ladies arent running a brothel with a yellow page address listing it makes perfect sense that you don't give that info out until the appointment is confirmed and the guy is near by. We ought to sic the escort police on guys who think otherwise. They're giving hobbiest a bad name! 

It actually happens more times then you think. 

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I only ask for general area like cross-streets ahead of time.  Same reason as everyone else.  I need to have some idea of how long it'll take me to get there.  Still, I don't entirely understand the benefits of a two-call system en-route and I've come across a few times where the provider didn't bother with it when I was actually leaving for the visit.  As an example, if I'm going to see someone 4 hours from now, sure, I get the need to not give an exact address.  You wouldn't want me showing up 3 hours early.  But if we exchanges texts 30 min before the appointment about me being on my way, some just give an exact address but most want another call when the intersection is reached.  I don't see how the latter benefits anyone except I suppose those few frustrating times that the provider just never answers a call or text again after I've driven to the intersection (the joys of BP).  I mean that close to the appointment, both parties are committed to the event or should say otherwise by that point.  Is it just to provide a back-out option?  I mean if it's just to make sure I *really* am going to be there, a second call is no guarantee of that.

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If it's a hotel, I have no problem asking which one.  I don't care about room number, but asking which hotel, or at least a major intersection, seems like a reasonable question to me.

 

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I am with you on this. I never give out my location until the appointment is scheduled and they are near the area that I initially give them. When I first got into the hobby, there where many times when someone didn't show up after I gave them the address in advance. Giving them the address after the appointment is scheduled is safer for both parties involved. Great post!

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Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply to my ranting post but is just seems like more of the gentlemen in the hobby seem to have forgotten that the ladies here have a life too and are not just waiting around for him to show up whenever he chooses, if someone wants service like that I would recommend going to the fs message parole across town or if that doesnt work out so well then maybe try the historical infamous Colfax as you would stand a far better chance of making that happen there then anywhere else on the web....Just saying....

Have a great day and thank you all again for taking the time to respond to my post so I knew in fact that I wasnt crazy after all....LOL...

xoxoxo

Barbi

 

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There will never be a perfect system as long as our hobby is less than legal

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Well I have a strange feeling it probably wouldnt even be perfect then....But we could certainly hope.....

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Barbi, 

I so get you!!!  A few have told me that I am not a "Real Provider" if I am not willing to give out my address. I too have gotten a few arguments with some of the caller. Silly men thinking that they have a right to knowing everything up front! 

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3 hours ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said:

Barbi, 

I so get you!!!  A few have told me that I am not a "Real Provider" if I am not willing to give out my address. I too have gotten a few arguments with some of the caller. Silly men thinking that they have a right to knowing everything up front! 

Are they asking for a general location as in DTC, North Denver, Interlocken for example or do they want the exact street address?

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I like when an ad gives a general location, like Westminster or DTC. It gives me a general idea about what part of town she is in so I know if it's plausible for me to see her or not. If a provider doesn't state that in her ad, I'll usually ask. But I agree that an exact address shouldn't be given out. After I make an appointment though, I at least like to know where iam going. The name of the hotel or the cross streets is needed for navigation. Hotel room numbers and or exact private residence address doesn't need to be given until iam outside the hotel or at the designated cross streets. 

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There shouldn't be an exact address until it's almost time to be on their way. Sometimes I'll ask for a little more specific like "which part of the DTC" since there's a 20 min difference during rush hour! But I don't expect more than that before I'm on the way. Just stick to your guns and ignore the people that want more. Especially ignore them if they're rude. But do be understanding if they just mean area and phrase it wrong.

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10 hours ago, Kaduk said:

Are they asking for a general location as in DTC, North Denver, Interlocken for example or do they want the exact street address?

Kaduk, 

Often they will. I now have been giving out the location of the best cross roads and after I know for fact that they are coming. I give the address of the Tennis Club that is associated with my community. Because Google maps will get my address wrong every time and the guy will end up on oppitset side of the highway. Having an address of a know landmark close by of a well established business has always been great to use to help in directing them to me easier. With fewer problems. Then once they are at the landmark I will stay with him on the phone until we meet in person. ;)

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13 hours ago, Kali Sensual Reiki said:

Barbi, 

I so get you!!!  A few have told me that I am not a "Real Provider" if I am not willing to give out my address. I too have gotten a few arguments with some of the caller. Silly men thinking that they have a right to knowing everything up front! 

To all the wonderful ladies on here.

PLEASE never give out directions to your place other than major cross roads to anyone you have not met yet (and feel comfortable with) for your own safety. If anyone objects to that, then they are not worth it. Most of the men on here are trustworthy, but (like I've said many times there is always a but...) some are not. Please remember your safety above all else!

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Only the trustworthy you are correct Sparkey600. You are someone Mr Reuben and I trust. You are the 4 of Wands. When I did a Tarot reading on you. Which means you are loyal and supportive. (Mr Reuben is my Burmese cat).  

 

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