Flyfisher9999

Do a review and she gets too busy to see you

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So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

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You're right Flyfisher, that's a tough call. Not sure there's a good answer. Generally,  I've found that most of the girls make time for me but there have been a few that became too hard to book. :( 

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21 minutes ago, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me.

Is she booked all the time or just does not want to see you ?  If she is booked all the time, just bad timing between you two. Remember it is a business.  If she does not want to see you then just move on. If she deserved a good review, she deserves it, it is your review.

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1 hour ago, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

Reviews are for everyone, not just the provider. If you don't write it, someone else probably will, so you're not going to avoid the issue of busy. If you need one girl on call, you should be looking into a sugar daddy situation. Providers, in general, are wonderful people, but don't mistake GFE for GF. It's a sure fire way to get burned. 

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I am pretty much through with writing reviews....for reasons of my own.  But, I enjoy writing reviews very much. If I had a good time with a lady, a nice review is a way of saying thanks, and lets me re-live the session. I strive to be truthful about what went on, but complimentary as well where appropriate.

That said, the lady has already "paid her dues" by giving me a great session.  She does not "owe" me anything for a good review.  I'm the one who had fun writing it.

I think that a lot guys try to play games with the review process. They think they can make or break a new girl because they have all these reviews and everyone on the boards supposedly respects their "street creds."  So, they try to push the boundaries on the ladies.  These guys, IMHO, are scum.

Finally, unless you and she are formally committing to a long term regular business arrangement (i.e. Sugar Daddy), where in the fuck does anyone get off thinking they have a claim on another person's time or services?  If the lady's sudden spike in business really IS due to your one little piddly-ass review (highly unlikely), and not due to the fact she is a great provider (much more probable), then you should be happy with the fact you helped her get going, and makes enough money to stay in business.  That way, maybe you will get to see her again, and frequently....assuming you were not one of the douche-bag "you-owe-me" types I mentioned above.

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I never see a review as "you owe me", and if someone implied that to me that would be the LAST time somebody saw me. When clients ask me if I want a review, I tell them, "if they want to" because they are a double edged sword. They are great in letting others know that you are legit and that you do your job, but they also can convey you do certain things with everyone which isn't always the case.

I click with every client I meet differently, and what I do with one, I don't do with another. Example: I have one guy that makes me laugh and we joke around while we play whereas another guy is shy, wants it to be soft and slow until the end.

There are days where I wish I could separate into 3 people so I could see everyone at the same time, but we haven't discovered this magic trick yet so I am stuck seeing one at a time in set times of the day. All the ladies are the same way. I can say that my regulars are first come, first serve and so they are more likely to see me than a newbie, but I can only work so much-I am sure girls encounter this and do similar things. If you want to see a specific girl on a specific date, try to book in advance...your chances will be increased.

Xoxo,

Samantha Sheppard

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7 hours ago, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me.

What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

I would say having a review count that can verify your status would be motivating....

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Reviews are a fictitious account to perhaps the details of what you experienced. Sorry but I see no merit to this thread except...? She's not on your payroll.

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21 hours ago, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

Perhaps this is just an opportunity for you to find other providers. IMO, I think diversity can be quite enjoyable. Don't be bitter about this. Being jaded is never fun and this hobby should be enjoyable without stressful scenarios being created due to scheduling conflicts. 

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On 7/3/2016 at 1:09 PM, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

While I haven't had this experience, I have noticed that the price of entry for a few providers skyrocketed after they got several favorable reviews.

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1 hour ago, amcbl1 said:

While I haven't had this experience, I have noticed that the price of entry for a few providers skyrocketed after they got several favorable reviews.

Which is fine, in my opinion. Providers will find a balance between the rate they charge and the number of people they'll entertain. It's been my experience that price is no reflection of service. I've met wonderful women all up and down the price scale, as well as disappointment. I'm the first to say no provider is entitled to any client, but the reverse is also true. If one provider's rate is too high, they'll always be another like her closer to your range. 

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I'll agree that a lady doesn't owe you anything for writing a review no more than you owe her one. And writing a review does not entitle you to ownership or special treatment. I write reviews to both help a lady out and to help other hobbiests find a lady and don't necessarily expect better treatment but it is good business practice to show appreciation for those who helped you succeed along the way (and escorting is a business, is it not?). 

I have a successful business in large part because of good reviews and referrals from past clients. Technically I owe them nothing but I always try to show my appreciation with, at the very least, a simple thank you (I've had escorts not even do that) and, in some cases, where the client lead me to a big contract, I gave them a gift certificate or did something for free or reduced price for them. Now I'm not saying that a lady has to do anything but a little gratitude goes a long way when you're building a business. I once had a lady who extended our next session by 15 minutes no charge as a way of saying thanks. Another cut her donation by 20 and one gave me a whole hour for free. She said she got an overnighter because of my review and wanted to do that to thank me. Most have just said thanks. All of them did this voluntarily without any coercion from me. And in most cases I've seen these ladies again, not because of the quid pro quo, but because I enjoyed being with them and perhaps their thankful attitude is part of what attracts me to them. 

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Everybody has their own reasons for what they do but I don't think a review should be considered a favor or a means of earning special treatment.  That being said, if she is to busy to make time to schedule you then take Josie s advice and meet somebody new.  

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On 7/3/2016 at 1:09 PM, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

Interesting. I didn't realize reviews were quid pro quo exclusively. So you write a stellar review, hopefully it's accurate and not embellished, and now the YL won't see you for a follow up visit. I'm sure this YL has her reasons and I'm also sure that those reasons aren't worth fretting over in an open forum. You're now on record as having posted a review so that should make it easier to schedule with other providers going forward.

Welcome to the business!! Don't dwell on this provider any longer. Just move on to the next provider who is possibly looking for regulars or will see a Gent more than once...believe me, they're out there and waiting for your call.

This sh*t happens...shake it off and don't become jaded.

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Enjoy the time you get for what it is. Helps avoid disappointment.

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Yep like Big said many want to meet and want your $$$, remember this is a business transaction !!

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Sounds like you really clicked with her, but she didn't click so much with you.  Happens.  Just last week I went head over heels with a new gal, thought she was great, thought that I heard her say I was welcome back, but since then she hasn't answered my request for an "OK," didn't reply to my gushing "thank you" e-mail, didn't respond to my e-mail asking if she would like a review - just went completely dark.

Oh well, it was still a great time, I still think she was gorgeous and talented,  and I still have a great memory of our brief time together.  That is all that you really have a right to expect in this sport.

As I indicated in an earlier thread, I think the key to satisfaction and happiness in this sport is to go in with low expectations, so that everything is a pleasant surprise.

(This is another reason I refer to this as a "sport:" sometimes you kill the moguls, sometimes you splat in front of the gorgeous babe; sometimes you make the jump, sometimes you splat; sometimes you catch the fish, sometimes you fall in the water.  It is all part of the journey.

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28 minutes ago, Badboy said:

Sounds like you really clicked with her, but she didn't click so much with you.  Happens.  Just last week I went head over heels with a new gal, thought she was great, thought that I heard her say I was welcome back, but since then she hasn't answered my request for an "OK," didn't reply to my gushing "thank you" e-mail, didn't respond to my e-mail asking if she would like a review - just went completely dark.

Oh well, it was still a great time, I still think she was gorgeous and talented,  and I still have a great memory of our brief time together.  That is all that you really have a right to expect in this sport.

As I indicated in an earlier thread, I think the key to satisfaction and happiness in this sport is to go in with low expectations, so that everything is a pleasant surprise.

(This is another reason I refer to this as a "sport:" sometimes you kill the moguls, sometimes you splat in front of the gorgeous babe; sometimes you make the jump, sometimes you splat; sometimes you catch the fish, sometimes you fall in the water.  It is all part of the journey.

This has happened to me before also. The first time it happened I took it personally and thought maybe I'd done or said something to cause the YL to ignore my requests for a follow-up visit. As it happened a second and then a third and then more, I took it to be SOP for this "sport' and moved on to the next YL on the list.

Anytime spent trying to figure out "why won't she return my texts/calls" is just wasted. Sometimes you click with someone and other times...not so much. Either way, it's a fun journey!

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On ‎7‎/‎3‎/‎2016 at 1:09 PM, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

Hey, I just thought of something:  Maybe your giant manly dick, and your superman-like endurance was just too overpowering for her!  Yeah, that has to be it, just too much of a man for little, delicate, her.  She must be afraid that if she sees you again, she will fall hopelessly in love and end up with a broken heart.

Just keep telling yourself that, works for me.

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Do you blow off your favorite restaurant you put a wonderful review for on Yelp because they won't put you on a VIP list during their busy dining hours?...if you do, then ok...but if you don't...then you're probably in your feelings and must decide to try harder, or keep it pushin. So many beauties to choose from, don't be mad you have exquisite taste like all the other gentleman Hobbyists. #ItsAHardKnockLife 

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On 7/3/2016 at 1:09 PM, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

You 'did her a favor' by writing a review?  The mistake was expecting something in return for a good review.  

Also, regarding flattery in the reviews - I think some introspection on the purpose of reviews might be warranted. :)

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On 7/3/2016 at 1:09 PM, Flyfisher9999 said:

So I do a favor and write a very nice review and the provider gets too busy to see me. What is my motivation to help a new provider if I am only creating competition for my time with her. I have a big heart and I think I'm being the nice guy and she will treat me even better for the effort.  But in reality am I just making things harder for myself.  Maybe I shouldn't be so flattering in my reviews.  I wouldn't write the review if she wasn't cool enough to see again. 

That sucks.  Happened to me a number of years ago.  But keep reviewing, I think we owe it to the community.  

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Sometimes we just get pulled in many directions, and have to make priorities. If you felt like you had a good time, she probably did too. You may be in direct competition with her job or family, and not necessarily other hobbyists sweetpea. ;););) I can not tell you how many times a fave has called, and I had to decline. Often times we would much rather be fucking than what we HAVE to do in RL. I hope she can squeeze you in soon.

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