Review Ettiquette

[MamiMia]

Are there many TOB reviewers who see providers and do not review them? Is it rude to specifically request a review from a client?

[wglide2003]

I typically ask if they want to be reviewed. Most accept the review. Some have specific sites they perfer.

I do not think it is rude to ask for a review, but look at clients past reviews. You may not like his style or descriptions.

Edited March 31, 2016 by wglide2003
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[Hvnaball2]

Same as wglide2003, I'll usually ask if they would like to be reviewed, but only if I feel I can provide a positive review. I'll avoid the topic if I can't.

[Bit Banger]

5 minutes ago, Hvnaball2 said:

... but only if I feel I can provide a positive review. I'll avoid the topic if I can't.

Who are you writing the review for?

- Advertising for her? Then by all means limit yourself to positive reviews. 

- Your ego?  Of course, all of your experiences are positive. 

- Your fellow mongers? In that case negative reviews are far more valuable. They warn us away from bad experiences. They also provide feedback to providers when they need to up their game.  A positive review just gets lost in that sea of 10/10s.  That's not to say positive reviews aren't a great aid in selecting for our own positive experiences  

BTW, do you consider an AVERAGE experience (5-6 range) report a positive review?  I do, because: she's not LE, she's not a scam, and appropriate services were (probably?) rendered. 

[Hvnaball2]

3 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Who are you writing the review for?

- Advertising for her? Then by all means limit yourself to positive reviews. 

- Your ego?  Of course, all of your experiences are positive. 

- Your fellow mongers? In that case negative reviews are far more valuable. They warn us away from bad experiences. They also provide feedback to providers when they need to up their game.  A positive review just gets lost in that sea of 10/10s.  That's not to say positive reviews aren't a great aid in selecting for our own positive experiences  

BTW, do you consider an AVERAGE experience (5-6 range) report a positive review?  I do, because: she's not LE, she's not a scam, and appropriate services were (probably?) rendered. 

Your points are well-taken and very precise, Bit. In an attempt to address your questions, not necessarily in order, here goes -  I prefer to write positive reviews. If I've had an experience that I've truly enjoyed, I'd like the rest of my "fellow mongers" to know that. On the other extreme, I'd rather not write negative reviews, other than in the case of NSNC experiences. In all honesty, though, I've not have any other kind of negative experience since I've been reviewing. Since I primarily deal with P411 providers, LE hasn't been an issue. Ego? Who knows? Probably. 

[BigBaldBlk]

4 hours ago, MamiMia said:

(1) Are there many TOB reviewers who see providers and do not review them? (2) Is it rude to specifically request a review from a client?

(1) Short answer is probably yes.  There maybe many reasons they choose not to do it even if they had a pleasant experience.

(2) I usually ask if she'd like a review and which site she'd like for me to review on.  I personally don't think it's rude to ask for a review.  I know several providers who think it is, and wish/wished for a review from certain guys.  Gents aren't mind readers, so (to me) if you'd like a review, ask for a review!

[jj254-1]

1 hour ago, Bit Banger said:

Who are you writing the review for?

- Advertising for her? Then by all means limit yourself to positive reviews. 

- Your ego?  Of course, all of your experiences are positive. 

- Your fellow mongers? In that case negative reviews are far more valuable. They warn us away from bad experiences. They also provide feedback to providers when they need to up their game.  A positive review just gets lost in that sea of 10/10s.  That's not to say positive reviews aren't a great aid in selecting for our own positive experiences  

BTW, do you consider an AVERAGE experience (5-6 range) report a positive review?  I do, because: she's not LE, she's not a scam, and appropriate services were (probably?) rendered. 

The OK system is connected to your name. You name is connected to your reviews. Think women want to see men who post a dozen 5s?  Probably hard to get an OK after dropping a 3. The system is like a snake that eats itself. At least on the client side. 

[fishndude57]

2 hours ago, Hvnaball2 said:

Same as wglide2003, I'll usually ask if they would like to be reviewed, but only if I feel I can provide a positive review. I'll avoid the topic if I can't.

Ditto.

[Guest]

7 minutes ago, jj254 said:

The system is like a snake that eats itself. At least on the client side. 

Nice analogy. I'm liking the emoji system more and more. Why shouldn't  be all you need to know. Or for that matter  or .

And so this isn't a total hijack, I'll answer the OP. Yes. And no. 

[Guest]

 

I hate the stupid number scale garbage.  I won't see someone with multiple low number reviews.  I don't need to picked apart like I'm in a  beauty pagent!! It's hard enough with the standard social bullshit to feel sexy with the constant pressure to be skinnier, be toner, be tanner etc. 

I don't need a 6 because I'm not what men see in a porno!!

 

I know several men that don't like to review, they think of it as a paper trail.  A funny discussion came up about why several men didn't review, thiers reason  was hysterical. It gave them a reminder of how much money they spent. 

[Guest]

I ask if the lovely lady would like a review.  Most seem to be okay with me writing a review after meeting with me.  I don't have a problem with a lovely lady asking me to write one either.

I am not a fan of the number system, but an emoji review system may be a little too simple.  Has to be something behind the emoji describing why the shocked face was applied.  I prefer a yes/no I would see again system.  It doesn't have to be like the eccie system where graphic fantasy reviews are the norm.  I have multiple ladies tell me that the stuff in the review did not occur. 

Some ladies, including ones I have met with, do not like graphic details of the events that occurred.  I like to hint at what occurred without trying to sell myself as a porn star.  I hate the YMMV acronym just because it is so obvious that your mileage may very.  Of course it fucking varies!!!!  Every guy here is not going to have the same experience as the guy that wrote the review!!!!  Some personalities click and some don't!  People have bad days as well... A review is  a general guideline of what might occur.  Ads, as well, give an insight into what may occur, but people get real!  No two appointments are ever going to be the same!!!

[Bora Bora]

51 minutes ago, SpiceInCo said:

I hate the stupid number scale garbage. 

I don't like the scale either.

The first number (Looks) is absurd. A chubby lady could be a 10 for one client and the same lady could be a 2 for another customer. 

The second number (Service) is more interesting but it only measures one side of the story. If a lady gets a 5 maybe it's because she didn't provide the best service but it can also be because the guy was a stinking disgusting old fart and she did the best possible with such a client. If that's the case the lady won't send a rebuttal for a 5 but it damages her good reputation. This number is only useful if she has many 10s and 9s and only one or two 3s... those were the stinking guys

 

Edited April 1, 2016 by Bora Bora

[crazyb]

I have seen many women that i have not reviewed , some by my choice and some by their choice.

The number scale is a tough thing. I dont think I would ever see an ugly woman unless her pictures are not her. Plus everyvwoman is beautiful when my member is in her mouth

[nairobi09]

19 hours ago, SpiceInCo said:

 

I hate the stupid number scale garbage.  I won't see someone with multiple low number reviews.  I don't need to picked apart like I'm in a  beauty pagent!! It's hard enough with the standard social bullshit to feel sexy with the constant pressure to be skinnier, be toner, be tanner etc. 

I don't need a 6 because I'm not what men see in a porno!!

 

I know several men that don't like to review, they think of it as a paper trail.  A funny discussion came up about why several men didn't review, thiers reason  was hysterical. It gave them a reminder of how much money they spent. 

I don't like the number scale either. A review that I wrote several years ago was given numbers that I never would have assigned.  There are many reasons not to review but I will do so if requested. 

 

[Bit Banger]

52 minutes ago, TheWhisperer said:

If you or anyone feels that the numbers/ratings, which were generated during the merge, are not an accurate depiction of that event, please contact us. We'd  be happy to set the record straight for you and correct the ratings   

While I can't tell you exactly what numeric ratings I would have assigned 7-9 years ago, I would not have been handing out 10's like candy.  So rather than spend hours doing the research, I'll just write the review system off as flawed.  This is one area you should have spent more effort in preparing for the conversion.

For my part I would have used: AVERAGE=5, VERY GOOD=7, FANTASTIC=9.  Leave 10 for new reviews. 

EDIT: Of the 3 FANTASTICs I recall writing, one would have been a 10 and the other two 9's. 

Edited April 2, 2016 by Bit Banger

[Guest]

18 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

While I can't tell you exactly what numeric ratings I would have assigned 7-9 years ago, I would not have been handing out 10's like candy.  So rather than spend hours doing the research, I'll just write the review system off as flawed.  This is one area you should have spent more effort in preparing for the conversion.

For my part I would have used: AVERAGE=5, VERY GOOD=7, FANTASTIC=9.  Leave 10 for new reviews. 

EDIT: Of the 3 FANTASTICs I recall writing, one would have been a 10 and the other two 9's. 

There doesn't have to be a number assigned at all!  Beauty and service are always going to be subjective!  A go/no go system is always better with a description of services in the rest of the story.  The YMMV very part should always be understood as connection does not always happen!  Why do more people not understand this?  There are guys that are going to write reviews as if they spent their time with a porn star and there are those of us that may give a truthful depiction of our time with the lovely lady.  Reviews will always be flawed.  There is absolutely nothing that can be done to correct that... Simple really... Unless a video of the session is posted, it will always come down to YMMV and fantasy/shill reviews.

[Womanlover-3464]

On March 31, 2016 at 0:18 PM, MamiMia said:

Are there many TOB reviewers who see providers and do not review them? Is it rude to specifically request a review from a client?

Honey, if you want a review just ask. A lot of gals don't like them so I won't invade their desire for privacy unless they ask me. Of course most that do already know the type of review I'll give them based on the smile on my face!

 

[Jez UaBriain]

If you see a lady who has reviews, then its obvious that she accepts them. So by all means you should definitely post them.

 I don't like to ask for them. Why? Because in orderr to maintain consistency in my level of service, etc. I prefer    to not know that I am being reviewed . This is what I believe gives a more accurate review.  I have always thought that if we ladies know we are in fact being reviewed in a session then of course we will be on our best behavior.  

However, when I see a guy who is a reviewer and he does not review the session with me then I admit it leaves me wondering what it was that kept him from posting a review.  I think that is a natural ttendency from a human to think this.

Edited April 2, 2016 by Jez UaBriain

[Bit Banger]

5 minutes ago, Jez UaBriain said:

1) If you see a lady who has reviews, then its obvious that she accepts them. So by all means you should definitely post them.

2) I have always thought that if we ladies know we are in fact being reviewed in a session then of course we will be on our best behavior.  

...

1) Sounds about right. 

2) IMHO, we should always behave as if the world is watching. In this case, I'd modify 'the world' to 'our peers' because of the clandestine nature of our connections. We (both provider & client) should behave as if there will be a pop quiz (review) afterwards. 

[Johnboy#1]

On 3/31/2016 at 11:18 AM, MamiMia said:

Are there many TOB reviewers who see providers and do not review them? Is it rude to specifically request a review from a client?

If the question can be tactfully worked into the conversation, go for it.

Don't make it seem like you're begging.

On 3/31/2016 at 2:49 PM, Hvnaball2 said:

Same as wglide2003, I'll usually ask if they would like to be reviewed, but only if I feel I can provide a positive review. I'll avoid the topic if I can't.

+10

[Studman]

When I read a review I ignore the numbers I only want to know if her pictures are accurate and see what adult consenting activities she does. Then I know what to expect and her boundaries. 

[Guest]

On April 1, 2016 at 7:41 PM, Bora Bora said:

The first number (Looks) is absurd. A chubby lady could be a 10 for one client and the same lady could be a 2 for another customer. 

Recently a P411 Newbie contacted his first choice, she was a provider that was in her mid 20's skinny athletic and very beautiful. According to him, she politely declined him until he had two oks. She referred him to me, so he could get a head start on P411. While his choice of activities are the same as mine, I am not his type physically and I am twice her age.  He still gave me a 10 for my services, and 7 for my looks. Plus he did mention I still look just like pictures. I felt he was honest. To be honest, I like the scale for my own reasons. Even guys who would normally not pick me for whatever reason still gave me L7/S10 and I m not even his type of girl physically  Its really not that big of deal. I know some girls say well unless they get 10/10 they won't get any business. The rating scale doesn't affect my business. Because I saw him, now he can go and enjoy his time with the provider who was his first choice. and I think that is awesome. To each there own. 

he second number (Service) is more interesting but it only measures one side of the story. If a lady gets a 5 maybe it's because she didn't provide the best service but it can also be because the guy was a stinking disgusting old fart and she did the best possible with such a client. If that's the case the lady won't send a rebuttal for a 5 but it damages her good reputation. This number is only useful if she has many 10s and 9s and only one or two 3s... those were the stinking guys

 

 

[Guest]

On 3/31/2016 at 0:18 PM, MamiMia said:

Are there many TOB reviewers who see providers and do not review them? Is it rude to specifically request a review from a client?

 

"Are there many TOB reviewers who see providers and do not review them? "Yes! At least for me. Sometimes I see a lady and it isn't great, but don't want to give her a low review. Some times I see a lady and wish I hadn't, and don't want to admit in a review I did see her! Sometimes a lady doesn't want a review, so I don't.

" Is it rude to specifically request a review from a client? " I do not think it is, especially if she is just starting out or offers a special rate for reviewers.

 

[RoxyLove303]

On March 31, 2016 at 5:51 PM, jj254 said:

The OK system is connected to your name. You name is connected to your reviews. Think women want to see men who post a dozen 5s?  Probably hard to get an OK after dropping a 3. The system is like a snake that eats itself. At least on the client side. 

That is a awesome point! When I get a request from a member I always read the  reviews that they have written on other providers so that I can know what they like so I can make sure that I accommodate them. If I see someone who has written a lot of bad reviews then I think that they're extremely picky and there's no satisfying them and I won't book an appointment with them. Some people just can't be pleased, no matter how hard you try...

[inkspot]

Getting back to the OP question.  Yes, it is rude to ask for a review.

If you ask for one but the client had a so-so experience, what is he supposed to say?  That puts the client in an awkward position.  Reviews should be purely voluntary and reflect how the client felt about the appointment.

 

[Guest]

16 minutes ago, inkspot said:

Getting back to the OP question.  Yes, it is rude to ask for a review.

If you ask for one but the client had a so-so experience, what is he supposed to say?  That puts the client in an awkward position.  Reviews should be purely voluntary and reflect how the client felt about the appointment.

 

Agreed +1. Thats why a provider can post on her ad she's looking reviews. Then you don't have to ask the ask guy. Its purely up to him. No one needs to feel awkward.