AnaBeau

Responsibility and all that comes along with it

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 So this is just food for thought.  You are an ASP, you are seeing a gentleman at his home.  You know he is married.  You leave the condom wrapper in the bed.   Where you guessed it, the wife finds it!  Who is responsible?  Do you think the provider or the hobbyist? In my eyes, it is every providers responsibility to  CYOA (Cover your own ass).  I guess being old-fashioned, or maybe that I am a little more experience than those that of been doing this longer than me... You just don't do that shit!!!!    Maybe you got what you wanted in your hand.  You're done.  You're leaving. Whatever!  Or maybe because you're running a special if you don't pay such close attention.  Well then DON'T ADVERTISE SPECIALS.  I've heard of two situations where this is happened.  One was explainable .  The other just ruin a marriage.   Anytime I know I am invited to anybody's house I guess maybe it's just my ability to not control my OCD... I always make sure that anything that I bring with me leaves with me!!!!!   Or is disposed of properly!  Not left under a fucking bed sheet. Now don't get me wrong, I understand that this is every man's choice if you invite a provider into your home into the bed you share with your wife.  You best be better sure that the goddamn shit is clean!!!! However, most men think with one head and we all know what 1 it is.   After seeing a provider, that's probably not the first thing on your mind.  Though it should be.  I have suffered a broken heart just like anyone else. A broken heart is something I would NOT ever wish on anyone not even my worst enemy!!!!  Somebody's heart got broken over this. Severed right down the middle.  I am disgusted that people are so selfish in this business, they care about walking out the door. I am personally disgusted with this provider. Thoughts and input???  Or am I just a total bitch???

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I think that the first and only responsible for a situation like that is the guy. He is the one cheating, taking the risk and bringing another woman (provider or not) to his wife's bed. He is old enough to perfectly know what he is doing. Now, being said that, we are all human beings, we have a heart and don't want to harm anybody without a reason. So a good provider, like any normal woman that don't want to destroy a marriage without a reason, should take all the reasonable precautions to avoid troubles, like for example checking that she is not leaving something behind.

Women are better than men in being aware of the small details, so the provider's help to prevent troubles with the wife is always very very welcome, but it is not her responsibility or fault if something wrong happens with the wife (I mean, unless she does it on purpose, which is not what we are talking about).
 

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I'm gonna go hobbyist fault. Like you point out CYA. His bad. IMO. 

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My house, my responsibility. You wanna help? Cool. Appreciate it. Can run the vacuum while you're at it. That'd be some VIP service right there.

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@AnaBeau: Are you completely absolving the guy in this situation and placing the blame squarely on the provider? 

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It's the guy's responsibility, and fault. I don't clean up the providers incall. I don't expect her to clean up my outcall. Secondly, who initiated the appointment, and is risking his marraige?

I'm sorry Anna, but, in my opinion, you're blaming the wrong person.

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I know I'm a female, but I couldn't agree more pfunk.  I don't understand the logic. I mean both parties should be aware of the situation and keep an eye out, but like you said you don't clean our home, we don't clean yours.  My wife isn't walking into my incall, but knowing your wife will be in that  bed later than night the sheets should be cleaned and all trash removed. 

 

I don't have a wife, just couldn't think of how else to say it lol

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9 hours ago, jj254 said:

My house, my responsibility. You wanna help? Cool. Appreciate it. Can run the vacuum while you're at it. That'd be some VIP service right there.

You think fetish costs extra? Vacuuming will break the bank. Seriously though I agree, your house your mess your responsibility. It doesn't mean I'm gonna be a slob it just means I am not going to take the heat for a problem that's not mine.

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I find it crazy, when men ask me to take used condoms with me. Did we learn nothing from Bill Clinton?

Not all women are nice, and not all escorts are nice. You are handing off your DNA in a leak proof container, if you tie a knot in the condom.

I might add, you are also sending off your potential offspring. Sperm can live quite a while inside a condom.

It really boggles my mind, when a wealthy or famous man asks me to do this. Heck, any man really.

If I were a man, I would want to witness those condoms going down the toilet. (Sorry, if I just offended any eco friendly people. Yes, I am the reason there are condoms in out water system.)

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11 hours ago, Bora Bora said:

I think that the first and only responsible for a situation like that is the guy. He is the one cheating, taking the risk and bringing another woman (provider or not) to his wife's bed. He is old enough to perfectly know what he is doing. Now, being said that, we are all human beings, we have a heart and don't want to harm anybody without a reason. So a good provider, like any normal woman that don't want to destroy a marriage without a reason, should take all the reasonable precautions to avoid troubles, like for example checking that she is not leaving something behind.

Women are better than men in being aware of the small details, so the provider's help to prevent troubles with the wife is always very very welcome, but it is not her responsibility or fault if something wrong happens with the wife (I mean, unless she does it on purpose, which is not what we are talking about).
 

I like ^^ this ^^ answer. 

HE is responsible, especially since he elected to invite someone else into the marriage bed.  Besides, he's the one who has the 'splainin' to do. 

She should take reasonable precautions, just to be neat as a good business practice.

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As a provider, I do my best to be sensitive to these things and often take the wrapper with me to dispose of elsewhere,  however, I'm not the one in the marriage.  Your marriage isn't my responsibility.  YOU choose the risk, YOU know the possible out comes. The responsibility for your marriage...regardless of what you're doing in it or outside of it...is 100 % on you.  If you know there was a condom used and you want to be sure your wife doesn't find it, you need to do you due diligence and look for it. 

 

When I leave your house, my responsibility is up.  I'm responsible for giving you an awesome experience during the agreed upon time.  When I leave, it's up to you to do whatever you have to do to cover your own ass...make the bed, wash the sheets, find condom wrappers, wash dishes we may have used, cover tire tracks in the snow, whatever it is you do.  If you miss something, the responsibility and consequence is on you.  You made the choice to have me in your home knowing what you could lose if your caught.  I'm not responsible for your decisions.

 

If this is a concern of yours, I suggest an in call or getting your own hotel room and having the provider come to you.  

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21 minutes ago, Kashmir said:

 

If I were a man, I would want to witness those condoms going down the toilet. (Sorry, if I just offended any eco friendly people. Yes, I am the reason there are condoms in out water system.)

Yuck!  This put a very bad visual into my twisted little mind... Made me picture some other dudes swimmers committing suicide by raining down on me from the shower head!!  :eek:

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I just have got to ask......Why didn't the married guy Not Wash/Change the sheets?  

Just the fact alone of not changing/washing those sheets with another woman's scent, hair, etc is reckless. I could say disrespectful as well yet I'm not going to judge, I'm more grossed out by the lack of cleaning. 

BoraBora has a great response above, it pretty much describes the majority of Providers out there. Generally, I put Everything together, wrapped nicely, set upon the vanity counter then inform as such. Generally by this moment I'm informed disposal will be dealt with properly. 

 

 

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As for flushing condoms down toilet, ummm how many here are in the Plumbing or Pipefitting teade? Don't do it!!!

Every time,  or the majority of times,  a Plummer plumms your lines, generally blockage is from tampons, roots, condoms, cigarette butts. Just sayin

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3 minutes ago, Heidi the Housewife aka The Maui Muse said:

As for flushing condoms down toilet, ummm how many here are in the Plumbing or Pipefitting teade? Don't do it!!!

Every time,  or the majority of times,  a Plummer plumms your lines, generally blockage is from tampons, roots, condoms, cigarette butts. Just sayin

Meant trade. 

Tried to edit post, won't let me..hmmmmmmm

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24 minutes ago, Heidi the Housewife aka The Maui Muse said:

As for flushing condoms down toilet, ummm how many here are in the Plumbing or Pipefitting teade? Don't do it!!!

Every time,  or the majority of times,  a Plummer plumms your lines, generally blockage is from tampons, roots, condoms, cigarette butts. Just sayin

Not to mention if you happen to be on a septic system.  Every time we pump sewage vaults, the lines on our truck clog with things like condoms.  Also remember that they are NOT biodegradable, which means that they also clog the city sewer systems and treatment plants.  I remember a recent news story about the problems many water treatment plants are having with "disposable" wipes.  They do not break down.  They clog the rakes & other equipment used to break up feces & other bio-material prior to bacterial digestion.  They have to be removed manually from the system :mad:

DO NOT FLUSH CONDOMS OR WIPES!

Interestingly here in SoTX, they often don't flush toilet paper.  There's frequently a small waste basket in the toilet stall for paper disposal.

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20 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Not to mention if you happen to be on a septic system.  Every time we pump sewage vaults, the lines on our truck clog with things like condoms.  Also remember that they are NOT biodegradable, which means that they also clog the city sewer systems and treatment plants.  I remember a recent news story about the problems many water treatment plants are having with "disposable" wipes.  They do not break down.  They clog the rakes & other equipment used to break up feces & other bio-material prior to bacterial digestion.  They have to be removed manually from the system :mad:

 

Hmmm... I never pictured you as a honey wagon pilot bit!

Back to condoms... Where can you get rid of them?  Since they are not biodegradable a landfill would seem to be a poor choice as well, as the scavengers in nature will end up consuming them which would threaten birds of prey at the top of the food chain.  

Maybe someone should invent an edible condom!  Chocolate or strawberry would seem to be good flavors.  :D

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22 minutes ago, Riggo said:

Hmmm... I never pictured you as a honey wagon pilot bit!

Back to condoms... Where can you get rid of them?  Since they are not biodegradable a landfill would seem to be a poor choice as well, as the scavengers in nature will end up consuming them which would threaten birds of prey at the top of the food chain.  

Maybe someone should invent an edible condom!  Chocolate or strawberry would seem to be good flavors.  :D

Perhaps the answer is to use natural membrane (lamb skin)  condoms. The drawback is that while proven effective at preventing pregnancy & the transmission of common bacterial STDs (chlamydia, syphillis, etc.) they may not provide adequate protection against viral transmission (HIV, Hep-C, etc.).  At least they would be biodegradable. 

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22 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Perhaps the answer is to use natural membrane (lamb skin)  condoms. The drawback is that while proven effective at preventing pregnancy & the transmission of common bacterial STDs (chlamydia, syphillis, etc.) they may not provide adequate protection against viral transmission (HIV, Hep-C, etc.).  At least they would be biodegradable. 

So killing lambs and wrapping their intestine around your cock is the solution :(

At least if you flush condoms, you are giving some person a job to do IE: cleaning those water screens.

I don't think flushing condoms will not spare the world from eco destruction, the medical industry will do that! There are too many hospitals and clinics that will not pay the extra disposal fees and do it illegally, world wide!

Back to the OP. The point of my post was.....don't send some stranger off with your sperm!

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1 hour ago, Heidi the Housewife aka The Maui Muse said:

Just the fact alone of not changing/washing those sheets with another woman's scent, hair, etc is reckless.

 

 

Just what I mentioned above. Most men would never even think about a different scent or a hair left on the sheets. Women are awesome on the details! Now... the hygienic part of it is a different thing. But again, women are usually more aware of cleanness and hygiene than men. We men should learn more from you! :)

Not my case, though, I'm a fanatic of cleanness and hygiene :P maybe a clean-o-phobic? :D

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If it were The Regiment, they would have reused that sucker, thereby keeping better track of it. Imagine the shame of the lowly private who lost it. 😄

 

 

See this for an explanation. 

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2 hours ago, Heidi the Housewife aka The Maui Muse said:

I just have got to ask......Why didn't the married guy Not Wash/Change the sheets?  

When there was a wife, if she had come home to changed sheets, she would have known something was up. Either somebody had something to hide or we had been broken into by the housework bandits. My story would have been bandits. :cool:

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Who said anything about changing the sheets. Run them through the wash & put them back on the bed. 

I had a smart remark about Raoul & housework, but ...

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8 minutes ago, Raoul said:

When there was a wife, if she had come home to changed sheets, she would have known something was up. Either somebody had something to hide or we had been broken into by the housework bandits. My story would have been bandits. :cool:

Or......we women really are easy.

He could of done house chores, made dinner, clean sheets and gotten laid by the wife too. His explanation could of been I just wanted to show you how much I appreciate you.

 Like I said, we women really aren't hard to please. I don't have enough fingers and toes to count how many times I would do anal with my X when he helped with chores, housework, etc. Well, maybe that's just me.

 

Sorry to go off topic

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Does anyone feel a little off-put by the 36 point font the OP used, like she was yelling at us?  Or is just the tiny OCD portion of my brain firing off of at random again?

Bit, I am sure Raoul would love to hear your story!  In fact in another thread I believe he said he was gay... Or something to that affect...

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6 minutes ago, Bit Banger said:

Who said anything about changing the sheets. Run them through the wash & put them back on the bed. 

And make them look like they had been slept in? If the sheets weren't clean when she left and were when she got back, either she better have been out of town for like a week, or there would have to be a story and it better be good.

Anybody who brings a hooker to his wife's bed is too stupid to be helped. Time for natural selection to do its thin the herd thing. :cool:

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10 minutes ago, Heidi the Housewife aka The Maui Muse said:

He could of done house chores, made dinner, clean sheets and gotten laid by the wife too. His explanation could of been I just wanted to show you how much I appreciate you.

No mystery why I'm not married anymore. I'd have had a better chance with the bandits story. :cool:

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11 minutes ago, Riggo said:

 In fact in another thread I believe he said he was gay... Or something to that affect...

not that there's anything wrong with that.

You mean the thread where you wrote that you liked it up the ass?

not that there's anything wrong with that either :cool:

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15 minutes ago, Riggo said:

Or is just the tiny OCD portion of my brain firing off of at random again?

It's your OCD...:lol:

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1 minute ago, Raoul said:

You mean the thread where you wrote that you liked it up the ass?

not that there's anything wrong with that either :cool:

Nothing finer than a ladies finger up the chute...

But, on topic... I did laundry once and was fired.  Apparently, one should pay attention to a label that says dry clean only.  Also, I found out that putting red clothes and white clothes together is a no-no as well.  Who'da thunk it...

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