Posted October 16, 2015 I think the stigmata of seeing escorts has greatly decreased over the last 5 years.Some people are still obviously going to be against it. However I know a TON of people who are totally cool with the escort/hobbyist world. A lot don't care what others choose to do, and a lot enjoy actually taking part in seeing an escort. I wouldn't go around with a t-shirt saying you are an avid hobbyist lol, but I sure wouldn't feel ashamed or embarrassed by it either.Sometimes having a dirty little secret gives you that edge that makes you even more sexually desirable.Everyone has skeletons in their closet... Everyone lol ;-) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 18, 2015 Most everybody knows in my close personal life - except for my Dad. And he would shit...especially knowing my alias is his name Daniel Ray (Oops! I had like 5 seconds to pick a different name when changing from 'Jamie' ....I realized of course about 30 seconds later...I just chose my Dad's name!) EEEEK! Sorry Daddy! LOL 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 18, 2015 Most everybody knows in my close personal life - except for my Dad. And he would shit...especially knowing my alias is his name Daniel Ray (Oops! I had like 5 seconds to pick a different name when changing from 'Jamie' ....I realized of course about 30 seconds later...I just chose my Dad's name!) EEEEK! Sorry Daddy! LOL Love that, lol. Some people know, noticed the ones that do know, are really interested about it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2015 I think the stigmata of seeing escorts has greatly decreased over the last 5 years.Some people are still obviously going to be against it. However I know a TON of people who are totally cool with the escort/hobbyist world. A lot don't care what others choose to do, and a lot enjoy actually taking part in seeing an escort. I wouldn't go around with a t-shirt saying you are an avid hobbyist lol, but I sure wouldn't feel ashamed or embarrassed by it either.Sometimes having a dirty little secret gives you that edge that makes you even more sexually desirable.Everyone has skeletons in their closet... Everyone lol ;-)I'll assume you meant stigma, since bloody imprints on the palms that mimmic the nail wounds of Jesus Christ are not likely relevant here. Anyway, I think you may not be able to see the forest for the trees. I don't think the stigma of seeing escorts has gone down in this world. Nope. I could be wrong, but it is flat-out disgusting to a whole lot of people.My wife was talking about a guy who was "discovered" by his wife, and my wife immediately said, "The wife probably has every STD under the sun by now." I did not blithely tell her that while that may be true, it's also true that a whole lot of escorts are incredibly safe with their practices. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2015 I'll assume you meant stigma, since bloody imprints on the palms that mimmic the nail wounds of Jesus Christ are not likely relevant here. Anyway, I think you may not be able to see the forest for the trees. I don't think the stigma of seeing escorts has gone down in this world. Nope. I could be wrong, but it is flat-out disgusting to a whole lot of people.My wife was talking about a guy who was "discovered" by his wife, and my wife immediately said, "The wife probably has every STD under the sun by now." I did not blithely tell her that while that may be true, it's also true that a whole lot of escorts are incredibly safe with their practices. I think she's right. The tides have turned and feelings towards the biz are definitely getting warmer. People may still think it's disgusting but more and more are at least reserving judgement and keeping crappy comments to themselves. Only a few people from my personal life know. My mom is way too naive and would never understand. She thinks I am a Sugar Baby, which she is totally cool with after watching some Dateline or similar news show. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2015 (edited) I'll assume you meant stigma, since bloody imprints on the palms that mimmic the nail wounds of Jesus Christ are not likely relevant here. Anyway, I think you may not be able to see the forest for the trees. I don't think the stigma of seeing escorts has gone down in this world. Nope. I could be wrong, but it is flat-out disgusting to a whole lot of people.My wife was talking about a guy who was "discovered" by his wife, and my wife immediately said, "The wife probably has every STD under the sun by now." I did not blithely tell her that while that may be true, it's also true that a whole lot of escorts are incredibly safe with their practices. stig·maˈstiɡmə/nounplural noun: stigmata1.a mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person."the stigma of mental disorder"synonyms:shame, disgrace, dishonor, ignominy, opprobrium, humiliation, (bad) reputation"the stigma of bankruptcy" 2.(in Christian tradition) marks corresponding to those left on Jesus’ body by the Crucifixion, said to have been impressed by divine favor on the bodies of St. Francis of Assisi and others. Edited October 19, 2015 by Scarlett Dayne 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2015 stig·maˈstiɡmə/nounplural noun: stigmata1.a mark of disgrace associated with a particular circumstance, quality, or person."the stigma of mental disorder"synonyms:shame, disgrace, dishonor, ignominy, opprobrium, humiliation, (bad) reputation"the stigma of bankruptcy" 2.(in Christian tradition) marks corresponding to those left on Jesus’ body by the Crucifixion, said to have been impressed by divine favor on the bodies of St. Francis of Assisi and others.Fair enough. Wikipedia only mentions the religious phenomena, but you are right (if not considerably off considering common usage). 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2015 (edited) Fair enough. Wikipedia only mentions the religious phenomena, but you are right (if not considerably off considering common usage). It's all good. Well you are right... I am definitely not considered "common usage" lol. I had looked it up before I wrote it on my post to make sure. I knew most people would immediately gravitate towards the religious meaning of that particular word. I love learning new definitions for words. Keeps things Exciting. Sending you a day filled with ease and enjoyment ;-) Edited October 19, 2015 by Scarlett Dayne 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2015 It's all good. Well you are right... I am definitely not considered "common usage" lol. I had looked it up before I wrote it on my post to make sure. I knew most people would immediately gravitate towards the religious meaning of that particular word. I love learning new definitions for words. Keeps things Exciting. Sending you a day filled with ease and enjoyment ;-)You are anything but common. Can you talk dirty in Latin? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 19, 2015 You are anything but common. Can you talk dirty in Latin? My HS Latin teacher had interesting punishments for swearing in class. Unless, of course, you swore in Latin. My most used expletive for years was "pungilapedo" (perhaps misspelled, it's been 50 years) which loosely translates as son of a gladiator, i.e. slave bastard. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 20, 2015 My best friend, who is married and is my wingwoman knows what I do and she thinks its great. My older sister also knows. She also thinks it is great. Seriously, getting paid to be laid- it IS great!! 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 22, 2015 Believe it or not gentlemen my wife knows. It's a little complicated, but she was a provider in her youth before I met her, and we have had a fantastic marriage 20 years now. She is in her 40's now and still hot. She is menopausing now, and dripping with hot MILF sexual appetite. But I found out that she was entertaining on the side with a few of her old clients. So, instead of losing my mind I had a brain storm, since I'm just about to midlife, why not capitalize on the opportunity. It's almost like a timely gift, to be able to, on occasion, lose myself in the arms of a beautiful young sexual vixen. My wife has actually dropped me off for visits and picked me up, then we talk about the visit. I consider myself a lucky man. As far as her lusts we experimented with 3somes, or if her client was open to it I would watch ( which is very erotic by the way) or I at least drive her. But its a rare occasion for her, at least that's what I believe LOL. So she knows, I get dressed up, go out with "the guys", and she just tells me to be safe. I still try and be cool about it, but I think overall it has made our marriage stronger, we have no secrets. Well, maybe just a few. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 23, 2015 Thanks to a conversation I once had with two of my closest friends, they both know I've seen escorts in the past...and I discovered that one of them has, too. The other friend hasn't, but that didnt surprise me as he and his wife have what's probably the strongest relationship I've ever seen (lucky bastard...really, that couple is an inspiration, an envy, and some of my favorite people all rolled into one). The conversation soon turned to other topics, though, so neither knows that I still participate in this hobby, and the topic has never come up since. Fortunately, these are two friends that I would trust with my life, so no concerns about their knowledge becoming a problem. I'm single anyway, so being "outed" doesnt worry me much regardless. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 24, 2015 One or two close friends know, and a few suspect.But I've told every girlfriend I've had since I started hobbying. I'm a shitty liar. It has never been a deal-breaker, but then again I didn't state exactly how frequently I hobby. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 25, 2015 No one other than the escorts I've met and me. Never tell someone in real life!. Not on your life. God bless those sufficiently comfortable to confide in others, but I don't see the upside in this case. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 25, 2015 I was with the same woman for 12 years, and loyal to a fault. She wasn't very interested in trying anything sexually. She literally had 2 approved positions. Anything else was 'dirty.' Now that she's gone, I'm free to play when and with who I want. But that's my business, no one needs to know.It's weird how within the hobby we can be more honest with each other than we can with those close to us. Maybe it's the impermanence of it all. If I told my friends and family that I hobby, they'd be aghast. If I told them the things I enjoy sexually, they'd call me a pervert. But with a lady in the right frame of mind, they'll tell me 'OK'. So no, I don't discuss it with people outside the hobby. I often don't write reviews because I tend to keep private stuff private, though within this community I should probably support the ladies and the gentlemen a bit more by writing them. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 25, 2015 Only three of my friends know, and they're all amazingly cool about it and super supportive. It kills me that I can't tell my closest friend - I just don't think she'd understand. I wanted to tell a guy friend the other night because, while out to dinner, he started talking shit about a couple walking by - he was a much older gentleman and she was a super hot young thing. He was going on and on about them and I just looked at him and said "maybe she's an escort". That sort of shut him up. I had to bite my lip after that and change the subject. But I love the rush of living a secret life. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 27, 2015 Step back into the looking glass, a lot of women want the same. Just ask...life is short!My wife gets that. We have a lot of fun together in the hobby and outside of it as well. We're sharing a girlfrind right now. I'm such a lucky man! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2015 A recent topic about meeting other hobbiests got me thinking. No one outside of the hobby knows anything about my involvement in the hobby. I've never told anyone for the obviously reason, although I do know a couple of people I probably could bring it up to with no negative consequences. My question, how many other hobbiest talk about, or share their experiences with outsiders?I never, ever, never discuss my daliences with professional ladies outside the hobby. My one friend who knows, works in the biz (and no, I don't see her professionally) and I am still cautious about discussing it with her. My life, my privacy, who needs to know? Your life can be ruined by a slip of the lip or an inappropriate mention of your nefarious nightime activities. Why risk it? Loose lips sink ships...and possibly your marriage, family, career, reputation, and future romances. Zip it or nip it... Nip it in the bud! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2015 Why risk it? Loose lips sink ships...and possibly your marriage, family, career, reputation, and future romances. Zip it or nip it... Nip it in the bud!Perfectly said! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 29, 2015 Only the ladies. I have even had ASPs ask me to send my friends their way. There is a coworker I suspect would be into hobbying and thought of sending him her way, but as stated above one slip of the tounge at work or over beers and bam I am in divorce court getting rid of half of everything.Some things are better left hidden in the back of the closet. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2015 (edited) My employees may or may not know about my dark side since I usually have mistress on the side. LOL.Once I was talking to my GM and he suggested the management needs to go to Vegas. I asked him why. He wanted to go check out the bunny ranch. So I asked him if he wanted to see a reputable lady in town. He said "Yes". After careful research, I set him up with a nice lady on P411. I gave him an envelop with $300 and gave him some advices. About two hours before the appointment, he chickened out. Oh Man!!, I had to call the lady and apologized about the last minute cancellation. She was very cool. It has been a year since; I still offer him!! LOL. He doesn't know what he missed out!! Edited November 2, 2015 by bluefuzzyball 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 2, 2015 Back a few years ago a woman I was seeing and had broken up with started googling my very old internet handle that unfortunately was my handle for this hobby and also just other civilian message boards. She found a review I posted on TER. Boy ya shoulda seen that text. She was not very pleased as the review was during the time I was seeing her but I was out of town and thought I'd check out the local talent. I'll tell you what though, she (my girlfriend) could have given a lot of girls a run for their money in the PSE realm. She was just a dirty girl. I would think she would have been more open about it but guess not. BIG lesson learned for sure about handles. Other then that nobody else that I know of knows but I'm sure plenty of people know now where she lives which thankfully is in another state. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 3, 2015 In the industry that I am in... Well I know a lot of guys do it. I know this not because they tell me but because inevitably one of the poor sods gets caught. I have never told anyone I know that I've seen an escort. Too much of a liability. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 5, 2015 (edited) It's ironic how porn used to frowned upon and just the realm of guys too lonely to get ladies on their own. Yet now even some of my female coworkers chat about the porn sites they peruse and some porn stars are viewed as celebrities. Yet if one is ever to mention this hobby, they are immediately condemned. Those very coworkers who like porn have condemned an ex or other women for engaging in this hobby. Perhaps, there is slightly greater acceptance of the hobby, thanks to the media like HBO, etc. However, there is the news media like CNN which continues to condemn the profession as a whole as an arena for sex trafficking. My point is, until such time that the profession is legalized or decriminalized, then discretion is the better part of valor.That being said, my best friend knows that I participate in this hobby but he's told no one else that I know of. He's also very open minded and doesn't judge me for participating. Edited November 5, 2015 by amcbl1 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 6, 2015 As long as "cheating" on a spouse is frowned upon, this "hobby" will be frowned upon. Therefore, my S/O knows, and my close friends know, but I don't advertise it. However, I don't lie about it either. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 6, 2015 If I haven't paid you money and you haven't seen me naked, then you don't know. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted November 7, 2015 Most everybody knows in my close personal life - except for my Dad. And he would shit...especially knowing my alias is his name Daniel Ray (Oops! I had like 5 seconds to pick a different name when changing from 'Jamie' ....I realized of course about 30 seconds later...I just chose my Dad's name!) EEEEK! Sorry Daddy! LOL LOL!!!! Don't look dad! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
