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I find the dinner date options intriguing from some providers. How many of you have done the dinner dates? Is it fun? Is it worth it? What do you consider a fair price? What types of places do you go to for dinner? How long do you spend at dinner? How much do you spend on dinner? Best providers for it? Anyone ever run into someone they know while out? Tell me your tales...

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I have only done the dinner date option with one provider. She was a beautiful, sexy,  exciting young lady and quite a head turner. She was a friend and my ATF that I hadn't seen in some time, and I thought this was a good way to get reaquainted. We met at my hotel, and in walked this drop dead gorgeous woman, even more alluring and enticing than I remembered. We hugged and kissed, then left shortly thereafter and drove to dinner in my car. When we arrived at PF Chang's and walked through the door, I could see all the men in the place looking at her, as she walked a few paces ahead of me. We had a wonderful dinner, with pleasant, light conversation as we got reacquainted. After dinner, as we drove back to the hotel, I was eagerly anticipating the wonderful time ahead that evening. Unfortunately, the young lady had a bit of an upset stomach, and was feeling ill. She had to excuse herself to go home, but promised to return in the morning to finish our date. Needless to say, I had a hard time sleeping that night, but I knew her word was good, and that she would return in the am.

When she arrived early the next morning, she was just as beautiful as a Colorado sunrise and as fresh as the morning dew. We had a rousing good time, and I realized that I had been missing her more than I thought. It was a very special night and an even more special morning. I escorted her to her car afterwords, and when we hugged and kissed goodbye, I realized how much time had passed since I had had such a wonderful time with her, or for that matter, any woman. Truly, it was an experience I shall never forget, nor should I.

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I have asked many of my favorite ladies out to dinner before our scheduled playtime numerous times.  On one occasion we scheduled round one before dinner, went to dinner, and did round two afterwards.  On only one occasion did I have dinner with a provider I'd never met before.  She was visiting Denver for the first time, so I gave her the nickle tour.  That was good, too.

Most ladies, when doing a combined dinner/playtime date, have a slightly reduced rate for the dinner portion.  If not on their website, just ask!

I would also like to add: Dinner dates are a lot of fun.  You get to find out just how smart, funny, and engaging the ladies really are.  Take them to a nice place, open the doors for them, pull out all the stops, LISTEN to them. (Yeah, I know, she'll be wearing some low-cut blouse or a slit skirt so this will be difficult, but still)  In my experience, the sex is just a bit hotter afterwards.

My best experience: Took a lady out to a nice Mexican place, and over dinner she revealed how much fun she had at strip clubs.  So, we went to a club afterwards, and in addition to myself, bought her several lap dances.  I could tell she was getting pretty worked up.  Finally, she dragged me out of there and insisted we hurry back to her incall, where her panties were soaked as she peeled them off.  It was all I could do to barely keep up with her.  All because of dinner time conversation.  

 

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Over the years I've had many "dinner dates."  My general guidelines are 1) NEVER on a first encounter and unlikely even on the second. 2) We need  to look like it's at least remotely possible we're a couple, but only remotely possible.  At my age I truely hope people think the worst. But it's really not as much of an age spread thing as it is a level of poise and sophistication.  I don't want to live through a recreation of the dinner scene in Pretty Woman.  3) It's got to be someone I enjoy talking to for a couple of hours, 4) If her idea of good food is PF Chang's we're in trouble, 5) I'm single so I don't care if we run into King Tut.

Dinner date rates are generally posted on a gal's site.  I've encountered a few serious foodies in the hobby and have spent extended time with a couple of ladies who, in addition to escorting, were culinary school grads and that's a barrel of monkeys fun for me. I remember one dinner date with a duo many years ago. We were at a white table cloth restaurant where I was well known.  The maître d, when he seated us, purposely chose to place the ladies on either side of me, smiled and said, "the perfect arrangement sir."

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I find the dinner date options intriguing from some providers.

How many of you have done the dinner dates? Many times

 Is it fun? Some times

Is it worth it? Almost never

What do you consider a fair price? Fair? Don't think fair enters into it, but my personal opinion is that paying for the meal and drinks ought to be enough. I know it doesn't really work that way.

What types of places do you go to for dinner? I'm with Happymon on this one; I like fine food.

How long do you spend at dinner? Fine dining usually requires 1 - 3 hours, doesn't it?

How much do you spend on dinner? Couple, few hundred, usually. Depends on the wine.

Best providers for it? The really skinny ones don't eat much and the fat ones trying to lose weight will lower the cost. Just kidding...sorry can't help you with this one.

Anyone ever run into someone they know while out? Yeah...it's helpful to have something other than a provider name if you're forced to make introductions.

Tell me your tales...

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Reading the responses triggered an old memory from my early adulthood. I don't spend a lot of time reminiscing about my life before age 30 but this always makes me chuckle and shake my head.

I used to live in a border city (Mexico/USA) and worked in a retail store during college. I was helping this really hot Mexican gal (model-quality looks) and she asked me out to dinner. I was surprised but accepted readily. When I met her later she was stunningly dressed in a very tasteful business suit, fuck-me heels, with a sexy black bra rather than a blouse underneath the jacket.

Coming from work, I was NOT dressed to match my date but she didn't care. I remember the looks from the other men in the restaurant and my awkwardness with the whole situation. I don't remember much else except that she freely admitted she was an escort. I had no clue what I was doing and still don't know why the whole thing happened. I never her again after that.

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I find the dinner date options intriguing from some providers. How many of you have done the dinner dates? Is it fun? Is it worth it? What do you consider a fair price? What types of places do you go to for dinner? How long do you spend at dinner? How much do you spend on dinner? Best providers for it? Anyone ever run into someone they know while out? Tell me your tales...

I've gone out eating with several ladies, but never paid for their time out. It was fun and well worth the cost. ;)

Best providers for this? A couple of traveling foodies have turned me on to some nice places. Never ran into familiars, but it would not matter for my lifestyle.

ROFL: The really skinny ones don't eat much and the fat ones trying to lose weight will lower the cost. Just kidding...sorry can't help you with this one.

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 I'm single so I don't care if we run into King Tut.

The maître d, when he seated us, purposely chose to place the ladies on either side of me, smiled and said, "the perfect arrangement sir."

You crack me up.

Awesome stories and good info. Thanks everyone!

 

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Back in the days when I used to go to strip clubs a lot, one of the girls I knew well told me that she was taking another friend of mine out to dinner because she'd broken up with her boyfriend. I offered to pay for both of them. Two of the other girls (one I knew, one I didn't) ended up coming along as well.

We had a great time and after they left I stayed behind to pick up the check. While I was waiting a guy at the next table leaned over and said "What did you do to piss them all off?". It hadn't even occurred to me that every man in the place was wondering what the hell I was doing there with four hot women.

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There is a kind of dinner date that hasn't been mentioned yet, and that's the home cooked meal. I've purchased that package from a couple of different providers. It's always nice to sample a lady's domestic talents as well as her erotic ones.

I'm not trying to outdo the Demure Morman here but all of this is true. There have been a number of times when after the session was over the lady invited me along for dinner or invited herself along when she knew I was going out for a bite to eat. There have even been a few times when the ladies picked up the tab having newly acquired hundreds of dollars burning a hole in their purse. Out of town providers will often appreciate a local guide. It doesn't happen often but it does happen to other hobbyists as well. I think it has to do with the attitude some of us clients have. While I know it's a business and I'm not going to lose my heart to the YL I'll still treat her like a current and future friend and some ladies are quick to pick up on that kind of vibe.

Back when I had a VIP membership at the Penthouse club several ladies knew that they could accompany me there for drinks and lap dances. This should be on every guy's bucket list...Buying lap dances for a lady friend...the show is incredible and the ladies sure do seem to be enjoying themselves.

...Happy Hobbying...

...Crazy Horse...

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When I "played" much more regularly, toward the end of that time, all of my dates were four hour or overnight dinner dates.  I still do dinner dates - primarily with my very select handful of regulars, who I've known for years. We are truly friends at this point and it's just great to catch up, flirt, and add a little outside of the bedroom "foreplay" to things. We don't get to see each other that often so why not?  It's hard for me to fit in that time these days (between my outside life, the preparation, and the actual date) but it's always, always fun when I do.  If you find someone you enjoy, this really is the way to go...particularly if you really like that "connection"  

There are many men who only play this way.  And many a provider who can meet you the first time and you think you've known each other for years.  Try it! I think you'll like it. 

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Fair? Don't think fair enters into it, but my personal opinion is that paying for the meal and drinks ought to be enough. I know it doesn't really work that way.

I have to agree. I'd pay for a nice meal, but I don't know if I could pay someone to let me pay for it. That would make me feel weird. So I don't often offer.

I did meet one provider out of town who had a super reasonable rate for a multi-hour session. But that turned into a once in a lifetime fantasy thing that went on for.. well, a very long time. I was incredibly grateful for the experience and was more than happy to pay for our meals. But I don't suspect I'll ever be in a situation like that again. 

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I have to agree. I'd pay for a nice meal, but I don't know if I could pay someone to let me pay for it. That would make me feel weird. So I don't often offer.
I did meet one provider out of town who had a super reasonable rate for a multi-hour session. But that turned into a once in a lifetime fantasy thing that went on for.. well, a very long time. I was incredibly grateful for the experience and was more than happy to pay for our meals. But I don't suspect I'll ever be in a situation like that again. 

While I totally understand that someone might not really want to pay for companionship part some seem to forget it's part of the deal.

I once had someone, who I had seen before, want to hang out and watch movies but only wanted to cough up for an hour because he wasn't going to pay to have someone hangout with him. He then went on to explain that my rates should have direct correlation with the services I provided not really the time. I told him that my BF doesn't really appreciate me hanging out off the clock like that and that I really didn't care to hear Escorting Economics. My favorite part was that he had the stones to tell me it was my loss that I didn't give up my whole Friday night to make only an hours worth of pay.

Companionship has and always will be on the menu. It really is part of that complete package. It might not be for everyone but it shouldn't feel weird to pay a professional for some companionship.

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When I "played" much more regularly, toward the end of that time, all of my dates were four hour or overnight dinner dates.  I still do dinner dates - primarily with my very select handful of regulars, who I've known for years. We are truly friends at this point and it's just great to catch up, flirt, and add a little outside of the bedroom "foreplay" to things. We don't get to see each other that often so why not?  It's hard for me to fit in that time these days (between my outside life, the preparation, and the actual date) but it's always, always fun when I do.  If you find someone you enjoy, this really is the way to go...particularly if you really like that "connection"

There are many men who only play this way.  And many a provider who can meet you the first time and you think you've known each other for years.  Try it! I think you'll like it.

I agree with you, it's a very good way to "catch up" I'm always wondering how the other people in one's life are doing. No it's not always about the sex, that's one just part of a regular relationship.

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I find the dinner date options intriguing from some providers. How many of you have done the dinner dates? Is it fun? Is it worth it? What do you consider a fair price? What types of places do you go to for dinner? How long do you spend at dinner? How much do you spend on dinner? Best providers for it? Anyone ever run into someone they know while out? Tell me your tales...

Usually I require 2 hours BCD, then we can go off to dinner or start our date with dinner..But to charge for it? Nope! Not gonna happen.. Its already your treat, so to name a price for grub? That just greedy IMO.. We get paid for our Services and to look pretty ,  NOT to sit around and be fed for free probably at our first choice 3* plus Establishment...  ;)

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I can see the appeal for some. Eating & drinking together before a session, working up the anticipation. Personally I would rather take the fee for the dining time and use it for another session instead.

The half dozen times I have eaten out with providers it has been after the session. Either she or I mention feeling hungry, or a tummy growls, and it just makes sense to go out together, if we clicked. Half the time I get treated!

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I charge for my time.  And I'm not being cute when I say that.  My time is over-scheduled as it is. If a man wants a dinner date with me, that's more time. Time that I'm taking away from my work life, family life, or otherwise.  I'm a companion - in and out of the bedroom.  Charging for it is not greedy. 

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Companionship has and always will be on the menu. It really is part of that complete package. It might not be for everyone but it shouldn't feel weird to pay a professional for some companionship.

 

I charge for my time.  And I'm not being cute when I say that.  My time is over-scheduled as it is. If a man wants a dinner date with me, that's more time. Time that I'm taking away from my work life, family life, or otherwise.  I'm a companion - in and out of the bedroom.  Charging for it is not greedy. 

Just to be clear, I completely agree with both of you and do not expect anyone to donate their time. When it happens, it is very, very nice. But it is never expected. Every situation is different, and how some situations might make me feel is totally my own hang up. I'm certainly not saying that anyone else should feel weird in that situation, and I'm definitely not saying that charging for your time is greedy. 

And I did not forget that it's part of the deal. As I said, that's why I rarely offer.

I want to see the providers I like do well and make money. And hopefully do so in the company of generous men who treat them nicely. I hope they they allow us to continue to enjoy their company for a very long time. 

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I find the dinner date options intriguing from some providers. How many of you have done the dinner dates? Is it fun? Is it worth it? What do you consider a fair price? What types of places do you go to for dinner? How long do you spend at dinner? How much do you spend on dinner? Best providers for it? Anyone ever run into someone they know while out? Tell me your tales...

A dinner date really is not an option with me, however my ATF and I went to a concert, and I've cooked a meal for him. Both were my ideas, so I didn't expect compensation for my time, but ultimately I had ulterior motives, and I was certain that my strategy would work. It did at first, but in the big picture, he started to have feelings that I refused to acknowledge, so now he doesn't come over as often. Karma bit me. 

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I sense two(2) different types of 'dinner dates' being discussed here.

1) The casual, impromptu dinner date:  This usually occurs after a session.  I have often asked if a YL would care to join me for dinner as we are cleaning up.  The implication is that the food is on me, the time is her own.  If she accepts - great!  If not - no big deal.  Some accept sometimes, others not so much. There have also been times, typically near the lunch hour and usually on a repeat visit, when I have asked the YL if I should bring her something for lunch.  I stop by the deli on the way if she says yes.  I figure that the time spent eating is off 'sort of' off the clock, but does cover the 'catching up with each other' portion of the session.

2) The more formal, planned evening:  On special occasions I have asked YL to accompany me for an evening of festivities which may include dinner, a show/opera, and playtime.  In these instances I have asked the YL to quote me a price for the evening.  The result is significantly above their hourly rate, but typically not X hours * hourly rate. (No haggles, but if her quote is out of budget I will move on to someone else.)

There have been occasions when favorites have suggested one or the other of the above, with varying levels of compensation.  I've even had them pick up the breakfast check after an overnight visit.  But then again, I've often served them breakfast in bed too.

From an economic standpoint, multi-hour appointments incur less overhead.  As a consultant, I had daily, monthly, and annual rates.  The difference was the costs associated with marketing efforts tracking down new business and the downtime between assignments.  For an ASP the savings are primarily in prep time for individual sessions, but also in downtime between assignments; their marketing costs remain about the same. A YL's failure to recognize these savings causes me to keep looking.

Dinner dates can be a LOT of fun!  I tend to reserve the experience for women I've seen before, women with whom I'm comfortable.

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Just to be clear, I completely agree with both of you and do not expect anyone to donate their time. When it happens, it is very, very nice. But it is never expected. Every situation is different, and how some situations might make me feel is totally my own hang up. I'm certainly not saying that anyone else should feel weird in that situation, and I'm definitely not saying that charging for your time is greedy. 

And I did not forget that it's part of the deal. As I said, that's why I rarely offer.

I want to see the providers I like do well and make money. And hopefully do so in the company of generous men who treat them nicely. I hope they they allow us to continue to enjoy their company for a very long time. 

I wasn't really talking about donating time. Companionship is one of the services we offer, and like I said if it's not for you, you skip it but it shouldn't feel weird to pay someone to do their job. The story I shared was just an example of a douche who can't figure out what paid companionship is all about. I think just companionship is way underrated. It seems pricey to not get any "services" out of the deal but the service is you get to spend time with the person.

I personally would consider paying for companionship if the emphasis on escorting wasn't always services. Lols I would pay for a date just to remove any sexuality from it. Sometimes you want to do things with a date, like see a new movie or check out a new art gallery and you don't want to get pretty to go out with girlfriends. You want to share your interests with someone whom you find attractive and then go home and flick the bean while thinking about Ryan Gosling. Weird I know but sometimes it's all I want.

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I personally would consider paying for companionship if the emphasis on escorting wasn't always services. Lols I would pay for a date just to remove any sexuality from it. Sometimes you want to do things with a date, like see a new movie or check out a new art gallery and you don't want to get pretty to go out with girlfriends. You want to share your interests with someone whom you find attractive and then go home and flick the bean while thinking about Ryan Gosling. Weird I know but sometimes it's all I want.

Think about it this way. You'd be willing to pay someone to take you to a movie. If a client you don't mind spending time with wanted to take you to the same movie and didn't expect anything sexual in return... you can see where I'm going with this. Then you and Mr. Gosling can have the rest of the evening to yourself. 

Sure, you can't do that all the time. If you let every client take you out for a meal, or a movie, anytime they wanted to, it's all you'd do. That's why it's more typical for clients to pay for that time. Every relationship and situation is different. To avoid misunderstanding, I don't often ask. But in the rare instance when a lady asks me, it can be nice. By the way, it works both ways. I've seen providers that I had a great hour with, but wouldn't really want to hang out with afterword.

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Just to be clear, I completely agree with both of you and do not expect anyone to donate their time. When it happens, it is very, very nice. But it is never expected. Every situation is different, and how some situations might make me feel is totally my own hang up. I'm certainly not saying that anyone else should feel weird in that situation, and I'm definitely not saying that charging for your time is greedy. 

And I did not forget that it's part of the deal. As I said, that's why I rarely offer.

I want to see the providers I like do well and make money. And hopefully do so in the company of generous men who treat them nicely. I hope they they allow us to continue to enjoy their company for a very long time. 

Oh, I know you weren't saying it was greedy.  I was referring to Chrissy's post. Every woman does this in her own way, of course.  

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Oh, I know you weren't saying it was greedy.  I was referring to Chrissy's post. Every woman does this in her own way, of course.  

It's interesting. I had missed her post. Now that I read it, she does say something interesting that may at least point out why it's more complicated than it seems. 
 

I was going to say that I'm paying a woman for more than "services and to look pretty". But when I thought about that, I realized, that is all I'm paying some providers for. And those can be fantastic experiences. That's why this is complicated. We're not always paying for the same thing. 

I personally would pay for a date just to remove any sexuality from it. Sometimes you want to do things with a date, like see a new movie or check out a new art gallery and you don't want to get pretty to go out with girlfriends. You want to share your interests with someone whom you find attractive and then go home and flick the bean while thinking about Ryan Gosling. Weird I know but sometimes it's all I want.

Wait. I figured it out. You want someone that costs you money, with no sexuality, who you do things with. You want a wife! lol

I'm mostly kidding. But I've been there. And reading stories here, there's a lot of that out there. Ironic that they pay you for what they don't get at home, and you'd pay for what they have at home. That's a good anecdote for the people who say you should get a divorce if you're in a sexless marriage.

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While I totally understand that someone might not really want to pay for companionship part some seem to forget it's part of the deal.

I once had someone, who I had seen before, want to hang out and watch movies but only wanted to cough up for an hour because he wasn't going to pay to have someone hangout with him. He then went on to explain that my rates should have direct correlation with the services I provided not really the time. I told him that my BF doesn't really appreciate me hanging out off the clock like that and that I really didn't care to hear Escorting Economics. My favorite part was that he had the stones to tell me it was my loss that I didn't give up my whole Friday night to make only an hours worth of pay.

Companionship has and always will be on the menu. It really is part of that complete package. It might not be for everyone but it shouldn't feel weird to pay a professional for some companionship.

Bwahaha! I just "love" when they tell me this.... 

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I charge for my time.  And I'm not being cute when I say that.  My time is over-scheduled as it is. If a man wants a dinner date with me, that's more time. Time that I'm taking away from my work life, family life, or otherwise.  I'm a companion - in and out of the bedroom.  Charging for it is not greedy. 

Amen! And in addition to this, for me personally, I have my ATF's that I will gladly spend extra time with enjoying their company without "being on the clock". 

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I have asked several providers out to dinner prior to our "session" - especially if they are new to the area.  Normally it has been at a restaurant of their choice and nearby their incall location.  I have found that having a chance to meet in a casual atmosphere makes both less nervous about the other and end up having a GREAT time.

As to time compensation, I have offered to pay for their time at dinner as well, but have ALWAYS been turned DOWN - they enjoyed their time out as much as I did and our session ended up being that much better for it.  

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While I totally understand that someone might not really want to pay for companionship part some seem to forget it's part of the deal.

I once had someone, who I had seen before, want to hang out and watch movies but only wanted to cough up for an hour because he wasn't going to pay to have someone hangout with him. He then went on to explain that my rates should have direct correlation with the services I provided not really the time. I told him that my BF doesn't really appreciate me hanging out off the clock like that and that I really didn't care to hear Escorting Economics. My favorite part was that he had the stones to tell me it was my loss that I didn't give up my whole Friday night to make only an hours worth of pay.

Companionship has and always will be on the menu. It really is part of that complete package. It might not be for everyone but it shouldn't feel weird to pay a professional for some companionship.

Thank you Lucy.

We offer time and companionship. Time is money

This is why we charge by the hour!

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Well guys there you have it:D 

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Well guys there you have it:D 

It seems the answer is, some providers will let you buy them dinner without charging more. Others will not. 

It's almost like every situation and relationship is different, and there aren't really any hard and fast rules about this. Who'da guessed?

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