Crazy Horse

Is it creepy??? Part 2

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First the back story: So I've spent most of the day at the Fat Tire festival in City Park. Since most of the people rode their bikes there fit and healthy bodies were in abundance. Add to that a warm sunny day and clothing was almost optional. A people watching paradise to be sure.

Here's the question: How creepy is it to have some random guy you don't know comment on your body art.

There was one lady at the park that as she rolled up her T shirt  reveled a couple lines of script along her left ribs. I had to resist the temptation to step closer so I could read her words of wisdom.

There was another young lady that as she walked by I saw she had a really finely done fox head on her outer right upper thigh. If she hadn't of been with her boyfriend I might have said something. Being older and more experienced I wouldn't have said anything cheesy like, "Hey that's some foxy ink for a foxy lady." It was a fine piece of art work that could be appreciated as such, wouldn't it make it's owner proud to hear so.

I had to talk to the lady wolverine that had our former state tattooed on her upper left bicep with a red star were she was from. She was impressed that I knew her home town. A little innocent flirting ensued and at one point she was joking with her friend about the sweater I was wearing as she ran her fingers through my chest hair.(hey it was a hot day and my shirt was unbuttoned.)

Now guys are always looking for a good opening line to approach a fine looking young lady and visible ink offers just as good an excuse as does her hair or shoes or dress she's wearing. Just as with any social situation with a stranger the ladies need to make an almost instant decision as to who to blow off or who is being sincere as to their appreciation of the art or someone you might want to flirt with. BTW as a side note when did the art of flirting become more of a means to an end rather than an exercise to be enjoyed in and of it self.

So ladies; when do compliments on your body art cross the line into being creepy? A specific question for Justina; if you were wearing a top with a low cut back and a guy moved in for a closer look at Puff(my name for her dragon tat) and maybe even said something, how creepy would it have to be before you put some MMA moves on him.

I don't know It just seems to me that any artwork on public display is fair game for commenting on but it needs to be done with caution because after all the canvas does have human feelings.

...Happy Hobbying...

...Crazy7 Horse...

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I have quite a bit of body art on me so I think it's kinda cool when someone compliments it. I've never had a problem walking up to someone and complimenting their stuff either. Every time I 've seen a female with cool body art I walk up and say, "that's some very cool art ya got there", and they always enjoy the compliments. But most women know if youre genuinely complimenting or trying to pick up on them. That's just my thoughts. As far as I am concerned, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. 

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How creepy is it to have some random guy you don't know comment on your body art.

I've struggled with this myself. Particularly if the random guy is old enough to be the young lady's grandfather (as may be the case for myself and the OP). My current policy is not to speak to young women in public unless they address me first. And I think I am just too old be commenting on their appearance. But hey, it sounds like CH got a civilian to run her fingers through his chest hair, so...well done, there!

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The tattoo is a cry for attention, as is all revealing clothing, so giving the desired attention is not a problem in my book. The problem is that other people read different books. 

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The age-old answer for "should I talk to that girl?" remains the same in all circumstances. If she finds you attractive, you should talk to her. If not, you should definitely avoid. The tricky part is the mind-reading.

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I often get stopped by strangers, men and women alike who comment on my tattoos. Happens at least once a day, often more than that. I don't really appreciate people touching me without asking permission though. If they ask, it's generally okay. When I lived overseas, I often had people ask to take photos with me....I lived in a beach environment where all of them were visible. No worries. And pitbull, the tattoos are not a cry for attention, they represent different things I have gone through in my life. Hard as it is to believe, I am actually kind of shy...

It was kind of funny though when I ended up as some guy's facebook profile picture who lived in Panama...turns out he was a friend of a friend...he had his photo with me as his profile. I suppose that could be creepy, but I found it semi flattering. Good tattoo art is hard to find in that part of the world, so it was a bit of a novelty I suppose. Reminded me of how small the world was, as I was not in Panama at that particular time, he had been visiting the country where I was.

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I've struggled with this myself. Particularly if the random guy is old enough to be the young lady's grandfather (as may be the case for myself and the OP). My current policy is not to speak to young women in public unless they address me first. And I think I am just too old be commenting on their appearance. But hey, it sounds like CH got a civilian to run her fingers through his chest hair, so...well done, there!

Yes I am aware that the creepiness factor increases with the age differential and it's held me back a lot these days. I'm letting a lot of women pass me by that 20 or 30 years ago I would have shamelessly started flirting with. Flirting is a skill that needs constant practice and paying young professionals to fain interest in another over the hill old fart isn't the best way to stay on top of my game. So while I do restrain myself around the civilian young ladies and try not to impose myself on them it is a pleasant way to pass some time by starting up a conversation with one of them from time to time and maybe even engage in a little innocent flirting.

...Happy Hobbying...

...Crazy Horse...

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If I suspect she's younger than 45, I keep my mouth shut. Unless, of course, I just left $300 on the dresser. :D

 

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My method to seduce ladies decades younger than I is to ignore them. This should intrigue them and make them want to know my mind.

Gonna get one any year now.... ;)

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The tattoo is a cry for attention, as is all revealing clothing.

Let's agree to disagree on this...

 

My whole back is done and is currently being redone (former tanning bed junkie and faded them all out). 

If I wear a T-shirt you can still see the back of my neck. From what you see you have NO CLUE as to what my tattoo is. I get annoyed when people can only see that part and say "hey, nice tattoo" or something along the lines. I want to reply with "you are an idiot because you have no idea what it is..."
Now, if I'm wearing a T-shirt and you ask me what I have on the back of my neck (because clearly what you see makes no sense) then I will gladly tell you. :)

Moral: Go in with a statement that doesn't make you look like a desperate idiot. 

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I often get stopped by strangers, men and women alike who comment on my tattoos. Happens at least once a day, often more than that. I don't really appreciate people touching me without asking permission though. If they ask, it's generally okay. When I lived overseas, I often had people ask to take photos with me....I lived in a beach environment where all of them were visible. No worries. And pitbull, the tattoos are not a cry for attention, they represent different things I have gone through in my life. Hard as it is to believe, I am actually kind of shy...

It was kind of funny though when I ended up as some guy's facebook profile picture who lived in Panama...turns out he was a friend of a friend...he had his photo with me as his profile. I suppose that could be creepy, but I found it semi flattering. Good tattoo art is hard to find in that part of the world, so it was a bit of a novelty I suppose. Reminded me of how small the world was, as I was not in Panama at that particular time, he had been visiting the country where I was.

I admit "cry for attention" was probably the wrong turn of phrase, but an outward display in the form of permanent ink is certainly a way to "draw attention." After all, you could keep the things you have "gone through" in your brain to be brought out when asked. You have chosen to make the display, which is certainly fine. As such, you will get comments and it seems as though those comments do not bother you. 

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Maybe it's different because I'm a guy, but ours cool when someone comments on my tattoos or asks where they were done.  What is uncomfortable is when someone tries to turn it into a conversation.  But that may be because I am socially awkward anyway.

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The tattoo is a cry for attention, as is all revealing clothing, so giving the desired attention is not a problem in my book. The problem is that other people read different books.

My wife, for one, loves it when people at motorcycle rally's comment on her tramp stamp. And it always makes me smile!

I guess we both enjoy the attention.

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Like most things, it all depends on how you do it, and what you mean by it. I'm not a big tattoo guy, but I have seen people with interesting tattoos and commented on them. If that's what you mean, then that's how it will sound. If what you really mean is "Hey, baby" then that's how it will sound. And if you're thinking "I wonder if this would be creepy" then, yeah. It's almost certainly going to be creepy. 

 

Rule of thumb: If "some random dude" said it to your daughter, would you want to punch him in the face? That's usually a good sign to keep your mouth shut. 

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Rule of thumb: If "some random dude" said it to your daughter, would you want to punch him in the face? That's usually a good sign to keep your mouth shut. 

Application of rules like that will bring this entire enterprise to a halt. Guessing many guys have to put such thoughts far from their mind just to log in here.

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Let's agree to disagree on this...

 

My whole back is done and is currently being redone (former tanning bed junkie and faded them all out). 

If I wear a T-shirt you can still see the back of my neck. From what you see you have NO CLUE as to what my tattoo is. I get annoyed when people can only see that part and say "hey, nice tattoo" or something along the lines. I want to reply with "you are an idiot because you have no idea what it is..."
Now, if I'm wearing a T-shirt and you ask me what I have on the back of my neck (because clearly what you see makes no sense) then I will gladly tell you. :)

Moral: Go in with a statement that doesn't make you look like a desperate idiot. 

I have been looking for the words to make that statement my whole life! :D

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I have always found that people like to have their tattoos noticed and smile when I mention it. Usually they will tell me about its meaning. It's a chance to share something they are proud of. Just don't ask annoying questions like "Did it hurt to get that Tattoo done?" They will almost always have a snarky reply.

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Application of rules like that will bring this entire enterprise to a halt. Guessing many guys have to put such thoughts far from their mind just to log in here.

Randomly approaching women on the street is quite a bit different from "this enterprise". It has it's own set of rules, risks, and rewards. 

True story. Last week I was walking down the street and a woman said "Hey, where are you going? Don't run off! It's my birthday!" And she gave me a huge hug. Five minutes later we were in a bar and I was buying her a drink. She later admitted she had mistaken me for someone else, but I didn't do anything creepy, so she let me buy her a drink anyway. 

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Randomly approaching women on the street is quite a bit different from "this enterprise". It has it's own set of rules, risks, and rewards. 

Point taken.

...(s)he later admitted she had mistaken me for someone else, but I didn't do anything creepy, so she let me buy her a drink anyway

Lucky guy. Hope I get mistaken for somebody someday.

 

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So let me see if I got the consensus straight. It's OK to compliment a lady's body art...as long as it is one of the old ladies playing bingo at the local VFW. :P It being creepy enough being one of the oldest people at a venue filled with mostly 20 and 30 somethings but to actually strike up a conversation with one of the young ladies at that venue practically makes me a pedophile.

I do have some experience with this but I've never been able to figure out why they do it or how to respond. Those of you who have seen me know that I have very long wavy hair. I get compliments on it all the time, mostly by women but also occasionally men. Even when I'm not letting my freak flag fly but have it tied up in what I call my Willie Nelson braids I'll get compliments. I even had a guy tourist pay me $20 one NY eve on the 16th st mall to take a picture with his friends. I'm not sure where they could have been from that they have to go on vacation to find a long haired dead head, I thought we were everywhere.:lol:

While I don't grow it to attract attention I do like to think of it as making a statement. Maybe it's that statement they're complimenting. I've never had what I consider a creepy situation but it often catches me by surprise that a complete stranger feels compelled to say something and other than mumbling out a thank you I'm not sure what to say. So ladies if you're complimenting some guy's hair as an opening line have some back up conversation topics "Hey, how about those Broncos." I'm always prepared with more than, "Hey, that's a really nice tattoo".

Anyway...thanks for all the input...It gives me something to think about.

...Happy Hobbying...

...Crazy Horse...

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In my experience, tattoos are a story or at least have a story about them. I've always stated that's amazing artwork, I bet that has a great story/meaning/significance behind it? and if they are interested in chatting they will, if not they say thank you and move on. This assumes you are not being a creeper and actually care about the reply.

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