True confessions

[Keyser Soze]

I've been hobbying for 25 years. I tried to quit in 2008, and made a big deal about it on this board. I even deluded myself into thinking I had quit, because I did cut way back. I had gotten up to averaging close to a date a week, and when I tried to quit I managed to go several months cold turkey. But I slowly slid back into the life.

I just counted and I've done a total of about 30 ASP dates in the last seven years. On the one hand that's nothing compared to the old days when I was running wild, but OTOH I've just been lying to myself about how I "really don't do this anymore except just this one time, because this girl looks really special . . ."

On yet a third hand, I've only done one ASP date in the last seven months, and I didn't even have sex on that one, so maybe I'm finally kicking this.

Also, these couple of recent BP stings in Fort Collins are sobering. I have a lot to lose if I were to be caught, either by LE or by getting sloppy. A year ago I texted some BP girl from my cell (yeah stupid), and she texted me back . . . a week later on a Saturday night! Thank God my wife happened to be out of the room at the time but damn.

Am I ever going to really quit?

[Guest]

I don't have any great advice for you, but I can feel the pain in that post, and I wish you the best. It's gone through my head that this could be an issue for me down the road. It's all still pretty new to me, and I'm having fun. But I started doing this for a reason, and that reason has almost completely resolved itself. So at some point I'm going to have to ask why I'm still doing it.

[socutesocurvy]

Well, you pretty much answered your questions with your own post.

You are scared of getting caught by your spouse and LE.

Use a hobby phone and see reputable providers

=problem solved

[MAG]

On yet a third hand, I've only done one ASP date in the last seven months, and I didn't even have sex on that one, so maybe I'm finally kicking this.

You know you've reached a new low when you pay a hooker and don't even get laid.

You sound neurotic. Get s burner phone, do your research, RELAX, and get yourself some fine ass. You'll feel better.

Why do you need to quit? It's not as bad a habit as smoking - you're going to pay for it, whether it's with a hooker or a civilian, so you might was well have some fun.

[mtnman2000]

I've been hobbying for 25 years. I tried to quit in 2008, and made a big deal about it on this board. I even deluded myself into thinking I had quit, because I did cut way back. I had gotten up to averaging close to a date a week, and when I tried to quit I managed to go several months cold turkey. But I slowly slid back into the life.

I just counted and I've done a total of about 30 ASP dates in the last seven years. On the one hand that's nothing compared to the old days when I was running wild, but OTOH I've just been lying to myself about how I "really don't do this anymore except just this one time, because this girl looks really special . . ."

On yet a third hand, I've only done one ASP date in the last seven months, and I didn't even have sex on that one, so maybe I'm finally kicking this.

Also, these couple of recent BP stings in Fort Collins are sobering. I have a lot to lose if I were to be caught, either by LE or by getting sloppy. A year ago I texted some BP girl from my cell (yeah stupid), and she texted me back . . . a week later on a Saturday night! Thank God my wife happened to be out of the room at the time but damn.

Am I ever going to really quit?

I hear you. I've had a what would be a normally fantastic time only to leave feeling emtpy and then suddenly guilty or paranoid.

You were sloppy with the phone. Don't ever do that again. Ever. Block that number via tech support (not via your online account page) so it's hidden.

I go back and forth.

Right now, I'm very satisfied at home and trying to not feel like I need something to hit when I have a night off.

[Guest]

I've been hobbying for 25 years. I tried to quit in 2008, and made a big deal about it on this board. I even deluded myself into thinking I had quit, because I did cut way back. I had gotten up to averaging close to a date a week, and when I tried to quit I managed to go several months cold turkey. But I slowly slid back into the life.

I just counted and I've done a total of about 30 ASP dates in the last seven years. On the one hand that's nothing compared to the old days when I was running wild, but OTOH I've just been lying to myself about how I "really don't do this anymore except just this one time, because this girl looks really special . . ."

On yet a third hand, I've only done one ASP date in the last seven months, and I didn't even have sex on that one, so maybe I'm finally kicking this.

Also, these couple of recent BP stings in Fort Collins are sobering. I have a lot to lose if I were to be caught, either by LE or by getting sloppy. A year ago I texted some BP girl from my cell (yeah stupid), and she texted me back . . . a week later on a Saturday night! Thank God my wife happened to be out of the room at the time but damn.

Am I ever going to really quit?

keyser, personally I gave up on thinking I could stop seeing ladies. I've been in relationships, and one VERY serious one over the past several years. I really thought I would be able to walk away from this. yet I'm still here 11 years later.

I'll be honest and will say I have conceded to the idea that I will stop seeing ladies. and I think that for the most part. I'm ok with that. I have such a diverse variety of needs in life. my relationships I have found to be no different.

if anything. remember this about our world.

this is the hotel California. you can check out anytime you like. but you can NEVER leave:D

[pitbull]

It's strange but the many years of neglect from the SO, after years of wonderful physical closeness and intimacy, ultimately drove me to the arms of these ladies. And while the closeness has not come back, I often wonder if that genie who got released from the bottle can ever go back in.

I discovered the stunning world where women will shed their clothes two minutes after the first meeting -- still hard to believe -- and I'm not sure if I can ever get that out of my head again. So will you ever quit? No need to declare either way. Just the POSSIBILITY of these ladies is sometimes enough to keep you sane, even if you never actually partake again.

[gettin' up there]

It's strange but the many years of neglect from the SO, after years of wonderful physical closeness and intimacy, ultimately drove me to the arms of these ladies. And while the closeness has not come back, I often wonder if that genie who got released from the bottle can ever go back in.

I discovered the stunning world where women will shed their clothes two minutes after the first meeting -- still hard to believe -- and I'm not sure if I can ever get that out of my head again. So will you ever quit? No need to declare either way. Just the POSSIBILITY of these ladies is sometimes enough to keep you sane, even if you never actually partake again.

Well said and certainly rings true to me! After I leave the incall of one of so many wonderful women, happily sated, I have the thought "I've had enough". However, by the next day, I'm already checking EB and P411 to see who's playing and by the day after, I'm making plans to fulfill my biologic imperative (pretty fancy way of saying I'm making plans to once again get laid:). I have been having so much fun at so many levels in this hobby, I have to admit I can never turn away from it as long as I am able. The genie is out of the bottle for sure and I'm fantasizing about having her too;)

[Guest]

It's strange but the many years of neglect from the SO, after years of wonderful physical closeness and intimacy, ultimately drove me to the arms of these ladies. And while the closeness has not come back, I often wonder if that genie who got released from the bottle can ever go back in.

I discovered the stunning world where women will shed their clothes two minutes after the first meeting -- still hard to believe -- and I'm not sure if I can ever get that out of my head again. So will you ever quit? No need to declare either way. Just the POSSIBILITY of these ladies is sometimes enough to keep you sane, even if you never actually partake again.

Well said and certainly rings true to me! After I leave the incall of one of so many wonderful women' date=' happily sated, I have the thought "I've had enough". However, by the next day, I'm already checking EB and P411 to see who's playing and by the day after, I'm making plans to fulfill my biologic imperative (pretty fancy way of saying I'm making plans to once again get laid:). I have been having so much fun at so many levels in this hobby, I have to admit I can never turn away from it as long as I am able. The genie is out of the bottle for sure and I'm fantasizing about having her too;)[/quote']

I wish there was a way we Ladies could collect some sort of "royalties" from spank-bank-material. But then again, I'm equally as guilty when it comes to reliving some of these moments.

[Bit Banger]

I wish there was a way we Ladies could collect some sort of "royalties" from spank-bank-material. But then again, I'm equally as guilty when it comes to reliving some of these moments.

You do collect those royalties. If that spank-bank is strong enough, we're booking another session with you to refresh the memories.