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What are some things you have learned either hobbying or escorting

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I have found that being in a long-term, sexless/intimacy-free relationship is very surreal and it generates a lot of resentment and bitterness. There is confusion and a little bit of self-pity and a lot of trying to reverse it. (It has in my case.)

Participating in this "hobby" has done a lot to reduce the negativity rising from not having a physical side to the relationship. So, making the occasional appointment has actually gone a long way toward keeping the relationship's good parts good -- and there are many. So, no I don't want to end things nor do I need an emotional or intellectual outlet. Those parts are fine.

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BINGO!!! We have a winner.

I remember arguments with Dakota about this. She contended that a woman's sex drive would not (could not?) just turn off as so many of us men have described. It's like when it goes, they don't even miss it, and can't figure out why we(men) are confused! Fortunately, after working on ED medical science is starting address some of women's issues (and there are many).

This, ladies, is why many of us(men) consider you such valuable elements in our lives.

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BINGO!!! We have a winner.

I remember arguments with Dakota about this. She contended that a woman's sex drive would not (could not?) just turn off as so many of us men have described. It's like when it goes, they don't even miss it, and can't figure out why we(men) are confused! Fortunately, after working on ED medical science is starting address some of women's issues (and there are many).

This, ladies, is why many of us(men) consider you such valuable elements in our lives.

Yes indeed. A woman's sex drive can simply turn off. Gone. She can be completely satisfied with her husband, life, stress level, etc. The desire to "do it" is simply gone. Believe it. I would not have made it in my marriage without the ladies, or even the thought/promise of the ladies.

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I have learned that escorts are the most AWESOME WOMEN EVER.

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Their understanding and amazing skills, especially in communication and "escape", is sometimes almost literally beyond belief.

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-How to be safe & blend with the locals in a new city/state

-Other providers don't always share your feeling of sisterhood

-Clients are not your friends, even when they're friendly

-Your safety is your responsibility

-Having healthy boundaries with clients is necessary to happiness

-Never give a discount in the hopes of snagging a regular

-Nothing that happens in the P4P world is private; people talk

-It's possible to have a long, successful career in sex work if you take care of yourself & don't do things that go against your own self-interests

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Holy shit this thread had both broken my heart and made me feel relieved. I am new and thought my situation was unique. My friends seem to have issues in marriage but not the lack of intimacy that I am experiencing. And it has cause bitterness and animosity for my wife. I currently recklessly court women on business trips or when my wife is away, and then when almost caught am depressed about how fucked up i am. Maybe this can save my marriage or maybe I will continue but I guess this is a better step then actually looking for a replacement. We'll see. Thanks you all this should be a required read.

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I have learned :

How to get past hotels that require key card access.

How to expertly put on a condom without any awkward pauses.

I have learned how to tell the difference between a real client and a guy just wasting my time.

I have learned how to use many special kind of toys and deviced for those tjat wish for them.

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Holy shit this thread had both broken my heart and made me feel relieved. I am new and thought my situation was unique. My friends seem to have issues in marriage but not the lack of intimacy that I am experiencing. And it has cause bitterness and animosity for my wife. I currently recklessly court women on business trips or when my wife is away, and then when almost caught am depressed about how fucked up i am. Maybe this can save my marriage or maybe I will continue but I guess this is a better step then actually looking for a replacement. We'll see. Thanks you all this should be a required read.

You're not at all unique. Guys like us are a cliche. We all deal with it in our own way. This is cheaper and less embarrassing than buying a Corvette. I'll give you some advice you didn't ask for.

Stop trying to find a woman to have an affair with. Either decide to stay married or decide to get divorced. If you decide to stay married, decide to fix your relationship. Everyone's moral compass is different. Mine says paying for it isn't the same as cheating. If I'm deluding myself, so be it. But I felt bad after seeing women in RL. That made my marriage worse. I feel great after these encounters. That's made my marriage better. And it only took a handfull of times to make a big difference. There is a LOT more to that story, but it would take a long time, and I'm not sure I understand it all. But to me, this is like a woman spending a day at a spa. She walks out feeling sexy and feeling good about herself. This does that for me.

Every situation is different. But I suspect a lot of guys are like me. I needed a confidence boost. You might think that you can't get that doing this. But surprisingly, you can. Don't worry if it doesn't happen right away. I have some funny experience to think back on that I can laugh at now. Some of these women are amazing, and know just what to say and do to leave you walking out with your head a little higher. With a little confidence, I started to notice that more women than I realized actually were attracted to me. I don't mean they all want to jump in bed with me. Most of this isn't sexual. But there are 100 little things I just didn't notice before. Now I do. A few weeks ago, an attractive woman started flirting with me without me initiating it. Talk about a confidence boost! That hadn't happened in years. That changes how you carry yourself. And that changes things at home. Massive oversimplification, but you get the idea.

Short version, you can only change you. Do things that will make you who you want to be. You might be surprised how much difference it makes. Be who you are. Don't beat yourself up if you make a mistake. Learn from it and move on. We all deserve to be happy. You can only get you there. But when you do, you may see a big change in your relationships with everyone, including your wife.

I'm sure it wouldn't work for everyone. But I can only speak from my experience. YMMV.

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Sex budget; I've learned it is more satisfying to hobby less often and spend more to get what I want, than to hobby more frequently and not be as satisfied.

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I have learned that some of the ladies pics in their ads are model quality. I have actually told a few ladies that their pics are of that nature.

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