Relationships during/after escorting question

[imwhoim]

Yesterday I got on Match.com to check it out. Last time I looked was prior to being on TOB and P411. I saw ads on Match from four ladies in Denver and NoCo I recognized from P411 who say they are interested in marriage or LTR including one I had just met with a few days prior. All were in late 30s to early 40s and are above average in appearance. Surely they generate lots of interest from the guys.

Makes me wonder what it would be like dating someone who escorts for a living. Or do the ladies plan to quit if they find a SO?

I have been seeing one lady almost exclusively on a very regular basis for the last few months. We know each other pretty well by now. It's been kind of like having an office wife with benefits. We spend time together and have a good time and go our separate ways at the end of the day. She is someone I would definitely be interested in really dating if the opportunity were there. This morning I was tempted to ask her out as a civilian, but, don't want to ruin a good thing.

Do you ladies date or have SOs?

[macho]

I dated an escort for 2 weeks but I suck, though normal person could of done maybe a 3 or 4 weeks. If I was you I would ask her out. The worst thing you could do is not try. Do you want to be the guy 1 month down the line say man I should of asked her out. The second worst thing you could do is make things awkward and she may distance herself. If you don't go for it you never know what could of been. IDK man make your own mistakes. The real question should be: Hey escorts where should I take this chick on my first civilian date with her?

[Audrey Astor]

Sticky situation.... I have not made it a secret that it is difficult to have an SO while doing this, although it does work for some folks.

I had a client ask me out... it felt like he just wanted a free session. Afterall most on dating sites are not really looking for a relationship, but rather a fwb or free sex. IDK.... guess I'm a little jaded. If you did ask out a provider, it may be better to see one that you have not seen professionally.

Just curious... Are you genuinely looking for a SO or LTR or sex? No right or wrong answer.

[Guest]

Yesterday I got on Match.com to check it out. Last time I looked was prior to being on TOB and P411. I saw ads on Match from four ladies in Denver and NoCo I recognized from P411 who say they are interested in marriage or LTR including one I had just met with a few days prior. All were in late 30s to early 40s and are above average in appearance. Surely they generate lots of interest from the guys.

Makes me wonder what it would be like dating someone who escorts for a living. Or do the ladies plan to quit if they find a SO?

I have been seeing one lady almost exclusively on a very regular basis for the last few months. We know each other pretty well by now. It's been kind of like having an office wife with benefits. We spend time together and have a good time and go our separate ways at the end of the day. She is someone I would definitely be interested in really dating if the opportunity were there. This morning I was tempted to ask her out as a civilian, but, don't want to ruin a good thing.

Do you ladies date or have SOs?

You never know, maybe this morning when she woak up, she may have realized she wants to be with you too. But doesn't cross any lines.

Your approach here is obviously genuine. If your seeking only sex then don't ask her out. If honest validation is what you're looking for, how about ruling out sex? Removing it from the equation for a while might help clarify your feelings. Trying to substitute sex for love or even attraction doesn't work--they're separate things.

Think about it from her perspective: she's probably not used to guys being interested in her personality--they objectify her and she takes their money. Taking Sex & Money off the table will show you if she's interested in anything else. Matter of fact, it'll also show you if you are interested in anything else. Make sense?

Now, if you feel there is a connection I say go for it. Do not let the finer things in life pass you up. This girls may like you return. Life live like its your last breath with no mistakes. By asking her out is not mistake trust me. When opportunity comes knocking on your door, do you shun it? Or open the door an introduce yourself? If you feel this girls special, CALL HER, set up a time to talk to her, (not work) she may say yes to you.

Fuck what everyone else thinks at this point. Go for it. Ask her. You know what, if you don't do it, you may regret it later.

[EuropeanMonger]

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[Seeking ~P]

Sticky situation....most on dating sites are not really looking for a relationship, but rather a fwb or free sex.

Free sex

[2Big]

Fucking a working girl off the clock, in a kind of fwb type of arrangement? Sure, why not?

Dating and relationship???? Hell to the no! Run, run as fast as you can.

Not in a million years would I ever date an escort. Most working girls are nuttier than a bunch of squirrels hibernating.

Ladies, please don't spoil a perfectly good fucking relationship with romantic notions.

[pitbull]

To be fair...squirrels are industrious and organized creatures.

[Jez UaBriain]

AM- weren't you just in the hospital? Yea, I think I would be a bit on the vulnerable side too with that experience.

What I have found is it is best to not be looking. If it happens-then it does. But having failed miserably at marriage (twice) who am I to even profess having the answers?

[imwhoim]

Sticky situation.... I have not made it a secret that it is difficult to have an SO while doing this, although it does work for some folks.

I had a client ask me out... it felt like he just wanted a free session. Afterall most on dating sites are not really looking for a relationship, but rather a fwb or free sex. IDK.... guess I'm a little jaded. If you did ask out a provider, it may be better to see one that you have not seen professionally.

Just curious... Are you genuinely looking for a SO or LTR or sex? No right or wrong answer.

I have always been a serial monogamist. The last few months of seeing escorts has confirmed for me that I am happiest in a committed relationship. I like seeing you lovely ladies, but, there is still an unfulfilled hole in my soul.

I can honestly say that I have never cheated on someone when in a relationship. Intellectually I don't believe in monogamy, but, have never had the opportunity to try out a non-monogamous relationship. I guess dating an escort would be the ultimate test of that theory.

I am a bit gun shy of a real commitment at this point, but, definitely miss having a SO to go out to dinner, shows, concerts, etc. So I would like that with the freedom on both sides to take time to really get to know each other and make sure that we are a really good match before jumping into a commitment again.

Not looking for free sex. I am willing to pay. I would not defraud a lady by pretending to be in a relationship only for free sex. Just not that kind of guy.

You never know, maybe this morning when she woak up, she may have realized she wants to be with you too. But doesn't cross any lines.

Your approach here is obviously genuine. If your seeking only sex then don't ask her out. If honest validation is what you're looking for, how about ruling out sex? Removing it from the equation for a while might help clarify your feelings. Trying to substitute sex for love or even attraction doesn't work--they're separate things.

Think about it from her perspective: she's probably not used to guys being interested in her personality--they objectify her and she takes their money. Taking Sex & Money off the table will show you if she's interested in anything else. Matter of fact, it'll also show you if you are interested in anything else. Make sense?

Now, if you feel there is a connection I say go for it. Do not let the finer things in life pass you up. This girls may like you return. Life live like its your last breath with no mistakes. By asking her out is not mistake trust me. When opportunity comes knocking on your door, do you shun it? Or open the door an introduce yourself? If you feel this girls special, CALL HER, set up a time to talk to her, (not work) she may say yes to you.

Fuck what everyone else thinks at this point. Go for it. Ask her. You know what, if you don't do it, you may regret it later.

Sage advice oh wise one. Thanks.

[Lucy Kitten]

I have always been a serial monogamist. The last few months of seeing escorts has confirmed for me that I am happiest in a committed relationship. I like seeing you lovely ladies, but, there is still an unfulfilled hole in my soul.

I can honestly say that I have never cheated on someone when in a relationship. Intellectually I don't believe in monogamy, but, have never had the opportunity to try out a non-monogamous relationship. I guess dating an escort would be the ultimate test of that theory.

I am a bit gun shy of a real commitment at this point, but, definitely miss having a SO to go out to dinner, shows, concerts, etc. So I would like that with the freedom on both sides to take time to really get to know each other and make sure that we are a really good match before jumping into a commitment again.

Not looking for free sex. I am willing to pay. I would not defraud a lady by pretending to be in a relationship only for free sex. Just not that kind of guy.

Sage advice oh wise one. Thanks.

The only way to know if a non-monogamous relationship will work for you is to really try one. Seeing a variety of escorts is the not the same as meeting someone and agreeing on an open relationship.

Relationships can be whatever you want them to be with whomever (job is irrelevant) as long as you communicate what your wants and needs are.

[boink36]

Yesterday I got on Match.com to check it out. Last time I looked was prior to being on TOB and P411. I saw ads on Match from four ladies in Denver and NoCo I recognized from P411 who say they are interested in marriage or LTR including one I had just met with a few days prior. All were in late 30s to early 40s and are above average in appearance. Surely they generate lots of interest from the guys.

Makes me wonder what it would be like dating someone who escorts for a living. Or do the ladies plan to quit if they find a SO?

I have been seeing one lady almost exclusively on a very regular basis for the last few months. We know each other pretty well by now. It's been kind of like having an office wife with benefits. We spend time together and have a good time and go our separate ways at the end of the day. She is someone I would definitely be interested in really dating if the opportunity were there. This morning I was tempted to ask her out as a civilian, but, don't want to ruin a good thing.

Do you ladies date or have SOs?

I don't know why anyone would find this surprising. our escorts here have the same wants and desires as any other woman would. most of them have more understanding of peoples needs than women who are not in the business.

[Jez UaBriain]

Quoting. Twobig:

Ladies, please don't spoil a perfectly good fucking relationship with romantic notions.

The same can be said of the hobbiests. Good way to screw up a good screwing relationship is to get all serious on us.

[Guest]

I don't know why anyone would find this surprising. our escorts here have the same wants and desires as any other woman would. most of them have more understanding of peoples needs than women who are not in the business.

Boink, this hits home. Your right.

[Guest]

AM- weren't you just in the hospital? Yea, I think I would be a bit on the vulnerable side too with that experience.

What I have found is it is best to not be looking. If it happens-then it does. But having failed miserably at marriage (twice) who am I to even profess having the answers?

I seem to run guys off. Im not sure why. They commit suicide because of odds reasons after I get attached, that have nothing to with me. I pick the wrong the men in general. If I found someone that would great. But I am picky in whom my lover is. For that reason alone, I will probably stay alone.

I have found this: I purposely choose to stay to myself now, its drama free, it is stress free, no hurt feelings, hassle free. Quite frankly, I don't have to give a ratzs ass anymore about what people think in general. Iv grown to simply not give a shit. I don't have to give a shit about another person who doesn't give two shits about me. Just being honest. Yes I just that.

But in the past 2 years, the things that have occurred to me have changed me permanently. I am no longer the same person anymore. But Iv come to the consolation that meeting someone is no longer an option for me. I gave up. For now, I like it this way. I have FWB's, few people who are true friends. I am now living life to its fullest.

Sooooo... here I am! As far as I am concerned hooking is best thing life. I love it.

I used to think differently. But as Iv said, with all the bullshit in the past in the past two years... I am no longer the same person.

I don't give a shit anymore. But I will continue to try and be the best at what I know I am good at. That is servicing men. I actually like it. This isn't something I have to do to make money. I choose it. I could get a real job if I choose too. I choose not too.

[JRWolfe]

Quoting. Twobig:

Ladies, please don't spoil a perfectly good fucking relationship with romantic notions.

The same can be said of the hobbiests. Good way to screw up a good screwing relationship is to get all serious on us.

Having come from the world of porn,where its always been the rule to be nice before,during,after and between acting in front of the camera and/or working behind it. I find it quite amusing that ,more often than not, giving ladies in this world the same gentlemanly courtsey...gets misread as often as it does.

HUGE difference betwen getting all serious and setting a pre rendezvous mood .

[Kaduk]

Having come from the world of porn,where its always been the rule to be nice before,during,after and between acting in front of the camera and/or working behind it. I find it quite amusing that ,more often than not, giving ladies in this world the same gentlemanly courtesy...gets misread as often as it does.

HUGE difference between getting all serious and setting a pre rendezvous mood .

Hey;

but is it still OK to Flirt....

[JRWolfe]

Hey;

but is it still OK to Flirt....

My point exactly !! In the world of porn.. a big yes, in the world of photography..make her feel good,but not threatened, in the world of escorting...anything can be misread ,including non stalking/non relationship looking ...flirting !!

[Lucy Kitten]

My point exactly !! In the world of porn.. a big yes, in the world of photography..make her feel good,but not threatened, in the world of escorting...anything can be misread ,including non stalking/non relationship looking ...flirting !!

In the world of escorting the flirting is misinterpreted because of the nature of the job. Porn not so intimate and photography doesn't often have physical contact. Post coitus it's easy to confuse flirting with something more than it is. It seems that maybe stalking needs to be a topic of its own.

[JRWolfe]

In the world of escorting the flirting is misinterpreted because of the nature of the job. Porn not so intimate and photography doesn't often have physical contact. Post coitus it's easy to confuse flirting with something more than it is. It seems that maybe stalking needs to be a topic of its own.

Stalking is indeed a whole other subject. Just for the record,because you kinda gave the impression that I do...ask any model thats been here and they will confirm that I don't stalk. Heck, they would be in shock if they heard from me again.

[Lucy Kitten]

Stalking is indeed a whole other subject. Just for the record,because you kinda gave the impression that I do...ask any model thats been here and they will confirm that I don't stalk. Heck, they would be in shock if they heard from me again.

I did not mean it that way at all and maybe should have clarified that statement. Stalker is a word used way too loosely around here and it works it's way into all sorts of conversations where it doesn't really belong.

[Sweet Hannah]

A relationship can work if everyone is honest and trustworthy. Some things are best left unsaid. The less he knows about the details the better. I don't think it would be a good idea to date someone you met while on a "date". If you met her and later found out she was an escort would work out better in my opinion.

How different would it be if she was a stripper? (Don't have to answer, just thinking out loud)

Would you want to know if she's in a relationship or should that be another one of her lies?

If she's in a relationship would you view her different, how would that affect your decision in seeing her?

[macho]

Yesterday I got on Match.com to check it out. Last time I looked was prior to being on TOB and P411. I saw ads on Match from four ladies in Denver and NoCo I recognized from P411 who say they are interested in marriage or LTR including one I had just met with a few days prior. All were in late 30s to early 40s and are above average in appearance. Surely they generate lots of interest from the guys.

Makes me wonder what it would be like dating someone who escorts for a living. Or do the ladies plan to quit if they find a SO?

I have been seeing one lady almost exclusively on a very regular basis for the last few months. We know each other pretty well by now. It's been kind of like having an office wife with benefits. We spend time together and have a good time and go our separate ways at the end of the day. She is someone I would definitely be interested in really dating if the opportunity were there. This morning I was tempted to ask her out as a civilian, but, don't want to ruin a good thing.

Do you ladies date or have SOs?

Hey dancing bear I just wanted to let you know I was wondering how things worked out for you? When you do know please let us know and don't skip the juicy details good or bad.

[imwhoim]

Hey dancing bear I just wanted to let you know I was wondering how things worked out for you? When you do know please let us know and don't skip the juicy details good or bad.

I have not done anything yet. Besides being rich, handsome, funny, kind and a generous and fantastic lover, I really don't have anything to offer this beautiful lady. So I am doubting myself. But, don't worry. You all will be invited to the wedding if it happens! I will need a macho man there to keep me from running away.

[Guest]

I have not done anything yet. Besides being rich, handsome, funny, kind and a generous and fantastic lover, I really don't have anything to offer this beautiful lady. So I am doubting myself. But, don't worry. You all will be invited to the wedding if it happens! I will need a macho man there to keep me from running away.

This will be an epic event!!!!

[imwhoim]

This will be an epic event!!!!

I hope everyone understands sarcasm when they read it.

Yea. Oxy will need to add a new type of dating ad category. Sounds like a new revenue stream. Or maybe that already exists at www.sugardaddy.com

So this week I went on two civilian dates for the first time in a while. Kinda boring actually. No real connections for me. But, both gals initiated make out sessions before the night was over. So I guess I still got a little game left without paying for it. But, feel like I need to change my moniker from imwhoim to i2mapig. Ha

And last night was a weird first. Had a Skype date (can you fuckin' believe it?) with this attorney/college professor from Brazil who next year is coming here to teach for a semester. She is very much my idealized physical type with a very cute face, long black hair and a fit, curvy body. Kinda blew me away actually. And we seemed to hit it off. After an hour, she laid on her side with her hand propping up her head and she hiked up her brightly colored flower print halter top dress and started to massage her thighs and lick her lips as we talked. And then she passionately kissed the screen when we said goodbye. Supposed to talk again today. Who knows where this could lead?

Did that give you some material to work with macho?

Any way, when I went to bed last night and when I woke up this morning I was still thinking about the original object of this post. Is there such a thing as mental stalking? So will finally commit to talking with her when she gets back from vacation. Wish me luck! But, I probably won't let you know what happens. Sorry!

[imwhoim]

So I am wondering why the ladies say it would be better to date someone you met in the civilian world and then tell him what you do. It does not make sense to me. Is this so you can keep your lives separate or because you think he won't be able to separate it. Seems to me that a guy already active here could be more understanding of your situation and willing to accept it. Thoughts?

[macho]

And last night was a weird first. Had a Skype date (can you fuckin' believe it?) with this attorney/college professor from Brazil who next year is coming here to teach for a semester. She is very much my idealized physical type with a very cute face, long black hair and a fit, curvy body. Kinda blew me away actually. And we seemed to hit it off. After an hour, she laid on her side with her hand propping up her head and she hiked up her brightly colored flower print halter top dress and started to massage her thighs and lick her lips as we talked. And then she passionately kissed the screen when we said goodbye. Supposed to talk again today. Who knows where this could lead?

Did that give you some material to work with macho?

Not really. I found it pretty hard to masturbate to. I'll just wait for the real thing when your obeject of your affection makes it back.

[socutesocurvy]

I am going through this right now. Usually when I date personally on about the 3rd date, I will casually bring up sex work with a joke and see how the guy takes it. In my last serious relationship after about 8 weeks of dating and him professing his love for me, I told him straight up about it and if he wanted me to quit. I had made lots of sex worker jokes and we would discuss how important I think sex worker rights are since about the 3rd date. He was supportive and understood the positives to being a hobbyist and a provider. He did say he was really surprised that I was a provider. lol He wanted me to quit and was fine covering my expenses as he made pretty good money. That relationship lasted several months. Now, I am starting to get a little serious with this new guy I am seeing. I made a sex worker joke and he lost it. lol Totally not supportive of the industry! No idea what I am going to do on this one. lol

[2Big]

And last night was a weird first. Had a Skype date (can you fuckin' believe it?) with this attorney/college professor from Brazil who next year is coming here to teach for a semester. She is very much my idealized physical type with a very cute face, long black hair and a fit, curvy body. Kinda blew me away actually. And we seemed to hit it off. After an hour, she laid on her side with her hand propping up her head and she hiked up her brightly colored flower print halter top dress and started to massage her thighs and lick her lips as we talked. And then she passionately kissed the screen when we said goodbye. Supposed to talk again today. Who knows where this could lead?

Yarite.