Posted September 27, 2013 All too often I meet these wonderful gentlemen that, bless their hearts, actually care if I have an orgasm. Which obviously is not a dilemma, because I absolutely LOVE orgasms! The dilemma comes into play when my partner wants me to cum from activities that, generally, do not make me cum. For example; even though you think that it is erotic and hot and sexy, I am not going to be able to climax from you rubbing your boner on my thigh. I greatly appreciate when somebody allows me to climax the way that I climax. If I cannot achieve climax from oral, not your fault, not a big deal. Now, let's move onto something that WILL actually make me climax, assuming that's what you want. I am a huge fan of DATY, both giving and receiving! About 98% of the time that I receive, I do NOT climax from this particular activity. That is okay. This does not mean that I love this activity any less than if I just glazed your face. But time and time again, my partner looks at me with big sad puppy eyes, like he somehow failed me because I could not climax from his oral stimulation. Big fat fucking eye roll... So, you want me to climax the way that YOU want me to climax, whether it works for me or not is irrelevant, huh? Guys, if you want your lady to TRULY enjoy herself, and not fake it, maybe you could ask her what gets her off instead of EXPECTING her to have a mind-blowing orgasm from your wickedly awesome hurricane tougne and then get all butt hurt and shit it when your tongue didn't do the job. Which leads me to my question. How many of you, because I know there are plenty, prefer that we just lie and fake it and tell you that you are the best pussy eater on the face of the earth? 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 I perfer that you tell me what you like and teach me ways to get better. I don't want any faking. If it happens it happens. As long as we both have great fun together I'm happy. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 tell me........ tell me I am the best. Have to do oral can't do anything else so I must be the best..... RIGHT. In general if that is what gets him off then fake it but try to do it convincingly. It will bring the client back if that is what you want. He will think he had a fantastic session from you and that makes him leave happier. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 Yes, dammit. I want you cum. And if the only way thats gonna happen is for me to wear a grass skirt and dance the hula, then I'm willing. But, I'm not a mind reader, and I'm kinda slow. So when I ask what the lady likes and she says anything....I'm gonna take her at her word. If I ask what you like, grab me by the ears.....look me in the eyes....and tell me. Speak slowly and use little words. And when I try it.....if I'm not doing it right, tell me how I can do it better. I WANT to know how to do this...and do it right. Because....deep down....my biggest fear is that I don't If I KNOW my lady has enjoyed herself, my excitement level and enjoyment will be increased by an order of magnitude. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 All too often I meet these wonderful gentlemen that, bless their hearts, actually care if I have an orgasm. Which obviously is not a dilemma, because I absolutely LOVE orgasms! The dilemma comes into play when my partner wants me to cum from activities that, generally, do not make me cum. For example; even though you think that it is erotic and hot and sexy, I am not going to be able to climax from you rubbing your boner on my thigh. I greatly appreciate when somebody allows me to climax the way that I climax. If I cannot achieve climax from oral, not your fault, not a big deal. Now, let's move onto something that WILL actually make me climax, assuming that's what you want. I am a huge fan of DATY, both giving and receiving! About 98% of the time that I receive, I do NOT climax from this particular activity. That is okay. This does not mean that I love this activity any less than if I just glazed your face. But time and time again, my partner looks at me with big sad puppy eyes, like he somehow failed me because I could not climax from his oral stimulation. Big fat fucking eye roll... So, you want me to climax the way that YOU want me to climax, whether it works for me or not is irrelevant, huh? Guys, if you want your lady to TRULY enjoy herself, and not fake it, maybe you could ask her what gets her off instead of EXPECTING her to have a mind-blowing orgasm from your wickedly awesome hurricane tougne and then get all butt hurt and shit it when your tongue didn't do the job. Which leads me to my question. How many of you, because I know there are plenty, prefer that we just lie and fake it and tell you that you are the best pussy eater on the face of the earth? +1 on the pic that's funny. I find that it's more fun to just play and not worry or obsess about orgasms. Just have fun. When both players are relaxed having fun then more orgasms seem to happen. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 One day men will understand that women in 28 days can go from kidnapping the bagboy in the supermarket at gun point to fuck him to vomit at the thought of sex and not to mention that some would become almost psychotic for few days (sorry but it is true ) at some point. All are easily explained in terms of evolution and reproduction . men are fucking simple creatures. women are........ 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 I am usually happy with either! As long as we have fun, or SEEM to have fun, I'll enjoy the appointment. The girl doesn't HAVE to orgasm, nor does she HAVE to fake it. My ego is secure without her cumming (I am paying, after all). My opinion: Let's just have fun, and do whatever we both agree to! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 Whether it is televangelists, politicians, boobs or orgasms I hate fakes. So please do not fake one and for the love of sex if you do fake one make it convincing. Almost nothing worse in terms of turnoff than obviously faking. Ideally you WILL tell me I am fantastic at (fill in the blank) but will only tell me that because I really am. To that end if every lady tells me I am great at something when i'm not, I will continue doing the same lame shit and never get any better. I love it when a lady tells me how I can be better. Yes, I would like any intimate partner to cum and it is a turn on for me if she does, but I'm not a mind reader. You gotta tell me what you like and don't. And lastly, if I book 15 or 30 minutes (rare) all that is on my mind is I cum and get the hell out. If I book one or more hours (normal) , well .... see above. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 I don't have giant amounts of hobby experience but when I have had encounters I just see the woman as a person. The business side of it is a technicality and it all amounts to me and the other person. I like to be happy and I love making other people happy. If I'm talking to friends I want them to have a good time talking to me. If I'm seeing a provider it's usually because I'm feeling that I'm not getting something basic from outside sources, so I want that, but it really feels good she is enjoying me too. I recently saw someone who was really GOOD at what they do but I felt like the encounter had little impact on her. I enjoyed the sensations I got, but still think about her in puzzlement, like what is her mind and body like? That did not feel as good as times when I knew, by feel, etc that the woman was having a good time. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 One day men will understand that women in 28 days can go from kidnapping the bagboy in the supermarket at gun point to fuck him to vomit at the thought of sex and not to mention that some would become almost psychotic for few days (sorry but it is true ) at some point. All are easily explained in terms of evolution and reproduction . men are fucking simple creatures. women are........ The great mystery that I have been trying to solve for 60 years has now been answered in 5 minutes! Genius! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 Love it when a lady has her O or O's, some ladies deserve an academy award for it, which to me is ok just as long as it is not over done. Would rather have that then just lie there and give you a look like are you done yet. I am sure most of the hobbyists can tell if the lady is faking or not. I guess just as long as both parties have a good time. To me nothing sexier then when a lady has a true O. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 If it happens it happens. Plenty of other ways to have a mutually enjoyable time. But, do not fake. That's sort of lame. If there is a way that works for you, then by all means give guidance. I have a 'friend' who is good at this & so things work out well for her and I like earning the Gold Star. She'll also say "Hey, nice try, there Skippy, but just not going to happen today. Let's try this..." Communication is good. All too often I meet these wonderful gentlemen that, bless their hearts, actually care if I have an orgasm. Which obviously is not a dilemma, because I absolutely LOVE orgasms! The dilemma comes into play when my partner wants me to cum from activities that, generally, do not make me cum. For example; even though you think that it is erotic and hot and sexy, I am not going to be able to climax from you rubbing your boner on my thigh. I greatly appreciate when somebody allows me to climax the way that I climax. If I cannot achieve climax from oral, not your fault, not a big deal. Now, let's move onto something that WILL actually make me climax, assuming that's what you want. I am a huge fan of DATY, both giving and receiving! About 98% of the time that I receive, I do NOT climax from this particular activity. That is okay. This does not mean that I love this activity any less than if I just glazed your face. But time and time again, my partner looks at me with big sad puppy eyes, like he somehow failed me because I could not climax from his oral stimulation. Big fat fucking eye roll... So, you want me to climax the way that YOU want me to climax, whether it works for me or not is irrelevant, huh? Guys, if you want your lady to TRULY enjoy herself, and not fake it, maybe you could ask her what gets her off instead of EXPECTING her to have a mind-blowing orgasm from your wickedly awesome hurricane tougne and then get all butt hurt and shit it when your tongue didn't do the job. Which leads me to my question. How many of you, because I know there are plenty, prefer that we just lie and fake it and tell you that you are the best pussy eater on the face of the earth? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 Damn it Destiny, you said the tongue was awesome and you didn't fake it. I don't care one way or the other. have a real one or fake one or you can even fake two and have one real one. hell if I'm not done at the end of the hour we can both fake one at the same time! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 (edited) I don't care one way or the other. have a real one or fake one or you can even fake two and have one real one. Hell if I'm not done at the end of the hour we can both fake one at the same time! +1, and in re the bold: BTDT(more than once)! Edited September 27, 2013 by MrReindeer Science! and because self deprecation is an Art... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 27, 2013 I definitely want to know what brings her pleasure. If she provides guidance and instruction all the better. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 No faking ...it is what it is. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 oh brother, where are all them bidness advisors when you need 'em? all this namby-pamby mush about getting the girls off or thinking you get the girls off and wanting to get the girls off. sheesh! that isn't what this is about and never has been. pumping your ego (and other things) is if your self-perception of your own studliness depends on your perception of getting the girl off, then just request it at the beginning of the session as you recite her your desired abc's off her menu list say something like, "gee, i'd really like it if you'd cum when i cum so it will remind me of the gals i see at my local amp. they make me feel so big and strong." 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 I would prefer if you actually cum. Tell me what you want, because that turns me on. Being vocal and communicative is great. I have done FBSM a lot, but only the ASP experience twice (yeah, pretty much a total newbie). In the FBSM realm, it is obviously all about the client. After all, you just lay there. In the escort zone, well, it's not all about you. The ego and the need/want to PLEASE A WOMAN automatically kicks in. In my two ASP experiences, the DATY was the least satisfying part of the experience. I THOUGHT I was pretty good at it, but did not get much response. So perhaps I'm not as good as I thought I was. I accept that. The lack of response from the ladies, who were wonderful by the way, kind of perplexed me. I took the hint and stopped. To answer Destiny's question -- fake or don't fake -- I think a little bit of faking might have been nice, not a faked orgasm, but faked enjoyment. I don't know. I have seen some ads where ladies say, "it is all about you," and I take that to mean that she is saying, "I am here to please you, and you don't have to stress about pleasing me." However, as I said, I'm new to this whole subculture. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 I really want you to have a good time and cum and am willing to do what ever it takes, but if you can't that's OK as long as I get to. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 From the other side, I cum hard from a hand job. If I'd get the same effect by doing it myself, I wouldn't hobby. So why do women get so upset, when after they fake cumming, I want a hand job instead of cumming inside? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 So, you want me to climax the way that YOU want me to climax, whether it works for me or not is irrelevant, huh? No, I want you to climax the way you want to climax. There is a 99% chance I am going to climax and as long as she has a good attitude I know I'm going to have a good time so I'm good with her guiding things so she can have a good time as well. Guys, if you want your lady to TRULY enjoy herself, and not fake it, maybe you could ask her what gets her off That's an option but I like it when she subtly guides me to it. Every woman is different and one style does not work for all. During DATY some like one finger, others like two fingers and some prefer no fingers. Kinda hard to guess so if you have a preference a quick whisper in my ear can be very sexy. It doesn't have to be GPS style instructions but some hints can help us both have a great time. Which leads me to my question. How many of you, because I know there are plenty, prefer that we just lie and fake it and tell you that you are the best pussy eater on the face of the earth? I would rather have the truth than to think I am good at something when I am not. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 Okay, let's assume you're serious. The answer is embedded in your question. If anyone wants you to have an orgasm they will be more than happy to meet your needs. I've had this issue before, as a hobbist, and I simply ask, would you like to cum and what gets you off. How about this. I've had occasions where I just don't want to cum and the provider freaks out. Do I have to cum? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 28, 2013 boy, i sure wish i could think of those kinds of things to say. i'm usually tongue-tied, which ain't necessarily a bad thing. i guess i miss the old days when a lot was said without talking (to paraphrase the immortal Yogi Barra). like in the movies where two people looked into each other's eyes, the camera moved in for a close-up and then the violins began a long, slow crescendo. in these modern times, tho, there seems to be an app for nearly everything. from the Irony Department, i present How to say "love is unspoken" in 35 languages: http://www.howtosayin.com/love+is+unspoken.html helpful if you get the urge to do a girl in Urdu. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2013 So Destiny what does bring you to Orgasm? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2013 So Destiny what does bring you to Orgasm? She can answer that question in this thread Ladies, how do you masturbate when you're alone? In front of a client? BuT not here on this thread.... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2013 what I find is that most Jons do not want to take the time it takes to give me a major O, so it gets old. so I just act though it is the best thing in the world!!!It works no worries in the world. lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2013 what I find is that most Jons do not want to take the time it takes to give me a major O, so it gets old. so I just act though it is the best thing in the world!!!It works no worries in the world. lilithia Have you ever tried asking? I'm asking that objectively. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 29, 2013 I do believe I've been with someone that faked it. It just seemed over the top. If you want to reach orgasm, lead me along if I am going down the wrong path. If you want to fake it, don't go for an academy award. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
