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Do you want us to ACTUALLY cum or should we fake it?

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Interesting topic & I can see both perspectives here. Personally I don't see what the issue of faking the orgasm would be... gives the gentleman/client a boost of confidence, and illustrates the enthusiasm of the ASP ( which must be appealing to her partner). Many women ( myself not included) cannot often orgasm from certain activities or even penetration. This can often be alarming to men, who, at no fault of their own, can't make her climax, and make take personal responsibility for that. I imagine that it also might hurt her business- if the gentleman doesn't think he can please her, he may look elsewhere. On the other hand if the desire of authenticity is discussed within the appointment, then acknowledgement of ones desires surrounding this can be communicated and fulfilled. Ive never analyzed it too much throughout my adult sexual life, in lieu of climax, sometimes theatrics is part of the fun perhaps ? ;)

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Ive never analyzed it too much throughout my adult sexual life, in lieu of climax,

sometimes theatrics is part of the fun perhaps
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Interesting topic & I can see both perspectives here. Personally I don't see what the issue of faking the orgasm would be... gives the gentleman/client a boost of confidence, and illustrates the enthusiasm of the ASP ( which must be appealing to her partner). Many women ( myself not included) cannot often orgasm from certain activities or even penetration. This can often be alarming to men, who, at no fault of their own, can't make her climax, and make take personal responsibility for that. I imagine that it also might hurt her business- if the gentleman doesn't think he can please her, he may look elsewhere. On the other hand if the desire of authenticity is discussed within the appointment, then acknowledgement of ones desires surrounding this can be communicated and fulfilled. Ive never analyzed it too much throughout my adult sexual life, in lieu of climax, sometimes theatrics is part of the fun perhaps ? ;)

I must say, about women in general, if I can't feel an erect clitoris I'm wondering what's going on. Some women are instantly excited and some you can do everything under the sun and there seems to be nothing going on.

I'm more puzzled by this than alarmed. It makes me worry about the person, including providers, because I know something is going on. My biggest hope is that the woman actually LIKES sex with men and that I'm not part of some private trauma she's acting out with me.

Regarding men, if you're relaxed, confident, and physically okay, you're going to get an erection and enjoy yourself. It's all overt while women's bodies are far more covert and difficult to evaluate. The sex organs can be used while not even "activated" and that freaks me out a bit.

Anyway, if I had my wish none of these problems would exist.

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...I find that it's more fun to just play and not worry or obsess about orgasms. Just have fun. When both players are relaxed having fun then more orgasms seem to happen.
Definitely agree with this Nusa, besides, most ladies will give you some type of queue if you are positioned where you need to be :cool:
That scene never gets old!
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I must say, about women in general, if I can't feel an erect clitoris I'm wondering what's going on. Some women are instantly excited and some you can do everything under the sun and there seems to be nothing going on.

I'm more puzzled by this than alarmed. It makes me worry about the person, including providers, because I know something is going on. My biggest hope is that the woman actually LIKES sex with men and that I'm not part of some private trauma she's acting out with me.

Regarding men, if you're relaxed, confident, and physically okay, you're going to get an erection and enjoy yourself. It's all overt while women's bodies are far more covert and difficult to evaluate. The sex organs can be used while not even "activated" and that freaks me out a bit.

Anyway, if I had my wish none of these problems would exist.

Hoping that my opinion on this is not too unpopular but here are my thoughts

on it anyway. In the case of an ASP, they are never sure who they are going to be physically attracted to or stimulated by sexually. Everyone has their preferences and it doesn't happen with everyone ( it doesn't mean they shouldn't express avid enthusiasm in the activities on their menu with all clients) but it's not realistic to think every provider is going to be turned on by everyone they meet. It doesn't mean shes going to turn him away... but shes not in this for the orgasms necessarily, he is. A woman can love sex in general, and a particular man can do everything he can to please her, be great at it... & it

still might not happen. A sexual experience for a woman is often more intellectually & intuitively complex than it is for a man, sometimes it has more to do with emotional connection than skill level or mechanics.

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No Faking. Best I can assume, yes assume is that you have an OK time. We can tell when you are going thru the motions some of the time. When that happens, you become 3G. The times where its fake are most always the only times I've not been able to get off.

The other side of this is you have to do so very little to get us going. We have to let you know what we like. We hope you know what to do and almost always you do. If the conversation includes you getting off, you have to tell us. My ATF seldom gets off. When it happens I call BONUS.

I cant always get my partner off, nor do I expect to.

One of my partners said she hardly ever gets off. But she was far and away the best of the best at what she did. Women are different than us, thankfully. For those who try to identify the differences, good luck. Such a wonderful study though. That study does include how to get you off. Im usually happy with the visuals and actuals

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Personally I don't mind the fake AS long as it is well played. For example it needs to be ten minutes into and during a particularity hot moment where it is fairly clear that the lady is already genuinely enjoying her time. If done well enough were I can't tell, then I feel great about myself and we both win. If however, and this has happened to me, that it gets faked thirty seconds into DATY and it's obvious that it is a thinly hidden way of saying let's get on so you get yours and leave... If that's the case, I won't return.

So, for me it's all in the context. I get that you may be having adult time for the third time today and there comes a point where it may be fun as hell, but getting over the top might be out of the cards.

Just my opinion

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Hoping that my opinion on this is not too unpopular but here are my thoughts

on it anyway. In the case of an ASP, they are never sure who they are going to be physically attracted to or stimulated by sexually. Everyone has their preferences and it doesn't happen with everyone ( it doesn't mean they shouldn't express avid enthusiasm in the activities on their menu with all clients) but it's not realistic to think every provider is going to be turned on by everyone they meet. It doesn't mean shes going to turn him away... but shes not in this for the orgasms necessarily, he is. A woman can love sex in general, and a particular man can do everything he can to please her, be great at it... & it

still might not happen. A sexual experience for a woman is often more intellectually & intuitively complex than it is for a man, sometimes it has more to do with emotional connection than skill level or mechanics.

I certainly agree.

I was speaking about women in general I've been with and completely get what you're saying about providers. It would be weirdly naive to think that a woman in this business would be excited about every single man they encountered. It would be highly unusual to come even close to liking a higher percentage than not.

I look a LOT like this one professional wrestler, but I work in psych and have a very sympathetic and nonviolent mind, so I'm a living contradiction type of person. This creates weird encounters for me where both men and women are frequently scared of me, then I have to work to sooth then through humor and whatnot.

I can only vaguely imagine what it must be like to be a provider! Guys are meeting you for the first time and what is in their mind about you? It can't be based on who you really are so minds are in a totally different reality. What conclusions do you make when first meeting a guy and what's going on in your mind the whole time? That's really tough for me as a man to imagine!

Anyway, my typical intro to people is "I'm a nice person and not going to body slam you, no matter what." And, I'm sure you have your own version of the same.

On a humorous note, I NEED to make an intellectual connection with a regular life woman or I'm not interested. That's because I need to know she's not a sinister person who is going to make me miserable. Meanwhile, I almost NEVER worry about providers because I consider them honest. We're going to do XYZ and that's what happens. In the real world, I have rarely had XYZ happen because most people cannot stick to being who they say they are.

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Would love it if it really happened for you rather than pretending. I would hope if I am not doing it "right" to get you there then some gentle requests to change technique,position etc to make it better for u would be appreciated. I do like to give it the ol' college try :-) if it's not going to happen I understand that and then my attention turns to what I am there for and I want to make sure it is happening for me (and maybe more than once) ;-)

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If you want to put on an act for my sake let's both hope you are good enough to fool me. Chances are that you will.

But I really would like the woman to cum. A couple of times she has shown me the proof or has soaked the sheets.

I had one escort 'explain' to me that, as a result of her 'work' it would take about 3 hours of intercourse to get off. She seemed sincere but it did not make me feel better.

I had another escort tell me that she had 'never' gotten off from a man going down on her. I would rather not have known that, assuming it is true. It made me a bit sad but I still took it as a challenge which probably will not work for me :(

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Fake it. There's no sense in both of us cumming.

I am all for it, you guys fake it, as long as I get mine,we are good.. And you are not leaving until I cum. :P I have a big ego,guess I would be the perfect John:D

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