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I had an appointment today- left work early and was all prepared. At the appointed time, I got a "very sorry" email. It's someone I've seen before, and it was great. Now, I'm left frustrated. :(

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I had an appointment today- left work early and was all prepared. At the appointed time, I got a "very sorry" email. It's someone I've seen before, and it was great. Now, I'm left frustrated. :(

Write a review so that others can avoid this deadbeat.

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...At the appointed time, I got a "very sorry" email. It's someone I've seen before, and it was great...
Things happen, but if she's someone you've seen before, it could be

1. Something did come up, she couldn't make and want to reschedule or

2. She may no longer want to see you as a client

I would want to find out which one it is first before writing a review

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Sorry that this happened to you. That's a bummer. But at least she cancelled instead of NCNSing you. Maybe she really was sorry, and she had something come up. Things happen. People have to cancel sometimes. It happens to us escorts all the time. I understand your frustration, but I also understand that this happens from time to time.

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Write a review so that others can avoid this deadbeat.

There was no appointment, and it's not a "No Show". What's he gonna review? :rolleyes:

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I had an appointment today- ... :(

There was no appointment, and it's not a "No Show". What's he gonna review? :rolleyes:

Sorry, pfunk, but you know that there was "no appointment" because ...? It might not be NCNS because he got the email, but it's still a No Show.

If you want to see her again, see what explanation & re-scheduling options she offers you, review the rescheduled appointment, and mention that it was a reschedule.

If you don't care about ever seeing her again, write the review now. But be sure to include that she had the courtesy to email a cancellation, even if it was last minute.

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it's still a No Show.

IMHO there is a BIG difference between a NS and a cancellation.

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Sorry, pfunk, but you know that there was "no appointment" because ...? It might not be NCNS because he got the email, but it's still a No Show.

If you want to see her again, see what explanation & re-scheduling options she offers you, review the rescheduled appointment, and mention that it was a reschedule.

If you don't care about ever seeing her again, write the review now. But be sure to include that she had the courtesy to email a cancellation, even if it was last minute.

Do you mean if you don't fear pissing her off so it would hurt your chances of seeing her again write a review?? She cancelled and he was a little butt hurt, I don't see how that warrants a review. Or maybe write the review but not submit it so he can see how silly it looks when it's spelled out.

Cancelling is not a no show, as much as you would like to believe that. She cancelled and she had the courtesy to at least send an email, WHY she cancelled is really not his business. If she wants to reschedule that is up to the both of them but she doesn't owe him anything else at this point.

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Did the girl send the e-mail more than an hour before the appointment? If an hour or less, did she at least promise to make good with a discounted session or some extra time next meeting? If the answers(s) are no, despite what White Knights say, it's reviewable, IMO.

There are providers out there that require one to cancel at least two hours in advance. Some make one pay some sort of fee if you wish to see them after a cancel. Some go as far as putting a guy on some blacklist. Why should a provider be exempt from penalty?

And or, two hours notice, maybe 1.5, notice is the right thing to do, and not promise to make good, because it could take an hour for a guy to get to an appointment: if guy is on the road and gets the e-mail minutes before the appointment....

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So the question is no show or just a cancellation. Cancelling at the time of the appointment is really poor. If we have all the story I would do a review with the explanation that you have just given. No there is no foul for you having to get out of work early. That is your issue. Your time is of issue as well but no more than hers. But it is just poor to get an e-mail at the exact time of the appointment. Surely there is another reason and the email could have been sent earlier. Give her some communication and a chance to respond. If nothing take her off your list and review.

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maybe she should give you a cancellation fee? or a free hour.

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There was no appointment, and it's not a "No Show". What's he gonna review? :rolleyes:

Well, he can review her for the fact that she stood him up. The cancellation message was far too late.

The review board is for us to share our provider experiences with the community, and this certainly qualifies as a negative experience, worthy of sharing in a review format.

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IMHO there is a BIG difference between a NS and a cancellation.

Not when she cancels AT the appointed time, which was what the OP said.

If she had emailed him with at least an hour's notice, I'd agree with you. THIS was a NS.

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Sorry that this happened to you. That's a bummer. But at least she cancelled instead of NCNSing you. Maybe she really was sorry, and she had something come up. Things happen. People have to cancel sometimes. It happens to us escorts all the time. I understand your frustration, but I also understand that this happens from time to time.

If a client made a 2:00 appointment with you, and then emailed you at 2:00 to say he couldn't make it, would you call that a NCNS?

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IMHO there is a BIG difference between a NS and a cancellation.

It's a timing issue.

If an appointment is cancelled the day prior, no big deal.

Leave a note on the door, it's a no show.

In between - ???

In practical terms, he showed up and she didn't. Perhaps communications needed to be improved on both sides. Should he have checked his email before he left work? Should she have contacted him earlier?

She does get some consideration for sending the email.

BTW these guidelines go both ways; interchange he/she in all of the above.

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Guys cancel ALL the time, and yes even last minute. It's happened on my end, but very rarely. I recently had a guy who pretty much wasted my entire day. Kept calling and said, now I have to to do _____, can't be there till 3, then it was 4, then it was I can't make it. Or I just hit a car, or I have a cold, or my travel plans have changed. Happens all the time. And sometimes it's so last minute I am sitting here with my sexy heels and outfit on, hair curled, music playing, candles lit, and 5 minutes before, oh I can't make it.

Now I could go on the certain sites and flag these guys for wasting my time. But life happens and stuff comes up, at least they had the decency to call me. So what can you do? Both sides have to deal with some annoying things from time to time. But at the end of the day, I'm still happy to participate.

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You have a refreshingly positive attitude. Problem is, many of the ladies on this board would black-list a client if the situation were exactly reversed, yet they say "stuff happens" when the ASP pulls this kind of no-show.

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This is interesting,

The effect of the last minute cancellation is equal to a ncns for the client. He left work, and wasn't notified of the cancellation until the last moment. Courtesy goes a long way in this business, while it was nice that the lady let him know, the notice was way to late.

Shit happens, true, but that doesn't help the client. He had no other options after the cancellation to see one of the fine ladies that post on eb.

The op in my opinion should read the email, decide if the excuse for the cancellation is a reasonable one and go from there. If reasonable then he can decide to reschedule with the lady if he chooses, and if it seems like a bs excuse he can decide to never see that lady.

Nobody likes a last moment cancellation and nobody likes a ncns.

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I had an appointment today

There was no appointment

Uh. Huh.:cool:

Edit: OP, I sent you a pm.

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A last minute cancellation emails sucks, but it beats the heck out of sitting in a parking lot having your calls and texts go unanswered.

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A last minute cancellation emails sucks, but it beats the heck out of sitting in a parking lot having your calls and texts go unanswered.

Very true! The sitting there wondering "WTF?" is the pits.

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best not to write a post while in the throes of blue balls

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I had an appointment today- left work early and was all prepared. At the appointed time, I got a "very sorry" email. It's someone I've seen before, and it was great. Now, I'm left frustrated. :(

The shit, it does happen sometimes.

And yes, it is very frustrating. Best thing I can suggest it to give it a minute and see what the provider does. She just might try to make it up to you. Don’t scoff, it happens!

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Here's some possible scenarios for me canceling.....

Started girl stuff. What to do in this situation? I would think the guy would rather me cancel, and sometimes it's embarrassing talking to a guy/ possible stranger about it. I'm curious what you guys think about dealing with this situation. Would you want us to cancel and just be honest?

The place were working at feels shady or something feels off. The thing that keeps many of us safe and out of trouble is using our instincts and listening to our gut. Not worth the risk if there is suspicious activity happening.

Starting to feel sick.... the last thing I want to do when I feel yucky is swap germs, but I want you to think I am sexy, healthy, and hot. Not have you picturing me at home coughing all over everything and blowing my nose. I want to create the fantasy, I'm perfect, lol!

I don't know how any of the others girls work or operate but I highly doubt that canceling a lucrative meeting to run off to the mall or get your nails done is whats happening.

I guess it's hard to say, but there are always legitimate reasons to cancel on both ends. Just wanted to share a girls point of view. But then again there are a lot of flakes too.

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All those are very valid situations. To be fair, the OP did not elaborate on whether the ASP gave a reason for cancelling.

Also to be fair, and I've said this before -- if the client emails at the appointed time and said simply "sorry, can't make it", many ASP's would black-list that client unless he paid for the missed session. In fact, this is a stated policy of many ASP's.

What's my point? If "stuff happens" and an abrupt cancellation is to be forgiven, then it should go both ways. If not, then a review is perfectly acceptable in this situation. After all the ASP can rebut it, right?

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I have only had this happen once, and while it was inconvenient I didn't think any less of the lady concerned. Stuff happens. I was in the car headed her way and just turned around, went home and called my backup and had a great time with her. Problem solved.

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... just turned around, went home and called my backup and had a great time with her. Problem solved.

It's not always that easy. Setting up that "backup" can often take an hour or more, time I don't usually don't have available. So the result is that I've just missed out on an opportunity to get my ashes hauled, something I've probably been looking forward to for days. It may be weeks before I get another chance. Sure, there are AMPs, but they're all on the other side of town. So what might be no-big-deal for you could be significant for others.

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I agree that there is a difference between a no-show and a cancellation. However, I woudl prefer to have the information. As long as the truth is told we can all figure out what to do with it. Better than not being told anything.

There should be an option for this one on the review form.

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