Posted February 3, 2013 Pizzaman, I've read that the average male ejaculates within 5-10 minutes of intercourse. "Average" man. I guesstimate I've had over 15,000 orgasms in my life, at least one a day since I was about 12, and still now sometimes 3 a day. I guarantee 10 minutes isn't going to do it and I doubt I'm average, nor are any of the people on this board. We're all promiscuous. If you don't use it, you lose it. It's the opposite if you use it. Remember that group, Frankie Goes to Hollywood? They had a song called "Relax". That's my ringtone. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 4, 2013 Pizzaman, I've read that the average male ejaculates within 5-10 minutes of intercourse. "Average" man. I guesstimate I've had over 15,000 orgasms in my life, at least one a day since I was about 12, and still now sometimes 3 a day. I guarantee 10 minutes isn't going to do it and I doubt I'm average, nor are any of the people on this board. We're all promiscuous. If you don't use it, you lose it. It's the opposite if you use it. Remember that group, Frankie Goes to Hollywood? They had a song called "Relax". That's my ringtone. Skibum, I'm not trying to argue with you, or tell you that you are wrong. We are all different, and we should not expect everyone to be "average". Each experience is unique. However, I am not sure about "if you don't use it, you lose it" is applicable in this case. There are men that have difficulty or take a very long time to orgasm. It has been my experience that these men are "using it" too much. Either through self pleasure or something else. See it often, and I feel bad, because these situations sometimes creates frustration. I know for myself, that the third one definitely takes longer to achieve than say the first one, and if I go a few days without, it can happen very fast. At lease you say, that you enjoy the time leading up to it, and are having fun. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 4, 2013 Right Holly, overuse can certainly cause problems, especially "too much" masturbation, and some men have medical or psychological issues that make orgasms hard to achieve. I think it's good to refrain prior to a "real life" encounter for that very reason. I was watching a Dr. Oz show last week (just happened to be walking by the TV, lol) and they were talking about pornography on the web, and how it has had a detrimental effect on sex in real life. We get conditioned by what we see, and expect to perform like a porn star in bed. One panelist (another Dr. I think) suggested that when men watch porn, they masturbate with the opposite hand! That way, when they have real sex, it feels different and is more enjoyable. He said it could take up to a month for the "treatment" to start working. I don't believe they were referring to provider/hobbyist relationships but I'm sure it carries over. I also believe that, for men, regular ejaculation is good for the prostate. My PSA is very low and I attribute that to frequent ejaculation. Maybe providers could test out that Dr. Oz theory by using different positions, methods, devices, whatever, to help their clients. Blame it on the internet, but it's the new way I guess. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 4, 2013 Just read her twitter stream. is ther a cliff notes version 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 Right Holly, overuse can certainly cause problems, especially "too much" masturbation, and some men have medical or psychological issues that make orgasms hard to achieve. I think it's good to refrain prior to a "real life" encounter for that very reason. I was watching a Dr. Oz show last week (just happened to be walking by the TV, lol) and they were talking about pornography on the web, and how it has had a detrimental effect on sex in real life. We get conditioned by what we see, and expect to perform like a porn star in bed. One panelist (another Dr. I think) suggested that when men watch porn, they masturbate with the opposite hand! That way, when they have real sex, it feels different and is more enjoyable. He said it could take up to a month for the "treatment" to start working. I don't believe they were referring to provider/hobbyist relationships but I'm sure it carries over. I also believe that, for men, regular ejaculation is good for the prostate. My PSA is very low and I attribute that to frequent ejaculation. Maybe providers could test out that Dr. Oz theory by using different positions, methods, devices, whatever, to help their clients. Blame it on the internet, but it's the new way I guess. given your particular situation, where do you find the time? lol 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 That is what I am saying. Its my business and I do with it as I see fit. I expect high maintenance Jons to pay for thier needs. So once again, put you are a pounder in your profile so the ladies can decide whether or not your are a good match and if so how much XXXX you have to pay. So know one is out of time or money. This has nothing to do with whether or not we should be in the business or whether because a Jon paid for an hour he has a right to pound away. When I say stop that is what I mean STOP. I am sure no Jon wants to face criminal charges. This is why screening is so important. Lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 Depending on the amount paid $.5 or less one goal mabe all a jon gets. My suggestion is for Jons is to pace themselves. Lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 Well said. hug and kisses. lilithia 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 My last statement came from this school of thought::: General Rule: When a dude starts the session complaining about his wife... the session is based on resentment. I CAN TELL if a guy LOVES his wife and just needs to blow his load vs the Guy who Hates his wife. The dynamic of the session is different. We LIVE to make Happy Marriages and it brings NO provider pleasure to know your home life is Horrid. I am sure that statement is hard to believe. It's statements like these that make the board interesting. I never thought this line of thinking was in the mix. Someone could/should do a sociology study on this subculture. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 I work from home, in an office with two huge monitors. It's all about multi-tasking! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 It seems to me that if you can't nut within the alloted time of a regular appointment, you probably have a problem; it might be mental, it might be physiological. Then again, I'm sure there are plenty of hobbyists who prematurely ejaculate in the first three minutes, then spend the rest of the appointment frantically trying to get a second rise out of their limp noodle. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 5, 2013 Right Holly, overuse can certainly cause problems, especially "too much" masturbation, and some men have medical or psychological issues that make orgasms hard to achieve. I think it's good to refrain prior to a "real life" encounter for that very reason. I was watching a Dr. Oz show last week (just happened to be walking by the TV, lol) and they were talking about pornography on the web, and how it has had a detrimental effect on sex in real life. We get conditioned by what we see, and expect to perform like a porn star in bed. One panelist (another Dr. I think) suggested that when men watch porn, they masturbate with the opposite hand! That way, when they have real sex, it feels different and is more enjoyable. He said it could take up to a month for the "treatment" to start working. I don't believe they were referring to provider/hobbyist relationships but I'm sure it carries over. I also believe that, for men, regular ejaculation is good for the prostate. My PSA is very low and I attribute that to frequent ejaculation. Maybe providers could test out that Dr. Oz theory by using different positions, methods, devices, whatever, to help their clients. Blame it on the internet, but it's the new way I guess. Re: opposite-handed masturbation. Hmmmmmm....What does that say about us who are ambidextrous? Re:PSA. You might attribute your low PSA to frequent ejaculation, but the preponderance of medical evidence suggests quite the opposite, especially in the short term. Men are advised NOT to ejaculate within 48 hours of a PSA test lest they get a falsely high PSA reading. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2013 One solution to this problem would be to offer "metered services". Provider could charge $5/minute. This would provide somewhat of a "dis-incentive" to "endurance athletes". 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2013 Ya hear that Boink??? You could get laid seven days a week for $35:p One solution to this problem would be to offer "metered services". Provider could charge $5/minute. This would provide somewhat of a "dis-incentive" to "endurance athletes". 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2013 Here's the thing. You have a problem. It is not normal for a man to take over an hour to complete the act. It could be physical or it could be psychological. I'd start with an exam to make sure all your parts are in proper working order, then I'd see a shrink to find out why you can't finish your business. Good luck. Total nonsense. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2013 Pizzaman, I've read that the average male ejaculates within 5-10 minutes of intercourse. "Average" man. I guesstimate I've had over 15,000 orgasms in my life, at least one a day since I was about 12, and still now sometimes 3 a day. I guarantee 10 minutes isn't going to do it and I doubt I'm average, nor are any of the people on this board. We're all promiscuous. If you don't use it, you lose it. It's the opposite if you use it. Remember that group, Frankie Goes to Hollywood? They had a song called "Relax". That's my ringtone. If you're having three nuts a day, you're whacking off too much. Step away from the porno, and hold back a week or two. I know plenty of people who can't make it a day without a drink or two, and then force themselves to knock off for a few weeks to show to themselves they aren't addicts. I also find it amusing that surveys suggest married couples screw 4 or 5 times a week. Yeah, married couples with kids are banging once a week IF they take time to do it. So, surveys say: Married couples lie. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 6, 2013 One solution to this problem would be to offer "metered services". Provider could charge $5/minute. This would provide somewhat of a "dis-incentive" to "endurance athletes". They don't do that because clients like you would last $10 or $15 worth. Costs more in gas money and time to be worth it. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 10, 2013 I also find it amusing that surveys suggest married couples screw 4 or 5 times a week. Yeah, married couples with kids are banging once a week IF they take time to do it. So, surveys say: Married couples lie. my wife and I love woopie..... but with kids, once a week is difficult to fit in. .... and we have never taken that survey... lol 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 11, 2013 What are some "good" swinger sites? I've tried Ashley Madison, Adult Friend Finder, Sugar Sugar, all without any luck. I think the webmasters are the only ones who get "lucky" taking money from suckers like me. swinglifestyle.com 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted February 11, 2013 I have this problem as well. I get it from my Biking Hobby. I bike 15 to 20 miles a day and do 100 mile races on the weekends during the summer. I just let the ladies know up front. I've only had a problem with one of the providers in all the time I've done this. They seem to enjoy the fact I'm in shape and energetic. I break it up with DATY to give them a break and make sure they are enjoying it as well. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
