Anyone ever fall for a provider?

[Velvet Valentine]

This reality is too much to take, for many men. It's OK for them to pay for sex, but a girl who rents her pussy is "unworthy" of them.

Human beings are human beings. It doesn't matter whether she's a lawyer, works in a slaughterhouse, or is an escort. You either love her, or you don't. Her professsion should not be your concern, her well being should.

And THIS is what makes this man so special to so many gals.

[dangle]

- Marry someone who is career military. You're odds of holding a steady, career oriented job just took a hit as you travel from post to post every few years.

Not at all. Just work a Government job - NAF or CSRS - for priority placement at any installation where the military spouse is stationed.

[JRWolfe]

true, hoiwever the key to any good real love is honesty and communication from day one. There is no guarantee in life that a vanilla girl you might meet in the real world won't be a bigger whore than an escort you could love. I know girls who have never escorted who have no sense of morals what-so-ever when it comes to consideration of a partner.

fact !

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[demonlover]

Yet another no-brainer, gents, IMNAAHO:

EVERY FUKIN' TIME!

and never to a good end, mind you.

YMMV (but I doubt it).

[rachelsonoma]

It's easy to develop feelings for a woman who is all smiles. She always smells really good. She gives you her full attention. She can turn your whole body into an erogenous zone. But guess what? These are session conditions. If you lived with this very same woman, her hair would be in her face in the morning. Don't get between her and her coffee. When she goes grocery shopping, she forgets to buy you the hair gel that you specifically asked her for. You're out of gel; now what will you do? You open your mouth to say something, then you close it. Better keep your mouth shut.

If you want to go on a date with a provider, make sure you ask her how that would work. Many ladies have rates for this. One gal I know charges $80/hr. for time spent having dinner out. This is in conjuction with a traditional session. Others have a flat rate, like $500, for a leisurely date with private time plus going to see a show, or checking out an art museum.

Spending time together with your clothing on deepens the connection. As long as you can respect her boundaries, this is a good thing. You can keep seeing her and enjoy her more. Personally, I feel that love is a good thing. If you feel love for her, you're only human. She is not a block of ice; she probably has feelings for you too. Just keep things in perspective.

I agree with Destiny's statement that 99.9% of providers will never see you without a donation. Never bring that up. If she were interested, she would say something to you.

[mustang]

This is new to me but there is a provider I see that I have incredible chemistry with. Sometimes, well most of the time when I see a girl I pretend I'm in love with her just to enhance the experience. But this actually took hold. I even had a dream about her which never happens. I was wondering if anyone let themselves fall a little.

RUN Forrest RUN

[Guest Jake]

To be arguementative...these are also early dating conditions. I try to not belch or fart until the relationship is more established as well:rolleyes:

It's easy to develop feelings for a woman who is all smiles. She always smells really good. She gives you her full attention. She can turn your whole body into an erogenous zone. But guess what? These are session conditions. If you lived with this very same woman, her hair would be in her face in the morning. Don't get between her and her coffee. When she goes grocery shopping, she forgets to buy you the hair gel that you specifically asked her for. You're out of gel; now what will you do? You open your mouth to say something, then you close it. Better keep your mouth shut.

[2Big]

Spending time together with your clothing on deepens the connection.

...and lightens my pocket book. So I think I'm gonna have to pass.

[Dimmsdale]

I would think there would be a lot more romantics in here. I love all the advice and comments but I don't think I am going to mention it to the provider. On one side I think she has the right to know but on the other side, some things I like to keep for myself (not counting this post). Why is it wrong to have feelings for someone and enjoy my time with her? I think she's a very cool person, we seem to have good chemistry, and yes I have feelings for her. Does that mean I HAVE to say something to her? I don't think so. Maybe I do, maybe I don't. Not every relationship has to go the distance. The most romantic time I ever had was a single date that never went further than a good night kiss. In that night I fell deeply in love and have carried it with me as a good memory for some time. You can live in a moment you know. Doesn't always have to be quit the business or move in or marriage. It can just be.

[Guest hgritstoo]

I am a romantic. And its ok to like the lady. Lines get blurred in this business.

I really, really like some of the ladies I've seen. A Lot. But then, I'm PAYING them to act in such a way that I'll really, really like them.

Have I a) discovered a new romance or discovered a professional that is very good at what she does?

In the absence of overwhelming evidence to the contrary, I gotta pick 'b'.

Someone upthread made the comment that we guys are only seeing the fun side of the lady. It's true for the ladies as well. I'm not always clean, happy, polite, and running around with wads of cash.

[Guest Gisele Fuller]

I fall for myself over and over again. It really is NOT healthy! : D

*smooches*

Gisele Fuller

[Guest ezduzit]

If you fall for a provider you are setting yourself up for a fall.

It's only biz.

[glide41]

I fell for my ATF, being with her felt better than any

"True Love" felt before. I knew logically it was only

a wonderful fantasy, but in my heart it felt real.

Only a quote from a famous philospher, Tony Soprano,

"The heart wants what the dick wants" helped me

realise how far off center I had strayed.

[urfan]

i'm down with that, glide.

but that's kind of the whole deal now isn't it? providers provide an opportunity to connect in whatever fashion it turns out to be. since even the best laid plans of mice and hobbyists often go awry, what ends up happening is usually a surprise to both parties to a certain extent. it is as much wish fulfillment as a fantasy come true from the hobbyist perspective. just be thoughtful about what it is you're wishing for.

[Ghost_Rider]

Yes, I have.......

Probably one of the best and most dangerous times in my life. She was a pure adrenaline rush. Enjoy it, it probably won't last forever.....but if it brings a little happiness to your life, embrace the moment and keep a level head on your shoulders about the whole thing.

Chemistry, even when paid for, doesn't come around every day. "Life's not the breaths you take but the moments that take your breath away".

[Doug28]

Wise man ghost

[Dimmsdale]

Eh, say what you will. I am enjoying it.

[Pirate]

Yes, I have.......

Probably one of the best and most dangerous times in my life. She was a pure adrenaline rush.

I have to agree with this. Some of the girls I've been with were amazingly beautiful . . . but also manic and unpredictable. Cool while it lasted. Do not expect it to last long. Expect her to start expecting you to fix her problems, which often entail either panicked phone calls or lies about what she needs quick cash for.

I'm not comfortable with crazy, and lying is a dealbreaker for me. Nothing is really free. If you find yourself in a relationship with a provider, a porn star, or a stripper, it is pretty safe to assume you'll be dealing with some drama.

[Nightrain]

Well, good for you. BUT I would like to point out that if she does not feel the same as you, you better play your cards very carefully because if she finds out about this it is going to creep her out if she does not have the same kind of feelings for you (which she probably does not, sorry). If this is something that she does not know about you might want to keep it to yourself because she may cut you off if she suspects that you are in love with her. It's a tough situation to be in.

IMO, the flip side, just as dangerous, is that she starts to believe that there can be a relationship beyond john/hooker. Ie, the boiled pet rabbit syndrome, so to speak.

[clear]

Would be easy for me. Since I'm on the road most of the year and not able to hobby while gone, I've spent some great times with wonderful ladies on here for some of the brief times I'm back home. Made some good friendships and even traveled for a week each with a couple ATFs so got to see them both for 24x7, not just the fantasy hour or two. Alas, it is just a fantasy and any time I may have thoughts to the contrary, I snap back to reality and remember it is just business. Not always easy, but I can't be in a relationship anyway which is why I hobby. Tried telling SO that I have to cancel our plans because I have to leave for a month or two. Doesn't fly, let me tell you.

[Guest LongHairPls]

It is a tough situation. I was an active hobbyist in a different city and was on a board like this when a provider, that was on my to do list, advertised just to go on a date. I applied and we hit it off. Within weeks she moved in with me and within months we were married. I had no problem with her being a provider. Some days I would drop her off at a hotel and go to work and then pick her up after work and it was like two people going to work and coming home at night. It worked quite well for awile, she was always horny after working, because our sex life was on a different level. She was the kind of woman that you would come home after work and would be cooking topless or lying on the floor naked saying "take me". The problem we had was that she would go back and forth between wanting to be a provider and wanting to retire. I really could care less, I really just wanted her to be happy. When she was not providing she would become a very jealous person and worried about other providers and she seemed to lose her scence of self and popularity. She really liked being a well know provider, the teasing, and community from the boards. She would fall apart when I would see another provider. So eventually she went back to being a provider and that is when it fell apart because all of a sudden I didnt care enough, and she found herself again, but a much stronger nastier version, lol! I really just think the relationship had run its course and she was not sure what she wanted. We divorced, but still talk now and again. She is still a provider and I can tell she regrets our divorce. She is now 40 and I think she feels like the clock is ticking, if you know what I mean. So, before you fall for a provider, find out what will make them happy. I think if we had made those distinctions before we got serious it may have worked. I think it is easy to forget to do the work of a relationship with a provider, they are great at sex, they are trained in making you feel great, and are beautiful and have fewer ambitions, but it is still a relationship, and communication is the most important thing! So do you have an open line of communication? start there!!!!

[Sphinx]

... before you fall for a provider, find out what will make them happy...I think it is easy to forget to do the work of a relationship with a provider, they are great at sex, they are trained in making you feel great, and are beautiful and have fewer ambitions, but it is still a relationship, and communication is the most important thing! So do you have an open line of communication? start there!!!!

Sound advice. Wish somebody had said this to me a year ago. Not sure about the ambition part, though.

[Guest LongHairPls]

Oops, not fewer ambitions, fewer inhibitions

[Sphinx]

Oops, not fewer ambitions, fewer inhibitions

Now you're talking. And, I mean, OMG, right?

[Guest LongHairPls]

Lmao! That was my thought process as well, OMG, but don't lose sight that it is more than that, it is a relationship that requires even more communication than a regular relationship!

[like2lick]

I fell big time for a provider. It took a considerable whack (metaphoric) on the side of my head to make me realize the feeling was not mutual. Never forget that as good as it feels this is a business relationship and the best providers are those that make you feel a connection that goes beyond the commercial to "love." It is part of the transaction, not a commiment to long term relationships.

[Lucy Kitten]

Lmao! That was my thought process as well, OMG, but don't lose sight that it is more than that, it is a relationship that requires even more communication than a regular relationship!

I like the way you think, but don't you think that all relationships should have the same level of communication? I wouldn't disagree that there might be some different types of communication and a totally different set of problems but all relationships, if you want them to succeed, need great communication.

[Dimmsdale]

Well, it certainly is maddening. Enjoyable, but maddening

[bigpharmaboner]

Yes.

And I am a firm believer in telling someone how you feel. Because having your feelings hurt or heart broken is much better than a person you care about never hearing those words because of some unforseen or awful circumstance.

So I told her.

[Dimmsdale]

Maybe you are right. I've been trying to enjoy it but at the same time keep everything at an arms length. Like I said, I know the chemistry is there but what to do with it I don't know. I am all about taboo relationships and have no problem with what she does honestly I never get jealous that's not the issue. I don't think I am ready to give anyone 100% of me and that's not fair to her IF she felt the same way.

Need to give it some more thought, but I do agree with you. She does deserve to know even if she doesn't feel the same way. I'd hate to ruin a pretty cool relationship with that but I may have to chance it for her sake.