Posted April 23, 2013 Could I fall for a provider? no, the girl behind the "Provider Mask" maybe. My story, when I was a newbie, I saw a provider online, she looked amazing to me. I wanted to meet the provider, yes, I hope to get the know the person behind the "mask" too, but after one phone call and a follow up email, I found out that due to circumstances beyond my control, that I would never met or even see this provider in person. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 23, 2013 I started this hobby for exactly the opposite reason and didn't really think it was possible for me to have those feelings of love for any woman anymore. Then right after I posted on this thread I developed feelings for a provider. I started hobbying with the same plan as mj, but despite my intentions I too fell for a provider... Dawna Venudae broke my heart. (But I don't regret the experience one bit.) IMO, better to have hobby-loved and lost... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 16, 2021 did anyone recently ... I fell for one back in 2009 and to make it even worse she was working out of my building one floor below. i found her on bp while looking for something quick and closeby ... thought it could be laquinta a block away and when she gave me the address ... I pretended i didnt live there ... made out in the elevator then there was another girl (prolly stripper ) in the living room that i always saw around. she did not break bank but she suddenly left. I loved that she would just text me and come up. no drugs no alcohol abuse ... she would just come watch tv and hang out when she s not expecting anyone ... we had fun all over ... I really liked her and i still probably have one of her earings she left behind after a really good hard session ... memories 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 19, 2021 Have I ever fallen for a provider. YES I have; just ONCE. I did not enter this hobby looking for someone to fall in love with but out of needing some temporary human touch. Unless you are young and just looking for the pleasure side I think that a lot of us aged hobbyists want some of that human touch we are lacking and that can lead you down the path that maybe you really do or don't want to go. Anyway I eventually analyzed why I was here and even though the feeling was mutual (I really think it was) we never discussed it. It was not the right time for me so I broke it off just by not going back to see her. Several years later I did see her again and again I could not handle the feelings as it was still not the right time for me. Maybe it will never be but I did truly enjoy our time together. Concerning your quandary of what to do.... it is up to you as I am not one to offer probable meaningless advice, besides who really knows what will happen if you do open up. I never did! Maybe it is or isn't the right time for you... your call. All I have left to say is..... GOOD NIGHT MS. CALABASH WHEREVER YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!! 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted September 25, 2021 My number one rule is not to fall for a provider. But I’m human and it’s happened three times. We expanded it to some lunches but they soon totally fell off the map with no explanation. I’m sure drugs were involved but they were fantastic ladies. Then I thought a sugar baby might be more satisfying so went that route but that failed. I’ll continue seeing ladies in TOB. I’m retired so funds not as easily available as before so I’ve cut back. But I’m really missing the connection with the ladies here. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 6, 2021 On 11/29/2012 at 10:32 AM, Ashley said: Hi Dimmsdale! As a former provider, I have had more than a few guys genuinely fall for me, as I'm sure all ladies do. That's a whole other Oprah, though lol There were only 3 gentlemen who I returned those feelings for. I dated one of them a couple of times but because of timing, it didn't work out. I dated another one for 5 years. It was instant chemistry the 1st time we met, but he could not handle my escorting in the end and I could see our relationship was going nowhere. As much as I would have loved to quit escorting for him, circumstances did not allow me to. I married the 3rd client. I had seen him for a few years and because the stars aligned on both of our parts, we fell in love and have been happily married for 6 years. He was truly my knight in shining armor, and that is why I am now retired. There have been many client/provider relationships. Some work out, some don't. It just depends on the situation and the timing. I would say to take a chance and tell her how you feel. You never know! Ashley xoxo Dammit Ashley i thought you only fell in love with just me!! lol! I miss you girl....xoxo 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 13, 2021 On 11/28/2012 at 4:11 PM, Guest said: Well, good for you. BUT I would like to point out that if she does not feel the same as you, you better play your cards very carefully because if she finds out about this it is going to creep her out if she does not have the same kind of feelings for you (which she probably does not, sorry). If this is something that she does not know about you might want to keep it to yourself because she may cut you off if she suspects that you are in love with her. It's a tough situation to be in. So, men fuck with their dicks. Women fuck with their hearts. There is a reason that woman in the hobby, at least the ones that don’t judge, or bullshit their Regs…. are in the hobby. At least for me, I love the networking, the different individuals I get to experience. So, I have had quite a few say “I love you”. and I love them in return! So talking about scaring her off, is unusual… because it happens and we all know that. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 13, 2021 On 4/23/2013 at 9:37 AM, Entourage said: I started hobbying with the same plan as mj, but despite my intentions I too fell for a provider... Dawna Venudae broke my heart. (But I don't regret the experience one bit.) IMO, better to have hobby-loved and lost... On 4/22/2013 at 6:04 PM, kenlook123 said: Could I fall for a provider? no, the girl behind the "Provider Mask" maybe. My story, when I was a newbie, I saw a provider online, she looked amazing to me. I wanted to meet the provider, yes, I hope to get the know the person behind the "mask" too, but after one phone call and a follow up email, I found out that due to circumstances beyond my control, that I would never met or even see this provider in person. Chemistry? Does she cancel? Or not show? Does she listen to you if you converse??? Passion? Think about these things and you’ll get your answer she has feelings for you. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 13, 2021 I will say that I have never fallen for a gal. Yet it is hard not to CONSTANTLY THINK of a gal that hits on all the cylinders when you are with her. I have to keep myself in check on this one! 3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 14, 2021 (edited) It’s really easy to become Infatuated with a gentleman or a lady! Also, I think it can be noted from the lady side of issues we can also become very taken by a client. Good to remember that we are only seeing the “good” side of someone while together. Seldom do we experience the shadow side of someone’s personality. So, beware of taking it to the next level. Better to enjoy the time and keep it light and friendly between the two of you! I do have some beautiful men who we both go back in forth helping each other With opinions and thoughts. I think it is healthy as long as both sides see it as only opinions and the individual can accept it as being helpful advice which helps with Personal self-growth. Some of us ladies and gentlemen missed our calling--i have met some great counselors! ☺️ Edited October 14, 2021 by Kali Sensual Reiki 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted October 15, 2021 (edited) I fall for many of the providers I meet. Almost all of them are beautiful women who I have respect and love for. But it is the love of “filios” and “eros”. It is not the love of a long term relationship or hoping for one. I know and understand their boundaries and expect the same. That doesn’t mean we could not be good friends and love and care for each other as such. I would add that you are connecting with someone in this realm in the most basic human way. How can you not love them in some way after having been connected in that way? Edited October 15, 2021 by Billstringer 5 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 10, 2021 On 11/28/2012 at 4:35 PM, Doug28 said: Love is easy when its only the really really good stuff. Sixty minutes of weekly connection and passion love is easy. Try to remember shes not bitching at you seven days a week, shes not making your life a living hell seven days a week. And you aren't messing with her head seven days a week. Stay grounded, shut your mouth, enjoy what you have and don't fuck it up. Easier said than done. Well said 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 11, 2021 I have never "fallen in love" with a young lady who earned her living as a provider but I do have a good friend, I will say, a very god friend who earned her living as a provider. I can say honestly that I love her. I am not, in love, with her but she holds a special place in my heart. She has retired and moved on to another chapter of her life. I am privilged that she still considers me one of the few people in her who "gets her" Our friendship is founded on mutual respect, no judgements and a desire to always try to understand one another's every day wants needs and desires. There was a period of time when I stopped seeing her because I was afraid and confused about what I was starting to feel. My little head eventually convienced me to call her and schedule another appointment. I mean damn, she was HOT, still is. She is tall, with legs that can make a grown man cry and she really got into my style of play. One of the very few times listening to the little head was a good thing. Before we got into playtime I engaged her in a frank, honest discussion about my feelings. She smiled and then gently said, "don't overthink it, just enjoy the moment". Some of the best advice I have ever received. 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 11, 2021 I can relate to oldertruckguy. His story is true for me also. One of my favorites I adored disappeared for a few years and then contacted me on TOB. I arranged a date and she accepted. It was a wonderful day and we were to meet a week later. But, she disappeared again with no explanation. I suppose it human nature to be attracted to someone you have had intimate activities with. Your brain is wired this way. But after many 3G experiences I question how my mind will react to a true lover. Have I ruined myself. Time will tell. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2021 (edited) On 11/29/2012 at 3:35 PM, Mustang87 said: I tend to fall for one about every 2-3 weeks. However, I usually get over her about an hour later. Oh Mustang87 you gave me a good laugh. Thank you. 🤣 Edited December 13, 2021 by Leyla Scott 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2021 I fell for a client once! We are human and even though we try our best to keep it in perspective, it’s hard sometimes. It didn’t work out for many reasons… but it was a sweet experience. I still think of him! 😭😭😭 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2021 On 11/30/2012 at 0:32 AM, angela aspen said: If the feeling is mutual, she will let you know. The NUMBER 1 fear factor is if you ask her to leave the biz will you take care of her 110%... if you let her know of a 7-11 job.. she will most likely not -fall in love with you-.Prevent her fear.. and she is all yours. Since the beginning of time, women need one thing... maybe two.. a vibrator.. and security. Falling for a client? I think every provider should try it at least once. its a beautiful train wreck. Its been 4 years since mine but no regrets. I have NEVER loved deeper, known monogamy, know what is is like for every breath to be based on one humans existence.. no drug so awesome.. no hurt so crippling. Passionate sex wanting to melt into their body.. THAT was intense love. I can die knowing I had it, held it.. and was possessed by it. Ive heard.. its only broken by one or the other Returning.. so if guidelines are clear and an audition/ pre-nup/ dating agreement is clear.. just do it. As an old goat... fuck 5 star restaurants, hotels and 4k purses.. LOVE is the greatest -High-. I have Seen Money.. I have Lost Money... but "Love Conquers All" xo- Angela Aspen I love the way you said it in the middle paragraph. Try it once. I am a long timer and I have long been a believer in the “heaux code” which definitely includes “don’t fall.” Alas, I am human and it has happened before. And it IS a beautiful train wreck. I think between our age difference and our opposite bedtimes, it was doomed from the start… But for me (and for him, for a minute at least) it was absolutely real. I even got to meet his mother and I was able to see exactly why he turned out to be such a lovely man. It was tough not seeing it last…and I’m sure it was tough on him dealing with my upset because of it. But we are still friends because I calmed down and he is a wonderful and gracious gentleman who understands that sometimes people have a hard time and act out a bit. Do I still love him? Absolutely! I love him so much that I want him to be happy and if that is as a single man or not with ME; then so be it. I just want him to be happy That said—I still propose to him from time to time can’t help myself! 2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2021 On 11/28/2012 at 3:41 PM, Dimmsdale said: This is new to me but there is a provider I see that I have incredible chemistry with. Sometimes, well most of the time when I see a girl I pretend I'm in love with her just to enhance the experience. But this actually took hold. I even had a dream about her which never happens. I was wondering if anyone let themselves fall a little. Yeah. New to the hobby a few years back this happened to me. I was told that I was so much more than just a client, I was her best friend, she would never charge to see her, etc... etc. After trying to keep things in perspective I let my guard down a little and then pretty much got ghosted. It left me feeling pretty stupid. Just be careful 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted December 13, 2021 16 hours ago, Leyla Scott said: Oh Mustang87 you gave me a good laugh. Thank you. 🤣 Blast from the past, but as true now as it was then. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 11, 2022 Interesting topic...I am pleasantly surprised that most if not all here are not in "attack mode"! Being new to Denver, but being a hobbyist for 30 plus years , I have had the pretty woman syndrome too. Especially after the movie. That connection is great when it happens. But the complications that follow are huge especially if the guy can't handle the job...like me. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted March 16, 2022 Yes, once...Years ago. Worse part is that she began to me invite out. We started "dating" per se. She would stay at my place and I would stay at her place. Even met some of her family members. Then one day she breaks it off. I'm left emotionally stranded. Like everything in life, people are allowed to change their minds. But damn, what I lovely time we had! 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
