Pet Peeves

[Guest]

Sometimes I think because this is not a business that is on-the-up and up people like to play games. Both providers and hobbyists have suffered from some kind of stupidity from the opposite sex during the booking, setting up the appointment, to the meeting process. It is very unfortunate that people like to play games and act stupid, when all that this should be about is having fun.

I thought maybe I could start a thread about some of our (providers and hobbyists) biggest pet peeves that are associated with this industry. Who knows, maybe we can learn something from one another and try to treat each other with the respect that we all deserve. It's doubtful, but ANYTHING is possible I guess.

Some of my pet peeves include:

No call no-shows. Actually, I would say that this is at the top of my list. Over the years, I have learned that the more intensive screening is the less likely I am to have this happen to me. But I have been there and done that and got the T-shirt many of times. This is the ultimate in rudeness as far as I am concerned. Have enough decency to at least give me a phone call and let me know that you cannot make it.

People that do not follow directions. I think the biggest reason that this is a pet peeve of mine is because it concerns me about behavioral issues that may surface IF I was to book an appointment with this type of person. I blatantly say in my advertisement PLEASE CALL AND LEAVE A VOICE MESSAGE TO MAKE APPOINTMENT but for some strange reason I still get 1000 text messages a day.

Rude behaviors and snide comments. We see it here commonly. I guess that some people just enjoy saying mean things to others, but this is something that I will NEVER understand. For me, personally, I never feel good about myself after I insult somebody else. It seems that some people actually enjoy saying hurtful things, which actually speaks volumes about the person saying it. Like Danielle Rae's signature says, ugly people say ugly things. That is very true.

Time wasters. I don't know how common it is for the hobbyists to experience time wasters (besides NCNS's), but I know for certain that from the provider's point of view it is much more common than it should be. Please don't e-mail me 1 million times before we meet. If you need somebody to e-mail back and forth with you 1 million times before you actually meet, I am not the girl for you. Be respectful of each other's time.

Boundary pushers. Again, I do not know how common this is on the hobbyists side but, once again, it is way too common on our side. If I said I do not want to do something, don't push me. If our appointment ends in 5 min. please be getting ready to leave. Don't try and stay and talk to me because you think that I REALLY like you.

These are a few of MY pet peeves. I am very grateful and thankful to you guys that do not act like fools and I want to point that out instead of just ranting and raving about the guys that I speak of in this post. Many of you are 100% gentleman with great attitudes and attributes that I enjoy. So to you, THINK YOU!

I would like to get replies from both providers and hobbyists on the subject regarding your biggest pet peeves. I would imagine from the guys side that up-selling is going to be a big one. Probably using fake pics and so on and so forth.

Really, my ultimate goal in posting this thread is for all of us to learn how to treat one another better. If nobody else takes anything positive from this thread, and bad behaviors continue (which I'm sure they will), I, for one, WILL do the best that I can to learn something from this, play fair, and treat others as I would want to be treated myself.

Thanks all and have a great day!

[Brielle Paige]

I started a trend on twitter regarding escort pet peeves. I think my biggest pet peeve is NCNS. Lately I have had alot of them. Another one is when the client comes not clean or freshened up and refuses to freshen up when I ask if they need to use the restroom to freshen up. I could go on and on about these pet peeves I have... LOL

#escortpetpeeves

[Guest hgritstoo]

Ok, I'll play.

#1: NCNS. Dammit....I want to give you hundreds of dollars. WTF is wrong with you?

Besides ladies.....remember when you were young and we guys told you that sexual frustration would injure us? Turns out it was the truth.

#2: Rules lawyers on TOB/ECCIE etc. I understand the legal reasons for staying away from the forbidden topics, but all this clamoring about schilling is really dumb. Can't we all just shut up and oggle the pretty ladies?

[MrReindeer-9515]

#2: Rules lawyers on TOB/ECCIE etc. I understand the legal reasons for staying away from the forbidden topics, but all this clamoring about schilling is really dumb. Can't we all just shut up and oggle the pretty ladies?

See, now that's funny, because shilling(don't know where you guys came up w/the h) is one thing that annoys the shit out of me. Here's why:

There is enough advertising both direct and indirect that goes on; and it's unfair if certain girls have a legion if dedicated followers that constantly post how great and funny and..., what about the gals that don't or choose to play by the rules and advertise in the appropriate places?

[Bit Banger]

#1 - NCNS - `nuf said!

#2 - Upsell - Prick tease a guy and then say, "It'll be an extra $x to play with the cooch." etc.

#3 - Flamers! If you can't disagree w/o calling someone names, take it outside!

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#? - Shilling - for all the reasons MrReindeer said.

[mr_k9]

I'm going to send you a follow up text to see if we can get together in November

[Guest hgritstoo]

See, now that's funny, because shilling(don't know where you guys came up w/the h) is one thing that annoys the shit out of me. Here's why:

There is enough advertising both direct and indirect that goes on; and it's unfair if certain girls have a legion if dedicated followers that constantly post how great and funny and..., what about the gals that don't or choose to play by the rules and advertise in the appropriate places?

You know......once I started driving my Toyota, I just couldn't stop! A funny joke, about a potential quality issue in a consumer product spread by word of mouth. When I am looking for a new car, am I limited to news and official advertising channels for my info? Is it unfair to Audi that the neighbors on either side of me are telling me how great their Beemers are?

If a number of ladies on this board have a "fan club", it is because they busted their hump earning it. There is nothing in place preventing other ladies from earning fans. I believe , rather, that it is unfair silencing those fans......just as it would be unfair to BMW to silence my neighbors.

Look, there are a number of lower profile/ non-reviewed ladies on this board who have really piqued my interest with their intelligent posting. I'm working up the nerve to call one someday. They have not been "officially" advertising, but lets be honest here: that's what they are doing and they know it. And we know it.

The female form is the most beautiful thing in the world....in all its variations. And the female mind is the worlds greatest puzzle. I'm here to enjoy both. I don't worry that some lady may slip an advertisement past my subliminal filters.

[lilithia]

Number one Drum rolll Boundaries. With time or services or both, Example you have seen a client a number of years (maybe once or twice a year) he arrives with the wrong donation ok you still see him then he wants MSOG he wants to extend the time he wants he wants. As if though seeing him for x amount of years just entitles him to all the x-tras.

Well, I want my full fee then some.

lilithia

[mrvegas63]

I'm also annoyed by users that frequently overreact and post in the form of stupid rants and those that must always have the last word in an argument.

Kettle... meet black.

#? - Shilling - for all the reasons MrReindeer said.

Third it. And add the close cousin, the VIAK (Vomit Inducing Ass Kissing, for the newbs).

[Nightrain]

For me, just above the NCNS providers, are the "post-poners". I'm usually on the road and can only spend a day and half (at most) in one city from Denver to San Diego and points in between.

I do the right thing: Set up an appt in P411 at least 1 week in advance, she confirms a day before, then again on the day of. Coming up on the appt, I get a text, "Hun, reschedule to later in the day?", okay. 2nd appt time, "Sweety, need to reschedule to tonight", okay. 3rd appt time, "Hun, later?" okay. Finally "Sorry, can we reschedule to tomorrow?"

I've had a least half the providers do to me since I've been on P411.

[Guest]

I have another one that I just thought of. When in a review a guy says "I was hesitant to write this review because I wanted to keep her for myself". Dude! She's a freaking hooker. If you really wanted to "keep her for yourself" you should have met her at church and not on the hooker board. Ridiculousness...

[Guest hgritstoo]

I have another one that I just thought of. When in a review a guy says "I was hesitant to write this review because I wanted to keep her for myself". Dude! She's a freaking hooker. If you really wanted to "keep her for yourself" you should have met her at church and not on the hooker board. Ridiculousness...

Ummmm....maybe they were (albeit, poorly) joking? Intending it as a compliment?

LOL....You're starting to sound like a female version of Andy Rooney with this one.

[inkspot]

Number 1- NCNS is the worst on my list.

Number 2- Postponing and rescheduling. Get organized. As a previous poster mentioned, we want to give you hundreds of dollars. What is wrong with you?

Number 2 - ( I have 2 number 2's) Calling me hon, hun, or sugga, sugar, etc.

These are condescending in my book. It is kind of like saying, "well bless your heart", meaning someone is stupid. I guess I should write my name on my forehead in case they forget my name.

Number 3- Keyboard cowboys that hurl insults.

[pfunk]

Number 2 - ( I have 2 number 2's) Calling me hon, hun, or sugga, sugar, etc.

These are condescending in my book. It is kind of like saying, "well bless your heart", meaning someone is stupid. I guess I should write my name on my forehead in case they forget my name.

^^^I'm surprised this bothers anyone. I think most people who use terms like this are simply trying to be friendly. Kinda like buddy, chief, amigo, etc.

My big pet peeve is people who don't post reviews. It's really the WHOLE reason this board exists. Sharing information about girls. That's why it was started, and, I assume. why new people show up.

Seriously, you can post a review in less than 10 minutes, and it saves having to respond to 411s, if you've seen her.

[Guest Crystal Isis]

Number 2 - ( I have 2 number 2's) Calling me hon, hun, or sugga, sugar, etc.

These are condescending in my book. It is kind of like saying, "well bless your heart", meaning someone is stupid. I guess I should write my name on my forehead in case they forget my name.

Then wouldn't be the provider for you or anyone else having an issue with "hun". Different parts of the country view things differently and to each their own it's what makes you you.

#1) When can't read an ad IE "No sexually explicit conversations"

#2) NC/NS

#3) Let's just say will not be soft and setting last min appointments

[MrReindeer-9515]

Third it. And add the close cousin, the VIAK (Vomit Inducing Ass Kissing, for the newbs).

I have another one that I just thought of. When in a review a guy says "I was hesitant to write this review because I wanted to keep her for myself". Dude! She's a freaking hooker. If you really wanted to "keep her for yourself" you should have met her at church and not on the hooker board. Ridiculousness...

+1 on the VIAK, and dovetailing it with Destiny's comment:

Seriously, I know some of you guys are so pussywhipped that you think the only way a woman will spend any time with you is if you obsequiously fawn over every stupid thing they post/say, but its simply not true.

Now, before anyone gets their panties in a bunch, I'm not endorsing rudeness or disrespect based on their chosen profession; but more than likely if you have a couple hundred, you're golden.

Number 1- NCNS is the worst on my list.

Number 2- Postponing and rescheduling. Get organized. As a previous poster mentioned, we want to give you hundreds of dollars. What is wrong with you?

Number 2 - ( I have 2 number 2's) Calling me hon, hun, or sugga, sugar, etc.

These are condescending in my book. It is kind of like saying, "well bless your heart", meaning someone is stupid. I guess I should write my name on my forehead in case they forget my name.

Number 3- Keyboard cowboys that hurl insults.

Well now sweetie, this is interesting, but not for the reason that you might think!

[Bit Banger]

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Look, there are a number of lower profile/ non-reviewed ladies on this board who have really piqued my interest with their intelligent posting. I'm working up the nerve to call one someday. They have not been "officially" advertising, but lets be honest here: that's what they are doing and they know it. And we know it.

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And you want to raise their profile? Perhaps they're just fine with their position on the radar screen. If you want to boast & build up a YL, PM your friends. No need to rent a billboard.

[Bit Banger]

... I do the right thing: Set up an appt in P411 at least 1 week in advance, she confirms a day before, then again on the day of. Coming up on the appt, I get a text, "Hun, reschedule to later in the day?", okay. 2nd appt time, "Sweety, need to reschedule to tonight", okay. 3rd appt time, "Hun, later?" okay. Finally "Sorry, can we reschedule to tomorrow?"...

The simple way to deal with that is when they call to postpone the 2nd time, you tell them, "Sorry, no can do. Do you wish to cancel our appointment?" Then write a review! It's not NCNS, but it is 'no show'.

It's been my experience that once the postponments start, the session is not likely to happen. The first reschedule? Maybe - if you're DayTimer has room. But if she calls to push the 2nd appointment, she'd better be on a gurney in the ER or the docket of night court. Otherwise she shouldn't have bothered calling to reschedule the first time.

Also, have a back-up list (different from back-up appointments). With P411 screening is fairly quick, so if a gal is available you're probably good to go.

[boink36]

My pet peeve is................(can you guess?).................... bogus pictures! if my mother was an ASP and used bogus pictures, I would out her for it.

[Gentlejeff1]

Destiny,

You have every right to have all these pet peeves. Everyone is legit. I've been in "legal" sales for 37 years and have similar pet peeve's regarding my customers. Like you I've found that I have less issues with people who I have qualified - screened - before we meet up. Of course I am legally able to discuss price and other stuff that you have to be discreet about so I can screen them perhaps more thoroughly you and probably have less issues because of that.

A lot of the issues you have are because a lot of men think of you as whores, not ladies. There's lots of jerks out there - what can you say? Some of the your legitimate issues have to do, I think, with the fact that many guys are looking more for companionship and a girlfriend relationship than for just sex. They're lonely and shy (I was that way when I first became a hobbiest) and don't know how to deal with all the chemicals bouncing around in their body. I had to learn that you ladies are business people and you are not in it for the relationship so I had to lower my expectations and not take it personally when I realized that you don't remember me anymore than that cute waitress remembers me after I leave - no matter how much I wish she would.

Hang in there and screen 'em more girl - sounds like that's the best answer! (BTW - I know this is long and everybody's going "aw, shut up" but hey, it's a free country!)

[Guest]

when the client comes not clean or freshened up and refuses to freshen up when I ask if they need to use the restroom to freshen up.

Don't let it be optional. Say "okay, I am going to go ahead and get your shower started" and then take your butt to the bathroom and start the shower and lay out a clean towel. Hand his ass a bar of soap and ask him if there is anything else you can get for him. Better yet, jump in the shower with him and soap him up yourself, that way it is sexy and fun for him and you know FOR SURE that he is clean.

[Guest sophiarose]

Agreed. Boundary pushing sucks. This would be my pet peeve also.

In my everyday life, my pet peeve is lateness....particulary when it comes to myself, I am a bit obsessive about being on time/early. In this business I just accept that people get lost a lot!

Oh yeah.....Clients that get annoyed when I try to screen them, ask for references etc. Sorry bud, but it's my life and I'm just trying to protect myself!

[Bit Banger]

... Better yet, jump in the shower with him and soap him up yourself, that way it is sexy and fun for him and you know FOR SURE that he is clean.

At the risk of a VIAK, it's a whole lot`a fun!

I wish more ASPs would shower with me, either before, after, or both. It's almost better than nuru to get all slippy slidey with each other.

But no, can't get the hair wet or some such excuse.

[Guest hgritstoo]

And you want to raise their profile? Perhaps they're just fine with their position on the radar screen. If you want to boast & build up a YL, PM your friends. No need to rent a billboard.

Missed my point. I don't want to shill for her or raise her profile. In a sense, every provider that posts here is advertising. I'm going to pick on some of the ladies here......not because I think what they do is wrong....I actually enjoy watching this kind of banter......but because many of them are VERY good at it. And I admire them for their skills.

A while back, provider "Lotta Bangbang" started a thread entitled "Hey.....you gotta big dick?". Now, I'm willing to accept the possibility that Ms Lotta truly is deeply interested in the size of my dick. But the odds are against it. Instead, I strongly suspect that the reason behind the post is that Lotta has a keen understanding of men. The male thought process goes something like this:

"Wow, Lotta has a yoohoo, and she wants to know the size of my dick!"

Eliminating the meaningless terms from the above equation yields:

"Lotta's yoohoo & my dick" If I have a few extra C notes, and I'm in the mood, next thing you know, I've got her on the phone.

This is why you get so many "me too" type posts. Some of the ladies still have not mastered the art of doing this well. Others are very, very, good at it.....but it is STILL advertising. If it didn't work, the lady I mentioned above would probably not have wasted her time.

Yes... I understand that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, and sometimes a provider will be seeking real information. But, what I am describing above DOES go on. The ladies know it. We know it.

And you know what, although it is a Pet Peeve for some, it's one of the main reasons I frequent this board. It's fun to watch. The new twists on the game. The new ladies learning their way. Please don't make it stop.

[geecue2]

I guess my biggest pet peeve is when I am or trying to help someone such as in a thread or in life in general and they disrepect me while I am helping.

Another one is the providers not giving me a 100% discount, hmmm guess I will have to live with that one.

[inkspot]

Well now sweetie, this is interesting, but not for the reason that you might think!

I just knew some prick was going to say this.

[urfan]

hey inky, go easy on the reindeer. he is what he is.

but i will say he has a point - kind of - altho i prefer to think of myself as more of a syncophantically fawning kinda guy

also i suspect the gals calling you by kind of a catch-all pet name is because they've already forgotten yours halfway through the session - lol

[Denveresque]

1) Cancels, whether NCNS or just cancelling a few hours out, sucks. I have to do a bit of fibbing to make the time work out, and that window is only open every few weeks. So when there's a cancel, i'm out of luck (I was going to say screwed, but that is exactly what I'm not)

2) A dispasionate look at any point. I'm not a real attractive man, but the reason i'm hobbying is to pretend I am for a little bit.

3) stopping something that's working, for whatever reason. In the middle of a specific thing, and then she decides to want to try something else.

4) an unwillingness to take a cue from the conversation and keep talking.

But mostly cancels. They suck.

[Guest Gisele Fuller]

Well, mine were...

1. Cock pics...I really do NOT get excited over your 1/8 in. hard phallus showing up in my email. *delete*

2. Showing up early. Seriously, I set the appt. at noon because, well, that is the time that IS available...NOT 11:30! I really hate having to be rushed to finish getting beautiful for a client because he gets too excited. Love that he is excited...hate that he is early!

3.Asking for description or for more pics when I OBVIOUSLY have many pics, in different angles and looks that show exactly who I am. I cannot count how many times I was asked this. UGH!

4. Asking me if you were the first or last guy I have seen. Yeah, I am not telling you this one EVER! You are paying for a fantasy, not for me to answer to the third degree!

5. Slamming me onto your cock when I was doing BJ. Most clients have NO IDEA how tempted I was to bite them. I am not a porn star nor never will be, and I can, on my own, take you deep. Ask before you ASSume that a lady can and will do this!

6. Searching my place. My husband has better things to do than to listen to you and me moan in the next room. We are all alone and nothing puts you on my "to not see" list than to not trust me.

7. "Are you a cop?" With this question, sometimes, I wish I was just so I could seriously freak the hell out of some client for being that stupid and asking that question. Sure would make my day! : ) My advice to this one...look up the legal laws in your State and County before venturing into this if you are "so worried" about getting caught. Geez!

Destiny, I agree with the others that you presented...good post!

*smooches*

Gisele Fuller

[meganrae28]

1. Foot fetish dudes asking me if my feet smell after I workout (no, I never smell, make smells, do smelly things, smell smelly things, make things smelly for you to smell)

2. Dudes pretending to be women via email (Cindy, yeah right, you're bi-curious and hot, bitch please)

3. The dude that asked me if he could bring his sister's pantyhose to the appt. (you know who you are!)

4. Dudes sending me their medical bills. I am not responsible for injuries sustained during our time together. I told you it was a bad idea but you just didn't wanna listen.

5. Incomplete sentences. And I also hate it when people use a lot of comma splices, every time they write something. I wouldn't hold the latter against anyone. I just cringe on the inside.