Posted April 28, 2012 So yesterday I was with a friend and we were talking about sex. Hes a guy who happens to hobby and prefers it to dating. His reasoning is that because hes not worried about performing and getting her off it makes it more enjoyable/easier for him. I can understand that for sure, less pressure. Some people prefer that and some people think that sex with emotional intimacy is better. Im curious what everyone thoughts are. Is it a man vs woman thing or is it just a sex vs intimacy thing? Guys do you find it more enjoyable when you are not thinking about pleasing her as well or do you prefer to get her off as well? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 28, 2012 As I get older sex has to be intimate and mutually pleasurable. Within the hobby there are some demands you just can't make and have to deal with, reciprocation is usually just not expected. I would prefer a client the enjoys giving a woman pleasure as well, a selfish lover is a bad lover. If it's not really the purpose for both to get off during sex I think the purpose is defeated. Farrelly Brother fans might remember Alec Baldwin in Outside Providence giving his son pearls of wisdom about sex 'Sex is like Chinese food, its not over until you both get your cookies' It makes me giggle and a philosophy I live by. Sex by nature, by definition is pretty intimate regardless of the what the relationship with the partner is and not to be confused with emotional intimacy. I enjoy the intimacy and feel very objectified when my satisfaction doesn't matter. If wanted to get off without any sort of complication I would just masturbate. I think the most important thing about sex is to experiment and learn for yourself what makes you happy and form your own opinions. Too many people fall victim to societal pressure and stereotypes when it comes to sex. Sex is what you want it to be and the experience is a million times better when you know and take what you want and sacrifice nothing. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 28, 2012 Some people prefer that and some people think that sex with emotional intimacy is better. absolutely it is. but that does mean sex with hookers isn't really really fun. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 28, 2012 a selfish lover is a bad lover. If it's not really the purpose for both to get off during sex I think the purpose is defeated. QUOTE] +1 Holly. I have always found sex to be much more enjoyable when it was about both partners satisfaction. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 28, 2012 So yesterday I was with a friend and we were talking about sex. Hes a guy who happens to hobby and prefers it to dating. His reasoning is that because hes not worried about performing and getting her off it makes it more enjoyable/easier for him. I can understand that for sure, less pressure. Some people prefer that and some people think that sex with emotional intimacy is better. Im curious what everyone thoughts are. Is it a man vs woman thing or is it just a sex vs intimacy thing? Guys do you find it more enjoyable when you are not thinking about pleasing her as well or do you prefer to get her off as well? Always better for me if she actually does get off truthfully. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 28, 2012 No absolutes for me. Sometimes I feel like a nut, sometimes I wanna share one. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 My 2. Here is "a Perfect Session cant happen Unless Both parties are enjoying and feeling fully satisfied.. I Always Love when a Man is willing to take care of me and my needs as well as me taking care of yours of course It takes 2 to make the tango right! xo 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 My 2. Here is "a Perfect Session cant happen Unless Both parties are enjoying and feeling fully satisfied.. I Always Love when a Man is willing to take care of me and my needs as well as me taking care of yours of course It takes 2 to make the tango right! xo Nice 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 My personal viewpoint is 180 degrees opposite of his. For me, the amazing beauty of desperate feminine ecstasy is the most important thing. I crave an honest opportunity to try to help her to get there. If I can do that and don't get off myself, I can take care of that later just thinking about her beautiful moments. Not to give the wrong impression, though. Of course in reality when I'm with a lovely provider, she generally wants to enjoy giving pleasure too and who am I to deprive her? 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 It is more enjoyable and more intimate to me if we are both satisfied, and it's even better when both satisfied at the same time. I understand that some just need to get off without the intimacy and choose to give their intimacy to wife/SO at home. And that is ok as part ASP world, certainly would not work at home though. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 I understand that some just need to get off without the intimacy and choose to give their intimacy to wife/SO at home. And that is ok as part ASP world, certainly would not work at home though. I agree with you beautiful - doesn't work in real relationship:) 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 ... Sometimes I feel like a nut, sometimes I wanna share one. Yep! And sometimes I just want to give one. Or more! 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 That would be Lucy not Holly 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 My bad. Thanks for the correction. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 There is a time and place for both. The absolute best sex is when there is phsyical and emotional intimacy. For me, a male, having an orgasm feels awesome but it is purely physical pleasure. When I am with someone whom I care about, it gives me more pleasure to give my female parter an orgasm; I find it to be much more of an emotional pleasure. When I am hobbying, it is purely physical, its not that I dont care at all about the woman's pleasure, its just much less of a concern. In a perfect world, I would perform like a rock star, rock her world, give her the best orgasms of her life but that is a pipe dream (pun intented). I am not looking to fall in love or develop an emotion attachment to an escort. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 You got my cash. You're satisfied. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 29, 2012 It is actually more satisfying for me if I can satisfy my partner. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2012 I find it more enjoyable if she is getting off as well or at least pretending to cause in all honesty if she's doing a good job pretending I'm not going to know. It is always nice anytime you can make someone feel good. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2012 So yesterday I was with a friend and we were talking about sex. Hes a guy who happens to hobby and prefers it to dating. His reasoning is that because hes not worried about performing and getting her off it makes it more enjoyable/easier for him. I can understand that for sure, less pressure. Some people prefer that and some people think that sex with emotional intimacy is better. Im curious what everyone thoughts are. Is it a man vs woman thing or is it just a sex vs intimacy thing? Guys do you find it more enjoyable when you are not thinking about pleasing her as well or do you prefer to get her off as well? I don't try to force anything, but I do try to get her off and if it happens then... 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2012 It's very important to me to know I'm pleasing my partner no matter who she might be. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted April 30, 2012 I enjoy more than just the physical mechanics of the act. Although it can vary there's almost always some level of personal intimacy involved - yeah I know ladies are good actresses BUT if you can't tell whether they're genuinely having a good time then you're not paying attention and reading the cues. This is why I prefer multi-hour appointments gives a little time for things to follow their own path versus racing the clock. As for the "pressure" of pleasing a woman I've always prided myself in at least trying to see they have a good time but I've never felt pressured. Thought this is supposed to be relaxed and fun? They'll let you know what they like, maybe not verbally, but just relax and read their cues and things will likely go very well. Again, some may be good actresses and some like different things but you can tell when you throw a good pitch just pay attention 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 1, 2012 Is it a man vs woman thing or is it just a sex vs intimacy thing? Guys do you find it more enjoyable when you are not thinking about pleasing her as well or do you prefer to get her off as well? We talking sex with ASP or sex with date? Big diff. If I'm seeing an ASP it's all about me and my desires. If screwing a date then I'm working hard to please her if I want to see her again. If I don't then I'm working less hard. Men and women are pretty much the same. If she wants me, she'll work hard to please me. If she don't, she'll work much less hard. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Posted May 2, 2012 For me, its definitely way more enjoyable when the woman gets off too. Wife, girlfriend, working girl, whatever. Its just hot. So if I'm partaking in the hobby and I'm the only one that gets off, sure that's good. But if the woman gets off too, that makes the experience ten times hotter for me. 0 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
