I understand most of the risks involved in participating in the hobby, but there's one I'm trying to wrap my head around and would love to hear other people's input.
I live in a smaller city of around 100K people, for 20 years. I'm not a public figure but I know a lot of people and am in the forefront of a couple organizations that are large enough that there are several hundred people who know and recognize me that I wouldn't recognize. Suffice it to say that the majority of the people I know do not share my views in this area and would not think it's a good thing if they found out I participate. So far the fear of being discovered has kept me from visiting any of the local providers even though several of them sound beautiful and outstanding by their reviews. I'd really like to have more accessible options than travelling an hour or more. The two mian things that worry me are (1) that the provider knows me when I walk in, or (2) that they meet or already know someone that I know (or my family) and we end up at a gathering together. Either of which could be a major problem for me.
I could be just too paranoid, but it seems like the risk is just too high.
Any advice from the community?