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Greetings, Searched the forum a little, but I didn't see any recent posts on this topic. So, here goes. With the (somewhat) recent restrictions in ad and website content, I find that it is a bit difficult to determine a providers requested donation -- especially if they are not on P411. (That seems to still have donation information usually.) Are folks finding that, due to the changes I mentioned, a gentle inquiry about donations is no longer taboo? I've been out of the game for a few years and trying to get a handle on how things have changed. Many thanks. Yogi

Ladies and Gents!!! Well Hello. <3 I LOVE TOB & have been utilizing this wonderful site for almost a year now. I love passing time reading posts, but have never posted anything myself..... That is, until now! I feel like it's my obligation to help educate those interested in proper etiquette (which really ought to be ALL of you), as well as for the ladies, so that they may have this to send to those who violate these expectations without having to really say anything I feel like sending this link in response next time someone contacts me who just doesn't seem aware of these rules. She pretty much narrows it down perfectly! So thank you Arabelle Raphael, you are a goddess!

Ok Ladies! Would you consider it rude if a gentleman wants a seemingly endless conversation with no intention of booking you? What is the etiquette for conversation? Maybe I just haven’t had my coffee yet and that’s why I’m aggravated? I need answers 😂

A question for the providers, but first allow me to voice my assumptions, thoughts and actions. I assume most if not all providers appreciate and prefer pre-booking. It allows sufficient time for preparations and schedules to be made. As for myself, I'm horny when I'm horny. Although I have pre-booked in the past and will likely do so in the future, more often than not when I feel the itch I go straight to the provider advertisements to see who might be available. I'll contact a provider to see if she is available within a short time frame. For discussion purposes, let's define a "short time frame" to mean the time initial contact is attempted to requested session start as four hours or less. I do check the wording on the profile/advertisement of the young lady I'm contacting to make sure she is not a "no same day appointments" gal. My question to you is, do you consider this behavior disrespectful or rude? A pain in the ass? I have generally had pretty good success with this technique (over 80% booking completion) so I'm guessing it's not unwelcome. How do you feel about it?

You're sitting in a conference room with an Architect, an Engineer and a General Contractor when your phone vibrates in your pocket (good thing you remembered to put it on silent). It's the YL you reached out to earlier in the day returning a call from the voicemail you left her about setting up an 'afternoon side gig'. Knowing you can't answer while the Architect is trying to explain to the Engineer why he knows more about building and construction than any of the rest of us, you let it go to voicemail. Missed connection #2. As I type this, it sounds a bit like one of those 'guy walks into a bar' jokes is about to take place, but in reality it's what happened to me earlier this week. I let the call go to voicemail. An hour and a half later, meeting is finally over, I return the call. Big suprise.. it goes to voicemail. Left message (Sorry was in a meeting. Would love to set something up. Maybe for Saturday? Call me back when you can. Thanks!) Missed conection #3 I wait a couple of days. Nothing. I try again. Leave another voicemail. (Hello this is ..., tried a couple of times this week to reach you. Sorry I keep missing you. Call me back when you can. My number is ....) Crickets.. So, my question is: At what point does it become 'pestering'? Did I inadvertently piss her off? I've been wanting to meet with this YL for some time now. Love her profile, reviews, demeanor on the forums, services offered etc. I understand she is probably busy with her own day to day and such. I am not offended that she wasn't waiting next to the phone for MY call. I don't want to be a pestering ass for sure! Ladies, what sets you off when a client is trying to reach out to you? How many missed connections before you think he's jerking you around (even if he's really not trying to jerk you around)? Some of us try to be good clients, but a fucking Architect ruins our chances!