ywngwti

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About ywngwti

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    Prodigious understanding of TOB principles
  • Birthday 01/01/1963
  1. This place is an awesome resource for Colorado (and remains so despite the recent boneheaded laws). What resources work well these days for outside CO?
  2. I can definitely see why providers use professional names rather than their own names (privacy, separation of personal and professional life, safety, etc.). But what are the common reasons providers change from one professional name to a different one? If a provider has recently changed their name a time or two, is that an indication of a potential problem? (By the way - just want to say how great I think this site, and this community are! These days it seems rare to see so much helpful dialog with so little nastiness.)
  3. 411 on Ariah Fae

    Thanks! I'm looking for someone who's seen her. Have you?
  4. Ariah Fae Colorado Body Rubs This lady looks pretty interesting but can't seem to find much about her: https://theotherboard.com/users/113683 Has anyone seen her?
  5. Recommendations for submissive Colorado provider

    Seems appropriate to report back. Thanks to the good advice I got, especially from George on this thread, I've now made many good contacts - more than I can see in a short time! In my case, just over one third of the providers I contacted were interested in playing a submissive role with me. (That number may go up; quite a few providers haven't responded yet.) So, although this isn't something most providers directly advertise, a good many are either interested in trying it, or are experienced practitioners. If anyone would also like to pursue this kind of play and would like to hear a bit more about the approach that seems to work well for making contacts with providers, PM me and I'll be happy to discuss.
  6. How to discuss services beforehand

    Looking back, I'm quite sure you're right. Instead of offering her to check my references, I should have insisted. I've put a good description of me, and what I'm looking for, on my (shiny new!) P411 client account. Thanks for the advice.
  7. How to discuss services beforehand

    Thanks George - that's a great thought. I've started a P411 application. As soon as it's approved I'll plan to put information on the account.
  8. How to discuss services beforehand

    Thanks Holly. I appreciate that point of reference. I certainly understand not everyone shares my interests. (Although I think quite a few more might share this interest than you think.) However, while my particular interests are very important to me, unlike the prior thread, the specific nature of my interest is irrelevant for the question I'm trying to explore here in this thread, which is, "How to discuss services beforehand", whatever they are. So, for this thread, it doesn't matter what I'm looking for. Let's say a client wanted to find a provider who would, I dunno - wear a naughty nurse's uniform. Or have one person lick honey off the other. Or anything not described in the provider's ad or reviews, that the client considers very important. The question I'd like input on is: after completing verification of references, and before meeting in person, would most providers be ok with discussion of specifics at that stage? Thanks everyone for your thoughts to help this newbie.
  9. How to discuss services beforehand

    Thanks - that really is good advice in general, and I appreciate you taking the time to help me. However, so you can understand my perspective, the issue is central, not peripheral to me. It's not like a slight preference for brunettes over blonds, and the provider recently changed her hair color. What if you arrived expecting full service and found that the provider now only offers straight massage, not even with a happy ending? (I know that probably seems extreme to you, but the point is that submissive play is about as important to me as full service to most clients.) As an example, I recently saw a provider I had reason to believe would be compatible. She listed "fetish friendly" and "submissive" in her ads. When we met, (and after she had the donation) she said she was not interested in this kind of play, at all. I did decide to try to enjoy some vanilla activities, but afterward, I think that decision was a mistake. I should have politely said "Thanks for seeing me, but I interpreted your ad differently than is evidently true, so I'll just be going." So, back to my question - would most providers, after checking my references, but before seeing me in person, be agreeable to some form of discussion of activities? If so, what's the best way to do this without causing concern or risk?
  10. I'm new to this and need some advice. I understand explicit discussion of activities with a provider I've never seen is a very bad idea because, as far as the provider knows, I might be LE trying to get them to say something that constitues sex for money. Makes perfect sense to me. I try hard to select providers who seem like they'll be amenable to my interests, but in my case it's a little difficult because my interests are seldom directly advertised. (See this thread.) Although I've had mostly good luck connecting with compatible providers, it's not been perfect. And given my limited opportunities and money, wasted appointments are not fun at all. I choose providers who are either well reviewed, or reviewed at least once by a reviewer who's done many reviews, so I should be safe from that stand point. After the provider has checked my references and is comfortable inviting me to see them, would most providers like this be ok briefly discussing specifics before the appointment, to be sure we're compatible? Is there a better way, like sending them a link to, say, the above discussion thread? Any recommendations and advice would be much appreciated!
  11. Recommendations for submissive Colorado provider

    Thanks JWB. Scarlett looks great. I will plan to check with her. And again thanks for the help I've gotten via PM as well.
  12. Recommendations for submissive Colorado provider

    Thanks everyone for the helpful suggestions. Between these and some inputs through PM I think I might be moving forward now. That said, I'll continue watching this thread - further recommendations would still be greatly appreciated.
  13. Recommendations for submissive Colorado provider

    Eewww! Macho - on behalf of those who enjoy Power Exchange games, I'll take your "corpse" comment as either a good-natured joke, or a comment from someone unacquainted with the appeal of this kind of play. (If the latter, please don't "knock it until you've tried it.") As I mentioned in the initial post above, I recently got my start using professional service in Vancouver. I pretty easily found two very nice providers there who were quite receptive (appeared eager, in fact) to playing this way during the first encounter, and in-person activities were quite consistent with that. I suppose that sort of set my expectations that this would not be all that hard to find.
  14. Recommendations for submissive Colorado provider

    I would expect (and hope) that providers make arrangements for their own safety any time they see someone new, regardless of the plans. A big strong guy doesn't need ropes if he decides to be nasty. However, I agree that this kind of play adds some concern. Thanks for the tip - I'll try it. Any recommendations from anyone else?
  15. I am new to this (only one reference, in Vancouver) and looking for recommendations for a Colorado provider who's submissive - specifically, who enjoys being tied with soft ropes while her partner works to provide both participants with mutual pleasure. I'm not into giving or receiving pain. I play completely safe (e.g. no bodily fluid exchange) and adhere strictly to "safe, sane, consensual" conventions. Ideally I'd like someone who is slender or athletic, caucasian, and between about 25 and 40 years old. Importantly, the provider needs to be someone with a few reviews. If it matters, I'm 50, tall, and fit. Thanks in advance!