scarecrow

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  1. Low-Volume vs High-Volume

    For me the fantasy starts long before we meet. I want to believe that she is looking forward to seeing me, and that she thinks about what outfit to wear. I want to believe that she works another job and a couple of times a day, she thinks about and looks forward to our time together. I want to think that I will make her day better because she is happy to see me. I like to think that maybe she will remember my name. I don't want to think that I'm just another client in a long list of clients, much like waiting at the DMV. A low volume, gal who works another job, adds to that fantasy.... I know, I delusional. The other thread about having a nice dinner and time together is intriguing.
  2. The Nice Guy

    If she was a "nice person" then she was attractive. Beauty comes from within and for someone that takes the time to get to know her as you did, noticed that she was beautiful just not the girl reflected in the images. If you wish to write a review, I would suggest starting with the positive, mention the photos needed to be undated, then finish the review on a positive note. To the right person, someone who is a little more mature in age, and carries a little more cushion she will be his dream date, so there is no need to be negative. Just be honest in a respectful matter that will help both the gal and the future client create that dream come true moment.
  3. Fall in love with client♀️

    It doesn't matter what your profession is. It shouldn't matter if you are the maid or the CEO, you should be treated with dignity and respect. No one should rip you off. The ex was not a gentleman or someone with integrity. A gentleman doesn't steal from anyone and he certainly doesn't steal from someone who put their trust in him. It shouldn't matter how you meet because a gentleman will always be a good man. How you meet doesn't change that. I can see how your profession might cause some issues. We accept people for who they are, or what they do. It doesn't give anyone the right to treat them like crap and to rip them off. I know you probably heard this before, but you are better without him.. because it opens the door for the possibility for a true gentleman who will honor and respect you. Hang in there and please don't let this one jerk ruin it for the one you are meant to be with.
  4. Hotel or Outcall?

    I'm probably living in the land of illusion but having been in the hotel business for many many years, I'm comfortable in a hotel. It has been decades since I was in the hospitality industry but I did work with law enforcement on a few occasions. The police where looking for drug dealers who where using hotels to peddle their wares. I know the hotels don't really like being the location of a sting. They don't want their guest to see police walking people in handcuffs down the hallways or through the lobby. It doesn't make the guest feel safe. The police will probably use the employee entrance. know the hotel doesn't want a few police cars parked in front of the hotel. The first thing guest will say when they walk it is "whats going on?" so they have the police park in the back. A cruse around the back of the hotel will help put my mind at ease. The police wanted two rooms with an adjoining room. At that time they would put cameras hidden in the room service trays that littered the hallways. Today the cameras are so small they might not need to do that. I might be an old dinosaur and no doubt things have changed some, but I feel comfortable in a higher end hotel.
  5. Dinner with client for free?

    Those few occasions when someone wanted to spend time with me just to enjoy my company, without any financial or alternative motives, was one of the biggest complements in my life. In todays world, it seems everyone's working an angle. If she wanted to just talk to me, because she was interested in sharing her thoughts with me, that would be a big complement, but it comes with confusion. I would wonder if it was an awkward first date with goals of something more in the future? Should I expect time alone if I paid for dinner? If I offered to pay for time after dinner would that be disrespectful to her intentions? The entire dinner, my mind would be spinning with questions. For the best dinner together, for me, it would be about communication. If she said "would you like to join me for dinner, some good food, good conversation, a hug after dinner and we go our own ways?", I would be at ease. Now I can focus on remembering my manners, using the right fork, and keeping my elbows off the table... and focus on enjoying a dinner with a beautiful interesting woman.
  6. Providers that complain

    I can look at this two ways. 1. The lady needed someone to talk to, a kind ear. Maybe she doesn't have a lot of friends to talk to and found something in you that put her at ease to where she could open up on a more personal level. Maybe she needed something more than money out of the arrangement, maybe for those few minutes she needed a friend. I would take it as a complaint that she felt a connection to you enough where she should share a bit of her pain. Maybe there are few people in her life that just ask "how is your day" and at that moment she needs that. 2. She is hustling you. You is playing your heartstrings in hopes of getting a better tip. If this case, I respect the game. I've hustled tips and kick backs much of my life. Some of the things I did for that extra dollar are things that I'm not overly proud of. I would respect her game. I some ways I would like to think she is playing me, making it up, because it is easier to deal with than the thought of a child with cancer and a mother who will do anything to get her child the help he or she needs, but either way, I would lend a kind ear, a strong shoulder, a comforting word, and an appropriate tip.
  7. I love intellect!

    I thought about going with the Fonzie "Ayyy!". It is short and to the point. It lets the lady know that I'm cool and a true ladies man. It sends a message of sophistication and a connoisseur of classic tv and all things cultural. Since it is an older show, it lets the young lady know that I'm fine mature gentleman. It is only one word, four letters, but what more needs to be said?
  8. More on your opinion of what photos you prefer to see(:

    I have spent most of my life studying art. I have worked with professional high end photographers and directed photoshoots. There is one set of photos somewhere on this form that are spatular and I wish I remembered the ladies name. The model is on a rod iron bed next to a red brick wall. The old bed has paint chips in it and the all brick wall is far from perfect. Your eye avoids looking at the ugly so you don't see the paint chips and you focus on the beautiful lady. The ugly is not seen but the human brain knows it is there and accepts the idea the photo is real. If things are to perfect, the brain will not accept it as real and the viewer spends less time looking at the photo. The photo of the lady on the cast iron bed, makes me what to jump on that old bed, to wake up in that bed with that beautiful lady. Avoid beautiful settings. Why compete with mother nature? Don't find a beautiful garden to shoot in, find someplace that your beauty will stand out. Having said that, keep the ugly to a minimum and it generally needs to fit what you are doing. If you are shooting in a nice room, get some flowers and break one of them, have a pair of shoes scattered next to the bed (sexy and real). In the photo that Kink Dog posted above shows a coffee up next to the bed. Something like the coffee cup makes the photo real, not staged, which means the smile is real, the desire is real.. It is believable. No matter what you are wearing, you will be the focus, you will pop off the screen. At least, that is the way I see it. I personally think the setting makes the difference, but clothing set a tone. A variety of photos showing different clothing might be wise as you never know which one will catch the eye of the client. If possible show your eyes and smile.
  9. Comfort and relaxation

    What would make me feel welcomed...... A set of Star Wars sheets or a bed of soft Tribbles.. My childhood dream could come true?? A bottle or water would be nice, a clean place, soap and a breath mint, but what makes me feel welcomed is when she remembers my name. I don't care for the nicknames that are used with every client. When someone uses my name, an effort was made to remember my name which makes me feel welcomed.
  10. Meet Me at the Hotel Lobby? Not the kid.

    I read these type of stories from time to time but they never set well with me. Always seems to be something missing from the story. I was in the hotel business for decades. I did everything from doorman to general manager. To the best of my memory, beyond the high school party, I only called the police on two guest. One took a shot at me, the other had drugs delivered to the hotel and we mistakenly opened the package thinking it was to the housekeeping. Some of the hotels where high end hotels, some weren't as prestigious but all offered good service, clean and a safe place to stay. Many of the hotel guest where female travelers. Some of those travelers where CEOs of major companies who had assistance or may have used their room conduct a more private conversation. Often times they would use the lobby, conference room or the lounge but nothing would have been suspicious if and when she used her room. How did the desk clerk know it wasn't Carly Fjorina, Chief Executive Officer of Hewlett-Packard. The hotel doesn't want the bad publicity because a $9.00 an hour desk clerk doesn't know who the former President candidate is and called the police on her, thinking she was an escort. Maybe the CEO of Avon was looking to good for the hotel clerk.... better call the police. The all girl punk band that seemed to stay in character hoping to promote themselves dressed a little to slutty for the desk clerk... better call the police, they might be escorts. If I thought someone was being hurt, abused, or used, I would have called the police but if I called the police on a paying guest or a guest of a guest who where minding their own business, no danger to themselves, the hotel employees or other guest.. it would have been the last day I worked for that hotel. I would have been fired. It was my job to provide a safe, clean place for all guests.
  11. Intelligence level....

    I wouldn't let it get to you. Most likely most of her clients are repeat business or clients that have references. It could be that she was spooked from past events or just got an uneasy feeling for some reason. The gals are risking a lot when seeing someone, so if she did feel uncomfortable, it would be understandable. Wish her the best, and move on to someone who you are a better match with.
  12. Just read me

    Stan; I wish I had the words to express my heart felt sympathies.
  13. Question for the gentlemen on TOB...

    Bella Marie; From my point of view, you should have no concerns about your photos. As an artist I have spend many many hours setting in front of nude models. Within an inch and within a shade or two, I know what people look like without their cloths. I see everything but the goodies (okay, I see the goodies too). I see the dirty cloths on the floor, the bathroom vanity covered in about 50 beauty products, the unmade bed. I look to see if the photos are professionally taken or something more casual. I look to see if the photos where taken in a hotel room or other location. I look to see what she is wearing, who her earrings look against her hair, or the lace looks against her skin. It is nice to see the model's eyes, her smile, her flowing hair, but I understand why those features are not in the photo. I want to get a feel of what our time together will be like. Is she playful, or all business? The photo should tell a story, a story that I want to become a part of.
  14. Just read me

    While I would still be considered a newbie, I was introduced to the hobby decades ago when I worked in hotels. When I worked the night audit (graveyard) often times I was the only employee at the hotel. Other than the occasional police officer stoping to use the restroom or escort, it could be a lonely job. Some of the ladies would come down to the first desk on their way out, just to chat. I welcomed the company. I soon saw the girls more like co-workers. They where not like the street walkers, or drug addicts I say on TJ Hooker, they where mothers, daughters who faced everyday trials and tribulations, who where just trying to make a living and have a better life. They where nice people and people who I enjoyed spending time with.... even if it was just a few minutes over a hotel front desk. Once I got to know those who worked in the business, it became more attractive to me.
  15. The blue dress

    I thought it might be a reference to Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky and their famous blue dress.