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  1. What is Your Must See TV Shows

    Better Call Saul is my can't miss show. Just finished watching Black Sales.
  2. Earning in the sex industry

    Back in the 70's I worked for the Holiday Inn. We would get mainly male travelers who often times ask where they could go to meet women. I would point out the women in the bar that where a sure thing and what their rates where. I made good tips just pointing out which ladies where the local working girls. Many decades ago, before the internet, I work for an upscale hotel as a bellman. It was my job to get the guest settled in. If a guest wanted tube socks with a red strip it was my job to find those for him. If we wanted female company, it was my job to assist (in ways that was legal and wouldn't get the hotel in trouble). We also had a number of female guest, most of who where traveling on business. They would often have request much like the male travelers. If I couldn't assist the guest, I found someone who could. It often times was just drawing them a bath and getting them a drink, a massage, unpacking their bags, rubbing their feet, never more than oral sex. (sometimes it was walking their dog). I never charged, we provided customer service to the guests in hopes of making good tips. At the time, never thought of it as being part of the sex industry but part of the hospitality business. I'm sure things are much different today. I do miss it.
  3. Your Favorite Articles on Sex Work, Skills

    I want to echo the dislike of being called, Hun, Baby, Honey,... dude of any other cute name. It says to me that you don't remember my name, or didn't feel it was important enough to remember it.
  4. Date ideas that are more than just the bedroom

    I very much like this idea but wonder how the rates would work. Would you have predetermined packages with set rates or would the client come up with ideas and present them for a rate quote. Would a half hour at Taco Bell be less expensive than a two order dinner at a 5 star restaurant since the time spend is much less or does the quality of the meal factor into the equation? Would there be a discount in the rate if the date was shopping and purchasing shoes compared to seeing a movie that you have already seen? I like the idea and would be interested in learning more.
  5. On rate haggling.....

    Did the elderly gentleman have an AARP card? I thought I read somewhere it was part of hour benefits.
  6. Low-Volume vs High-Volume

    For me the fantasy starts long before we meet. I want to believe that she is looking forward to seeing me, and that she thinks about what outfit to wear. I want to believe that she works another job and a couple of times a day, she thinks about and looks forward to our time together. I want to think that I will make her day better because she is happy to see me. I like to think that maybe she will remember my name. I don't want to think that I'm just another client in a long list of clients, much like waiting at the DMV. A low volume, gal who works another job, adds to that fantasy.... I know, I delusional. The other thread about having a nice dinner and time together is intriguing.
  7. The Nice Guy

    If she was a "nice person" then she was attractive. Beauty comes from within and for someone that takes the time to get to know her as you did, noticed that she was beautiful just not the girl reflected in the images. If you wish to write a review, I would suggest starting with the positive, mention the photos needed to be undated, then finish the review on a positive note. To the right person, someone who is a little more mature in age, and carries a little more cushion she will be his dream date, so there is no need to be negative. Just be honest in a respectful matter that will help both the gal and the future client create that dream come true moment.
  8. Fall in love with client♀️

    It doesn't matter what your profession is. It shouldn't matter if you are the maid or the CEO, you should be treated with dignity and respect. No one should rip you off. The ex was not a gentleman or someone with integrity. A gentleman doesn't steal from anyone and he certainly doesn't steal from someone who put their trust in him. It shouldn't matter how you meet because a gentleman will always be a good man. How you meet doesn't change that. I can see how your profession might cause some issues. We accept people for who they are, or what they do. It doesn't give anyone the right to treat them like crap and to rip them off. I know you probably heard this before, but you are better without him.. because it opens the door for the possibility for a true gentleman who will honor and respect you. Hang in there and please don't let this one jerk ruin it for the one you are meant to be with.
  9. Hotel or Outcall?

    I'm probably living in the land of illusion but having been in the hotel business for many many years, I'm comfortable in a hotel. It has been decades since I was in the hospitality industry but I did work with law enforcement on a few occasions. The police where looking for drug dealers who where using hotels to peddle their wares. I know the hotels don't really like being the location of a sting. They don't want their guest to see police walking people in handcuffs down the hallways or through the lobby. It doesn't make the guest feel safe. The police will probably use the employee entrance. know the hotel doesn't want a few police cars parked in front of the hotel. The first thing guest will say when they walk it is "whats going on?" so they have the police park in the back. A cruse around the back of the hotel will help put my mind at ease. The police wanted two rooms with an adjoining room. At that time they would put cameras hidden in the room service trays that littered the hallways. Today the cameras are so small they might not need to do that. I might be an old dinosaur and no doubt things have changed some, but I feel comfortable in a higher end hotel.
  10. Dinner with client for free?

    Those few occasions when someone wanted to spend time with me just to enjoy my company, without any financial or alternative motives, was one of the biggest complements in my life. In todays world, it seems everyone's working an angle. If she wanted to just talk to me, because she was interested in sharing her thoughts with me, that would be a big complement, but it comes with confusion. I would wonder if it was an awkward first date with goals of something more in the future? Should I expect time alone if I paid for dinner? If I offered to pay for time after dinner would that be disrespectful to her intentions? The entire dinner, my mind would be spinning with questions. For the best dinner together, for me, it would be about communication. If she said "would you like to join me for dinner, some good food, good conversation, a hug after dinner and we go our own ways?", I would be at ease. Now I can focus on remembering my manners, using the right fork, and keeping my elbows off the table... and focus on enjoying a dinner with a beautiful interesting woman.
  11. Providers that complain

    I can look at this two ways. 1. The lady needed someone to talk to, a kind ear. Maybe she doesn't have a lot of friends to talk to and found something in you that put her at ease to where she could open up on a more personal level. Maybe she needed something more than money out of the arrangement, maybe for those few minutes she needed a friend. I would take it as a complaint that she felt a connection to you enough where she should share a bit of her pain. Maybe there are few people in her life that just ask "how is your day" and at that moment she needs that. 2. She is hustling you. You is playing your heartstrings in hopes of getting a better tip. If this case, I respect the game. I've hustled tips and kick backs much of my life. Some of the things I did for that extra dollar are things that I'm not overly proud of. I would respect her game. I some ways I would like to think she is playing me, making it up, because it is easier to deal with than the thought of a child with cancer and a mother who will do anything to get her child the help he or she needs, but either way, I would lend a kind ear, a strong shoulder, a comforting word, and an appropriate tip.
  12. I love intellect!

    I thought about going with the Fonzie "Ayyy!". It is short and to the point. It lets the lady know that I'm cool and a true ladies man. It sends a message of sophistication and a connoisseur of classic tv and all things cultural. Since it is an older show, it lets the young lady know that I'm fine mature gentleman. It is only one word, four letters, but what more needs to be said?
  13. More on your opinion of what photos you prefer to see(:

    I have spent most of my life studying art. I have worked with professional high end photographers and directed photoshoots. There is one set of photos somewhere on this form that are spatular and I wish I remembered the ladies name. The model is on a rod iron bed next to a red brick wall. The old bed has paint chips in it and the all brick wall is far from perfect. Your eye avoids looking at the ugly so you don't see the paint chips and you focus on the beautiful lady. The ugly is not seen but the human brain knows it is there and accepts the idea the photo is real. If things are to perfect, the brain will not accept it as real and the viewer spends less time looking at the photo. The photo of the lady on the cast iron bed, makes me what to jump on that old bed, to wake up in that bed with that beautiful lady. Avoid beautiful settings. Why compete with mother nature? Don't find a beautiful garden to shoot in, find someplace that your beauty will stand out. Having said that, keep the ugly to a minimum and it generally needs to fit what you are doing. If you are shooting in a nice room, get some flowers and break one of them, have a pair of shoes scattered next to the bed (sexy and real). In the photo that Kink Dog posted above shows a coffee up next to the bed. Something like the coffee cup makes the photo real, not staged, which means the smile is real, the desire is real.. It is believable. No matter what you are wearing, you will be the focus, you will pop off the screen. At least, that is the way I see it. I personally think the setting makes the difference, but clothing set a tone. A variety of photos showing different clothing might be wise as you never know which one will catch the eye of the client. If possible show your eyes and smile.
  14. Comfort and relaxation

    What would make me feel welcomed...... A set of Star Wars sheets or a bed of soft Tribbles.. My childhood dream could come true?? A bottle or water would be nice, a clean place, soap and a breath mint, but what makes me feel welcomed is when she remembers my name. I don't care for the nicknames that are used with every client. When someone uses my name, an effort was made to remember my name which makes me feel welcomed.
  15. Meet Me at the Hotel Lobby? Not the kid.

    I read these type of stories from time to time but they never set well with me. Always seems to be something missing from the story. I was in the hotel business for decades. I did everything from doorman to general manager. To the best of my memory, beyond the high school party, I only called the police on two guest. One took a shot at me, the other had drugs delivered to the hotel and we mistakenly opened the package thinking it was to the housekeeping. Some of the hotels where high end hotels, some weren't as prestigious but all offered good service, clean and a safe place to stay. Many of the hotel guest where female travelers. Some of those travelers where CEOs of major companies who had assistance or may have used their room conduct a more private conversation. Often times they would use the lobby, conference room or the lounge but nothing would have been suspicious if and when she used her room. How did the desk clerk know it wasn't Carly Fjorina, Chief Executive Officer of Hewlett-Packard. The hotel doesn't want the bad publicity because a $9.00 an hour desk clerk doesn't know who the former President candidate is and called the police on her, thinking she was an escort. Maybe the CEO of Avon was looking to good for the hotel clerk.... better call the police. The all girl punk band that seemed to stay in character hoping to promote themselves dressed a little to slutty for the desk clerk... better call the police, they might be escorts. If I thought someone was being hurt, abused, or used, I would have called the police but if I called the police on a paying guest or a guest of a guest who where minding their own business, no danger to themselves, the hotel employees or other guest.. it would have been the last day I worked for that hotel. I would have been fired. It was my job to provide a safe, clean place for all guests.