Denveresque

It's the time of year when [snip-forbidden topic], so I've got free time again. I'm looking for a dominant and creative provider. I know there are fetish boards, but I'm hoping to find someone a bit more mainstream who likes to take charge and be in control more than she likes the drama/scenery of domination. Anyone have suggestions?

1) Cancels, whether NCNS or just cancelling a few hours out, sucks. I have to do a bit of fibbing to make the time work out, and that window is only open every few weeks. So when there's a cancel, i'm out of luck (I was going to say screwed, but that is exactly what I'm not) 2) A dispasionate look at any point. I'm not a real attractive man, but the reason i'm hobbying is to pretend I am for a little bit. 3) stopping something that's working, for whatever reason. In the middle of a specific thing, and then she decides to want to try something else. 4) an unwillingness to take a cue from the conversation and keep talking. But mostly cancels. They suck.

All here, all well reviewed. Maybe it's just bad luck, but it's pretty disappointing.

I got canceled today. She was apologetic and kind about it, but I had planned my day around it. This was the second time in a row I've had a provider cancel (different ASP). So as I was driving back home, I thought about it, I started counting and realized I get cancelled on about a third of the time I book, and wondered if that was high, or pretty much the norm. What's your experience been?

Shit, I'm sorry. I never thought for a minute I would be asking questions that would have implications, and certainly not IRS ones. It was basically just background, and I apologize if there's anything that was out of line. I talked to astronomy aspects, and I talked to lawyers about that stuff, and I used to be a reporter. so that I knew first hand. I'm used to asking questions when I don't know the answers -- I don't like just making stuff up, especially when I could be very wrong. I only have experience from a client standpoint, and asking in person about finances seems icky. Thus the interwebs. But I can see how it doesn't read that way, so I'll just say I'm sorry and move on.

If you're looking for stuff over the sumer to read, let me recommend anything by Pat Conroy (but especially Lords of Discipline) and the Wicked Series by Maguire. Wicked is up to four books, and he does a really nice job of recreating a familiar world. he turns the pages and has some insight, and that's not a bad way to spend a few hours. If you like poetry, Stephen Dunn changed my world for the better many many times. Here's an example: Decorum She wrote, “They were making love up against a gymnasium wall,” and another young woman in class, serious enough to smile, said “No, that’s fucking, they must have been fucking,” to which many agreed, pleased to have the proper fit of word with act. But an older woman, a wife, a mother, famous in class for confusing grace with decorum and carriage, said the F-word would distract the reader, sensationalize the poem. “Why can’t what they were doing just as easily be called making love?” It was an intelligent complaint, and the class proceeded to debate what’s fucking, what’s making love, and the importance of the context, tact, the bon mot. I leaned toward those who favored fucking; they were funnier and seemed to have more experience with the happy varieties of their subject. But then a young man said, now believing he had permission, “What’s the difference, you fuck ‘em and you call it making love; you tell ‘em what they want to hear.” The class jeered, and another man said “You’re the kind of guy who gives fucking a bad name,” and I remembered how fuck gets dirty as it moves reptilian out of certain minds, certain mouths. The young woman whose poem it was, small-boned and small-voiced, said she had no objection to fucking, but these people were making love, it was her poem and she herself up against that gymnasium wall, and it felt like love, and the hell with all of us. There was silence. The class turned to me, their teacher, who they hoped could clarify, perhaps ease things. I told them I disliked the word fucking in a poem, but that fucking might be right in this instance, yet I was unsure now, I couldn’t decide. A tear formed and moved down the poet’s cheek. I said I was sure only of “gymnasium,” sure it was the wrong choice, making the act seem too public, more vulgar than she wished. How about “boat house?” I asked. Great thread. Thanks for starting it.

Ain't that the truth, but I feel like he also was very gimmicky in his prose, so it feel a lot betten written than it was. I feel the same way about Invisible Man and anything Pynchon has written.

I think your'e wrong about this -- not about Grey, which I haven't read yet, but will -- but that if something touches a nerve to the point where it's mainstream enough to be socially acknowledged (even as a punchline), it's worth seeing why. I thought the same way about Harry Potter and Twilight and Hunger Games, and while I don't like the wording, I see the allure. It may still suck, but it's worth knowing what all the fuss is about, at lest for a chapter or three.

It's a filler conversation scene more than anything else, where the main character is having a post-conversation with the provider. He's an tax lawyer with an astronomy background, and during the conversation is working out the numbers. She's a former realtor who gets animated when she talks about things non-sexual -- she may be doing it as a personal diversion, i don't know yet. It was just supposed to be a simple interaction to show how he was avoiding personal interaction with another woman, but there's something about the distant intimacy in a provider/client interaction that would make the relationship something worth revisiting, in which case I'd like to make her actions as realistic as possible, and insight from people in the business never hurts. So, yeah.

Bev, at her old incall, about six years ago. Very nice introduction. Nice place, good books on the shelves. Good kisser, too.

Thos is an intrusive question, but a comment on another thread made me curious how the spreadsheet for your business looks. I'm writing a scene for a novel, and I like to get the math circumstances right, If the average session in my area comes in at about $250, and you get one a day, that translates to about 50K a year working five days a week, if you figure a two-week vacation and losing 20 percent of the available days to "women's issues." But the next part of the question is whenever I've had a session, it certainly felt like there was another session coming up for the provider. Is two-a-day a reasonable expectation for a provider with a nice look and a good work ethic? Would you prefer one or two sessions, five days a week, or three in a day or two to break it up. Do you make a goal for the week/month and then take a break, or is it more like (this sounds deragatory, but I don't mean it that way) chipmunking, where you book as much as you can incasethe next few days dry up? Sorry if this is all too personal, and if you feel likeanswering but not publicly, feel free to PM me. Thanks

Bunheads has been cute, but sometimes the quirkiness of it irritates me. I like ballet, but themostjoy I see on TV is So You Think You Can Dance. Everyone involved loves what they do, and even when a routine is bad, it's still wonderous to watch.