Orgasms for women are a wee bit different than for men, in my experience. Sometimes I'll orgasm without much effort because of my mood and hormones and the phase of the moon, or God knows what other incalculable reason, but sometimes a guy can be down there working away for dear life and I'm afraid it's just not going to happen for whatever reason. We can't be turned on and off like taps, but we sure do appreciate any effort you make!! X